Lets get EVERYONES opinion. Does age change things?

[Erica Marie]

Here is one for everyone.
Do you feel your age has any effect on your crossdressing. Do any of the younger members think the older members have an advantage and do any of the older members think the younger generation has any advantages? Older members do you have any advice for the youngers?
I look back and wish I could do so much over again. Things I know now that I didnt 20 yrs ago. The age of the internet opened up so many resources that we didnt have years ago.
My advice to the younger generation, be yourself, take advantage of any opportunity that is available to you. Dont be afraid to be yourself.

[kimdl93]

I'm reminded of how age changes things each time I look in the mirror. And I was just telling a friend how, of course I wished I could go back and convince my younger self that it could be so much better if I fully accepted myself and lived more openly as the person I felt within...but we can't go back. We can only hope to enjoy this moment and set the stage for better moments to come. And of course, it may be futile, but I'd like younger members to learn from those of us who missed years of happier life because of what we either couldn't understand or wouldn't accept about ourselves. Don't waste a moment in self doubt or self loathing.

[CynthiaD]

Age changes everything. When I was young I was pretty, but I was afraid of my shadow and I worried about everything all the time. Now I'm old. I look like an ape, but I'm afraid of nothing. Every age has its advantages, but I think I prefer being old. (Now, if I could just do something about that "ape" thing ...) :)

[Ciara Brianne]

And of course, it may be futile, but I'd like younger members to learn from those of us who missed years of happier life because of what we either couldn't understand or wouldn't accept about ourselves. Don't waste a moment in self doubt or self loathing.

I couldn't say it much better. To all the younger members. Seize the day! I feel I have missed out on a lot of happiness over the years. I think if I had accepted this part of myself when I was 19 or 20 and realized this was part of me, not just a fetish I was into, I would have dealt with a lot less stress and conflict. I would have been more open about it to friends, family and loved ones. I would not have had this inner conflict that has negatively affected more than one relationship. I may have married someone who would have accepted me wholly.

If I could go back, My life to date would be so much different.

Ciara:<3:

[Lynnmorgan451]

I wish I would've accepted myself when I was a kid but the world was different, I was different. I wouldn't go back and change anything if I could though. I love my family and kids and that whole ape like logical side of my brain always interferes with the emotional time travel option and declares PARADOX! Lol...I just want every day coming to be one day closer to more meaningful self expression and less fear, more self esteem and a happier "me" :)

[MisterEgurl]

Well, like everything, I think it depends. For me, I think the age thing comes into play regarding the fact that the younger people around me are more tolerant of unusual lifestyles, more likely to have a favorable expectation of things that aren't what their parents knew. Among my contemporaries, the notion of going out to a drag club is absurd. For a lot of the younger people, it's the best club in town. A big part of why I think the young have it better is probably more my sense of regret. I wish I had just opened up to people about me. I wish I had gotten involved in the LGBTetc. group at college instead of gravitating to the same somewhat inflexibly minded groups I did. I wish I didn't let peer pressure influence me and keep me closeted. I wish I had gathered the guts to go shopping for great clothes back when I was younger and not so wrinkly. So, I think regret shades my view of the topic. I hope young people keep following their own paths and tolerating those around them who take the ones less traveled.

[RenneB]

Oh yea, I wish the 'net was 'round back in the day. At least I wouldn't have felt like I was the only one in the world born like this. Advise for the young.... you can never 'untell' someone you are this 'way'. Be careful who you come out to....unless you are willing to endure all of the consequences... I'm sure society will eventually embrace all of the LBGT groups but I doubt I'll live that long.

Another tip.... the 'net never forgets. If you post/twet/whatever it's there forever... Even if you take 'it' down, some 'bot may have already surfed it and stored it in a dozen other servers....

Oh and finally, it really does get better with age. You're 'tude changes once your frontal lobe is totally developed.... even then it may take a few more years to eventually kiss the butterflies goodbye and obtain the IDC 'tude...

Renne.....

[Valerie]

We should not forget that times were very different then. I can't second guess my younger self. But I hope that those who are younger today feel that they have great support, love and admiration from so many of us. And I hope they can live their life fully, not enveloped in fear, simulation and repression as I did...
Valerie

[Gretchen_To_Be]

Erica Marie, very interesting question.

