You can run but you can't hide, I guess.

[Annie M]

I'm going to be sorting this weekend out for a while. Maybe it makes up for last weekends pink fog. I talked with a woman I had dated many years ago but have remained friends with though we don't connect often its easy to reconnect when we do. This time she made note of the changes that age brings on, and noticed that we both seemed to be aging gracefully, she defiantly is still hot! But I have never been able to hide much from her. And Saturday she pulled me out of the closet. Her reaction pretty much floored me, she responded with," It's about time you came out". She said she and others had long felt that I was not all guy all along. Even though I thought I was putting up a good front I suppose it was all a charade that some could see through. I'm trying to figure this all out now and honestly I don't know if its a good thing or not. Just who knew??? Now what? Am I the last to know? Lots of questions. As for my friend, I love her still and always will.

[Amanda M]

Hi Annie. Who knows who knows? The main thing is that you have a great thing starting here, so please, make the most of the changed relationship.

[Chari]

Sometimes "we are the last to know", but now that your femme side has been revealed, you won't have to sneak around (her) trying to put on a good front. Be open and honest with her as she may be able (& willing ) to help you to understand and enjoy being Annie. As for the others - they may or may not accept your femme issues as your "loving friend" has, but perhaps they will after they learn being out does not bother you!

[Beverley Sims]

I did silly things in my youth that really outed me.
It was basically ignored by everyone and never talked about.
Now and then something comes up and the guys say what did you do when you took all those girls out, together.
I had a group of guy friends that I wore pants with and we chased girls.
I also had a group of girl friends and I wore dresses with them.
The guys were actually jealous of my activities.
I had all the girls and they had none.
I was always asked if I could line up dates..... Yeah, pigs might fly.

[Annie M]

Just a note about our dating past is that we often went shopping! She had said that it was to bad I wasn't a woman because I enjoyed it so much and had great taste. It was easy with her too she can wear anything and pull it off with great style. Back then she liked "bad boys" so I didn't fit the profile. But the bad boys are all gone now! My head is just swimming.

[Kate Simmons]

The bottom line is that you are who you are Hon and your friends are okay with that. It's hard to find good friends like that.:)

[Annaliese]

From now on you need to be your self with her, let her see the real you. You have not done a vary good job hiding who you are, so be your self. If noting else you will have a girl friend to go shopping with.

[carhill2mn]

"Now what"? I think that you are just entering what could be a very interesting and lovely part of your life! Enjoy!

[Cheryl Ann Owens]

Annie, that sounds really great. If it happened to me I'd feel a great sense of relief. A few weeks ago my sister-in-law told me that my wife's family knew about me long before I married my wife. I was shocked and wondered how they found out! My wife was shocked when I told her about my conversation with her sister. No one said a word to her throughout our pre-marriage times. I guess I had other qualities they liked about me?

I'm not surprised if others either heard about me through the rumor mill or detected something different about me. Sometimes it would be nice to know just who knows but then again I might not want to know who. I just act like myself in all of my relationships and people treat me fine. Maybe there is such a thing as transradar? LOL!

Cheryl

[kimdl93]

I think the best thing to do is ask her how and why she felt that way. It might give you some very useful insights about yourself.

[I Am Paula]

In the course of coming out, more than a few of my friends, and colleagues said things along the lines of 'It's about time'.