Well DUH!!??!!

[Lynnmorgan451]

Gee wiz. I was just given a wonderful piece of advice, bordering on solution to the "problem" that is me.....So all the stress in my life is because I wanna dress like a girl, right? Yeah, and all I have to do to fix the problem is simply STOP doing it! Finally some real progress!

^^^Lots O' sarcasm up there ^^^ just in case you didn't catch that .....

Is this a plausible solution? I'm thinking, I did it before I can do it again? WHY is it NOT going away this time?!? Fortunately, I have scheduled a therapy session for Saturday morning. Maybe I can run this by the doc and see if there's a pill I can take to make me want to be a dude. Or maybe I wouldn't even take that pill at all... MAYBE, If I meditate, I can convince myself through the power of suggestion to stop shaving my legs!

I apologize for the rant but I needed it
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[Annaliese]

My stress is caused by when I can't dress. To just stop is to stop being me.

[Lisa Gerrie]

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Bob Newhart had the answer all along!

[Lynnmorgan451]

My stress is caused by when I can't dress. To just stop is to stop being me.

Me too...MY stress....but all the stress in my life surrounding me "my wife" comes from me dressing....

[Beverley Sims]

Lynn,
I have received advice like that on occasions.
Like you I have filed it away for some future reference.
Some.... just...... don't....... get..... it.

[Katyana]

For me all my stress ended when I finally got sick of not being seen for ME. Not as a man, or a women, but me. Funny thing was, since at that time, the only people who knew was my GF, mother, and an ex wife, I was the only one not seeing me for me as I had not given anyone else a chance to. Now that I am out, I have found so much support that was there for quite some time. Once I could define myself as just a PERSON, I stopped caring what anyone else thought. And what is even crazier, is mostly, its the people I thought would have an issue with it that do NOT!

[Nicole Erin]

Often times people in real life that give this grand advice are the same people that won't get off their asses to fix their own lives. Kind of like how high school dropouts preach the importance of education.

My experience is that for me living as a woman has not caused nor solved any real problems. I guess other Ts may say the same thing.

[Chickhe]

...my advice... to stop doing it, you need to do it a lot. So much that there is nothing new to learn...you also need to accept yourself and just know that you are who you are and that's okay. Then after you feel good about yourself and there is nothing compelling you to dress you won't need to and then it becomes just something you enjoy sometimes. That's my own experience and it took me years to work it all out.

[arbon]

Its hard for a lot of people to understand, they try to be helpful but what your experiencing is to far outside their range of experience for them to know how to be. I had one friend bring me a sex addicts anonymous book and encourage me to go to meetings because he thought what I was doing was sexually motivated, well thanks, yeah, hmm, I don't think its gonna work.




My experience is that for me living as a woman has not caused nor solved any real problems..

It fixed the biggest problem of all - living as a guy.

[whowhatwhen]

Kind of like how high school dropouts preach the importance of education.


Going to disagree with you there, I'll preach it to whoever listens because dropping out was a huge mistake for me and I'd really want others not to make the same mistakes I did.
I did end up getting my GED though :3

OP:
I've barked up that tree several times, but the second you turn your back the gender demon comes back down and bites you in the ass.
Or you could do what I was going to do if I had the balls: Draw on armhair along with a fake anchor tattoo.

[Cheryl Ann Owens]

Just stop doing it? It's nice how people think they know what's best for us. That's like denying who we are and the internal pressure just keeps building, and building, and......

Cheryl

[Anne2345]

I apologize for the rant but I needed it.

You call THIS a rant, girlfriend??!! You do know what a rant is, don't you?

I mean, I have seen plenty of rants posted before, and I have certainly posted my own on occassion, but I'm not so sure that your post rises up to the level of a "rant."

For example, here's a rant:

http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?179954-Today-can-go-F-itself

From my own experience, I gotta tell you that nothing beats a good rant from time to time. Just letting it loose and putting it all out there can really help. But you gotta just let it flow, don't hold back, and let it ALL out!!! You gotta feel the moment, be the moment, and rant your ****ing ass off within the moment!!!

You were being too careful, too politically correct, and too cautious. And that ain't ranting!!

Next time you feel the need, just belt the ****er out, and let us know how you really feel!! You'll be much better for the experience.

:)

[Jackie7]

...my advice... to stop doing it, you need to do it a lot. So much that there is nothing new to learn...you also need to accept yourself and just know that you are who you are and that's okay. Then after you feel good about yourself and there is nothing compelling you to dress you won't need to and then it becomes just something you enjoy sometimes. That's my own experience and it took me years to work it all out.