Born in the late '60s, the internet did not exist in my adolescent years, when I was fascinated with women's legs but never did anything about it. I recall sneaking around shelves at the public library after researching the topic "transvestite" in the Dewey Decimal System (younger members probably don't even know what that is) and then surreptitiously reading the books hidden within others.

When I finally did crossdress in the late 80's, I weighed about 185 and lived with a GF that was 5'10", maybe 160 and I could fit in her clothes. Opportunity + Access + Her Support, and a crossdresser was born. It was intense, and I can only imagine how far it would have gone with the internet to see what was possible, or shop online, etc. Oh, how naive I was. I remember buying "her" a dress for work, knowing full well I would be wearing it when she wasn't home.

Younger CDs obviously have the advantage of avoiding decades of testosterone and rough male work that shapes their bodies and features. But they lack the freedom and acquisitive power we older CDs have. With the type of job that requires frequent travel, I can freely indulge often. If I want a pair of heels or a dress, I just buy it, and I have a courier box to receive it discretely. I know younger CDs living at home or with roommates, or in college, would struggle with that.

I suppose my answer is that, like most things, it would be best to be that age and know what I know now. But that's impossible and that's why they call it experience.

Take care

Shibumi

[susancheerleader]

It's starting to effect me. I used to always dress younger. But my body is changing, and there are things I can no longer wear or I'd look ridiculous. Or no longer fit me anyway. So I've slowly had to change my cross dressing habits and desires. Which means, no more cheerleading outfits. But that's okay. There are many other clothing.

[Pixiesmate]

Oh and finally, it really does get better with age. You're 'tude changes once your frontal lobe is totally developed.... even then it may take a few more years to eventually kiss the butterflies goodbye and obtain the IDC 'tude...

Renne.....

I couldn't agree more. When I was younger I was terrified at being "discovered" and even more terrified at the idea of admitting that I am a Cder. With age, and a very supportive SO, I have been able to accept that this is part of who I am, and it's ok. I regret not accepting it sooner, as my age now limits what I can wear and still look at myself in the mirror. At 59, I refuse to try and look like a 20 something club girl, but revel in looking like a woman with some 'time in grade' and a certain flair...

[Sometimes Steffi]

It changed for me.

For a long time CD was a fetish for me, and mostly consisted of lingerie, with occasional skirts and tops mixed in.

Then it morphed into wanting tp get fully dressed, but without shoes, makeup, jewelry, wigs, forms, etc.

Then I slowly brought shoes, makeup, jewelry, wigs and forms into the mix, and went on tentative outings.

Then I transformed shopping into brick and mortar from on line, and even got assistance from SAs.

Now I'm into more extended outings with like-minded friends, to trans-friendly venues and even to regular venues.

Over the last 5 years, I've found a regular nail salon, a couple of wig sellers, and SAs willing to help at makeup stores (Ulta, MAC) and women's stores (Dress Barn).

I think my personality is actually different en femme. I'm more extroverted, and I'll actually dance, although no better than in boy mode.

[Dana L]

There are advantages for both. The younger generation have much more support and acceptance than when I was young. But as we get older I think passing is easier because many older women have less natural feminity and rely on cosmetics and shapewear to look good like many of us do.

[ShelbyDawn]

Age definately changes things. Just wish I cold have that 29 inch waist again... :)

[Stephanie Miller]

What? Me getting older? I think not. That's for old people.
So, sorry... can't answer your question.

"How old would you be if you didn't know how old you are?"

[Rebecca Watson]

Do you feel your age has any effect on your crossdressing.

Absolutely. I certainly don't want to be looking back regretting not dressing up. And I certainly don't want to miss out on the opportunity to wear clothes that are more suitable for the younger crowd.

- Becky

[Kate Simmons]

It's not so much just age as it is opportunity and experience Hon.:)

[Nikki A.]

