Mom found my skirts

[Danielle]

I never imagined she would find them but she did and I had to lie,explain and
now I feel sad.:oCan someone give me some advice if I should keep crossdressing..I just love it!

[Jasmine Ellis]

are you sad cos you lied to her or cos she found them? which ever it is I think I know how you are feeling because I would be the same as you if my mum found out and I'm 44. I lived a lie since I was 14 to her.

Darling it's your life if you love dressing but can't live a lie then you have 2 opions.
1 tell your mum you do cross dress?
2 or stop?

how did your mum sound when she fronted you about it?
did she sit with you yell at you, have she told you she knows and she wants you to stop?

[Danielle]

are you sad cos you lied to her or cos she found them? which ever it is I think I know how you are feeling because I would be the same as you if my mum found out and I'm 44. I lived a lie since I was 14 to her.
I guess I'm sad that I lied to her but a little happy that I can still wear the skirts,after all there were 2 skirts and a dress all my high heels and lingerie are very well stashed.I eventually want to attend some kind of convention for
crossdressers and not hide the J-lo butt I have.thanks for your reply I enjoyed it very much.:)

[Katie Gray]

I would say get it out now. Beyond this point she will probably be more snoopy about finding something like that again. And how will it look if she finds it a second time? There wouldn't be an excuse.

Just find many good arguments to back up your thoughts, to change her judgement. You know, simple things like:

Skirts are just like boxers, but without the middle cloth, nothing more. And its not odd to see a man in his boxers, no?

Or if it is knee length, same argument, different clothing: Shorts.

And tell her if she truly loves you, she would support you. It's nothing more than cloth, and we are all nothing more than humans, each born into this world naked. The only reason there is a difference in clothing styles is because people began picking favorites, shortly becoming a label. If skirts is all she has found, it's pretty easy to go through with those kinds of arguments.

And who knows? She might support you after all. Just be happy with yourself, keep doing it if it makes you happy. After all, it is your life, and you get one shot at it.

[DanaJ]

Where did you have your clothes hidden that your mom found them? I assume you had them pretty well hidden, how old are you if I may ask?

[Danielle]

are you sad cos you lied to her or cos she found them? which ever it is I think I know how you are feeling because I would be the same as you if my mum found out and I'm 44. I lived a lie since I was 14 to her.

Darling it's your life if you love dressing but can't live a lie then you have 2 opions.
1 tell your mum you do cross dress?
2 or stop?

how did your mum sound when she fronted you about it?
did she sit with you yell at you, have she told you she knows and she wants you to stop?No she does not have clue but I cannot stop dressing in femme,I wear garters too work now with stockings and i take my heels so I could drive home in them and it;s just an amazing feeling to all this !:D

[Danielle]

Where did you have your clothes hidden that your mom found them? I assume you had them pretty well hidden, how old are you if I may ask?I'm 31 and I had them in my laundry I usually take to wash but one day she suddently felt she had to do my laundry and there she found 2 skirts and a dress,she took them and ask me who's they were and I had to say a Girl/friend's.I just started buying items and I dont think I can just throw them away.:(

[Emma Chase]

Is wondering how you lied to you Mum. She found skirts in your room I am guessing ... would like to know how you managed to talk yourself out of that one!

Thats if you don't mind sharing :)

Emma

[Danielle]

Is wondering how you lied to you Mum. She found skirts in your room I am guessing ... would like to know how you managed to talk yourself out of that one!

Thats if you don't mind sharing :)

Emma
No I dont mind at all!Thank you for your reply,I managed to get out by telling her I have a female friend and that she forgot them in my car and I offered her to wash the items for her 2 skirts and a dress.Now I gotta be careful with my high heels.:)

[Vivian Best]

I'm a little confused! At 31 why do you have to explain to anyone what is in your wash? I suppose if the house is hers and you are living there you might owe her some sort of explaination, if it is yours and she lives with you, in my opinion you do not owe her any explaination.

Vivian:rose2:

[Danielle]

You are completly right and I just have to be more open about it.thank you for the encouragement and I just cannot wait for someday to walk a street in high heels.

[Phoebe Reece]

Danielle,

First of all, if you read all the threads here on the subject of giving up crossdressing, you will find that many have tried and few (if any) have ever succeded. And in the process of giving it up they have made themselves and many around them miserable in the process - not to mention the waste invovled in throwing things out and then buying them all over again usually after just a short period of time. It's more productive to accept that this is part of who you are and try to find ways to express it in your own situation.

