Do You Want To Be Noticed?

[deebra]

This post reaks of danger, excitement and accomplishment and is mainly for cds that partially dress in female clothing or dress androgynous and go out in public. Cds probially do this so they can be fem in public but can't pass when dressed 100% as a woman and the consequences that would go with it. So lets say you wear your bra and panties which are hidden but then you wear boot cut tight girl jeans, a rather plain top, earings, flipflops and maybe even some minor makeup. Does a part of you want someone (mainly women) to notice/ question /wonder are they girl clothes he's wearing, is he dressed a little fem, is that the outline of a bra strap under his top? If this is you does it bring a little danger and excitement to going public. Does it give you that "high-five" feeling when you return to your car and have pulled it off? "Seeing it you get use to it", is this strategy also educating the public. Same thinking for a male/cd shopping in the womens dept. for bras, panties and female outer clothing. Isn't it also fun to take this next step in your cd journey?

[Princess Grandpa]

I didn't want to be noticed. Shortly after accepting who I am, my wife and I took a night at a hotel to experiment with our latest fetish. After some discreet shopping (discreet? Right! All the SA's had to know what we were doing) we returned to our room where Julie did my nails. She then wanted to take me to the jacuzzi. "What? Out there? Like this? NFW!

It then occurs to me if she can enjoy this and support me in it, should she not also get what she wants too? Off to the jacuzzi we go. The last group is leaving the pool area just as we arrive. Being out like that with my nails done was ridiculously liberating. It left me with a strong desire to push the envelope more and more.

The vast majority of my girls things are not items I could wear in public. Getting out in full femme seems to be a strong desire for her. It scares the hell out of me. It's much safer indoors. Not just physically but emotionally. In answer to your question. Yes and at the same time a resounding no. I do want to get out there, but would much prefer to not be noticed while I am

[Beverley Sims]

I have no desire to attract attention to myself at any time whatsoever.
Those that do probably have voyeuristic tendencies.

[linda allen]

I have no desire to attract attention to myself at any time whatsoever.........
Those would be my feelings as well. If I'm out, my goal is to look and act like a normal female my age, dressed normally, and doing "normal" things. Same if I'm at home for that matter.

[Kate Simmons]

Not particularly in that way but on the other hand when portraying a woman while en femme,of course. I don't know anyone who doesn't like to be noticed that way, including GGs.:battingeyelashes::)

[TonyaV]

Yes I do, in drab and en femme.

[Joanne f]

I am by nature a shy person so I would not do anything on purpose to attract attention to myself it is more like I have been doing it for so long that I am just use to it and think nothing of it , the funny thing is I had a slight thought about this yesterday when picking up my shoulder bag to go into a store, a few years ago I would have put it into a carrier bag as not to draw attention to me, now I do not think about it so no it is not for attention .

[MysticLady]

Isn't it also fun to take this next step in your cd journey?

My first time out was in total femme. I enjoyed it immensely. I didn't care if I was read or not. I wanted the experience and I'm glad I did it. Now, I want to go out again dancing. I never underdress to go out. If I'm going to suffer wearing a bra then by golly there will be something there for you to notice:heehee:. I under dress at home occasionally and that leads to a complete look which I really enjoy and prefer, even if its for a few hours only. (Sometimes, I take Pix:o).

[Sabrina133]

I have no problems being noticed - thats why i dress the way i do when we go to clubs or other outings.

[kimdl93]

I would suspect that different people choose their public presentation for different reasons - whether they CD or not. I will admit to a good feeling when I'm able to be out and among people without mishap. But I strive to blend in rather than to attract attention. I went through a very brief phase of dressing in a mixed manner - heels and a touch of light make up, but the intention was to indulge my need to dress, but still go unnoticed, rather than to attract attention. There came a point where I realized that I looked more conspicuous as a male wearing a few feminine things than as a male fully en femme.

[TonyaV]

So you go out, showing as much skin as I do in the picture below, and you attract the attention of men and women, some good comments and some not so good knowing you're not 100% passable. So what! I do it. I like to be noticed, and I enjoy every minute of it.

http://i267.photobucket.com/albums/ii283/tonyavalbum/IMG_0590_zpsfe9e255a.jpg (http://s267.photobucket.com/user/tonyavalbum/media/IMG_0590_zpsfe9e255a.jpg.html)

[Sabrina133]

Frankly Tonya, you should, you are gorgeous.