I think the younger CDs can look more natural than us older CDs with a lot less makeup. But you must contend with more of a balancing act between CDing and career and family. As much as we sometimes paint a rosy picture of acceptance, it still is a tough job market out there and anything out of the norm makes it harder.
However the senior members are at a point where they don't need to care as much what others may think and have more freedom. I know I was deathly afraid of being outted just a few years ago, now I'm at a point of if people find out, so what, and I've also let myself go to places that are closer to home. Also as we age I think our features get a little softer (not always better lol) and as long as we don't wrinkle up too much its easier to blend.

[suchacutie]

My daughter took one look at my high school graduation picture, sidled up to me and very quietly said, "nowadays you'd be called a "pretty boy"." If I had known about Tina then, I'm pretty sure that my life would be radically different now, especially if I were that young now. The internet and this kind of connection helps all of us, however. We're all more informed and not alone.

So the advantage of youth is beauty! The disadvantage of youth is beauty! As I age I know that I am ever more transparent out in the world. Not too many folks are interested ina 60+ year old woman, and as time takes it's toll on beauty for everyone, there are fewer expectations of facial beauty and body shape. It becomes easier and easier to blend in, from what I can see.

Every age has it's good issues and less good issues. It's all a balance that's mostly overridden by confidence :)

[Geena75]

In my younger days I could choose/influence who I wanted to be. Honestly, I didn't want CD to be a real part of it. Now, I'm exploring it. If I were to go on another 10 year purge now, I might as well resign it for good. I don't think I'd be up for it then. Might say I saw my CD clock ticking.

[Tracii G]

I think there are advantages for the younger ie internet,younger features (body and face) that makes it easier to pass.
Older its the experience gained from years of practice.
If I had known all I know now back then I would be a woman right now. Of course SRS isn't the answer for everybody but for me yes.I'm too old to go thru it now and I'm cool with that I'll just stay on my path and enjoy everyday as it comes.
My advice to the younger members don't be afraid to be yourself.... ever.
Remove all negative minded people from your list of friends they will only hold you back and cause you trouble.
Be open,honest,giving and caring that will gain you true friends that will last for a long time.

[sometimes_miss]

I wouldn't say age changes things. Time does. few things stay the same as time moves on.

[Angela Campbell]

Yes it does. Age changes us..it changes everything. Slowly.

[spandexgirl188]

I think age changes things. If anything the older you get the harder you have to work at looking and passing as a girl. sometimes age even changes our taste so much so that when you look at a girl the first thought that comes to your head is "what are yout thinking?"

[Cheryl Ann Owens]

I'm 60, and I grew up in what I call the dark ages for us. Let's suppose I was 16-18 again today. I would have the internet to not feel alone and I could learn a lot from others. I wouldn't feel inhibited to hide my feelings or my secret. I could be more fluid in my gender expression and test the waters toward a full transition. Imagine growing up holding in all of the feelings of gender dysphoria for a lot of years building social constructs and having to conform. I'm finally allowing myself to relax and open up to people. Over time there is more acceptance of LGBT people and now I feel more comfortable and accepting about myself. The killer thought is thinking that I lost the opportunity to transition young because it was too radical back then. I envy the young TS today because of the support available. But back to the OP I feel better in a more accepting society, the groups whether clubs or here, expressing my feelings here or getting advice. At least I could open up to old friends who haven't shunned me run away. Of course there are people who don't need to know, but it's nice to have those who do.

Cheryl Ann

[Amanda Shaft]

I'd agree with all of the above. I do regret not taking the various opportunities that have presented themselves over the years to go the whole hog. With greater courage and support there were times I could have taken those steps to fully embrace my female nature, so to the youngsters of today I'd say: live your life, and don't waist opportunities.

[Beverley Sims]

As you get older you have to adjust to some unpleasant changes.
Me I am twenty six but look about ninety.
Boy! have I had a good life.

[Joanne f]

No I do not think that older ones have an advantage over the younger one as I feel that being older the general public look at you in a different light as to if you are younger , I think that they think you are strange and question it more if you are older but this could just be due to the fact that when I was young you would have definitely been thought of as being strange if you had been caught dressing in woman's clothes for what ever reason , it is more acceptable by the young now but they still look at the older one's with suspicion sometimes .
My advice to the younger one now would be to be yourself as much as possible (safely) and then you will not grow up with a chip on your should as it is hard to throw off a lifetime of secrecy and denial.

