Never say Never

[Inna]

Often I read "will never be a real woman" and lately I am startled by such statements. What do you mean, never!?

Yes, the journey had been immensely turbulent and at times indescribably painful, but NEVER..........No I tend to disagree, else, I tend to prove that such is quite possible, because who you are isn't within an appendage but within a heart and the way of life.

I awake a woman, cleanse as a woman, hop in a car, drive to work and cheerfully welcome everyone at the office. You guessed correctly, just as a woman!

During rest all the girls get together and chat about, you guessed correctly, girly things, boyfriends, daughters, sons, hubby's........it is an immense feeling to be a part of, no ifs or buts, just a wholesome feeling.

I see the world through woman eyes, I embody and I am empowered as a woman, a beautiful state of awareness towards the whole world.

I hurt as a woman, get scared by eagerly guys trying to impress me with their charm and one thing on their mind.

I am vulnerable, soft, sensual, and however else I am, I AM A Woman, no more no less then any other.

If I didn't believe any of this was possible, my journey would had been in vain.

[Jhustagurl]

For me, the issue is not one of being a "real woman", but one of being "the real me". That really sums up my life up until i committed to transition. I honestly dont care if people percieve or acknowledge me as an authentic female. I just want to be "read" as an authentic human being who has faced a unique challenge, met it, and went on living her life

[Nicole Erin]

Vulnerable and soft - no need to be a weak woman. You develop the weak woman personna, the world will walk all over you.

[noeleena]

Hi,

To be a woman one needs to grow as one,

Though i have an advantage being female not compleat in all details of what i am yet still female, & from birth, i wont get on to my pet subject, you know,

I did not change it was a matter of time to grow yes i had to go through a lot of issues, & many will allways be there, when we talk about being strong it needs to be tempered with a softness, kindness love, & knowing what you are & for myself knowing at a time that i would be ready to grow , was that only about growing into a woman. in part yes. though not all ,

i had to grow as a person. first, for my first years of life it was not posible due to things that happened to myself so if you like i was held back & long term that was what helped me , so some times the hurry up get on with life is not allways the best, as i know & found out,

Going through all the detail i went through was what helped me the most, hard , tough, hurtfull down grading held back. yet this is plus other detail is what i needed, with out that i would not be where i am to day, yes im a very strong woman. & im tempered with i have my weak points i have my failure points im sure not perfect being born the way i was / am has proved that. yes iv come through, still aways to go yet.

How do we cope how do we become strong how do we face a life thats different, self esteem self worth to love our selfs , to be our selfs, do we see our selfs as different, i do because i know i am. so to be a part of socity, or more to the point be part of groups be involved with those around you,

My difference comes with a price it allso comes with disadvantages & advantages, how i get on is tempered with a detail i'v had issues with most of my life, today is one it has bitten me quite hard, so its reared its ugly head.

Now i can let it roll over me or fight it to fight will drain me & hold myself down. so its trying to. or let it roll over me yes ill go down & when it rolls over i'll slowly get up. & access it over a few days, then work through the issue i know i cant change this yet i know its just another issue i have to ether let it chain me up or make myself a little stronger not to be angery just a lost time with some other people i love, & love being with.

So you see even though im female & a woman. its still not allways easy or nice to be brought to a place of i cant be where i should be part of my life at this time,

Okay ill get through it, & carry on you know why. because i became strong so when i have to go through details like this though it hurts , im still just a woman who has the inner strength that i need,

...noeleena...

[Angela Campbell]

Even if I can never be a genetic woman, I am not much of a man except for parts of my body. So I have to make a choice. Inside I am one thing, outside I am another. I am still real.

[Kate Simmons]

If we truly embrace who we are as you have my friend it's just a natural and normal thing. Enjoy being you.:)

[groove67]

Inna, i coul not have wriiten anything better as how i feel better than you have. In few months i will be having srs and all will be complete, but i doubt that i will feel anymore a woman than i already do. Great post. Marianne

[I Am Paula]

I was born a real woman. Just my body betrayed me. Someday I will look much more like a real woman, but that doesn't change the part that counts.
The notion that we will never know how a woman thinks, or feels, has been debated for years. In my opinion, all of us that identify as female, our bodies non withstanding, DO know how a woman thinks, and feels, because we are women. We might never know the feeling of all aspects of being a woman associated with having children, but those are temporary manifestations of womanhood. The big picture, we live everyday.

Now somebody please explain that to my wife.LOL

Now girls- Feel free to tear this hypothesis to shreds.