Things you would have never experienced if you were not a Crossdresser

[Candice Mae]

As the tittle suggests what are things you would have never experienced if you were not a Crossdresser?

Today I'm dressed hanging around the house, in a tank top and jeans nothing special. I was making supper and reached up to get some pasta out of the cupboard. When I noticed that I missed a big patch of hair when I shaved my armpits in the shower earlier. :eek: Later I managed to drop a piece of pasta down my shirt, only to have to fish it out. It was like my cleavage was a black hole and sucked it right in.

Last week when getting dressed I could not clasp my bra, something I've probably done 5,000 times. I struggled for about a minute then decided to try the other method of clasping it in the front and turning it around. Still nothing, then I examined the clasp and noticed that both hooks were bent in. Had to use a nail file to bend them back, five seconds later I had my bra on.

[JenniferR771]

You mean things I experienced like...learning how to zip and unzip a long back zipper in a too tight dress? Worrying about breaking a nail? Learning how to use a curling iron and hot rollers on my human hair wig? How to fasten those tiny buckles on strappy tall heels? How to not lean forward and get long hair in my pizza?

[RADER]

To bad there is not an instruction book on being a CD.
It would be well worth getting one; and reading it. LOL
Rader

[suchacutie]

Omg the list is endless! Feel of stockings, walking in heels, all the details of makeup, understanding how women (fill in the blank), all the many conversations my wife and I have had about all the emotional details of being a girl. ..... if just never ends

[Brittany CD]

Where do I begin?

There's the tedious checking my legs for unshaved parts

Hair from my wig getting in my face and eyes

How hot it gets when wearing a wig

How wearing a bra gets uncomfortable after wearing it for hours

High heels may be great, but crossdressing has taught me that they make you sore and not as easy to walk in as it looks

[AllieSF]

For me it is the total experience of dressing up as someone else, going out and filling that role in front of others, the delight in shopping for new and interesting articles of clothing and accessories and all the new experiences I have by going with the flow instead of trying to hold my ground.

[Kate Simmons]

Getting to the point of getting ready to go out en femme more quickly and efficiently. Why would most men even think about doing that ,unless they are a super hero or something?:heehee::)

[Dana L]

Lets not forget, How to put on stockings or hose without putting a run in them or how much your eye waters when you get mascara in it or remembering to cross your legs when sitting while wearing a dress or skirt. Not to mention keeping your panties from riding up or arranging your boobs in you bra after moving around a lot. Oh the list gos on.

[edith]

Snug-fitting jeans are actually really comfortable.

[Jenny CD]

Pretty funny thread! Love it!!! I think for me, is the awkward glances I get from time to time. Yesterday at Wally World, I walked in and it seemed like no one gave me any attention at all. I was disappointed and happy at the same time because I thought I looked cute. Anyway, the girl at the checkout was TG! She commented on my hair and I told her she looked beautiful. I didn't notice her and she didn't notice me until we were face to face. That was pretty cool.

[Ondine]

Those delightful red bumps after getting waxed. And the subsequent joy of needing to exfoliate in order to prevent more of them from forming.

[Jenny CD]

Those delightful red bumps after getting waxed. And the subsequent joy of needing to exfoliate in order to prevent more of them from forming.

Ha ha! The red bumps where you don't want red bumps!!!

[Chickhe]

The most important thing I learned is how people act differently towards you. It is very subtle in most cases, but appearance make a difference and I find it really strange because I'm the same person inside.

[Rachel Morley]

For me it is the total experience of dressing up as someone else, going out and filling that role in front of others ...
When I take a reflective look at how it is, my most over riding feelings are how I am treated differently as "a woman" instead of how I am treated as a man. I almost always go out with my wife together as "two girlfriends" both of us in dresses and high heels and so my experiences that I don't think I would have experienced if I was not CDing at the time were: ... having a guy hit on my wife right in front of me when we at the bar (I don't think he would have done that if I was in boy mode), having the hotel concierge hail a taxi and hold the doors open for "the ladies" (that's what he called us), having groups of guys outside of restaurants and bars stare and obviously check you out as you go in together (guys always look at women dressed "nice"), having a waiter hold my coat open for me to put my arms in when were about to leave the restaurant, ... you know, all those little things that just make you feel so different (feminine?) as they never happen when you're in boy mode.

