Has anyone ever been a Bridesmaid or wedding guest?

[Paula_56]

Last Friday evening while driving up to the cabin, we were stuck in traffic. As everyone was getting away for the weekend I noticed many cars with beautiful gowns hanging in the back. Many women and couples were off to see a friend or loved one get hitched, many looked like bridesmaid dresses.

My wife like many cisgendered women commented "The last thing I wanted to due on a hot June day is wear pantyhose and a dress"

My wife knows I am transgendered. She looked over and said "What a shame because I know you would enjoy it"

Have any of you girls ever participated as bridesmaids or attended nuptuials enfemme?

Anyway here is a picture of my in my wedding guest outfit. Now I just need a date! LOL

[Kate Simmons]

You are a very pretty wedding guest Paula.:)

[joan47]

I was abridesmaid at a renewal of their vovels by a fellow crossdresser andhis wife

[Nikki A.]

I was a guest at a wedding. The ceremony was outside and for some reason I attracted all the gnats, I got bit till they drew blood. The reception was indoors and there I had a great time.

[bridget thronton]

Very nice picture Paula

[winny]

very nice outfit for a wedding! classy..
i can only wish to go to a wedding enfemme.. an even bigger wish to be a bridesmaid..
to be the bride however, would be a miracle..

[Cara Lacey]

Almost. Back in the 90s my best friend, Robin, was getting married in Vegas. She jokingly asked me to be her maid of honor, and I told her I'd love to... If I could do it in drag. I then explained that I was a crossdresser and this was a dream of mine. She was a little freaked out, but after a few hours of talk she finally accepted my lifestyle, and actually warmed to the idea of me being in her wedding, after all, she was going to be married at the Elvis chapel.

She ran the idea past her boyfriend who went berserk, saying he didn't want me at the wedding, and didn't want robin to see me anymore.
I didn't go too the wedding, but we remained friends for a few more years, but the rift caused by my coming out to her grew larger and we eventually stop seeing each other. :(

[Annette Todd]

I have not been to a wedding dressed enfemme.

I will volunteer for the date part though. Lol

cheers

Annette

[MssHyde]

very lady like, you belong at weddings

[Kimberly Kael]

That's something to look forward to, another experience I'd very much like to have. The best man at my wedding was en femme, but then again she's a cisgender woman so perhaps that's to be expected. Yes, I've been poking holes in gender stereotypes my whole life, probably to test how thin the fabric is!

[Eryn]

The one thing about a wedding is that it is all about the Bride! I'd probably enjoy the Bridesmaid Experience but it would be very difficult to do so without drawing attention away from the bride. The only way I can thing that it could be done is if the entire audience was TG friendly so a TG bridesmaid wouldn't be seen as anything special.

[Leslie Langford]

You look very elegant and lady-like, Paula - many GG mothers-of-the bride or wedding guests should look so good!

Given your interest in weddings and bridesmaids etc., here's something that might also interest you ;):

http://www.tennesseebridalweddings.com/fashion/children/ringbearer.asp

It's a thread called Dressing the Ringbearer from the forum of a wedding website called Tennessee Bridal, where a discussion that originally focused on the topic of young boys acting as ring-bearers soon morphed into a spirited exchange that lead to stories of having young boys serve as flower girls - up to (and including) young teen boys being pressed into service to fill in as bridesmaids.

Although most of the posts on this bridal forum are about 7 years old now, it still makes for fascinating reading, and the overall vibe emitted by the posters is quite positive regarding the whole concept. True, some of the stories look as if they could have been lifted from the pages of Fictionmania, but the girl in me likes to think that they are real. ;)

Enjoy! :daydreaming: :heehee::heehee:

[giuseppina]

While this is a nice fantasy, I`m inclined to think that a MtF dressed bridesmaid or guest would steal at least some of the bride`s thunder, and that is a non-starter as far as I`m concerned.

[Ocherylkscd]

A few years back during the Diva Las Vegas, my wife and I had a double bride wedding at one of the wedding chapels on the strip. We had 6-7 CD bridesmaids. Total number of guests, 53. I planned the entire thing.

[Diane Edwards]

About 25 years ago my cousin Gail and I went to the wedding of a friend of hers out on the West Coast. She introduced me as her sister and no one seemed to question her about it other than they wondered why she never talked about a sister back East. (I have mentioned that when dressed we looked like sisters as the family resemblance was quite strong, at least back then. Today, not so much as she aged far better than I have.) But I digress.

We had a great time and we both got to dance with some very nice young men. (I have to admit to being nervous about that at first, being close up, but I don't think anyone had a clue, and even if they did, I didn't care because I was having such a great time.)

[Dana L]

Very good pic Paula. I've never been out dressed other than halloween. My wife and I have talked about renewing our wedding vows since we're coming up on 25 years. She has said ok to me wearing a bridal gown and professional hair and makeup. Needless to say I'm estatic about the idea, just have to do it by ourselves somewhere like Vegas.

[AmyGaleRT]

Last time I was at a wedding, it was my cousin's, so of course I was there in drab. Sport coat, slacks, shirt, tie, Bass loafers, even suspenders.

But later I imagined what it might have been like had the invitation gone to Amy instead...and I could switch the coat and tie for a stylish black dress, replace slacks with dark hose, and trade the loafers for heels...and this is what happened (http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?191854-The-Wedding-Guest-That-Might-Have-Been).

