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helena.gcd
05-12-2013, 01:03 PM
Hi girls,

i just wanted to share some of the new events in my life. Lately i have been much more open with my CDing habits and i have been telling to my closer friends about it. Now about 15 of them know that sometimes i like dressing like a woman and all i can say is that must be a very good friend, because i only have had support and acceptance from them :) They treat me exactly the same than before knowing and that is raising my confidence to levels i would have never expect. Some of them have seen me dressed and the others have seen lots of photos...

Now, the new step. I live in a small catholic and conservative town close to Madrid. When i want to go out, i usually get dress at home and then i drive to Madrid to meet with some other CD's i know and we go out for a drink or dinner or whatever the plan is for that weekend.

This saturday was going to be like any other. I got ready in the afternoon and i stopped in a mall to do some shopping. Not that i needed something but spring finally arrived and i wanted to see more dresses. (I ended up buying 2 dresses, 1 pair of summer heels, 1 red stripped t-shirt, 2 belts, 2 pairs of tanned tights, 1 sumer purse, 2 bras and 3 brazilian-cut panties :o:o:o)

After all that effort, i was a bit tired and not feeling very well. I got in the car and i had a whasshap from one of my friends. He was bored because there was nobody left in our hometown to go out tonight. As at that point i wasn't feeling like going to Madrid and going out and then driving back for one hour, I told him that if he didn't mind going out with me dressed, i would join him for one drink. He told me ' you are my friend and i don't mind how you are dressed' so i told him to meet me at my place in one hour.

I still don't know how that thought came to my mind, but i'm glad i did. All the way driving back home i was a bit nervous about what would i do if i met some of the friends that still have no clue, or if we had any kind of trouble at some point. Luckly i didn't had too much time to think in that stuff, because i was very busy thinking about what will i wear for my debut in my hometown. (actually i have gone out a few times there, but just for a walk, not socializing with people)

When i got home i did a quick refresh of my make up and then decided to wear one of the new dresses. My friend arrived and we went out. Our plan was going to a nice pub with good music and not many clients. All the way there (like 10 minutes, it is a small town :) )i was a bit nervous. When we got in the pub there were like 6 people and 2 waitress. We ordered our drinks and sat at a table. People took a quick look of me and that was all. Not pointing fingers or anything, they couldn't care less. As the time (and the drinks) passed, my nervousness diminished and i was beginning to enjoy the fact that i was out. The previous day i had been talking with another friend, who didn't knew anything, so i called him and asked where he was. He told me that he was going to one of the mainstream clubs in the town but my confidence was high, so i told him that i will meet him there. 10 minutes later we got in the club. I saw my friend in the distance so we got by his side.

He said to my friend: Hi, where is ******??. (my male name)
- Here, i said.

He stared at me like 5 seconds and then hugged me and gave me 2 kisses (on the cheeks) like to any other girl. He was very surprised and shock, but i explained him everything. Acceptance and support, i couldn't ask for more. :)
He was there with his brother, their girlfriends and 4 other friends. They all know me and i didn't hide. I told them the short version of the story and we spend the night all together, drinking and chatting. They treated me normally and i had some compliments from the girls of the group.

It was a great night, had lots of fun and i still can believe that i finally did it.
When i was going home i asked my friend to take a couple of pic of me, because i realized that i didn't had one of this very special night, so there it goes:

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Hope that you have enjoyed the reading. For sure i enjoyed the night. I cant wait to do it again.

Hugs,

Helena

AKKaren
05-12-2013, 01:12 PM
:battingeyelashes:I am so happy for you!! Acceptance of others for who you are is wonderful!! Be yourself and enjoy who you are!!
Hugs
Karen:hugs::hugs:

Jennifer Monroe
05-12-2013, 01:15 PM
Congratulations on your acceptance from your friends! You look absolutely stunning! Keep having fun!

Beverley Sims
05-12-2013, 02:04 PM
Helena,
That night out as you described happened in a similar way to me once.
I was accepted as I looked attractive.
You also look attractive and would make great company for anybody.
I would say your friends treated you like a girl as well.
It is a special feeling the first time round.

suzanne
05-12-2013, 02:30 PM
You look marvelous, darling! You have absolutely no reason to be nervous, wherever you go. But you know that now, so there's no more limitations for you.
Congratulations, and have many more fun outings!

Julie Denier
05-12-2013, 02:49 PM
What a great story! How wonderful to be so accepted like that ;)

rita63
05-12-2013, 02:52 PM
Sounds like a wonderful night with good friends and lots of fun. stories like yous let me know it is possible, I'm all that holds me back.

hugs rita

steftoday
05-12-2013, 03:18 PM
wow Helena, you look gorgeous in that photo. cute shoes, love the hosiery and legs to die for. Well done!!!