[TonyaV]

Oh, Sabrina - thanks honey; you're a doll for saying that. I actually work very hard at it, constantly, and it surely doesn't get easier at you hit 50 either - diet, exercise, proper supplements, attitude, practice, and practice.

[Sabrina133]

Heck hon, you have to do that at 30

[Debra Russell]

Love being out - totally femmed up and don't mind positive attention and that does not happen when dressing androgynous to me it's all or nothing. I love presenting totally female..........................Debra

[Tracii G]

I dress anyway I want to 100% or 50/50 just depends on how far I want to take it.
People notice sometimes and thats Ok.Sometimes they don't.
I don't do it for a rush or to prove anything at all.If I don't have forms on what the sense of wearing a bra?Some like to and its their choice.
No sense in getting esoteric about all of this it is what it is.
I tend to think the ones that can't dress when they want and for whatever reason they want are just too timid to push the boundaries.
Maybe its resentment in a way IDK.

[carhill2mn]

I like to be noticed only if the reason for being noticed is that someone thinks that I look nice. For instance, at the grocery store last week the young man at the checkout complimented me on my blouse and earrings!

[Kandy Barr]

In a way I suppose I'm always under dressed seeing as how my brows are arched way beyond just a little bit, I don't own anything but women's panties, my toenails are always painted and both of my ears are pierced. I don't even think about those tell tell signs anymore, just put on my drabs and go. No one has ever said a word to me, maybe behind my back l get a few stares or comments, I don't know. I'm not doing it to draw attention. As I live more and more everyday enfem I am wanting to present out in public as my fem self. I don't think its to draw attention but rather the inward feeling of being a woman out and about. Its hard to explain this desire but it is a strong one. Lately I've been working toward that end with all that I do when i dress. I've been taking pix and asking opinions preparing for this event so I am driven as you say to push the limit, and yes it is for the feeling of being out and being accepted.

[Alexis.j]

Well, im am a shy by nature, and prefer to blend in than stand out, my dressing is what makes ME happy, and if I could blend in without being noticed I would be a very happy woman... of course its any woman's dream to stand out and have the sex appeal, but not everyone can pull that off.
I wear a bra in public, because I like to, and it maximizes my breast growth, and hides the nipples lol

[Tess]

Good question. I'm closeted so there is no going out totally dressed but there is no denying that I like to push my limits while out of the house. We have long summers in this part of the world so dressing light is a must. That means my shaved legs and shinny toe nails are on display most of the year. The hairless pits are on display at the pool. If anyone is close enough they can surely smell my perfume which I wear almost daily or my feminine deodorant. They would have to look me closely in the eyes to notice my curled eye lashes or slightly plucked brows. And if I have on the right shirt I'll underdress with a bra. Panties I wear every day. I'm not trying to be discovered but I also seem to enjoy the rush of flying just below the radar.

[deebra]

Hope everyone got what I was saying, part of the post was to have fun and enjoy having women be a little confused as to wheather I/he was or was not wearing feminine clothing. Have them look, stair a little and wonder for the resr of the day, was that guy wearing girl jeans, did I see a bra strap under his shirt, it's possible he could have had on eyeliner and shadow. When you aren't blessed as some are to pass 100% the next best thing is to have some fun, mystery and intrig with what you've got.

[I Am Paula]

I had two hair removal consultations today (laser and electro). they told me not to shave for 48 hours. This morning I looked at my face, and realized I was no femme beauty with the furry mug. I don't think I could stomach guy mode anymore, so I put on some skinny jeans, flats, a peasant top, and no makeup. Grabbed my purse and went. I do believe I may have gotten a little more attention than normal, but nobody cared. I didn't do it for attention, just out of nessessity. It was OK, but I'll try not to do that again.

[Nikki A.]

No I don't want to be noticed as a man in a dress. But if someone notices and responds to a plain looking (ok, not so good looking ) woman dressed nicely, then I'm ecstatic. If read, well that's the chance I take.
Yes there are times when I've gone androgenous but I really don't feel comfortable doing it, although wearing a flowery hawaian shirt or blouse is in my comfort level.

