Are Women Just As Raunchy As Men?

[Lori31]

I have been going out clubbing lately as Lori. First off, it is a whole different world inside the club as a women. I have really been enjoying myself. It is amazing what you see and hear. But back to the question.

I have been using the ladies room with no problems at all! And the things I have overheard in there. Two girls were talking. And one was talking about sex and her boyfriend. And she was getting quite dirty and graphic. She was talking about stuff I thought only guys discussed.

Then I was being pulled into several girl groups to dance. Dancing as a women in a club is a whole new ball game. I was doing things on the dance floor with these girls that guys would only dream of being able to do with women. And here I was doing it openly. It's almost as if the girls were expecting me to do it. We were bumping, grinding, touching each other in very sexual ways. Lots of guys would get slapped if they attempted to do some of the stuff we were doing out there.

So I ask. Are women just as raunchy as men? Does it happen day to day too, or is it just a club environment thing? Thoughts?

[Laura912]

Women are humans.

[Leah Lynn]

Lori, there are women out there that could make a longshoreman blush. Sweet and innocent are rare commodities these days.


Leah

[Greenie]

Can I just say YES? Lol. I have many raunchy friends. Women can be sexual beings just as much as men, if not more. I know one girl who SEXTS at work. Another who has had intimate relations ON A DANCE FLOOR in the middle of a crowded club, I also have a coworker who watches more porn than I think most men do.

Lol.

[Shirley Anne]

I think you will find men are fairly reserved about discussing there sex life with there mates compared with women.

[Alice Torn]

I find this very, very, very sad. There was a time, a generation ago, when girls and women strove to be more ladylike, but, now, its CD's that are more ladylike it seems! What a world. Bizzarro?

[KateSpade83]

Yeah, I think women like sex a lot too. Too bad their Craigslist sex ads are frequently flagged if it has a pic of them.

[Annaliese2010]

I have been going out clubbing lately as Lori. First off, it is a whole different world inside the club as a women. I have really been enjoying myself. It is amazing what you see and hear.... Are women just as raunchy as men? More so, actually (giggle) :o

[Beverley Sims]

I do not think it is new, I always felt my ears burn when I was younger.
Dressed as a woman among women I realised I was accepted as one when they would start talking about sex with their boyfriends.
When they wanted to encourage me to go on a date with someone they would tell me how to seduce a boy.
I thought boys seduced the girls....No.... I always thought I had learned how to unclip a bra.... No...
I thought I knew it all when I got past 1st base...No.. I knew I could show girls a few new tricks....No..
Was I like a lamb to the slaughter...Yes...

I always thought oral sex was swearing in a perverse way.

[stephNE]

I won't say worse, but just as.., yes they are.

[Vickie_CDTV]

The girls who were getting all touchy-feely on the dance floor were probably not lesbians (or even bi), they were probably doing it to attract male attention (because they assume guys are turned on by that kind of thing.)

The one thing surprises me is not so much that (some) women talk about sex so frankly per se, but that (some) will do it so loudly and freely in front of complete strangers, including men. I would never talk in such graphic detail in front of a woman I just met, en drab or en femme... geez...

[LilSissyStevie]

It's rarely been my experience that my libido was greater than my SO's. Of course, I'm a poor example of a typical male - I don't even fantasize about being a male in the sexual act. We still suffer from the 19th century myth that women were essentially asexual and only participated in sexual acts in return for romantic affection. A companion myth is that testosterone drives libido. My testosterone levels usually test out at the high end of normal. I'm sure they are many, many times my wife's levels yet I have always had a difficult time keeping up with her sexually. T is only one factor. If there weren't sexually aggressive women in this world I'd probably still be a virgin since I've never made the "first move" ever.

[Nikki A.]

I've walked into conversations among the female workers at work, since they somehow see me as a kindred spirit they usually keep talking. Let me tell you much worse than guys lol.

[Eryn]

Some women are raunchy. Some women are prudes. Some men are raunchy, Some men are prudes. In either gender the more pleasant individuals tend to be away from the extremes unless you happen to occupy that extreme yourself.

[Rogina B]

Add alcohol,and things get pretty interesting.I hear some interesting conversations most every weekend in the girl's room as well.When it is a stall to stall discussion,it is obvious they don't care who may be standing there by the sinks! lol

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Lori, I think that you've answered your own question.

[mikiSJ]

If you ask my wife and my adult daughter, they will tell you men can't hold a candle to their raunchiness. Of course it matters on what group you are comparing, but knowing my wife - she speaks the truth.

[Alice Torn]

This is sad, sad, sad.

[flatlander_48]

So I ask. Are women just as raunchy as men? Does it happen day to day too, or is it just a club environment thing? Thoughts?