[Ellie52]

1) Looking in the mirror and seeing someone so beatiful (In my eyes)
2) Pulling on expensive stockings over freshly shaved legs
3) The feel of lacy panties against the nether regions.
4) The feel of satin against skin.
5) Wearing 5" high heels -fun fun fun

The one thing I didnt like was when I was out at a shopping centre dressed as my avatar and three guys walked past and one guy looked from my face all the way to my legs and back up _ then stared at my boobs then back to my face. It wasnt a "I know your a guy" look it was like being visually raped. There was no giglling as if they had made me but it was a bit sickening. I was glad to get back to my car......Ellie

If it was compulsory for non CD's to wear lingerie at least once in their life, then there would be millions more crossdressers.

[Lexine]

Being respected in a society that's been so cynical about people. When I go out as a girl, it's really night and day how far people will go to please you. Versus, of course, when I go out as a guy.

[Sonia_cd]

The excruciating attention to detail and effort needed to make sure every little bit of make-up is off and the re-checking and not being entirely certain using a face scrub to be absolutely sure! :P
Everything else has been stated by the rest of the girls! hehehehe

[Miss Trudy]

The feel of the wind as it billows up your skirt :)

[Cheryl T]

The feeling of nylons on freshly shaved legs.
The feeling of silky panties caressing my behind.
The sensual click of my heels as I walk on a hard surface.
The taste of lipstick.
The tug of my bra straps as my breasts bounce while walking.
The swish of my skirt against my nylon covered legs.
The gentle movement of my dangling earrings.
The way my fingers look when my nails are long and polished.
The peace I feel when I am made up and look into the eyes of the woman in the mirror.

[Bree Wagner]

If we're looking for the humorous, it's definitely finding a nail that I thought I had lost halfway through dinner in my underwear at the end of the night.

[PretzelGirl]

Tina is right, the list can be endless. But to take a couple of different tacks on this train of thought. I feel like I am a more rounded person. I have been exposed and more importantly, more educated about variances in people and their rights (or lack thereof). Before I started exploring myself, I was blind about all of us and what we go through.

Also, I always say that the friendships have meant the most to me. Local friends I can spend time with and those that aren't that I still share experiences with and learn from.

[suzy1]

Meeting you lot! I mean it.:)

[katie1000_uk]

getting aching calves when wearing heels. Heels are so nice, but can get so painful!! grrr!

[Sabrina133]

An empathy for women - what they go through to make themselves beautiful, the vulnerability a woman feels when she's being ogled by a man, the wonderful feeling of freedom when wearing a skirt or a dress, a wonderful sense of "awareness" when wearing silky panties, garters and stockings - just to name a few..

[Zylia]

Definitely (almost) falling down the stairs in my heels. Got me thinking twice about stairs.
And heels.

[Beverley Sims]

I'm with Suzy here. her post #22
"Meeting you lot, and being able to bore you to death with my replies"....

Sweet revenge. :)

[suzy1]

I'm with Suzy here. her post #22
"Meeting you lot, and being able to bore you to death with my replies"....

Sweet revenge. :)

Notice how we put up with you Beverly.:love:

[Tina B.]

Let me take this on a different path, things I would not have experienced if I wasn't a cross dresser,
1. All of those years of depression
2. years of self loathing
3. a life time of fear of being found out.
4.a life of feeling odd and different from everyone else around me.
5.mostly I would have missed years of self analyst trying to figure out what I am and Why I'm like this.
Sorry girls, but I felt like someone needed to say it!

[Sarah L]

Freedom!
I never knew what it felt like until I went out shopping in girl mode without caring what anyone thought. As it turned out, nobody seemed to notice. If they did notice, they didn't care enough to say anything. It turns out freedom is pretty tiring!

The great joy of telling someone and finding out it doesn't make a difference to them.

Alot of little things,too:

1. Cool air on legs while wearing a skirt and tights.
2. The pleasure of a breeze blowing your skirt turning into a nuisance when its all you can do to keep your skirt from blowing above your waist.
3. Difficulty walking the day after 8 hours in incredibly pretty high heels. Blisters! Ouch!
4. Having a lady make your day by saying she loves your shoes.
5. Sleeping in a nightgown and panties.

