No--One Cares

[STACY B]

I seen Kim's thread about meeting a couple people an as a matter of fact the same thing happen to me . An I am putting this in the trans section an not the CD section because I am trans not CD ! Anyway had to go to Baton Rouge to look at a car for my wife an got up an got ready an pulled out my Maroon pants an a pattern top an some sandals an fixed my hair an waited for my wife to get ready also ,, She looked at me an I said LOOK that shirt I got goes with these Pants ,,lol,, An she was looking kinda crazy cuz she knew we were going to buy a car . Anyway I had already talked to the GUY on the phone twice an he was going to be waiting ,, Its about a 2 hour ride from our house an when we got there the guy came out an I said hello an I said I look DIfferent than I sound ,,huh,, He said YEA ,, I laughed an we drove the car an went to the Bank an then to the bank with him an then to the DMV with him an then to the store an then came home . No makeup ,, No breast forms ,,, Just what I look like everyday ,, Just with BETTER clothes ,, An GUESS what HAPPEN ?

NOTHING !! Nothing At all ,, I drove the car ,,, Bought the car ,, An he even ask me an my wife about ME an I told him an he was cool an wanted to know MORE !!
So people don't really care there kinda interested really an want to know WHY !

So next time you get the urge wether it be CDing or just trans stuff being your self YOU are your own worst Judge & Jury ,, Not the Public ,, 203625

[Barbara Ella]

Wonderful story, and a wonderful wife. but, of course, we care dear. And frankly, you are looking good.

Barbara

[Marleena]

Stacy give me some of your attitude I could use it.:)

[Angela Campbell]

People seem not to be as shocked about it as they once were. I am sure there are still many who would be shocked or act rudely, but those would likely be rude for any little reason. I cannot worry about them. In my experiences out I find most either do not notice or are polite enough to just not be concerned with it. I have never had a bad reaction so far. Then again I can't help that I was born this way.

[arbon]

I'm glad you had a good trip buying a car.

But saying no one cares based on a single day out is something of a stretch. Do it every day, 24/7, for a while and see if you are right about that.

[kimdl93]

I have at various time been defendant, judge, jury, prosecutor and executioner. All for no reason!

[KellyJameson]

I think when there is a sexual component the risk goes up dramatically.

I watch the news closely from all over the world related to violence against transsexuals and you can see those in their teens,twenties and thirties are usually the ones targeted.

Anytime I have experienced problems it was at clubs where there was alcohol mixed with seductive clothing.

If you are in your forties or older and not dressing provocatively people usually will not bother you and often they are impressed by your courage to be yourself.

Usually people have to be threatened in some way before you get a negative reaction.

There will always be the haters but they are fairly easy to spot, so avoid.

[Nicole Erin]

Yeah yeah yeah you went and bought a car en femme....
What kind of car was it? What size engine? auto or manual?
Some of us are interested.

[Angela Campbell]

yeah the important details...what color!

[STACY B]

I'm glad you had a good trip buying a car.

But saying no one cares based on a single day out is something of a stretch. Do it every day, 24/7, for a while and see if you are right about that.


Single day ? I have my own hair ,, Shaved all over ,, Eye brow waxed ,, Wear whatever I want ,, Don't dress like a Hooker ,,lol,,
But do wear anything that pulls me in ,,, What more do you need ,, Get regular pedi's,, Hair color an high lights ,, An shop an get everything done locally ,, I mean short of screaming at the top of my lungs ,, An tell who ever wants or will sits still long enough WHY !! I guess I need to Start my Own Talk Show << Being T with STACY B !!

Oh,,, I forgot ,,, 2008 Nissan Altima ,,,Black ,, Leather SL Model

[Nicole Erin]

If the SL is in fact equipped with the 3.5 and produces 270 horses, I imagine it has DOHC. Yes I obsess over dumb crap like that. Probably a pretty fast car, good choice.

And with starting your own talk show, you know how they are around here with the whole "true tranny" thing.

No matter what us TG will encounter haters but it is not often enough to worry about.

[STACY B]

Oh By the way when we were there buying the car a funny thing that my wife said when the guy was going in the Bank an we were haggleing on the car ,, My wife said you should have worn your Man Clothes an let him know your serious ,,lol,, I said I don't have to he knows !! Just goes to show that being male has some advantages ,, But there is a will there is a way ,, If your going to pull the trigger you better get used to all aspects of the transition ,,Including all things in life ,, I can get my point across dressed any way I want ,, Its all about attitude not your attire . You give off a vibe of a dummy you will be treated as such ,, I have a sister that is as fem as they come an she commands respect an has been doing a MAN JOB all her life in management ,, So I told her don't get it twisted I am trans ,, Not a Dumbass !!!

[Jorja]

Way to go Stacy!!!! You really get it!