[Erica Marie]

I agree with everyone who says the younger have an advantage. They can wear cuter clothing styles that are more age appropriate, I feel they are more accepted amongst others their age and in general the majority of us look at kids who express themselves now adays alot different than people did twenty years ago. As we age some of us attempt to hold onto our youth and frankly it doesnt always work. And for some of us we never took the risk and are now set in a lifestyle that people expect of us. For example respected jobs (as a male) , family and wives. Kids that may not understand why their dad does what he does. I guess its just alot to think about.

[bcpmax]

I being "young", I am still very much trying to figure 'this' out. I'm not yet sure how cding fits into my life and into my personality. I lack the knowledge and confidence that I perceive the more experienced members of this forum have.
Knowing yourself and having a clearer understanding of how things fit is an advantage, that I and other younger cds lack.
Looks may be a minor advantage, but i feel that "youth and inexperience" is a significant disadvantage when it comes to cross-dressing.

[melissakozak]

As one gets older, one thinks less and less about what others think...so, yes, getting older has its advantages. Also, self acceptance and less self absorption is also present. I much prefer being a middle aged T girl than the frightened, insecure one I was twenty years ago!

[Cheryl Ann Owens]

As you get older you have to adjust to some unpleasant changes.
Me I am twenty six but look about ninety.
Boy! have I had a good life.

Beverly! Through our PM's I thought you were close to my age of 60! I advise you girl to say "*** it! and enjoy all that I've missed!

Cheryl Ann

[Barbara Ella]

Age, young and old. Experience, young and old. Sometimes the two different approaches are discussed as if they were the same thing. I do not believe they are.

Please let me approach this from the perspective of someone who is older, 66; but at the same time is young in experience, starting only 18 months ago. In effect, my dressing experience started with the internet, but my life's experience was that of an older, senior. I have taken advantage of the social atmosphere of today to help me through the initial angst so in this, starting now can be easier overall. Starting at this age, i did not have the luxury of a young body that could wear current fashions and even support thoughts of looking hot. But starting with my life's experience, I know that beauty is in the heart and mind, and i know that I can make myself feel as good as I can, and i am happy. And yes, I do have some age unappropriate outfits just because.

So, as to advantages for either group, I think each one has it within their grasp to be the happiest they can be. Some things are easier for one group, but more difficult for the other. It comes down to deciding what it is that makes you happy, and achieving it, or at least giving it your best shot.

Barbara

So, to the youth of today, listen to your elders. Use what you have to alleviate your fears, and follow your heart. You will never get these years back, and they may contain memories you will treasure for a very long time.

If i had begun in my youth, knowing what

[Bethany_Anne_Fae]

Age has made me appreciate all of the experiences I have been able to have. For me, life has gotten better as the years have gone by, and with those experiences I learn to appreciate the time I may or may not have left to me. Its been a very good run and I look forward to whatever the following years may have in store ....

[Antoinette]

In terms of how well hormones effect maybe. But everything else is a matter of experience and personal preference

[FelicityMay]

age can sometimes make people feel less beautiful...
sure, it may be true that all of the models out there hit their prime around 21, but there really are beautiful women of all ages!
I dont know exactly the differences in social acceptance with age relating to cross dressing, but i assume it is all how you present it...
cross dressing is for all ages! because for every guy, there is probly a girl out there who looks very similar, and you can manage to pull off looking like them!
There are lots of girls here (me included) that feel they still look a little too much like a guy, and that they dont look anything like an actual girl, but there are lots of them out there! all ages and sizes, and you should just do whatever makes you happy :)

[Erica Marie]

It seems that its no so much age that makes the difference but experience. For those of us that are still closeted our outlook on things are much different than those of us who have taken the step and opened up and are living the way they truly were meant to be. I guess the big thing is just overcoming the fear of rejection. Once you do that you can look at yourself differently. I hope that made some sense.