[Leona]

I dress anyway I want to 100% or 50/50 just depends on how far I want to take it.
People notice sometimes and thats Ok.Sometimes they don't.
I don't do it for a rush or to prove anything at all.If I don't have forms on what the sense of wearing a bra?Some like to and its their choice.
No sense in getting esoteric about all of this it is what it is.
I tend to think the ones that can't dress when they want and for whatever reason they want are just too timid to push the boundaries.
Maybe its resentment in a way IDK.

I'm totally with you on that. I haven't gone out 100% en femme, though. Close, but it was the middle of the night and just a walk down an empty street.

But I go out in skirts all the time, and occasionally with eyeliner I couldn't get off with the eye makeup remover. I enjoy the positive attention, ignore most of the negative attention.

Recently, though, I found it necessary to email customer support for the grocery store I use about the manners of their staff. Still waiting to hear back. :/

I have this attitude where the more I do it and the more people see me, the more it becomes accepted in my little world. Hell, if we all just wore skirts one day a week while being otherwise masculine, we'd probably do more for acceptance than any amount of political discourse.

[Tracii G]

I see the point of wanting to make people wonder about you and the reason you dress out of the norm for a guy.
Thats just the way I choose to dress and if people wonder thats fine with me.
I understand the need for some to go full out enfemme, its the way they prefer to present.Its all good.
Most women don't seem to have a problem and will compliment you for thinking out of the box.
Today I got a compliment on my legs and sandals from a 20 something lady at Target.I was dressed 100% enfemme close to what my avatar pic looks like.Different color cami but same skirt.
She had to really look for a min but she read me and told me wow you look really convincing but I noticed your hands were man hands.LOL I hope you don't mind a compliment but you look great and have nice legs.Nice make up too.
I accepted her compliment with a smile and moved on.next aisle over I passed her again and she smiled so I call that acceptance and pure curiosity on her part to say something.

[Leona]

I see the point of wanting to make people wonder about you and the reason you dress out of the norm for a guy.
Thats just the way I choose to dress and if people wonder thats fine with me.
I understand the need for some to go full out enfemme, its the way they prefer to present.Its all good.
Most women don't seem to have a problem and will compliment you for thinking out of the box.

Women are both the best responders and the worst. I figure I'm batting about 400 for women checking me out. Maybe 200 for women giving some form of disapproval. The remainder don't notice, don't care, or manage to show no outward sign of how they feel (those being the ones that I think set the example).

Men, on the other hand, not so good.

But I should point out, I don't care if they wonder about me. I just want them to accept or ignore, and keep their good manners out where everybody can see them.

[deebra]

TraciiG, your avatar says you are 60 and to get compliments like that from a 20 year old, I know that sent you over the top. Tonya you're gorgeous!!!

[kristamarie]

Noticed? Yes, just like anyone else that notices another. I went out for a walk along the Fort Myers beach tonight in a miniskirt and top and completely enjoyed myself. Now it was dusk but I was still out on the beach. On the way back to the motel I went through the drive-up and did get some strange stares but I really didn't care. I did have makeup on as well.

[lingerieLiz]

Was thinking about it as I was talking to a neighbor. She has seen me in several variations of dressing. We've even been wearing matching tops while talking. The funny part is my boobs are bigger than hers and real. I'm sure she has noticed, but she never indicates it.

What caused me to think about it was I had on a really cute top and would have liked a compliment. Guess it really doesn't matter though.

[MssHyde]

So you go out, showing as much skin as I do in the picture below, and you attract the attention of men and women, some good comments and some not so good knowing you're not 100% passable. So what! I do it. I like to be noticed, and I enjoy every minute of it.

http://i267.photobucket.com/albums/ii283/tonyavalbum/IMG_0590_zpsfe9e255a.jpg (http://s267.photobucket.com/user/tonyavalbum/media/IMG_0590_zpsfe9e255a.jpg.html)
Very cute! I can see you catching an eye and turning heads, looking like the real deal for sure.