Chickie, that's my experience too, but I am more of a hetero crossdresser than folks here who feel they were born into the wrong bodies, I don't feel that way. Except sometimes dressing is an experience I enjoy a lot for a while... like now, I dress nearly every day and have for the past few weeks. But for the previous couple of months I only dressed a couple of times, for special occasions out. Can't explain any of it, except it certainly did get a lot easier after coming out, finding acceptance, and dressing a lot for a few years.

[mikiSJ]

Maybe I can run this by the doc and see if there's a pill I can take to make me want to be a dude. Or maybe I wouldn't even take that pill at all... MAYBE, If I meditate, I can convince myself through the power of suggestion to stop shaving my legs!

Keep us informed of you progress, please. I am sure there are a few girls here looking for that magic solution.

Not me, though!

[Cheryl Ann Owens]

Maybe I can run this by the doc and see if there's a pill I can take to make me want to be a dude. Or maybe I wouldn't even take that pill at all...

A doctor would have to restrain me and force me to take that pill. "NO! I'm a woman and loving it!"

Cheryl

[Rachelakld]

Don't worry, you will stop having these feelings in about another 80 short years

[DeeArel]

I think if I do't stop it I should be made to wear a dress.

[Angela Campbell]

For me all my stress ended when I finally got sick of not being seen for ME.


I feel like this but no one has ever seen the real me, and after pretending for so many years to be someone they all wanted me to be i am not sure who "I" am anymore.

[I Am Paula]

My autobiography should be titled 'A life lived to other peoples expectations'.

[Lynnmorgan451]

Lololololololol

Anne. http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?179954-Today-can-go-F-itself
That shit is awesome....just reading your rant made me feel a little better but I see what you mean...I was too polite and didn't really get enough off my chest.

For the record, a magic pill that would make me wanna be a dude can be less than surgically implanted into the doctors ass! But the fact that these perspectives from outside are so extremely ignorant it makes me want to cry. I couldn't believe those suggestions. One from my mom was the magic pill.....my mom thinks I have a chemical imbalance in my brain that can be corrected with medication.....wrong....the other suggestion, bob Newhart said it best OMG that was funny!! But that suggestion was from my SO....just STOP IT! Lol. Now I am dealing with my fear of being buried alive in a box...lolololololol

I love you all!!!! Everybody here rocks!!!!

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[Kaitlyn Michele]

strangely enough i recall a conversation with a bunch of us old middle age ts women at a bar..

we all kind of agreed that if we could have taken a pill that made us WANT TO BE MEN and never ever felt we were women...we might have taken it..i frankly would have liked to not miss out on 45 years of living an authentic life...i frankly would have liked not spending 100k on painful risky surgeries ..i would have liked enjoying a prom, a shower or frat party or even being able to concentrate in church while surrounded by hundreds of well dressed women that i wished i was...

one thing that i learned in transition is that i don't care what gender i am really, i just care that i am my own real gender and that i can feel like it without it torturing me everyday.....

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also lynn i remember a csi episode that haunts me because one of the characters got put in a box.... thnx for reminding me and i'll enjoy the horrible nitemares!!!! hehe

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also ...best rant ever on best show ever...ok hyperbole alert...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bBPrdX-cqF0

[traci_k]

Lynn,

I'll try to get my wife to stop talking to your SO. JUST STOP IT was the same advice I got from my wife.

Hugs!

[Jorja]

See Traci_k, you could have saved five bucks.

[Katyana]

I feel like this but no one has ever seen the real me, and after pretending for so many years to be someone they all wanted me to be i am not sure who "I" am anymore.

I would be willing to bet you know just who you are. I will not say "we" have always known deep down, because I do not want to invite all the Dr. Phil replies that would follow, so I will say I have always known. I am out now, all I had to do was get out of my own way and let myself be who I am. The world was not stopping me. I have not had FFS, SRS, and have not taken hormones, I go anywhere I want anytime I want. I am pretty passable except for being 6'2" and an Adams apple the size of a door knob, and I know people have looked at me like a guy in women's clothing, and that is where my path splits from most, because I don't care what anyone thinks of me. I walk proud, and I hold my head up high. Even after the end of a 10 year marriage, and a broken nose and jaw from a sucker punch outside a club. But what does not kill me makes me stronger...and smarter. I may identify as a woman, but I was born with a set and I USE them.