[Jackie7]

I am 66 and love to dress. While I'm delighted by youthful fashions and have my share in the closet. I also have age-appropriate outfits, lots of shoes and wigs, corsets, lingerie, yada yada. I only ever purged once, about 8 years ago, and immediately regretted the classy clothes and expensive accoutrements that I had tossed. But since then I've had plenty of opportunity, and the cash, to build my wardrobe and prune most of the Mrs. Doubtfire out of it. So that's one advantage to being older. Here's a couple more not yet mentioned here:
-- my whiskers are white, much easier to cover with makeup, and less visible toward the end of the day.
-- my leg hair turned white and pretty much went away on its own, I no longer need to shave my legs.
-- my sex drive ( hetero) has diminished but has not gone away, it's much easier to manage than when I was a horny young dog.
-- my comfort with being out has increased. I remember something my mother told me when she was in her seventies: the older I get, the less I care what other people thing. Thanks Mom, me too.

[NicoleScott]

Over time, there are things I've learned about CDing, at least my view of CDing. Things to do, and not to do, to get where I want to be.
The cost of things learned over time is the youthful face and body I'll never have again.
Age changes everything (health, finances, capabilities, etc.). Why shouldn't it change crossdressing?

[Melanie Sykes]

Yes, age changes things. I think the older crossdresser has more confidence, whilst the younger can get away with a racier wardrobe! I'm in my late 30s and have only had the nerve to go out dressed in the daylight for the last two years. I wish I'd done it years ago, when I hadn't grown a beard that my wife insists I keep. I wish I'd been into makeup back then and bought a wig and gone out wearing things I could never get away with now. But having said that, I do enjoy the wardrobe I currently have. I've recently found that I love calf-length skirts for example, which I never really considered when I was younger.

On a serious note regarding age: I'm married with kids. My wife accepts my crossdressing, but only when I'm working away or home alone. She doesn't want anything at all to do with it, which is OK by me. The thing is, I get a lot of time to dress now - when I'm working from home, she and the kids are out. When I'm working away, I'm away, so I can dress as I like then too. But what happens when things change? What about when the kids have left and we've retired? There'll be far less opportunity to dress then, and I do worry a little about what will happen to my sanity or our relationship. Still, this awareness has made me determined to fully enjoy the current arrangements while they last. :)

[Lynn Marie]

Does age change things? Of course it does! People who don't change with age never mature. How sad that is. Ageing well is a humbling experience that brings out the very best in us all.

[Jackie7]

Melanie, I was in a similar situation to yours, dressing while traveling on business and otherwise DADT. Once the kids left, I took over one of their rooms, moved my girl stuff into it, and we drifted amicably into separate bedrooms. It worked for a few years, even when one or another of the kids would come home for awhile after college, twice with a new wife in tow. I would dress in my room, go out with my growing circle of accepting friends, and not worry about who I encountered coming and going while not shoving myself in anyone's face. Fortunately the house was big enough for all of that.

Where my story may not be like yours is, we ended up divorcing, with my dressing only one of the issues. Basically we were just done with each other. I remarried five years later, at age 64, to a wonderful woman who accepts my CD nature and participates with me. Happiest I have ever been.

[Jocelyn Quivers]

1. I will say the younger members do have an advantage. Today younger cross dressers have the enormous resources provided by this forum and other non- adult/porn related TG forums. They know they are not alone and are the only ones out there. Which is far different from my younger years, where I thought I was the only one who cross dressed out side of criminals, and whatever god awful portrayals I saw on the news, TV, and film.

2. Self Checkout- Another great advantage and tool for building up the courage, and getting practice in buying femme items. Again it was not very fun standing in a cashier line, placing the pantyhose, make up, dress etc. on the counter in front of the cashier. Especially when it is your first or second time, and you have not built up the confidence or learned not to care what others think.

3. Advice for younger members. Do not blow your money on worthless purchases, save, save, save. Learn your proper sizes first, learn what brands and types of outfits fit well first, then build up your wardrobe. Don't be like me and buy a $150.00 dress on your first shopping trip just because you've been liberated from the closet and you buy almost every dress in the store. I forgot to add a $150.00 that does not fit!!:Angry3:

4. When to come out to your girl friend or boyfriend. Remember there is a time and place for revealing certain parts of your life. As in general dating rules you don't reveal your whole entire life story on your first date or to someone you've just started dating. Consider it similar to revealing that you are in "love" with someone for the first time.