[Brenn]

My style is mixed dress - male shirt, womens jeans or shorts, pantyhose (sometimes) and mary janes or ballet flats. I'm not exactly seeking to be noticed, although I know that I am. I am being myself and showing that men can wear these clothes just as well as women. I just enjoy being me.

[Lynn Marie]

I'd much rather be noticed than ignored, but not for my "mixdressing". I wish only to present well as a "classy old broad". If I get noticed for that and my outgoing personality, then how wonderful. I have no interest in confusing people or making a fool of myself.

[Krystalina]

I could really care less about getting noticed or not...I want/desire/dream of simply going out, wearing what I want to wear without worrying out harassment from supressed, narrow-minded homophobes...which is, imo, a huge difference from simply being noticed. As I've said plenty of times, I love female clothing, and doing what is considered female things...shaving my body, painting my toenails, stuff like that.

So, I guess I'm all over the place. Right now, definately consider myself androgynous, but there are some cases where I love the idea of going full throttle femme. My problem is...I would love to socialize dressed, but have nowhere outside of my home to go safely.

[TanyaLynn]

Yea, Deebra I feel that way. Being fairly new to this, when I go out underdressed, I want people to see my panty lines or the bra strap under my shirt. Its exciting. But at the same time, Im kinda scared if someone says anything or someone I know "discovers" me. Makes the heart race. Love it.

[jjjjohanne]

Long ago, when I would only ever go out in shorts and pantyhose or in female clothes that looked androgynous/male, I would want to hide from some people and I would try to draw others' attention to my clothes. These days, I go out as a guy in a skirt. I guess it is hard to judge if I am trying to draw attention. It has gotten to be more normal, so I act more normal. I mean that when I am in a skirt, I don't act too differently than I do when I am drab. People treat me much the same as well.

[Monique53]

I often go out in "mixed mode" , wearing femme jeans, blouse, bra with forms( noticeable projection), girlie sandals( sometimes hose), and painted toenails. I get some confused looks but never any comments( at least not directly) and don't really care anyway because it is the way I want to present. I was shopping for some tops, the other day, and noticed the S/A looking at my chest. I smiled and said that I always wear my bra if I think I may try things on and she replied that she understood because I would not be able to see if something fit right without it. She was very helpful and totally accepting! I don't get a thrill out of shocking people though.

Monique

[Leona]

I got noticed today in all the Good Ways and none of the Bad Ways. An old guy flirted with me, another guy opened the door for me, I got checked out. Kinda cool.

Not anywhere near even trying to pass, I just tied my sarong as a short skirt (mid-thigh length) because it's so freaking hot right now. Tie-dye t-shirt (one of my favorite ones, actually). Stubble on my face, I mean, there's no mistaking me as a man but I got treated as a girl, very polite and respectfully so.

[Sejd]

I don't dress androgynous because my experience is that it is too confusing for other people and calls for awkward situations. I like to dress like a woman when I go out. I pass most of the time and if I don't, well then the people mostly take me for A TS and that's OK too. I feel more free when I don't attract attention. I dress modestly but very femme. That's the way I like it.

[CassandraSmith]

Actually, I don't really like too much attention myself. I've even got some really doudy stuff to purposely look like a middle aged office worker and for some reason, it's lack of sexuality seems more correct now that I'm older. Here's to dressing age appropriate I guess.

However, I still have a couple of mini-skirts (one in plaid) that make me look like a leggy teenager from the neck down that is.

[MissTee]

I prefer to blend in rather than stick out.

[Paulacder]

I prefer to blend in rather than stick out. Can't think of a better way to say it.

[mariehart]

I don't really want to be noticed. But as I practically never go out fully dressed as a woman anymore. That's hardly an issue. The very first time I went out was many years ago when I was young and attractive and convincing. I was with another CD and we got whistled at. To this day I'm not sure if the whistle was directed at the sexy girl or the trannie. Since then the times I went out fully dressed I didn't want noticing and really avoided contact with people. But there is one difference between a man and a woman. A man is almost invisible for the most part. Women are always looked at both by men and women. So effectively you will be noticed.

I do dress in women's clothes on a daily basis but ambiguous clothes. I'm dressed like that now. Everything I'm wearing right now is female. But the visible clothes could be either male or female unless you look closely. I don't want to be noticed like this, although I think my sister in law did because she has an identical top.

