Oh my god

[Trisha65]

My sister who was recently engaged is planning her wedding and has asked me to be a bridesmaid. On one side I am flattered and want to say yes, but I am so scared. I have never dated or been real close with anybody that has not known my circumstances. Oh the chance to be all done up in a formal gown.

[MssHyde]

Looking at your picture you will pull it off just fine

[Rachelakld]

How often do you get that opertunity to honour your sister?
Definately a YES.

[Nicole Erin]

nerve racking perhaps but you will regret it if you pass up the chance.
Even if things go bad, you will be in no worse a position than if you look back and say, "I wish I had done it".

[Tami Joy]

Be glad that your sister wants you as a bridesmaid an say yes yes and yes.

[Trisha65]

I said yes. They have set their date for June 28, 2014. I am so excited yet nervous at the same time. If all goes as planned and I get started on my HRT this month, I will be at the ten month mark by the wedding date. I know that could cause some issues with my dress but if I have some real boobs, hips and a butt it will be a blessing. Oh I can't wait until we go dress shopping.

[steftoday]

that's a awesome opportunity for you, Trisha. I'm sure you'll have a great time, and it's something you'll never forget.

[Jorja]

Do it!!!!!! You will regret it if you pass up the chance.

[Sandra1746]

Being a bridesmaid is a truly a once in a lifetime experience.
Give your sister a big hug of thanks for us here too; what a lovely expression of confidence and love on her part. As far as dressing, have all the fun and enjoyment you can. The HRT will almost surely "mellow out" your mood so expect tears and tissues but don't expect too much in the "boob" department, plan on forms or padding unless you are very atypical.

I'd be jealous but I'm way too old to be a bridesmaid so I'm just happy for you.

Again all the best to you and your sister.
Love,
Sandra

[Kimberly Kael]

I said yes.

That's the spirit! You really should get more experience in public between now and then to boost your confidence. Nothing improves your odds of a pleasant experience and general acceptance like believing in yourself.


If all goes as planned and I get started on my HRT this month, I will be at the ten month mark by the wedding date. I know that could cause some issues with my dress but if I have some real boobs, hips and a butt it will be a blessing. Oh I can't wait until we go dress shopping.

Try not to set unrealistic expectations for HRT. Ten months isn't enough time for significant fat redistribution, and hips are more about skeletal structure which is pretty much set at this point. Results vary by individual, but I'd expect little more than very modest breast development. None of which should stop you from finding a fabulous dress and having a wonderful time!

[groove67]

yes do it last month I walked my daughter down the aisle wearing a beautiful dress and I am so happy that she wanted me to be me and you will never ever forget it.

[Trisha65]

I spent most of the day talking with my sister about this. As I will hopefully be starting HRT in just over a week when I see my endocrinologist on the 12, and given that nobody can predict how the hormones will change my body, it is real hard to order a dress. So that they can get all seven of the bridesmaids dresses ordered, she is going to use me as the Maid of Honour instead. Wow. This will let my dress be of a different style if need be and also let us order it closer to the needed date so there is less chance of the hormones affecting my weight or fat distribution.

Oh what a wonderful weekend. We even spent some time looking online at dresses, but going shopping with all of the girls next weekend. Can I wait? NO.

[Angela Campbell]

The dress can be altered closer to the wedding I would think. Unless you gain or lose a bunch of weight there should be no problem.

[Ashley D.]

You can overcome fear.
Regret is forever.
I say DO IT!! Have fun.
I'm looking foreword to just attending my cousins wedding.

[Marleena]

Try not to set unrealistic expectations for HRT. Ten months isn't enough time for significant fat redistribution, and hips are more about skeletal structure which is pretty much set at this point. Results vary by individual, but I'd expect little more than very modest breast development. None of which should stop you from finding a fabulous dress and having a wonderful time!

I agree with this. You have a wonderful opportunity there Trish.

[Eryn]

I have never dated or been real close with anybody that has not known my circumstances.

The only circumstances that should concern anyone is that you are a lovely bridesmaid who is supportive of your sister. This is who you are.

(What I am is envious. Envious, envious envious!) :)

[Barbara Ella]

With such a wonderful invitation, say yes, and just go with the flow. Take deep breaths and enjoy every minute leading up to it.

Barbara

[kimberly ann487]

Trisha, in my mind, this is the ultamate form of acceptance. You are so lucky to have such a wonderful sister.

[Trisha65]

I was able to spend the day with all of the wedding party girls. Everything is picked out and on order except for my dress which is just picked out. Although the bridesmaids dresses are all strapless, my sister and I choose a halter dress for me. With no forms it still looks very cute and if I so choose to wear forms or a padded bra or have some natural breast development by then (I start HRT this Monday - so excited!!!) it will still fit. I am going to wait until closer to the order deadline just in case the hormones do something wacky to my weight.

It was so much fun shopping and just being a girl I can't even explain it, but it was a real proof of acceptance.

[arbon]

Wish there was a "like" button on here I'd click it. :)

I'm really happy for you