[franlee]

Age changes a lot physically but the experiences and adventures are yours forever and make a great platform for advancements and exploration. I have the same drive as I ever did and get the same gratification, just not as intent and more under "my" control. Now that is a big change! The sexual sensations remain an important part so maybe I am one of the few at my age to have dressed for 43 years and still have that wonderful fetish or desire. Now with that said, the thing that changed most is realization. I can't dress in the same styles I used to and have missed the opportunity to do so as much as I could have. I am older now and much more accepting of my cross-dressing. And have learned that there are a lot more like me so I am not alone or a freak, we are here and that is something unimaginable from the times I started. But mostly age has taught me to make the most of each time I get a chance and want to, to indulge dressing and do it for my comfort and satisfaction not some preconceived idea that I have to do makeup or certain style or even the totality of transforming, but to be me. As selfish as it may sound I have come to realize that CDing in nearly all cases is for the "Me" and I deserve to be happy.

[LilSissyStevie]

In my case, it gives new meaning to the phrase "Getting old ain't for sissies."

[Cheryl Ann Owens]

As I've aged I'm more conservative and relaxed about dressing, and more open. I dress in age-appropriate comfortable style. Today I'm wearing my girl jeans and a casual top, bra, earrings, wig, and sneakers. Yes I love to put on a nice dress now and then as I did more often while I was younger. I'm without makeup but I'm not going anywhere. Later I'll put on my house dress and do some housework. That housedress is "liberating" in that it just hangs off of me swirling around my legs after the jeans come off.

Cheryl Ann

[Lucy_Bella]

As with anything most of use learn with age ..If I could go back in time knowing what I know about myself today, I wouldn't change a thing and it wouldn't have changed much about who I am today.. I say this because times were different in those days we didn't have the internet and if I was to have been open about my Cding I would have been locked away in a mental institute for shock treatment or arrested if caught out in public..

Now if I was 20 or even 30 years younger today ..I would have been more concerned about my appearance and have taken in less abuse to my skin from the sun. But of course we didn't know much about that back then either..I think the advantage belongs to the youth's of today ..I also do not believe that the youth can learn from us only I believe we can learn from each other.. These are indeed changing times we now have a more open society to things we do unlike the past..We still have a long ways to go but I feel more people are finding that Cding isn't really a choice ( I mean it is but it really isn't) .We have a drive to put on those clothing and to present that came to us from the day of conception ..

[AllyCDTV]

Age is one of the factors that is driving me to quit crossdressing. I am very visual and derive my pleasure from crossdressing by seeing a sexy image in the mirror. It is getting harder and harder to see that sexy reflection. I am getting to the point where I would rather quit while I'm ahead and see pictures or videos of myself then to see my aged self in the mirror.

[Barbara Jo]

Yes it does. Age changes us..it changes everything. Slowly.

Exactly. I will just add that hindsight is always 20-20 no matter what the subject may be . :)

[ArleneRaquel]

I don't plan to ever quit, it has become so much a part of my life that I dread what I would do if I did quit. Yes I am looking older but I think that my makeup routine has become so much better that I can easily (?) correct the flaws that pop up from time to time.

[NicoleScott]

Age is one of the factors that is driving me to quit crossdressing. I am very visual and derive my pleasure from crossdressing by seeing a sexy image in the mirror. It is getting harder and harder to see that sexy reflection. I am getting to the point where I would rather quit while I'm ahead and see pictures or videos of myself then to see my aged self in the mirror.

I agree with everything you said, and to your last sentence I would add to pictures and videos: memories and fantasies. I can see that there is end some day.
There have been threads that asked if you think you will ever quit CDing. Most answer with something like...when they pry my cold dead hands......
I would think that CDers with a strong internal feminine identity would be that way for life, while pleasure dressers (like me) see that there is an increasingly higher cost that will exceed the return some time in the future. We're just not all the same.

[5150 Girl]

Well, the older I get, the I give a $#!7 about what others think about me. I see that as an advantage when out and about.
I do however wish I had the confidence in my younger days I have now. When I didn't have to worry about so much shaving......