My own preference is that I wake up in the morning and dress as a woman and carry on my day perfectly normally and unremarked. That's my dream. On the other hand even women dress to be noticed. Going out or going to parties. Short skirts, high shoes, fake tan and lots of make up. I'd love to do that too.

I suppose it really depends. I wouldn't mind being noticed as long it didn't lead to any hostility from people. I can't cope with that.

[Tami Joy]

Kandy barr you go girl i am the same way

[FeliciaCDSNJ]

Sometimes but not all the time, guess it's, want to get coming out over with, but at the same time I'm deathly afraid.

[Khaleesi81]

I much prefer to blend in. Dressing appropriately for occasion and age is half the fun. Certainly wouldn't want to go out dressed like a lady of ill repute and attract all the negative attention that entails.

[ReineD]

Does a part of you want someone (mainly women) to notice/ question /wonder are they girl clothes he's wearing, is he dressed a little fem, is that the outline of a bra strap under his top? If this is you does it bring a little danger and excitement to going public. Does it give you that "high-five" feeling when you return to your car and have pulled it off?

... Isn't it also fun to take this next step in your cd journey?

Deebra, I'd like to ask you a question if you don't mind. Assuming that the scenario you ask about applies to you (assuming that you would enjoy being noticed by women), may I ask why?

The reason I ask:
Most of us want people to think well of us. So we'll tend to not do the things in public that we know are dissonant to many people, such as belching very loud, passing gas, picking our teeth or noses, etc (sorry for the graphics). So, assuming that most women would think, "Ewww - is that guy wearing a bra?", or "Good Lord ... look at that guy who is feminine clothing. *scratch head* I wonder if he's gay", instead of "Oh look - I'm excited because I wonder if that cute guy is wearing a bra", why would anyone hope to be discovered as being a man who wears feminine things?

[gigikaye]

Deebra..... you are right on! I can never go out en femme but I love to push the envelope and feel the excitement of being as femme as I can. A few unbuttoned at shirt top with bra and/or cami barely visible, stocking/pantyhose with no socks visible in shoes, perfume, conservative jewelry, light lipstick. Oh my.... and to do so shopping for panties and bras or nighties. Yes, it does get exciting.

[joan47]

I want to be noticed, I very thin arched eyebrows, pierced ears with gold hoops, shaved all over, long arylic nails with light pink polish,painted toenails, ankle braclet, braclet and necklace. I wear very tight girls junior bootcut or skinney jeans, leggings, capris or short shorts, with girls sandals

[Lorileah]

so this thread is for adrenaline junkies?

[ErinSassyPants]

I may have a bit of insight into if anyone is noticing and I have to say it is really unlikely that anyone is noticing if your jeans are girl jeans. Maybe there are a few extremely fashion aware women out there who might happen to also look at you that closely but it's unlikely to happen very often.

So that's probably good news for people who aren't wanting notice and less fun news for the trill of it all.

[Zylia]

If I didn't want to be noticed, I might as well never leave the house. However, it's not a goal on itself, I want to be noticed for the good things, not for sticking out like a sore thumb. Unfortunately you probably will when you just put on some women's clothes as a guy.

[Princess Chantal]

I'd love to have people notice me, not really for my appearance but for how much fun I am having during my dressing session.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Deebra, I want to blend in , Not stand out.

[deebra]

ReineD, getting back to you, of course I would prefer the latter comment directed at me as the cute guy with a bra rather than an unshaven linebacker in a bra. I keep myself fit, trim and in good shape; as a male I am noticed and attractive to women. When dressed androgenist I also dress neat, pressed clean clothes that fit my body closely and I feel look much nicer than lose, bagy guy clothes. I feel some women that notice me in andro will like the look, comparable to how nice women look in their clothes that also closely fit their body. Every one accepts women to wear everything but men/CD's are put in a box, I'm out of that box just wearing something a little different because I like it, also trying to educate women and society to accept a mans right to wear clothing thats more flattering and not the "same old stuff" that they've been required to wear for 1000 years. Just want a little more open mindness and positive acceptance from women and not instant condemnation.

Reine, I love your good mind, would like to meet and talk with you one day but it will never happen.