Is Maria going to get out of control.

[Maria 60]

My wife would like to take a few days off and go somewhere with the kids, but she is scared to leave Maria home alone. I told her when the kids were younger she had spent weeks at the summer cabin with the kids, so what's the difference now? She said, it was different then, now Maria has changed, she is so much more complex more complete plus she said I take much more chances when she's not around. I told her the days she wants to go I am very busy. To her it doesn't matter how busy I am, even if I get back late or what ever I will find a way, She said to me in her exact words,"WHAT SCARES ME IS YOUR GOING TO WALK OUT THE DOOR DRESSED,I KNOW IT". She then went on telling me to remember when we were younger those girls with the strict parents who would never let there kids out, but when they did get out they were the wildest and craziest. She said Maria is going to go wild and not think things though and it's not like before, now everyone has a camera phone and in one second your on Facebook. I didn't promise, but I did tell her I will try to keep myself under control. What do you think, is Maria going to get out of control, it has been a while since Maria has had more then an hour alone. Have any of you had a couple of days to yourself, and were you ok, or was it an episode of girls gone wild?

[kimdl93]

You're an adult. You can and will make responsible decisions.

[AllieSF]

Another thing that age brings is a more mature look at things and a better calculation of risks involved, i.e. calculated risks weighing the odds. Can we over do it? Of course, and why not occasionally when we can prevent over the top actions that could also mean getting into trouble. I could never put back in the bottle that which I released over 6 years ago. I take risks, just like I do in male mode. The main thing is that you need to be ready to own your decisions and prevent them from affecting those around you. I personally do not see a problem with going out if you take proper precautions and I do not mean condoms. Pick an area a long way from home, try to go with a trusted friend, don't drink too much, etc.

Your wife does not trust you and you need to help her regain that trust, or at least know that she and the kids will not be negatively impacted by your actions. Good luck.

[shayleetv]

Around my home my wife and I have two things that control me: FIRST: I love my wife more than anything and she let's Shaylee exist. TWO: She sets the rules that governs Shaylee. If she says Shaylee doesn't go out of the house, Shaylee doesn't go out of the house. Trust stays intact; marriage stays intact.

Life won't end if some activities as Shaylee are curtailed, so I can live with my wifes' rules. At least Maria has a life. Be grateful and give your wife the assurance she needs so she doesn't have to worry about Maria going wild. If that is a signed contract or just a verbal contract make it. That is if you really love your wife more than Maria.

[Princess Grandpa]

You're an adult. You can and will make responsible decisions.

Positive reinforcement
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[Leslie Langford]

Maria, the subtext here - and in your wife's mind - is the nagging fear men simply cannot be trusted to behave responsibly when left to their own devices.

Having that jerk (and former disgraced Congressman and current NYC mayoralty candidate) Anthony Weiner and his twitter/sexting shenanigans back in the news after all those pious promises to clean up his act doesn't help our collective credibility here...:doh: :sad:

[ErinSassyPants]

The curious thing about this is that it feels like you don't trust yourself either, or why wouldn't you promise her?

I don't know you, but I assume that if you decided you were not going to go out and you gave your word that you could follow that. The fact that you did not do that is maybe where to look for the answer of if Maria will go wild.

[Rabecca]

I say it's time to party. You don't have to look over your shoulder for the wife.
You wear and do what you want. Ya now is the time.

[Kate Simmons]

It's basically a case of gaining control of your own vessel Hon. You have to decide whether you want to be in control or just let the process (CDing) be in control. Left alone it will take on a mind of it's own without considering the ramifications.:)

[Tina B.]

Easy, stop and think of the consequences, if Maria goes out, does something that gets noticed, and winds up on you tube, wife sees it and confronts you.
Now Maria has to ask herself, is it worth having momma never let you stay at home alone again, or for her to go home to momma, with the kids.
She is right about those phones, nothing seems to happen anywhere anymore, with out somebody showing up with the film.
Worst case getting spotted, identified, and told on by a friend of the wife's.
Now think of all the time, to try on all that you own, play with the camera, watch chick flix, or whatever, Practice with makeup, and not have the wife get made because you knew she didn't want you to go out, and you did it anyway, she will figure you just don't care about her or her feelings, and you could be paying for that good time for years to come, because wives forget nothing!

[Kandy Barr]

I like what Tina has to say, you have a wonderful opportunity to just play and have fun with no interruptions, so take advantage of that and be thankful. Just look at all you have, a wife that does let you dress en femme, she just naturally has concerns about you (Maria) being made and causing an embarrassing situation for your family. You have kids involved, think of how embarrassing it would be for them if their friends got wind of "Maria"!!! Kids can be brutal.

[MysticLady]

. What do you think, is Maria going to get out of control, it has been a while since Maria has had more then an hour alone. Have any of you had a couple of days to yourself, and were you ok, or was it an episode of girls gone wild?

Hi Maria

I believe that this is a norm for any wife. She's concerned about how far it'll go this time. Will she come back to you and find out that you've decided on becoming a woman? Will she find out that you had an affair w/ another man or CD or woman for that matter? So many things go through their minds. It's a norm for a woman that's married, especially if the marriage has equity in it. Advise her of your control of it. Let her know that your respect and honor for her will not change.

[Beverley Sims]

Sounds like your wife wants to take control of Maria.

[~Joanne~]

MY SO doesn't have to worry about that, she knows that I am not going past the back porch anytime soon. Even then I am very cautious about even going out there. Now when october gets here, that may become a totally different story ;)

I do agree with your wife though, sooner or later you will walk out that door, if you haven't already ;)

[linda allen]

As Kim posted, you are an adult. You should be able to control what you do with your own body without having someone there to police you.

If you want to go out dressed, I have a suggestion - Leave the house underdressed in male mode, go somewhere and change, do your thing, then change back before you come back home. Your best bet is to go to a city, a populated area where you're unlikely to be recognized. Of course, we would expect that dressed and made up as a female you wouldn't be recognized anyway unless someone recognizes your vehicle.

To be honest, consider telling your wife of your plans and how you will take steps to protect your male identity while out dressed.

[Jorja]

Most girls I know named Maria are out of control from the get go. :)

[AllieSF]

Yes Jorja, you are very right. That is my daughter's name and I have participated in many of her out of control moments, and it was so much fun and funny! Life would be just way too boring to not have a few moments like that where we can let out hair down, or in my case put it on.

PS: My 7,000th post. I guess I can call myself a regular here now. YIPPEE!