[Ddannie]

[QUOTE=Barbara Ella;3176459]
But starting with my life's experience, I know that beauty is in the heart and mind, and i know that I can make myself feel as good as I can, and i am happy. And yes, I do have some age unappropriate outfits just because.

So, as to advantages for either group, I think each one has it within their grasp to be the happiest they can be. Some things are easier for one group, but more difficult for the other. It comes down to deciding what it is that makes you happy, and achieving it, or at least giving it your best shot.

So, to the youth of today, listen to your elders. Use what you have to alleviate your fears, and follow your heart. You will never get these years back, and they may contain memories you will treasure for a very long time.

Barb, your comments really resonate with me. A lot of wisdom in what you said.
Dannie

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Erica, At 70 I now have much more time for dressing than I did when I was younger .

[Maria 60]

My wife made a comment once that Maria is getting older and soon those short skirts are not going to be appropriate anymore. I told her ill deal with it when I get there.

[cdrachael]

I think those that are older have come to the point to feel they are too old to care what others may think and they will be themselves. Where as the younger crowd and I laugh putting myself in the younger crowd (I'm 36yr old) are still nervous of being found out, (or is that just me lol)

[alicia kaye]

hi i am 65years old and enjoy dressing more, maybe that because i have more time for myself,just wish i could find other like my self to share our experiences and enhance our feminine image


hugs
Alicia

[Kandy Barr]

Absolutely,age changes the way I look, no question there. Still, for me it hasn't changed my inner desires or my need to crossdress . I just have to be realistic, I'm not 20 any more, so I have to find clothes that compliment my age. Doesn't mean I can't wear the sexy under things I so love, nor does it mean my boobs have to sag, ha, I just got my first set of silicon breast forms yesterday, 38 D sweethearts, haven't taken them off yet!!! So, there is life after 40, or 50, and yes, even 60!!
Keep on keeping on!!!
xoxo
Kandy

[Norah_joy]

I'm 73 and began wearing my Mom's clothes when I was 12. I just want to point out that I did feel alone, at that point. The last thing in my mind back then was that there were others like me. Believe me, that was pretty scarey.

Norah

[ArleneRaquel]

Since my wife's death I have dressed enfemme almost everday and since 2004 it has been 24/7. Being retired & living alone has made that a very easy way to live. If they internet was around when I was say 20 my life would have been much, much different.Would it have been better " That's a question that I can't answer.

[drushin703]

When I look back on life, then on life as a crossdresser, I realize that the two are conjoined twins, in that they meet, touch
and overlap. And to those aspiring young dressers who hid the process from myself for well over a thousand years, to you
I say just embrace it. Love the essential importance of it and then sit back and admire it. Because as many have said on this
site, the desire will never leave you. And even though it's (dressing) initial confusion will be indistinguishable from
being stark-raving-mad............................................... ..........................you are not.....lol
dana

[Jaylyn]

I feel more alive at 63 than I did at forty. I feel I am who I am and I am realizing I am not ever going to change that. Been trying all my life to be the "fit in the normal" scale guy, but you know if I have to fit in then hey I'm just not myself. I do not know how much longer I will be able to CD but right now I am healthy and am loving every minute of it. Got a great wife who understand me and I understand her needs as well. We are happy and life is good. I can dress when I feel like it and I can hunt when I feel like it (in season of course) and I can fish anytime I want...I am retired and can do the things I enjoy the most... Some days I get to play with the grandkids (not in dress of course). and sometimes I can work in my shop, or just plain be lazy if I want. Life is good now if I was only on the beach might feel a song coming on (I do pick guitar and we play for the nursing homes here some). Guess I am trying to let you know that I love life, people and am finding myself more every day. CDing has been good for me. It makes me more kind , loving and much more caring towards people. I found that my religion and God are not frowning on my CDing and I read the Bible daily sorry if that offends anyone but you asked that we give everyone's opinion on this. I believe in Jesus and he mixed with Prostitutes ( by the way I found out the wife won't except that as an excuse to be with one) and he also loved every one no matter the ethnic background or what genetics they had. I believe we all are human and humans have always had some things good and some bad about them. The Cding has me looking for the good in people. I like the way it has changed me. I plan on doing it till I cant any more....Jaylyn