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Betty_42
04-27-2013, 12:17 AM
So I was shopping up at Wal Mart one day with my wife and mother-in-law and I saw a cute outfit that said, "Lucky girl" on it right? I pointed it out and my mother-in-law then said, "You shouldn't wear that! You're not a girl!" And it stung when she said this and I'm not sure why...

Now I prefer to think that we can be whatever we want to be. Notably however, I am a genderqueer. That is, sometimes I'm male and other points (like right now) I'm female... You know what? To hell with what anyone says! I can be a girl for a little while if I so choose!

PaulaQ
04-27-2013, 12:54 AM
I can be a girl for a little while if I so choose!

Yep - it is OK to be a girl. I guess they know about you are out to them?

Betty_42
04-27-2013, 01:01 AM
Well sorta? I don't think she's fully aware of just how deep this thing is going...

linda allen
04-27-2013, 08:44 AM
So I was shopping up at Wal Mart one day with my wife and mother-in-law and I saw a cute outfit that said, "Lucky girl" on it right? I pointed it out and my mother-in-law then said, "You shouldn't wear that! You're not a girl!" And it stung when she said this and I'm not sure why..........

Are you a girl? Are you under 21 years old? I would say that an outfit with "Lucky girl" on it is intended for girls, not adults. Your MIL is probably right.

Lynn Marie
04-27-2013, 10:22 AM
Now I prefer to think that we can be whatever we want to be. Notably however, I am a genderqueer. That is, sometimes I'm male and other points (like right now) I'm female... You know what? To hell with what anyone says! I can be a girl for a little while if I so choose!

It would seem as though your mother in law "prefers" to think differently. Is that not okay with you? The people of my generation aren't nearly so accepting of "genderqueer" as the youth of today. It was a fear and dread of being different. We conformed.

Rachel Morley
04-27-2013, 11:29 AM
I pointed it out and my mother-in-law then said, "You shouldn't wear that! You're not a girl!" And it stung when she said this and I'm not sure why...
I hear you. Stung is right. There have been several times in my past when I suggested to certain female friends that I would like something (a hair style or a piece of clothing or a pair of shoes etc etc) and I got a similar reply back, to the effect that I "wasn't allowed" because it was for "girls only". It was so crushing at the time.

Michaelasfun
04-27-2013, 11:46 AM
I agree with you Betty. Part of the fun is wearing what makes you happy.

JBPerry
04-27-2013, 12:31 PM
If thats the case, then I need to stop buying girls shoes (even though it means I'm saving money and they fit!) lol

Beverley Sims
04-27-2013, 01:15 PM
I wonder does the Mother in law know something or is she being defensive for some reason.

CynthiaD
04-27-2013, 03:32 PM
There are two kinds of girls, the ones who look like girls, and the ones like me, who don't. (Well, at least not without a lot of effort.)

You can be whatever you want to be.

Andy66
04-27-2013, 03:46 PM
Its okay to be yourself, Miss Betty. :hugs:

Betty_42
04-27-2013, 04:05 PM
Thank you all! Anyway after my nightly meditation, I realized something about myself. You see, I'm currently at a crossroads in my life. And while I'll likely be content to stay at that crossroads for as long as I live, I apparently prefer the option that I could go either way. And when someone brings up the thought that I cannot, it disturbs me. However given what I know about the nature of the mind, now that I'm actually aware of this problem, it should no longer hold any power over me... That said, on a more shallow level, I obviously prefer the thought that I can wear whatever I like! As such, I should not let things like this bother me!