[mary something]

Awesome! Bought a nice car, haggled, had a good time, and was able to tell us about it, many cisgender folks wouldn't have managed all that ;)

[Antoinette]

Generally people these days couldn't care less. Atleast here in NY. Sure you get a stare or two but whatever life goes on. Be yourself the whole way!

[Stephanie47]

I think the acceptance is totally dependent on the event; where, what, who, etc. You were dealing with an adult for a specific reason. There was some conversation before hand even though the seller was not aware of your status. You were accompanied by your wife, which in my mind at least, would change the entire interaction.

Here in Washington State all hell broke lose when a transgendered male by birth was using the women's/girl's locker room at a college.

I doubt think the "age of enlightenment" has reached everyone.

[STACY B]

You think that's Bad ,, I live in Mississippi ,, South Mississippi at that ,, Now come tell me about it ? Talk about good ol Boy Hell ,, Anyone can find a reason to not do it ,, An that's fine by me ,, Anyone can say this an that an it was for some other reason an the circumstances were for one reason or another ? But I can't tell YOU ,,, How to go about it ,, I can just tell YOU how I go about the world . Only my personal Conquests an personal exsperances ,, Not everyone is or can be the same . But I can tell you one thing ,, You will get treated the same way you treat others . I am sure that people with all kinds of differences get treated all kinds of ways ,, From one end of the spectrum to the next ,, But if we hide an don't educate some one we will be hidding in the Dam house an stay wishing on a dam star ,, To Hell with that ,, I was a Big mouth before I went out an I will be one after the whole friggen world knows till they put this ol Fat bitch in the ground ,, I am going to donate my organs so I can live on an spread my D,N,A to the rest of the world even after I am GONE !!!

Bet ya one thing if someone needed a Heart or Lung ,, They wouldn't give a crap if it come from a Tranny ,, With the Grim Reaper Knocking on there door ???

[mary something]

Excellent Stacy! I've been there and it is pretty redneck lol, I live somewhere not too different, ya gotta do what ya gotta do!

[Kathryn Martin]

Here in Washington State all hell broke lose when a transgendered male by birth was using the women's/girl's locker room at a college.

Stacy, I don't say this easily, but in this case I say and mean it: you go girl.

Stephanie 47, Colleen Francis is the worst possible example of a man in a dress who goes into a women's locker room shower and sauna, swings his dick around and then calls it his right to do so. I had occasion to research this creep when it happened. He is no hero, he is no role model, he is a disgusting pervert who has no boundaries. (rant over)

[mary something]

I read about that story (Francis), it seems that she/he were sitting in a sauna with their legs spread open with their beans and frank fully exposed while girls as young as age 6 were within view changing into their swimsuits for lessons. A Swim coach asked them to leave... In an interview Francis said that it's not 1959 Alabama and we don't call the cops over drinking out of the wrong fountain anymore.

what Kathryn said.

[Jhustagurl]

I, too, live in the deep south. I am 24/7 out in my community and have had no significant adverse public responses. As it appears Stacy does, i dress and present myself appropriate to the situation (my platform pumps spend most of their time in the closet) and behave in a confident manner. In general, i think most people are too preoccupied with their own lives to give a second thought to a transgender person

[vikki2020]

I'm finding out the same thing, and it does make life easier! Even if just a femme top, with lithe,or no make-up, maybe wear my flats.As I go about my usual day to day business, no one cares--for sure. They do remember you,though,lol! In a good way. I'm usually greeted now, with a smile, and a sincere hello, when I go into places I visit. I know it's not the same all over, but, we're getting there!

[noeleena]

Hi,

Talking about being accepted, there are still some who for what ever reason wont cant & dont wont to accept some one who is different, this has just happened in the last two weeks & the aftermath is ill not be comeing a member of a group with in our lager Institute , Womens Federation yes world wide,

Of 15 of us women 3 will not accept i am in fact a woman female to boot. yet the other 11 wont me with them two know me pretty well & have done over a year, those i talked with had no issues, at all were lovely in fact,

what was said they would not go to our meetings if i turn up. so background is these three seem to have an issue about some other details long before i went out with our group. so there you are, as was said to me from our top woman they will miss out .or leave then ill be accepted in to our group just need to wait ,

In the mean time ill get hopefully involved with another group. , i do miss our disbanded group was just so lovely being with them ,

...noeleena...

[Marleena]

@ Noeleena

Those 3 that won't accept you are the real losers and they're the ones with the problem. From what I see on this forum you are always supportive of everybody so it's their loss really.

[Debglam]

Way to go Stacy!

People REALLY take so many cues from you. Your comfort and confidence is often what is "read." While I agree I also believe in the "BB Theory" that eventually you have to bounce off of the "bad" BB in the dish. There is a randomness factor and it goes beyond trans. Sometimes you just run in to an a**hole! Things are getting better day by day though!


Stephanie 47, Colleen Francis is the worst possible example. . .

Uggh!

[LisaBishop]

Good job Stacy!