Yes, in my experience, women can be just as raunchy as men. However, I think it differs in frequency (not as often) and they are probably more selective as to where. In general, women are just taught to be more discrete and I think that's what drives the behavior. They are more careful about when and where they let their hair down...

[ReineD]

And she was getting quite dirty and graphic. She was talking about stuff I thought only guys discussed.

Oh yes. We talk about it all. And I don't consider it dirty, just explicit which is necessary if you want to be accurate. We feel just as comfortable talking among ourselves about sex as guys feel among themselves. :)



Then I was being pulled into several girl groups to dance. Dancing as a women in a club is a whole new ball game. I was doing things on the dance floor with these girls that guys would only dream of being able to do with women. And here I was doing it openly. It's almost as if the girls were expecting me to do it. We were bumping, grinding, touching each other in very sexual ways. Lots of guys would get slapped if they attempted to do some of the stuff we were doing out there.

Well, girls actually prefer to bump and grind with men around my parts. And this is in a LGBT/alt club where there are lots of open-minded heteros too. Most of the lesbians are rather butch, and they don't go for the bump and grind stuff among themselves. So when the hetero girls don't have a man to bump and grind with, they do it with one another in an attempt to excite the guys who are watching so much that they'll get off their duffs and bump and grind with the girls. lol

It's all part of a woman's MO of "entice and attract", to lure men. Things have become quite explicit in the last generation or so, and the dance floor behavior matches the way the styles have changed too. Compare feminine club-wear today to what girls wore decades ago and you'll see there's a lot more skin showing.

[noeleena]

Hi,

Oh dear...... ooop's am i out of place here, a Prude, id think you may say so. yes im a Lady. & has been noted to some 230 of our people from our Group im involved with.

i thought this would rear up at some stage maybe thats why i dont go to such places, just not my idear of a night out, yes i know what goes on . i am aware of such places. mixed with drink its a all on.

Though it maybe strange i was not one to talk about sex, you may say old school. or just naive or maybe i did not wont to know, brought up different,
& what could i say any way. not a thing.so non sexual .

...noeleena...

[Anneliese]

Women have always been raunchy, but in my opinion the gap widened with the whole political correctness movement. Men could get in serious trouble at work for saying damned near ANYTHING which anyone MIGHT find offensive, while women were able to say whatever they wanted, because the PC movement was mainly put forth to change men's comments. Women are also more communicative and open about everything to their friends, and always have been. My best male friend, who died a couple of years ago, was the one person on earth I could tell anything to. I have a close female friend, but despite the fact she's a therapist, I stay more on the surface with. Women in groups, especially combined with alcohol, will talk about the length of their boyfriend's penis. Men in a group, unless they're macho jerks, would never talk about their girlfriend's anatomy.

Although I'm not sure if the thread title really covers libido issues, I can safely say every women I've dated or been in a relationship with has been more hot to trot than I have, and I enjoy sex. I have never...not once...had a girlfriend who said she "had a headache". They were always ready and willing.

[BillieJoEllen]

Years ago I worked in a major department store in my hometown. I worked as a janitor on third shift while attending college during the day. We probably had four times the amount of women using our store than we did men. I have never seen such raunch written in men's bathroom stalls as I did in the women's bathroom. Also the changing rooms for the women had to be
attended to every day because of the trash the women left behind. We could often not have to spend a lot of time in the men's changing rooms.

[linda allen]

I was once working on a computer in the shop office and two secretaries were in there as well, working. At some point I started listening to their conversation and they were talking with great detail about having sex with their boyfriends. Specifically, talking about "back door" sex (that's not the words they used).

I was so shocked (I knew them both well as I worked with them every day) that I said something. I should have just stayed quiet and listened.

One was eighteen years old, the other in her fifties.

[laura.lapinski]

Yes, i've always known women can be very raunchy. I don't know whether it's more so than us men. Like many have said, it depends on the type of wommen, the setting, and so forth. What I wonder, is why does it make us so sad? Does it shatter our idea of the sweet, inocent, shy woman? Is there a part inside of of that says "this is bad" thus we are not liking that part of ourselves? Ofen, I have the same feelings in the cycle of a relationship. You idolize the person inthe beginning, then you find out something about them that let's you down, makes you kind of sad.

Analytically, I can let this sadness go and understand that sex, and fun talk about sex is just another way to express ourselves, and let off steam. It doesn't mean those that do it are bad or ****ty. Even though I know this analytically and don't like to judge, I still find myself having these sad feelings sometimes as many have intimated above. I think it says more about me (us), than the people who "let us down". I wish I understood it more thouroughly.

Laura

[Anneliese]

To me the whole thing is, women are supposed to be better than men. Perhaps no smarter or successful, but better. Newsflash: They aren't. They lie just as much. They cheat just as much. They steal just as much. They back-stab more. Where they are superior is in physical violence. Sure, there are violent women, but there are many, many more violent men. Other than that...