Help! At it again...

[Jessicaa]

Hello Everyone,

So its been a long time but i've started to think about cross-dressing once again... I completely purged a while ago because I met an amazing woman and we are still together to this day. I knew I would come back to cross-dressing but i just didn't know when...My dilemma right now is how i can get back "on the saddle" so to speak.

I don't want to tell my girlfriend because I know I am not ready for that yet and i don't think we are both at a point in our relationship yet to handle a bombshell that big. With that being said whats the best way to get my femininity back without having her know? We don't live together but obviously doing things like shaving my legs or polishing my nails throws a pretty big red flag out there. :doh:

To sum this all up, I am basically looking for tricks from all you experienced people out there that have dealt with a situation like this so i can still be masculine in guy mode and as feminine as possible while CDing :battingeyelashes:, Please let me know some of your wisdom!

Thanks!!
Jess :D

[Princess Grandpa]

You can morph your male look into a more androgynous look. I don't really have any practical advice I'm afraid

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Rita

[Tracii G]

I don't advise lying and hiding things in a relationship.
You are asking for trouble IMO, just be honest and tell her if she bails out you didn't want her as a partner anyway.If she is OK with it then maybe it will work out.

[Princess Grandpa]

With all the possible ramifications I could never advise someone to tell the truth. I do know if something happened with my wife, I would not be involved with someone seriously who I couldn't tell.

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Rita

[Kate Simmons]

I'm thinking you need to decide which is more important to you and take it from there. In this "business" it's sometimes hard to have your cake and eat it too.:)

[kimdl93]

It seems to me that you need to get honest with her now. What would could you be waiting for? If the woman is important to you, then the time has come.

[Stephanie Miller]

You raised a very good question Jessicaa.
So when in a relationship just how does one decide the time is right for such a "bombshell that big"?
A) When you've just met, and both have very little time and emotions invested? Where if it turns out shes accepting everything is hunky dory, or she hates it and you both can move on to someone else?
B) Maybe right before getting married and "Honey, I have a secret. And you're gonna get a kick outa this."
C) Possibly even after years of marriage - with possible kids involved - and you decide you just can't take it anymore.
D) Or finally, never tell her and live life knowing you haven't been totally honest with your partner.

What am I missing here?

[Rachelakld]

I'm with Steph on this one. I came out on about the 3rd or 4th date as things were getting serious. Married her 2 years later. Found my happy ever after before i committed to much time or emotion

[Sometimes Steffi]

To paraphrase a song, "There must be 50 ways to fool your lover".

I usually tend towards the "lying side of town" to quote another song, but I think this case calls for putting it all out on the table.

[Tina B.]

If you plan on getting serious I think I would consider telling her all about you. It is risky, girlfriends have been lost that way, but if you plan to make a life of it, the girl friend that is, it makes life a lot easier, and a lot more fun, when you don't have to hide from your own home, and you don't have to sit around alone while you dress.
I've been married twice, once to a women that wouldn't try to understand, and one that is not only accepting of me, but she is an enabler, she loves to buy me pretty things, and hates it if she finds I wanted something, and wouldn't mention it because I thought it was to much, and then she orders it for me. You don't get that kind of treatment by hiding who you are, and if you ever find one that will treat you that good, I suggest you treat like part of the Royal family, Because I have never hid anything from her, about my Trans personality, I'm one of the most spoiled girls there is.
Being married to a shopper, that last to buy, but not necessarily for herself, I have to much of everything, a girl like me could want.

[Beverley Sims]

Sometime if you are going to keep the relationship going, you may need to tell.
Purging is a useless exercise at any time.

[jennyscott]

It seems to me that you need to get honest with her now. What would could you be waiting for? If the woman is important to you, then the time has come.

Ditto! I was going to write more but Kim nicely summed it up.