I am assuming that you are living in the same house with your mother based on the circumstances of the discovery. If that continues, sooner or later she will find something else that can't be explained away - and you may or may not know that she has found something else. I suggest two options:
One is to move out on your own, so that she won't have any business around your things.
Two is to tell her the truth about your crossdressing. Better to tell under controlled circumstances when you are prepared to answer questions than to be forced into a hurried "damage control" explanation.

[Danielle]

Danielle,

First of all, if you read all the threads here on the subject of giving up crossdressing, you will find that many have tried and few (if any) have ever succeded. And in the process of giving it up they have made themselves and many around them miserable in the process - not to mention the waste invovled in throwing things out and then buying them all over again usually after just a short period of time. It's more productive to accept that this is part of who you are and try to find ways to express it in your own situation.

I am assuming that you are living in the same house with your mother based on the circumstances of the discovery. If that continues, sooner or later she will find something else that can't be explained away - and you may or may not know that she has found something else. I suggest two options:
One is to move out on your own, so that she won't have any business around your things.
Two is to tell her the truth about your crossdressing. Better to tell under controlled circumstances when you are prepared to answer questions than to be forced into a hurried "damage control" explanation.:) I thank you for your reply and I cannot see myself stopping all this,I feel my crossdressing has made more social and friendly.I could move out but there are other reasons why am here still and I just gotta find a way to come out and let the people I love know I just cannot stand hiding so much..Happy Holidays!take care my love:)

[karen fox]

i am 35 and told my mum only this year!
she was a little upset that i used to wear her clothes (when i lived at hers) but mostly because i did not tell her!

[Danielle]

Hello there,in some cultures is not that easy to come out because of religion or other morals you can think of but I love how skirts make me feel and not to mention high heels.Girls say is hard to walk on 5 or 6 inch is actually devine.

[Julie York]

Or we could cut the bs and we can just talk about high heels? Which appears to be your main interest.

Personally I can't stand high heels.






(Oh look a shiny spade.)

[Wendy me]

some thing tells me we have been on this road before.....

[connie rotten]

I don't know your mom so I wouldn't give any advice there . If you are a crossdresser or transgender you will continue to dress in womens clothes .
This is a good place to find understandig in dealing with something alot of us don't have a clue as to why we dress as women . girlfriend there sure are a lot of us in the world.
I am careful not to subject myself to unkind critical people. Pick your battles 0.02

[Christina Nicole]

I would say get it out now. Beyond this point she will probably be more snoopy about finding something like that again. And how will it look if she finds it a second time? There wouldn't be an excuse.

Just find many good arguments to back up your thoughts, to change her judgement. You know, simple things like:

Skirts are just like boxers, but without the middle cloth, nothing more. And its not odd to see a man in his boxers, no?

Or if it is knee length, same argument, different clothing: Shorts.

And tell her if she truly loves you, she would support you. It's nothing more than cloth, and we are all nothing more than humans, each born into this world naked. The only reason there is a difference in clothing styles is because people began picking favorites, shortly becoming a label. If skirts is all she has found, it's pretty easy to go through with those kinds of arguments.

And who knows? She might support you after all. Just be happy with yourself, keep doing it if it makes you happy. After all, it is your life, and you get one shot at it.


Nope, you can't make that argument anymore. It's not just cloth. It's not just clothes. Wearing a skirt changes you. It's makes you into a woman who wants to experience everything like a woman and do everything like a woman. Says so in other posts.

Warm regards,
Christina Nicole

[Danielle]

Nope, you can't make that argument anymore. It's not just cloth. It's not just clothes. Wearing a skirt changes you. It's makes you into a woman who wants to experience everything like a woman and do everything like a woman. Says so in other posts.

Warm regards,
Christina NicoleThanks for your reply and as I mature I will accept it and apreciate all the new people I've met here,I have learned alot today and hopefully I'll continue.HAVE A WONDERFUL CHRISMAS GIRL!kisses and hugs:)

[Danielle]

Or we could cut the bs and we can just talk about high heels? Which appears to be your main interest.

Personally I can't stand high heels.






(Oh look a shiny spade.)
Yes I admit I have a high heel fetish but it it goes far beyond that I love to dress up daily and I love it,thanks for your reply and you have a Wonderful chrismas ..sincerly Danielle.