- Amy

[Persephone]

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I was Matron of Honor for a TG Wedding several years ago. Being Matron of Honor was costly (dress, shoes, hair, etc.) and very time consuming (had to arrange Bridal Shower, prepare an emergency kit for the big day {everything from first-aid kit to hairspray}, help the Bride into her corset and dress, and even help hold her dress when it turned out she needed to visit the lady's room -- all part of the job -- still, it was a real highlight in my life, something I'd always dreamed of.

Hugs,
Persephone

[Paula_56]

Leslie I've read thru these posts befpore and they are fascinating, I suspect some were written by CDer's? They just ring too true to our way of thinking

[Paula_56]

Last time I was at a wedding, it was my cousin's, so of course I was there in drab. Sport coat, slacks, shirt, tie, Bass loafers, even suspenders.

But later I imagined what it might have been like had the invitation gone to Amy instead...and I could switch the coat and tie for a stylish black dress, replace slacks with dark hose, and trade the loafers for heels...and this is what happened (http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?191854-The-Wedding-Guest-That-Might-Have-Been).

- Amy

Amy--- You look stunning in that dress

[noeleena]

Hi,

Very nicely put to gether, rather lovely & really does suit you, Very Very nice, colour is lovely too.

I will say not yet though i will be at one, Kaylyn our daughter when she's ready to get married ill be there, & ill give her away. or for us Jos & i , I would like Jos to be next to me as well. two women to give our daughter away,one day.

We have so far 4 young grandkids (girl's ) so thats 's to look forward to plus 5 young lads at later dates,

...noeleena...

[LynnR]

Paula, you look lovely in your wedding guest outfit.

[Beverley Sims]

Paula,
You present really smart in that outfit.
I wore something similar at a mock wedding, I was the photographer.
They thought I was female.
I organized mock weddings for fund raisers and have been bridesmaid, bride and even a comic flower girl.
Tall slender little girl in a frilly dress and lace covered panties, I took the shine away from the bridal party with that one.
You do have to get a good act going for this type of event.

[Jennifer in CO]

two stories...

When I was 15, I spent the Summer with the GP's as Jennifer (long story). Aunt (who named me) was a beautician and wanted photos of the style she gave me. I had worked at the Community Chest that summer and my "payment" was clothes - including a wedding dress I chose. never anticipating to get to wear it, my Aunt surprised me with the opportunity after a wedding which she did the brides hair. The Bride and Groom were gone, but she had scheduled the photographer to stay so he could take some pictures of me (my hair) in "my" dress. All of a sudden, the GP's walk in and next thing I know I'm being walked down the isle by my Granddad. The photog took lots of pictures, then took several of me with the GP's and one special one that sat on my Grand mothers bedside table till she died about 10 years later. People who saw the photo never figured out the "bride" in the photo was actually her grandson and most had no clue as to why she would have a picture on her bedside of her and a "stranger".

Story two...
My wife and I were wedding photographers in a former life (like 30 years ago). I need more than one hand of fingers to count the number of time we had bridesmaids, Jr bridesmaids and flower girls played my boys. BUT, it went the other way many times as well (girls as groomsmen and ring bearers)

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Paula, That's a very pretty dress , Your pictures always shows a lady with classic elegance.

[AmyGaleRT]

Amy--- You look stunning in that dress

Thank you, Paula! You and I would make great wedding guests...would one of us catch the bouquet? ;)

- Amy

[Jennifer Marie P.]

I was a bridesmaid at my best friends wedding it was pure heaven.

[Sheren Kelly]

I was the Maid of Honor for the gg wife at a TG wedding. I took my responsibilities seriously and even organized a wedding shower.

[freeindress]

I would not enjoy beeing a guest in drab, but would create a soft TG character with modest appearance and insightful humor to bring subtle spirit to a wedding, and as said before, without stealing thunder from the bride.

[Paula_56]

Kelly you look awesome in that dress, what fun i tmust have been!--paula

[Rebecca W.]

Hi Paula,
What a very pretty outfit! I have always wished to be a bride or a bridesmaid, some day I will actually do it.

Take Care,

[visitor138]

Paula, you look so pretty and classy. Any guy would love to be your date.

[Kristy 56]

Now that would be an ultimate experience.

[Janice Ashton]

I have always wanted to be a 'Bridesmaid' and not so long ago I offered my services to a good female friend of mine who was planning on getting married and she knows I am transgendered and 'Guess What'
Never heard from the couple again!! They moved to Australia shortly after....Ah well, must be hopeful? You never know?

[Christie ann]

[QUOTE=Paula_56;3218856]

My wife like many cisgendered women commented "The last thing I wanted to due on a hot June day is wear pantyhose and a dress"

She is right, I so much more enjoy wearing a long pants, long sleeve shirt AND coat during those June weddings!

[Leslie Langford]

...not to mention the thick calf-length wool/cotton/polyester blend socks, heavy wing-tip or brogue style shoes, cummerbunds, and the ever-popular ties, bow-ties, and/or ascots to complete the suits or tuxedos we men are generally expected to wear.

Pure heaven, and I wouldn't trade those for the world for a flirty, diaphanous summer dress with spaghetti straps and a pair of strappy sandals (NOT!!!) :doh: :thumbsdn: