michelle33
07-27-2013, 11:56 AM
Hi All,
I've been doing some real hard thinking this last while and have I have been both asking myself tough questions and making honest observations about life to date. The result, I think there's more going on that I thought and if I'm honest with myself I think that perhaps I am a lot more female than I perhaps admitted. Based on the evidence, I think I've been kidding myself and am now going to start therapy. Some observations and facts below:
I can still clearly remember being 9 years old and seeing my first lingerie catalogue and the reaction I had. Just looking at the ladies, I wanted to wear that stuff too.
My first sexual encounter was with a boy a year older than me and I immediately assumed the girl role and later would wear panties (stolen from a laundry hamper) anytime we made out.
Even back then once we got over the fooling around, I wanted to spend more time kissing and I wanted him to hold my hand.
Whilst during my late teens and twenties I had lots of boy-girl relationships, I never really enjoyed the sex and definitely the older I got the less I wanted to use my tool.
During most of my sexual interactions with a girl, I wanted to be her, I wanted to be pleasured by me (as a girl) pleasing a guy.
The more I reflect on this and particularly over the last few years in short-term relationships with girls, I really have no interest in them either touching my tool or be using it.
When I watch a movie, just any regular movie and there's a bedroom scene with a beautiful girl, I don't think 'Lucky Him' being with her. I think lucky her, I wish that was me.
I cry and or am on the brink of crying when I watch a tearjerker movie - just a like a girl - or anything that's emotive.
I've never gone away on a 'boys weekend'.
I've never played team sports and from the age of 12, I always hated/feared the locker room (I was a late developer).
I've had many encounter with guys (some repeat) over the years and I've always dressed or partially dressed and never allow them touch my tool.
I've met many pre-op TS escorts and again I do so because I'm in awe of them. I want to be just like them.
Or at least I thought I did, until recently I started to think that given how little I use my tool or touch it (when I do want to orgasm I do so through penetration), that perhaps I would have SRS down the line if I do transition - that's a thought that I thought was alien to me but again upon honest introspection it's not alien. In fact over the last period, I am pretty much tucking 24/7 and remember I'm still in the closet.
As I sit here typing this in the early evening (GMT) in my tank top, bra, breast forms, leggins and ballet pumps...I feel so comfortable and right. It pains me that I can't walk out the door like this as again it just feels so me.
I've just redone my bedroom in satins, pinks, glass and silver ornaments and it too just feels so right. I love spending time in there just reading or lounging. I've some scented candles and it's just real relaxed zone of peace.
I work in a very Male dominated environment, I'm perceived by friends and family as a ladies man. Since my last LTR, I've been single now for almost 4 years. (I'm 37). I flirt with some girls when I'm out and collect a phone number but never go beyond a bit of texting.
The last time I had sex with a girl was 9 months ago and I didn't enjoy it.
Before that it was almost 2 years.
I've never been out dressed - not in my city at least as it's small and I know a lot of people. There is a CD/Tranny get together at the weekends in a club and as much as I want to go (and I will in September) - it's not just about going to a club, I want to go for coffee dressed, do my shopping dressed, go for walks, go to the gym in cute gym gear and not 'man gear'.
I'm not socialising near as much as I used to as I'd prefer to be at home dressed the way I want to be.
Anyway all of what I've wrote above is something that I'm only really acknowledging and admitting to myself. Obviously I've been aware of all of the above, but I've probably always looked at it in silos and not as a whole. As I said I'm 37 now and am thinking what's the point of carrying on like this - wouldn't I be better to confirm all of this and the fact that I'd be happier as a woman and as tough as it will be - make a change - a BIG change! So hence, I'm going to go to therapy - which I think is the right next step?
The alternative is to pretend to be a guys' guy, have no intimate relationship and pretend to have it all figured out.
Thanks for listening.
Michelle
I've been doing some real hard thinking this last while and have I have been both asking myself tough questions and making honest observations about life to date. The result, I think there's more going on that I thought and if I'm honest with myself I think that perhaps I am a lot more female than I perhaps admitted. Based on the evidence, I think I've been kidding myself and am now going to start therapy. Some observations and facts below:
I can still clearly remember being 9 years old and seeing my first lingerie catalogue and the reaction I had. Just looking at the ladies, I wanted to wear that stuff too.
My first sexual encounter was with a boy a year older than me and I immediately assumed the girl role and later would wear panties (stolen from a laundry hamper) anytime we made out.
Even back then once we got over the fooling around, I wanted to spend more time kissing and I wanted him to hold my hand.
Whilst during my late teens and twenties I had lots of boy-girl relationships, I never really enjoyed the sex and definitely the older I got the less I wanted to use my tool.
During most of my sexual interactions with a girl, I wanted to be her, I wanted to be pleasured by me (as a girl) pleasing a guy.
The more I reflect on this and particularly over the last few years in short-term relationships with girls, I really have no interest in them either touching my tool or be using it.
When I watch a movie, just any regular movie and there's a bedroom scene with a beautiful girl, I don't think 'Lucky Him' being with her. I think lucky her, I wish that was me.
I cry and or am on the brink of crying when I watch a tearjerker movie - just a like a girl - or anything that's emotive.
I've never gone away on a 'boys weekend'.
I've never played team sports and from the age of 12, I always hated/feared the locker room (I was a late developer).
I've had many encounter with guys (some repeat) over the years and I've always dressed or partially dressed and never allow them touch my tool.
I've met many pre-op TS escorts and again I do so because I'm in awe of them. I want to be just like them.
Or at least I thought I did, until recently I started to think that given how little I use my tool or touch it (when I do want to orgasm I do so through penetration), that perhaps I would have SRS down the line if I do transition - that's a thought that I thought was alien to me but again upon honest introspection it's not alien. In fact over the last period, I am pretty much tucking 24/7 and remember I'm still in the closet.
As I sit here typing this in the early evening (GMT) in my tank top, bra, breast forms, leggins and ballet pumps...I feel so comfortable and right. It pains me that I can't walk out the door like this as again it just feels so me.
I've just redone my bedroom in satins, pinks, glass and silver ornaments and it too just feels so right. I love spending time in there just reading or lounging. I've some scented candles and it's just real relaxed zone of peace.
I work in a very Male dominated environment, I'm perceived by friends and family as a ladies man. Since my last LTR, I've been single now for almost 4 years. (I'm 37). I flirt with some girls when I'm out and collect a phone number but never go beyond a bit of texting.
The last time I had sex with a girl was 9 months ago and I didn't enjoy it.
Before that it was almost 2 years.
I've never been out dressed - not in my city at least as it's small and I know a lot of people. There is a CD/Tranny get together at the weekends in a club and as much as I want to go (and I will in September) - it's not just about going to a club, I want to go for coffee dressed, do my shopping dressed, go for walks, go to the gym in cute gym gear and not 'man gear'.
I'm not socialising near as much as I used to as I'd prefer to be at home dressed the way I want to be.
Anyway all of what I've wrote above is something that I'm only really acknowledging and admitting to myself. Obviously I've been aware of all of the above, but I've probably always looked at it in silos and not as a whole. As I said I'm 37 now and am thinking what's the point of carrying on like this - wouldn't I be better to confirm all of this and the fact that I'd be happier as a woman and as tough as it will be - make a change - a BIG change! So hence, I'm going to go to therapy - which I think is the right next step?
The alternative is to pretend to be a guys' guy, have no intimate relationship and pretend to have it all figured out.
Thanks for listening.
Michelle