Jackie7
05-06-2013, 04:18 PM
I am a hetero crossdresser and I am so blessed to have a wife who not only understands, but participates. Many of the threads I read here bring back the struggles with my first wife, my struggle simply to exist and express this aspect of myself alongside her struggle to say it isn’t so and no it can’t be true. I met my darling wife while dressed so there were no surprises, we began as girlfriends before we became lovers.
My wife’s advice to women who find themselves married to CD men is simply this: find ways to have fun with it. I know that this approach would be much tougher if your partner is heading toward hormones and surgery, I don’t mean to make light of how hard that is for both partners.
Anyway, here are a few ways it can become fun:
Shopping. Can you imagine a man willingly shopping and not tapping his foot impatiently while you try stuff on? A CD partner is the best shopping buddy. We are about the same size so we can exchange most tops and some dresses, and we budget about the same to each of us for new outfits. We have a lot of twinsie outfits, both casual and elegant, which is a lot of fun once you are up to going out together dressed.
Nails, makeup and hair. Help him learn how women groom themselves, do his makeup, teach him to help with yours, go to the salon and the spa together. He’ll be so grateful, it’s only right that he pay for you both.
Dining out: The maître d’ will seat you with an elegant flourish and the waiter will attend to your every whim. They both that a grateful cross-dresser man is likely to tip very well.
Dressing up and partying: He’ll never complain about how long it takes you to dress because it will take him longer. Two hot babes out on the town never wait in line at a nightclub. They’ll want you inside to contribute to the glittery scene.
Once you are up to going out together, try crossdressing for yourself. My wife loves it that men’s suits have so many pockets, and she enjoys the sloppy simplicity of men's casual duds. She can get ready to roll in fifteen minutes including the time it takes to bind her breasts, stipple her "beard" with eyebrow pencil, and pack her tidy whities. We don’t do it all the time and she doesn’t get the sensual/erotic charge that I do, but she does unchain a macho side of herself that she ordinarily stows somewhere deep inside. She likes to step up and take charge, while I hang onto her arm and totter along on my too-high heels.
I’ll append a couple of photos.
Xxx
Jackie
My wife’s advice to women who find themselves married to CD men is simply this: find ways to have fun with it. I know that this approach would be much tougher if your partner is heading toward hormones and surgery, I don’t mean to make light of how hard that is for both partners.
Anyway, here are a few ways it can become fun:
Shopping. Can you imagine a man willingly shopping and not tapping his foot impatiently while you try stuff on? A CD partner is the best shopping buddy. We are about the same size so we can exchange most tops and some dresses, and we budget about the same to each of us for new outfits. We have a lot of twinsie outfits, both casual and elegant, which is a lot of fun once you are up to going out together dressed.
Nails, makeup and hair. Help him learn how women groom themselves, do his makeup, teach him to help with yours, go to the salon and the spa together. He’ll be so grateful, it’s only right that he pay for you both.
Dining out: The maître d’ will seat you with an elegant flourish and the waiter will attend to your every whim. They both that a grateful cross-dresser man is likely to tip very well.
Dressing up and partying: He’ll never complain about how long it takes you to dress because it will take him longer. Two hot babes out on the town never wait in line at a nightclub. They’ll want you inside to contribute to the glittery scene.
Once you are up to going out together, try crossdressing for yourself. My wife loves it that men’s suits have so many pockets, and she enjoys the sloppy simplicity of men's casual duds. She can get ready to roll in fifteen minutes including the time it takes to bind her breasts, stipple her "beard" with eyebrow pencil, and pack her tidy whities. We don’t do it all the time and she doesn’t get the sensual/erotic charge that I do, but she does unchain a macho side of herself that she ordinarily stows somewhere deep inside. She likes to step up and take charge, while I hang onto her arm and totter along on my too-high heels.
I’ll append a couple of photos.
Xxx
Jackie