[Kaitlyn Michele]

danielle....everybody is different..

for me i finally told my mom after i turned 40!! she told me she knew...she had found some tg porn!!! and pantyhose i thought was well hidden..

she said its none of her business..

of course my wife is leaving me because of it, but other than that its turned out real well for me

[JennyCD]

I am 44 and still keep it to myself. I probably would have told my mother someting similar in that situation. Do what feels right for you, in your life, in your situation. We are not all the same.

[Abby Lauren]

I would ask you to consider what might happen if you came out to your mother. I think our fears are usually unfounded and, from what I've read, mothers are frequently quite supportive. Wouldn't it be wonderful to be free to dress and have your mother's support?
OTOH, if you know that there really is something major to worry about, I guess you have to stay closeted.
To this day, I regret not having broken the ice with my mother (who died when I was 19) especially because, in retrospect, it appears that she knew about me. What a shame!

[Danielle]

I think they suspect but they respect my privacy and I love them for that,I think no one can come and simply judge you too fast.When I dress up,I feel more calm and more fucused.The other day I did not wear my garters and stockings to work and I felt something was missing.Mothers are more suportive but out of respect for me I will be careful where I leave my skirts and High heels.Take care..Danielle.

[kaliope]

move out and buy, try and wear what you want. Life is too short

[Danielle]

Your right and I plan to do it next year,I see the day when I will leave all my stuff out without hiding my High heels,and my lingerie collection that I have built.I thank you for your reply and enjoy the holidays.

Love, Danielle

[MsCorrinne]

Sweetie. At your age you should be living on your own..then you don't have to worry about anyone going through your things, unless you want them too of course..wink..wink!!

My mom found my stash when I was in my twenties. She was curious about why I liked feminine clothing and then said..I don't ever want to see this in my house again. She didn't I moved out. It never interferred with our relationship and has never come up since..that's over 20 years ago.

Good luck kido...

Corrinne

[StealthGirl]

Or we could cut the bs and we can just talk about high heels? Which appears to be your main interest.

Personally I can't stand high heels.

(Oh look a shiny spade.)

In this thread, what I really want to know it:

If Julie York hates high heels so much. . .

why does she have a picture of red skyscraper stiletto pumps for her avatar?

Curiouser and curiouser. . . :hmmm:

[Katie Gray]

Nope, you can't make that argument anymore. It's not just cloth. It's not just clothes. Wearing a skirt changes you. It's makes you into a woman who wants to experience everything like a woman and do everything like a woman. Says so in other posts.

Warm regards,
Christina Nicole

It may say so in other posts, but when you really get down to it, it is in fact just cloth. Men wore skirts before this century, and it was a normal thing. If someone can't be open minded about things like that, that's their problem. You can also argue that they dont have an open mind for that.

If your own parents don't live up to one's needs, that is pretty sad. I only listed a couple of arguments, but I have couple real life friends that wear skirts everywhere, in home , in front of parents, to school, but they are completely manly. The only difference is they think it looks good, and it makes them feel more triumphant rather than weak, because they have the courage to wear skirts in public despite many stereotypes.

Hehe :D , sorry. This is a touchy subject for me because it still amazes me how close-minded people can be.

[Danielle]

Sweetie. At your age you should be living on your own..then you don't have to worry about anyone going through your things, unless you want them too of course..wink..wink!!

My mom found my stash when I was in my twenties. She was curious about why I liked feminine clothing and then said..I don't ever want to see this in my house again. She didn't I moved out. It never interferred with our relationship and has never come up since..that's over 20 years ago.

Good luck kido...

CorrinneHello there!I will move and it's a matter of me doing the right thing and for the sake of my high heels and for my happiness for sure,it's amazing how a women's clothes fill in the gaps where there's nothing.
Nice to meet you and stay safe girl!
Love,Danielle

[Bonnie D]

Stealthy,

Julie is kidding. She loves heels.

Bonnie

[Danielle]

some thing tells me we have been on this road before.....Hello and can you tell me how to join the writer's society club??
What's it about if I may ask??:)

[Julie York]

In this thread, what I really want to know it:

If Julie York hates high heels so much. . .

why does she have a picture of red skyscraper stiletto pumps for her avatar?

Curiouser and curiouser. . . :hmmm:

Bless you. That's best laugh I've had al week.

:thumbsup: