For all you Lurkers [aka GUESTS] out there...

[Wildaboutheels]

WE [the members] can see you but don't panic. We can ONLY see the totality of NON members viewing any particular thread. That Info shows up at the bottom of threads but guests can't see it, only members. Right this very minute as I type this, there are 25 members and 86 guests viewing the entire MtF Forum.

So just WHAT is stopping you from joining? You do know [don't you?] that once you join, you can THEN see all the nekkid pictures? Heck, you don't even have to have any clothing items of any type hidden anywhere, and/or a partner of some kind who may or may not know or approve and NO, an injection of Pink Fog Virus is not mandatory when joining.

You might have this crazy idea that various sharks of all sizes swim here and you have no desire whatsoever to be bitten by one or many? Total HOGWASH. This site is no different than any other Forum. You are bound to make at least a few enemies as well as a few friends. If nothing else, some folks you can relate to much better than others.

So why not join in and participate and share whatever experiences you have had? IF you do, I think just TWO thoughts, always in mind will make your participation here much more enjoyable. One, it's YOUR choice what to read and/or respond to. Or WHO to respond to. Two, [probably even more importantly] is to keep that old childhood axiom handy, maybe written down on a piece of paper. It SHOULD become ever more obvious as we age...

"Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never harm me".

Don't ALLOW what other members write, to ruin YOUR experience here. IF you do, it's on you.

And I WAS joking about the nekkid pics.

But don't let that stop you from joining.

[Debra Russell]

Lurkers beware! -- crossdressers abound -- and it's catching!! try it you'll like it :D:devil:....................Debra

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[Kate Simmons]

Hmmm, I was "lurking"(basically too lazy to log in) when I read this. I wonder how many other "lurkers" are really members who do the same thing sometimes?:battingeyelashes::)

[NathalieX66]

Hey! I was a lurker once.....ONCE! :battingeyelashes:

[Beverley Sims]

I always log on, I always have "something" to say.
At the moment there are 3 members and one guest out there.
It is 16:42 GMT.
Kate Simmons,
I can see you have been to MAC again.
They do a wonderful plastic surgery job on you don't they?

[Tracii G]

Lurkers grow a pair will ya!!!
You know you want to join so come on quit being such a chicken.I dare you.

[linda allen]

Sometimes members will just look for a couple of mnutes without taking the time to log in. I don't do it often, but I sometimes will.

So, many of those "guests" shown could be actual members who just didn't bother to log in. It doesn't really mean anything.

[Kate Simmons]

Actually this kind of look is the type of "miracle" Amanda Richards pulls off at True Colors. I know because she has a book of her clientele of before and after pics she showed me. Not to mention I met one of her regular customers who passed away a few years back. He was a rugged contractor but he personally showed me pics from the photo shoots Amanda did of him. I love good craftsmanship.It goes to show what can be accomplished, lurking notwithstanding.:)

[RebeccaLynne]

Wild, if this thread inspires even one "guest" to overcome any possible reservations they may have concerning actually becoming a bonafide "member", then... mission accomplished!

Who'll be the first? C'mon, now, don't be shy... :)

We're waiting! :waiting:

[Cheryl Ann Owens]

I was once a lurker, and then one day I said, "Aww what the hell?!" Since I became a member I have become more enlightened about myself learning from others and hopefully may have have helped others in many ways just by sharing my life experiences.

It occurred to me that maybe some guests could be living vicariously through the rest of us. Or they may be deeply closeted having a family shared computer or can only visit from a work computer and immediately deleting the history? I'll bet some guests would love to enjoy what many of us enjoy---living the dream. I'm just guessing here, and enjoying all there is about what some might call a "hobby", which it really is not. It's a lifestyle.

Cheryl Ann

[ronny0]

Smile!
How about members that post no photos, isn't that a type of lurking??
(Some don't even have a image on their profile?)

[CynthiaD]

Smile!
How about members that post no photos, isn't that a type of lurking??
(Some don't even have a image on their profile?)

If I ever get a picture of myself that doesn't look like an ape in a dress, I'll post it. Until then ... :)

[robindee36]

I once was a lurker here.
Not for very long my dear.
Quickly overcame my fear.
Now have new acquaintances that bring me great cheer.
Nearly time for a cold beer.

Maybe I should have stayed a lurker ;)

Hugs, Robin

[ReineD]

Some people may log out but keep a browser window open on a thread. I've done that. I often have several threads open all at once and when I log out, all the threads that are in the background are still open. I live alone so there is no need to close out my browser window and no one but me can sign into my laptop when it is dormant.

Another explanation for all the "guests" might be web crawlers (bots) for search engines. I'm sure there are some guests reading the threads, but you'd think they'd be reading current threads and not stuck on pages that are a few years old, which is a large chunk of what's being looked at. You can verify this by clicking on the number of users online on the Index page, and then opting to display "guests" at the bottom of the page. My guess is that 50/50 bots/members who've signed out are crawling/viewing the Index page, and guests (including members who haven't bothered to sign in) are reading current threads. And weird glitches are causing all the old threads to appear as if guests are reading them.

[Crissy Kay]

Good Thread. Yes, I was a lurker too, for a few months, before I decided to join. i finally thought, so what if anyone I knew in drab life caught me here!!! But what does it really matter, we are here to have fun, and maybe offer support and advice to other dressers, and their SO"s too.

[jennyscott]

About 1/3 of my time here is via one of several mobile devices. To be honest, it's quite a chore to log in repeatedly on them. I just note what's going on and which threads I would like to add my two cents. That said, I did lurk for quite the while before I joined a few years ago.

FYI, I haven't been subjected to any nekkid pics yet, lol.

[Laurie A]

I was a lurker for a long time. It took me a long time to join, as it was the very first time I had publicly outed myself, I was extremely nervous.

[SherriePall]

Does that mean I should stop looking for those pics?

[MadisonL]

I suppose I am (was) one of those lurkers. Just joined. I will make an intro thread after awhile. New to all this so pretty nervous.

[Davena Doll]

Ya I was lurking this morning. this thread motivated me so much that I learned how to and even posted a thread and pic. in the picture forum.

[Marcia Blue]

I was a lurker for short time before I joined. Now I feel this place and all the members are like home and family. I really do love being part of such a great community.

[RebeccaLynne]

Wild, if this thread inspires even one "guest" to overcome any possible reservations they may have concerning actually becoming a bonafide "member", then... mission accomplished!

Who'll be the first? C'mon, now, don't be shy... :)

I'm reluctant to quote my own prior post, yet I feel it's appropriate here...


I suppose I am (was) one of those lurkers. Just joined. I will make an intro thread after awhile. New to all this so pretty nervous.


Congratulations, Madison... I'd like to officially welcome you to CD.com as a full-fledged member, providing your submission to the "Introductions" subset of the Forum is acceptable... we are quite cliquish, and have standards, you understand. :straightface:

Totally kidding, girlfriend! Welcome to the happiest place on Earth for CD'ers and their loved ones.

BTW, you just barely edged out Davena for top honors...


Ya I was lurking this morning. this thread motivated me so much that I learned how to and even posted a thread and pic. in the picture forum.

Davena, you're late... fashionably, that is! And you appear to be a fast learner, already posting in "The Picture and Video Gallery"... haven't seen yours yet, but I'll bet they're terrific... I think you'll fit right in!

Y'know, I'm ecstatic in that this thread may have provided the incentive to at least two guests to "take the plunge" and become members...

Wild, I think you can declare "mission accomplished"; TBS, I dream of the day all CD'ers, their friends, families, and acquaintances can come here and rejoice in the spirit of comraderie that is this site's ultimate potential...

We're all in this together, trying to make this world a better place for everyone... :daydreaming:

[kimdl93]

Another explanation for all the "guests" might be web crawlers (bots) for search engines.

I confess, i am a Bot.

[kimberly36]

Im just to lazy to sign in. Usually just so i can see the media section haha

[Amanda M]

Well Done, OP! Success already. Well done too new members, and welcome.

[sterusjon]

I'm a lurker no longer! I have been haunting these threads for more than a year. I did try, at one time, to register but ran into problems with a receiving the necessary emails into my email account. This OP prompted me to try one more time. Success!

I'm not a really chatty kind of person so it is unlikely I will post often. The 10 post limit/goal to receive added privileges is daunting to me right now but we'll have to see how it all goes.

Stephanie (Typing that in is a little weird but makes me smile!)

[Melanie Sykes]

I mostly read this forum from my phone, which makes it a pain to log in (and I certainly don't want to leave my phone logged in). So I lurk, but only to save time and effort. If I really want to say something, I'll log in from a computer (and I have been known to log in from my phone on the odd occasion). I suspect that this may be quite a common modus operandi, accounting for quite a number of lurkers.

It would be interesting to look through the logs of user-agents that have been accessing the site and seeing the how the ratio of mobile to non-mobile devices is changing. If you compared, say, a representative number of guest hits from mobile vs non-mobile devices against a representative number of logged-in member hits from mobile vs non-mobile devices, I think it would be possible to infer from the guest numbers how many of them are actually members who can't be bothered to log in from their phones. The user-agent log entries would also show almost exactly how many accesses are made by bots.

It would also be interesting to write a forum app, which allows your credentials to be stored so you don't have to keep logging in. The app could be protected by a passcode to stop your nosey kids using it. Maybe something I'll look at if I ever get time!

[Lacyfem]

Yes I lurked here too like many of us but haven't for quite awhile. I do lurk on some other sites for various reasons and do have my own other groups where I post some more explicit pics of me where there are lurkers.

[MysticLady]

If I ever get a picture of myself that doesn't look like an ape in a dress, I'll post it. Until then ... :)

Hey!! Gorilla's in dresses are Cool.:D


I once was a lurker here.
Not for very long my dear.
Quickly overcame my fear.
Now have new acquaintances that bring me great cheer.
Nearly time for a cold beer.

Maybe I should have stayed a lurker ;)

Hugs, Robin

Robin..................you Poet. Should we change your name to Robin Shakespeare?


Some people may log out but keep a browser window open on a thread. I've done that. I often have several threads open all at once and when I log out, all the threads that are in the background are still open. I live alone so there is no need to close out my browser window and no one but me can sign into my laptop when it is dormant.

Reine, you have got to get a life, Girl.:heehee::hugs:


Hi Everybody, You don't have too be a Lurker. You can be a Perker, like me. Definition of a Perker....A lurker that became a member w/ a cup of coffee close by.:D

Leona.........It's iced Coffee, I promise, again:heehee:

[Jocelyn Quivers]

I lurked for a good while before joining. What prevented me was a fear that I would be tempted to post pictures of myself, start slipping further down the TG spectrum, maybe out myself to more people in life, buy even more clothing/items I did not need, etc. Of course all of that did happen after joining. Too late now to go back!

[shortskirt87]

Pardon me, but who cares?

[Melanie Sykes]

Pardon me, but who cares?

I feel the same about football, or any sport :-)

[ReineD]

Pardon me, but who cares?

Shortskirt, some people have it in them to help others, and that includes encouraging lurkers to come out. If that's not for you, so be it, but please don't knock others who care. :)

[Allison Quinn]

I lurked for a good while before joining. What prevented me was a fear that I would be tempted to post pictures of myself, start slipping further down the TG spectrum, maybe out myself to more people in life, buy even more clothing/items I did not need, etc. Of course all of that did happen after joining. Too late now to go back!
^ haha this happened to me too. Once I started to join forums and talk to people I stopping telling lies to myself and started outing myself to others willingly :)

[Cheryl T]

If I ever get a picture of myself that doesn't look like an ape in a dress, I'll post it. Until then ... :)

You weren't in "Planet of the Apes" were you?? Just kidding...

[MysticLady]

I feel the same about football, or any sport :-)

......................... :p ................................................


Shortskirt, some people have it in them to help others, and that includes encouraging lurkers to come out. If that's not for you, so be it, but please don't knock others who care. :)

I think she may be referring to a post and not the OP, just saying:)


You weren't in "Planet of the Apes" were you?? Just kidding...

:thinking:..................now that you mentioned it.

[Celeste]

I lurked in the background for about a year before joining.But it was because of the fear i felt inside.I just couldn't envision getting help in this forum from others.Fear is our worst enemy!...Looking back....the lurking was just another rut and holding me back from any progress.The idea here is to eliminate those things which hold you back,and not joining the forum is one of those things.

[Kate Simmons]

You weren't in "Planet of the Apes" were you?? Just kidding..."I never met an ape I didn't like." :heehee::)

[Dani0948]

Been lurking for a while and have decided to stop the silence. Won't post a lot but hope to get more active going forward.

[MysticLady]

Welcome all you new folks to this wild and crazy bunch. Sometimes we cat fight but, we're all cats:heehee:


Meow, phiss phiss

[Sometimes Steffi]

It must be terrible to be a lurker, Throughout the whole thread, people are saying how beautiful the OP looks. And the lurkers can see the pics. Awww, too bad.

[MysticLady]

Oh my gosh, look at this beauty:eek:. Aww lurkers, you can't see the picture, too bad:sad:. Join us and see what your missing out on.:D

[LPark]

I too have lurked for a long time. For a while, I couldn't get registered because of the ISP I use was rejected. Now I use a gmail account. So this is my first post. I belong to the senior class, age 69.

[Rebecca Star]

It doesn't bother me either way. Least the site is drawing visitors who are interested. I think that's a good thing :)

[angela2112]

Been a member on here for quite a few years but hardly ever post......never have much to say anyway. Think the last time I posted, I talked about the need to be upfront about cding before getting married and got shot down in flames. Still enjoy coming on to read the stories of others' lives though

[VS Fan]

I confess, i am a Bot.

Don't you mean a femme-bot? :) Austin Powers... anyone? anyone....? LOL

[Bootsiegalore]

smile!
How about members that post no photos, isn't that a type of lurking??
(some don't even have a image on their profile?)

absoloutely

[Julie York]

I'm a lurker no longer! I have been haunting these threads for more than a year. I did try, at one time, to register but ran into problems with a receiving the necessary emails into my email account. This OP prompted me to try one more time. Success!

I'm not a really chatty kind of person so it is unlikely I will post often. The 10 post limit/goal to receive added privileges is daunting to me right now but we'll have to see how it all goes.

Stephanie (Typing that in is a little weird but makes me smile!)

Hi there! SEE! At least someone was paying attention. I get to reply to your very first post :) Welcome.

[Tamara Croft]

Don't join, they're all C R A Z Y in here... you'll never get out :eek:

RUN AWAY!!!

[kimdl93]

Don't you mean a femme-bot? :) Austin Powers... anyone? anyone....? LOL

Definitely a fem bot...but certainly a bot, nonetheless. truly, lurkers, do be ware! You cannot stay around here long without being changed by the experience.

[Tamara Croft]

AND... you're missing out on the lounge section, were we have threads talking about tits, dicks, O's and uranus... and if you think I'm kidding, you'll have to join to find out :D

(really not kidding)

[Mgreenva]

So you got me to reply. New here married
Cd. Wife knows and I guess ok most if the
Time

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi W A H , I to was a lurker for about a year then I finally grew a pair and signed in and have never been happier.