I was thinking about this reading another thread today...

[Katrina]

Let me set the scene for my question - you are still in the closet and "nobody" knows. In actuality, people you know do know you crossdress but have not let on that they know. They still socialize with you and are close.

Now for the question. I have seen some posts lately that imply that people don't think their family/friends know about their CDing and "hope they don't know". I got thinking about that and I'd rather have people know and still care about me/socialize with me. What do other people think? Would you rather have people completely not know, or know and keep quiet?

[Wendy me]

ok this is a veary intresting thread wow ok there is going to be people that you/ me might never want to know abought our cding for what ever reason it might be.... if some people knew abought it and never spoke abought it , but
They still socialize with you and are close. well thats ok if thay know you/i dress and we don't know thay know but They still socialize with you and are close. veary cool .... and if you tell someone that you cd and thay don't talk abought it but They still socialize with you and are close. thats all good

as far as someone knowing and keeping it quite if that's what thay want then it's all good ... just if some one knows and outs you to some one that you never wanted to know then thats not all good....

[FionaAlexis]

Interesting question.

First I don't think there is any need to tell anyone beyond your partner. To me the second option people knowing and ignoring it, if you like, seems to me to be a positive stance. Positive in the sense that, in my own mind, I am saying - I dress - I'm comfortable with that but I don't publicise it - but if you know or suspect I'm comfortable with however you wish to deal with it.

I guess you just have to be prepared for that one day when someone does confront you with the question 'Are you a crossdresser?'. And be prepared to answer.

Fiona xx

[Kimberly]

flippantly: I just wanna be out.
logically: I know that can't happen... because I don't have the courage just yet. But I'm working on it. :) A lot of people who know about me that are close have stayed close, and still socialise with me under "normal" circumstances, and are fine about it. My good male mate takes the p*ss a bit about it, but it's his way of dealing with it... and we have a laugh doing so.

xx

[Helen MC]

My ex-wife knew from the start of our relationship and had no problems with my CD activities, and that wasn't why we split up in the end. A couple of other friends know but have no problems either. It's not THEIR scene and the matter simply isn't mentioned and I don't dress in front of them or anyone else.

I feel it is wrong to enter a serious relationship with an SO. Partner, Wife etc and NOT tell them from the outset. For all others it in on a "need to know" basis.

Now it may be that some of my associates know I wear women's panties but choose to keep that to themselves. That doesn't bother me and I know personal things about some other people that I keep to myself and they do not know that I know as this would jeopardise our friendship and make them uncomfortable.

Sometimes it is better not to know and to use the old maxim that the Homosexuals used to follow "Never ask, Never tell"

[ChristineRenee]

I'm not gonna put it on a billboard for everyone to see...but if they put two and two together and figure it out...so be it.

Basically I agree with the post from my sis Wendy, and if anyone did confront me with the "are you a crossdresser" question, I certainly wouldn't lie about it...I would tell them yes. I am not ashamed of it...it is a large part of who I am.;)