pink fog v transition

[andrea lace]

Hello everyone
My wife and I were having a talk the other day regarding sexual fantasies.
I have no secrets with my other half and I told her my biggest fantasy was to be with a guy but not in the capacity of me being a guy also. And to indulge in this fantasy I would have to be a woman.

The only way I could indulge myself would to transition.

She offered me a free pass to try Gay sex but I declined it.
I love her too much to cheat on her and I don't fancy men and believe fantasy should be just that fantasy.

I am very happy with my male self and know that transitioning is a definite no no for me.
All my life I have expected to start fancying men but it hasn't happened. I believe deep down that special person in my life knows this too.

I am also middle aged and don't think I am trying to work out who I am in regards to sexuality I suppose I have had these fantasy's for a long time and I was thinking maybe its the pink fog or maybe I am bisexual.

For me anyway I wont be taking the offer of the free pass from my wife and she the wise old bird says that I need to be comfortable in my own skin and she is a lot more comfortable with me than I am in myself.

Anyone else out there in pink fog land that can identify with this or am I truly lost in the fog?

Thanks girls
Andrea x

[Lynn Marie]

From what I've seen, yours may be a pretty common CD fantasy. Being out on the arm of a handsome gentleman is the ultimate validation for gg's and CDs alike. I've had the honor of escorting a CD girlfriend out to dinner at a local casino, and will be doing something similar for my BGF soon. I'm not interested in gay sex, but I do know how to treat a lady right.

[Paula_56]

Andrea- Lynn is correct I have these fantasies all the time, and most of my GFs do too. But like you we just keep them fantasies

[Melissa73]

I agree. ive had fantasies of a man holding, taking me out. one of my best fantasies, is going to prom all dressed up with a guy at my side (and highschool was 20n yrs ago).
I fantasize about men, but when it come down to it I think id like it as a woman not as a man. if u can understand

melissa

[Frédérique]

My wife and I were having a talk the other day regarding sexual fantasies. I have no secrets with my other half and I told her my biggest fantasy was to be with a guy but not in the capacity of me being a guy also. And to indulge in this fantasy I would have to be a woman. I am also middle aged and don't think I am trying to work out who I am in regards to sexuality I suppose I have had these fantasy's for a long time and I was thinking maybe it’s the pink fog or maybe I am bisexual. Anyone else out there in pink fog land that can identify with this or am I truly lost in the fog?

I’ve had a lot of interesting fantasies in recent years, fantasies I never thought would EVER cross my mind, but I’m pleased that my imagination is still active! I may very well be bisexual, but this idea has come about because of my lessening interest in females as time goes along. I often wonder why I crossdress, since I do not actively envision myself as a female, or put myself in her “shoes,” so to say. No, I’m more of an effeminate male than a miscast female, and new fantasies flow from my advantageous position...

It’s not a problem – I just flow along with each new sensation and make the most of it. I would never tell my fantasies, or my secrets, to anyone. I figure human sexuality is not cut and dried, and my little mind excursions are proof of that reality. The “fog” will eventually burn off, but it’s pretty...
:battingeyelashes:

[Beverley Sims]

The occasional fantasy/thought goes through my mind, some obscene and most not near the norm, all ridiculous.
I rarely revisit such fantasies but they occur when I see something out there in daily life.

[Kate Simmons]

That fantasy has occasionally become a reality for me but mostly as an exception and not as the rule. Even so, it was never nearly what I felt the idealized female life would be, which to me is caring and sharing with a man and having a true partnership with myself in the female role. I can be a "woman" anytime I want, pink fog notwithstanding, but being my idealized version of a woman is much more difficult.:battingeyelashes::)

[biggirlsarah]

I had always had the fantasy of being the girl in the sex act, when I did however get the opportunity I took it (I've always said I don't want to be lying on my death bed and thinking I wonder) I must say it was really quite exciting and enjoyable , but when I did it again with the same person but I was in male mode It wasn't as enjoyable and it felt wrong in a way, I don't know why but it did.
I suppose you could describe me as bisexual.

[andrea lace]

Thanks all for your comments and replies glad to know I am in good company here. I have not had the opportunity to dress for a while and feel any fantasies that I have tend to dissipate after some Andrea time.
I am new to openly cross dressing in front of my wife and the emotion that I feel when I dress can be overwhelming at times but the emotion of not being able to dress and be myself for some time is even greater.
I will keep fantasy where fantasy belongs and that's in my head. I understand that there is a huge spectrum of people that use CD.com and its good to know that although I am somewhat unique what I do and feel I am not alone :)

[Aly Cat]

Ive had that fantasy as well, but mine is i guess...different. I imagine myself being the girl, but in mine, im a GG and the partner is still my wife, just as a male. Like a legitimate body swap. Whats strange is when i do have those thoughts, my wife is still my wife with looks and all, just with...parts you get get from a store? Not sure if that makes me a lesbian in a guys body or something else. Its really hard to explain. I never really think about it as me still being a genetic guy though. Sorry if thats too descriptive. Mods can delete my post if they need to. I just didnt really know how to explain it any other way.

[Sabrina133]

I agree with many. The fantasy of being with a man as a full blown woman is a common one and certainly helps validate us as women. 'I've also been with men as the female in the relationship. While i enjoy certain aspects of being with a man, men can be jerks and being with one long term aint all that great - well it wasn't for me. Thats why i am with a GG today and life has never been better.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Andre, It sounds like that you want to be Arm Candy.

[NathalieX66]

Sexual preference aside, I seem to identify as both genders.

I have been fortunate to have quite a number of friends who have, or are going the full route (HRT, and surgeries). You girls all look so awesome, I'm jealous.

That doesn't completly define me. I like being male and female.....can't explain it/don't know why.

I keep thinking, that in my senior years, I will have an art studio, live full time and do hormones....maybe that'll happen, whatever.'
I like me now.