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LeaP
08-02-2013, 02:47 PM
August 2nd.

A year ago I walked out of the pharmacy, got in my car, and unceremoniously took my first HRT dose. I thought briefly to somehow make it more significant, but at the time the decision had been made and starting was a non-event, consequential though it was.

Though I sometimes pause briefly and look at those little pills, taking them continues to be a non-event ... except when I miss. But the consequences - or effects - have settled in.

I went through the pre-decision turmoil, the emotional high after starting, and a few episodes where I wanted to toss it all (and myself). In general, though, the psychological changes have been the most profound. I have almost completely broken out of my dissociated shell. I still marvel at simply talking to people, fully engaged and actually enjoying it. Depression is under control.

As many issues have dropped away, my identity has firmed. I previously experienced female identity as emergence. It was startling at first, became familiar, but still felt novel. On hormones, I've lost any sense of that not BEING me. I simply am and, as so many have said before, I'm starting to have a hard time really recalling how I felt before. Hormones returned a sense of self that was lost about 45 years ago. I was happy then and I'm pretty happy now, if feeling a little like Lea Van Winkle.

I haven't seen any major emotional changes. I am easier in being open and expressing emotion, but it just feels like what was always there, but blockaded, coming out. The sense of connection with people does bring a greater sense of empathy and even love, but I think that's an effect, not a change in me per se.

Everyone is interested in physical changes. I have written about them previously and won't repeat myself. I will say they were wanted and welcome, but I was also self-conscious until I made the decision to transition, after which the self-consciousness just vanished. This was something of a minor gamble on my part. I chose to start hormones without making a decision on transition. Moreover, I went well beyond my original timeframe TO make a decision. There were a variety of reasons for that - almost all circumstantial and not related to confirmation, need, or desire, for that matter.

I regard my experience to-date as mostly typical. The exception is a "small" medical issue with potassium, and I had common startup issues with Spiro. I'm also fortunate to reach target blood serum levels at low dosages. But emotionally, physically, and psychologically, its pretty much par for the course.

Provided one is TS, of course ...

dreamer_2.0
08-02-2013, 03:16 PM
Congrats on 1 year! Physical changes are nice to read about however I really like hearing about the psychological changes given my depression is so rampant. It's comforting to hear your depression is under control now.

stefan37
08-02-2013, 04:00 PM
I like Lea have been estrogen for a bit over a year. The physical changes have been relatively minor. I have b cup breasts, but with my large frame chest get lost.
My face has not changed much, maybe a bit more androgynous, but that is probably from electrolysis. I have many more wrinkles and I attribute them to the electrolysis. I have had no fat redistribution.

The mental changes however have made all the difference. I went from an anxiety level of +10 to 0 in 3 days after starting estrogen. My craving for drugs and alcohol disappeared. I have been substance and alcohol free for 19 months to date. Those positive events have been huge for me. They confirmed for me my brain needed estrogen to function and am making doing the right thing for my personal growth. I am the healthiest I have ever been. I get regular blood work every 4 months and my levels are good. I have been maintaining my weight. I swim 4500 yds a week. My business has become much more successful as I am more involved
and I am able to handle stress in a much better fashion.

Congratulations Lea I know how difficult this journey can be.

I applaud all of us that have made these difficult decisions to uproot our lives in our quest for inner peace. It is not easy and I know there will be more challenges in the future. But I am much better equipped to deal with those and I would much rather deal with life as a woman than as a man.

I Am Paula
08-02-2013, 04:12 PM
Lea, I thought about making my first day more significant. Couldn't come up with anything fitting. However, all my friends kept asking me 'Did you get them yet?', so I took a photo of my patches, and a pill bottle of AA, and sent it to all my friends. I got a digital round of applause.

Barbara Ella
08-02-2013, 04:31 PM
Congratulations on the year going so well for you Lea. It is wonderful how something so stunningly unique for an individual can be said to be just normal or par for the course isn't it? Yes, the psychological effects are the biggie, thank goodness. Stay safe and happy.

Barbara

Marleena
08-02-2013, 07:04 PM
Congratulations on the one year mark, Lea! Time sure flies doesn't it?

LeaP
08-02-2013, 07:12 PM
It seems very fast.

Anne2345
08-02-2013, 08:52 PM
One year. One whole year. I can hardly believe it's been an entire year, my friend. It seems almost like yesterday when we first began this journey practically at the same time.

It seems like almost yesterday, except for the fact that it doesn't seem like yesterday at all. Instead, it seems like several lifetimes ago when you first began all of this. Several really, really long lifetimes ago. Like you, I can hardly remember what it was like before, too. Which is just as well, because life before now was no real life at all.

One year. One year on hormones. Goddamn, Lea. Goddamn!!

This is Theatre of the Absurd, except that it is no longer absurd. It just is, and you just are.

You have come a long way, Lea, and good for you!!!

One way or another, it will be interesting to see what August 2, 2014, brings . . . .

:shots:

LeaP
08-03-2013, 02:55 PM
It might be interesting to SEE, but I'm not going to think about it now! I learned my lesson on looking ahead. For me, the clearest road is the one just in front of me!

Jorja
08-03-2013, 07:53 PM
Did they tell you the second year is when the horns develop? :)

LeaP
08-03-2013, 07:59 PM
Oooh - Jorga, you're positively EVIL!

StephanieC
08-03-2013, 10:51 PM
Happy anniversary Lea!

It sounds like you are comfortable with your current progress.

Steady on girl.

-stephani

Angela Campbell
08-03-2013, 11:08 PM
Did they tell you the second year is when the horns develop? :)

I was wondering how long it would take before getting horny......

LeaP
08-03-2013, 11:20 PM
Funny! Actually, my libido has been coming back. It's not entirely welcome.

Rianna Humble
08-04-2013, 04:21 AM
Well, LeaP, Jorja has had a few years to develop that side since her transition! And tharby hangs a tail :heehee:

Angela Campbell
08-04-2013, 08:13 AM
It is interesting to look back and see what a year can do to your life. This last year has been a complete whirlpool for me. It has produced such major changes so quickly and still seems like the time almost stood still. At the time it moved so slowly and now looking back it was such a great amount of change in a very short amount of time.

July 1 2012, I had never in my life fully dressed as a woman from head to toe, with shoes, makeup and the whole works. Now in August 2013 I am beginning transition and looking at the largest change in my life since being born. One year.......what is to come in the next year...and the one after that? Will those years move so quickly and so slowly?

Two months into hormones and I have to say the emotional changes have been profound for me. It feels like waking up, or that the numbness is wearing off.