Question regarding college application

[sweetjessica]

Hey everyone... I am in the middle of filing few college applications. Most colleges I am applying to have a LGBTQ box to mark. I know that I should tick the box. But I am a bit hesitant considering that I am not out yet. Also I am not sure if I will be asked to prove myself or something, a letter from my therapist may work, but I am so uncomfortable with prying questions. Would it just be easier to maybe just leave it blank and deal with the college when and if I get there?

So sorry for such a long rant, I have absolutely no idea what to do here, someone please help this girl in need.. please :o

Thanks in advance .. So looking forward to all your replies. .

[Rogina B]

Just tick the box.You know you are and there is nothing to prove to anybody.

[sweetjessica]

Thanks for the reply Rogina. My thoughts exactly. But my concern is that I may be attending school in guy mode at least in the beginning. I am wondering if I mark T and then show as my yikeee guy self. Will that cause problems such as falsifying forms and then facing questions...

[JenniferMBlack]

It is a box that covers a multitude of people. I don't see how they could ask you to prove your LGBTQ, what if you check it for B? Are they going to follow you around they whole time and see if you "date" boys and girls?

[I Am Paula]

Check it...or don't. Everybody's allowed to change thier mind. If you were using T status to gain a scholarship, or somehow defraud the university, that may be another thing. It's not like that by checking that box, they are going to make you wear a pride t-shirt 24/7.

[Michelle.M]

But my concern is that I may be attending school in guy mode at least in the beginning.

Or, this may be the impetus you need to begin living full time. I don't know your circumstances so I'm not saying you should, but I'm just throwing that idea out there.

[sweetjessica]

Thanks for all you posts everyone. I think I have my answer. Thinking about it, Rogina, Celeste, wbdavid all of you are right, its not like they will ask me to prove myself - I mean that actually by the sound of it, is so sexist (if that is the right word). Moreover, I am not ashamed to admit who I am.

I have absolutely no intentions to defrauding the university in anyway. I haven't really even applied for any minorities scholarship (some Universities have it though).

As for


It's not like that by checking that box, they are going to make you wear a pride t-shirt 24/7.

I would not mind wearing a pride top 24/7. It's just that I have to be remain closeted for now since folks in India are not open to the concept of Trans. People here are extremely volatile towards them. The colleges I am applying to are in the US and Canada. Hopefully once I am there, more friendly circumstances will allow me to express my true self more openly.

Thanks again all, for your answers. They were really helpful..

xoxo - Jessi

[Paulette]

Jessica I would not tick the box wait until you are excepted and are in school before you make a decision to out yourself. Yes, in your home country your status as Trans would not be helpful and could possibly harm your future.

[AllieSF]

Jessica I would not tick the box wait until you are excepted and are in school before you make a decision to out yourself. Yes, in your home country your status as Trans would not be helpful and could possibly harm your future.

I like this reply the best. One reason is that you never know if the college's LGBT group may contact you at your home address to welcome you to the school, and then unfortunately your parents see and open the letter before you do. I think that the school's do that to show that they are open to everyone and to eventually to have that group contact applicants or approved applicants to welcome them and to see how that can help them, fit who they are into the overall school culture.

I would leave it blank and then once in school decide what to do, when and how. You can always look up the school's LGBT group once you get there and check them out before even officially joining them. I think that your concern about having family find out before you are ready to tell them is a very good and justifiable reason to wait and see. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.