Josie06
05-12-2013, 03:21 PM
Wonderful! I am so happy for you Helena. You are a lovely young Lady and look every bit a Lady.

I am so, so happy to see uplifting stories like yours as over the years some have not been happy ones.

Be safe, be yourself and enjoy your life, Josie

AmyGaleRT
05-12-2013, 04:49 PM
How wonderful for you, Helena! You looked lovely, I'm sure some of the ladies with you were secretly jealous! :)

I'm sure this will be the first of many, many more great outings!

- Amy

Rachelakld
05-12-2013, 07:06 PM
Glad you had a great night out, and you are truely stunning.
The world today (especially your generation) is very different in attitudes to those of previous generations and it's nice to know your friends are as open to different lifestyles as my children are.

Kandy Barr
05-12-2013, 09:05 PM
Wonderful storybook ending, we need to hear more like it. Thanks so much for sharing your joyous moment.

Kandy

Natalie Wood
05-12-2013, 09:28 PM
Helena,

I really enjoyed reading your post. I feel like I am just at the beginning stages of some of your experiences. You have given me some inspiration to continue the direction I am headed. Thank you for sharing!

Natalie

Paula T
05-12-2013, 09:37 PM
Wonderful story about some of the fears that all of us have and aren't always so scary after all.

Cheryl James
05-12-2013, 11:06 PM
What a great story. I am so happy for you that you have such wonderful friends.

Kalista Jameson
05-12-2013, 11:13 PM
Great story and great pic to go along with it! Glad you had a good time.

Cheers,

Kalista

ronny0
05-12-2013, 11:44 PM
Your photo is HOT!!!!

You look GREAT!

kimdl93
05-13-2013, 11:11 AM
That's a wonderful story, Helena! I'm so glad that your friends have demonstrated their support and affection for you. And if the picture is any indication, you looked perfectly feminine and pretty! If anyone looked, that's what they saw!

Debra Russell
05-13-2013, 11:31 AM
..........just being a girl - thats what its all about -- congrats.............................Debra

*Amelia*
05-14-2013, 12:21 AM
Wow, what a great story! And I love your outfit! I wish I had friends like yours!

Tracii G
05-14-2013, 12:28 AM
Such a fantastic story and what a night it was!!
Acceptance from friends is all you can ask for.

helena.gcd
05-14-2013, 02:27 PM
Thank you girls for all your comments!!! I really appreciate that you took your time to read my story. I wanted to share it because maybe it will inspire others, like many post in this forum had inspired me in the past (and in the future too, for sure) :)

After a couple of days I still don't regret my decision of going out in my home town. The friends that saw me have been treating me the same way than a week ago, so i think that their acceptance is for real.

But some other friends (who know that i crossdress) are angry with me... they wanted to be with me this first night :) :) They wish they had gone out that night. I told them not to worry, because there is going to be plenty of chances for them to go out with me.

so for the moment, i couldn't be happier with my buddies. Let's see how this evolves.

hugs,

Helena

Carmen
05-14-2013, 02:38 PM
Thank you Helena for your awesome story.

rudy3448
05-18-2013, 04:50 AM
Awesome story. With telling several of your friends and now having a support group around you, I bet you have a huge relief off of your chest and you feel so much better inside. Its only going to get better.

Jilly75
05-18-2013, 07:29 AM
Helena,
Wow! Great story I wish I was as brave as you.

Emily Barton
05-18-2013, 07:43 AM
Amazing story, sounds like so much fun! You look great in that picture, can't wait to hear about the next time!

helena.gcd
05-18-2013, 04:07 PM
thanks girls!!!

I was thinking about opening a new thread, but i think that the step I took today is just a follow up from the previous one, so here it goes:

This evening i told my Sister that I'm a crossdresser. She came to our hometown to spend the weekend and I took her for a photoshoot. After I finished taking photos I told her and she was very surprised, but supportive. She sees no big deal in it and even wants to meet me when i go to Madrid for shopping or dinner or whatever. I answered her questions, showed her some pictures and that was all.

I still can't believe all the support and normality that i have received from everyone i have told. I'm glad that i took the risk of outing myself to the people i care. They have probed to be the kind of people i thought they were.

Hugs,

Helena

jennywish
05-18-2013, 04:30 PM
Wow, a great event to happen

Melody1985
05-18-2013, 08:06 PM
Great story.. It felt like I was watching a movie as I read it. I could sense the nervousness you must have felt, and the relief and empowerment as well. So once again, great read, because as a professor once told me, "we will all do 2 things in life for sure, and that's eat an tell stories." And what can be better than a story filled with joy. Thank you.