Probably a million billion other things I will think about later....

[Sally24]

Things I would never have experienced.......

Getting a wolf whistle while walking across a parking lot at 2am. Feeling both complimented and a little threatened at the same time.

The feeling of nylons and lingerie and a silk dress flowing around your body.

Having a man tell you he had his eyes on you all night and would like to take you on a date (and I always have my wedding band and engagement ring on my finger!)

The feeling of both freedom and vulnerability when they wind whispers across your exposed legs and chest and back.

The sisterhood I've felt from other women when using the fitting rooms or shopping. I think many women feel a connection to us as we emulate them and learn more about their world.

Having truckers pace my car at night and shine lights on my exposed legs! Exciting but also scary!

Having to choose an outfit for the night that exactly fits my mood and the venue I am going to. It's no wonder young women can take so long getting ready.

Seeing a picture of my outside that actual matches my inside.

Leaving a venue or store late at night and walking across an empty, dark parking lot. As a man I wouldnt give it a second thought. As a woman I am VERY aware of my vulnerabilities.

Meeting the eyes of other women while out and about........a far different feel then when they are looking at a man.

[tiffanynjcd24]

men would find me attractive and the idea of sleeping in lingerae i really miss being feminine at times

[Brooklyn]

Mainly unmatched happiness, the magical feeling of being feminine, and developing greater compassion for others. Also, being assaulted, having my feet bleed on Saturdays, and spending way too much at Sephora.

[suzanne]

I have learned how much fun it is to shop for clothes. Shopping for boy clothes is like "Arrrgh, let's get this over with! " Shopping for girl clothes is a whole nother kettle of fish. There are so many more places to go, so many more styles, colors and lengths to try, and maybe nothing works this time. But when I find that special something and the sales associate tells me how great I look in it, it's a feeling I've never had with anything else. I can't wait to get out there the next time.

[irene9999]

Definately the work that goes into looking pretty (ie, makeup, shaving legs, etc). Also the vulnerable feeling as men and women are checking out the way you're dressed.

[Sam-antha]

Then there was the time when my front fastening bra fell open, in public

~Samm

[Farrah]

I notice when women are wearing a girdle as well as what kind she's wearing.

[Robinsinclair]

Understanding "shopping"....

Guy mode - 20 minutes, in, out, done.

Girl mode - 2 hrs, OMG nothing goes with anything!

I will never complain about my GF shopping again.

[Candice Mae]

The second time I tried false lashes I glued my eye half shut, although it was an improvement from my first try. In which I got glue all over my eyelid and when I did get the lash on it was above my lash line and crooked.

Also learning that choosing the right bra/panties for an outfit is really important, instead of just wearing whats clean.

[Amanda63]

Just the overall sense of personal interaction between other people and the love of colors, fragrance, personal style, embracing ones emotions and sharing this with all of the wonderful people here. ( :

[Joanne108]

Putting on a bra, doing makeup, the pain from wearing high heels, checking out my look in the mirror etc!

[julia marie]

How about organizing a pocketbook? Wallet (with change pocket), hairbrush, keys, etc. in the right place for easy access. Don't forget tissues, maybe powder and makeup brush, lipstick, and so on. But don't put in too much, or you'll end up with the gymbag size purse that makes women lean to one side.

[Loni]

just feeling of a light breeze blowing your skirt around.

[Stephanie47]

Tina, I'm glad you said it. I totally agree. I'd add

6. The cost of acquiring a second wardrobe which I would not have needed if I wasn't a cross dresser.

I don't need to try a lot of things in life to realize my life was better off not trying them.


Let me take this on a different path, things I would not have experienced if I wasn't a cross dresser,
1. All of those years of depression
2. years of self loathing
3. a life time of fear of being found out.
4.a life of feeling odd and different from everyone else around me.
5.mostly I would have missed years of self analyst trying to figure out what I am and Why I'm like this.
Sorry girls, but I felt like someone needed to say it!

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Candice, I would never of had so many friends on this wonderful forum.

[Maria 60]

Sometimes when I am all dressed up and the feeling of the pantyhose on my legs rubbing together when I walk and the taste of lipstick on my lips, I think to myself what men who don't do this what a great thing they are missing.

[Courtney . J]

first time wearing a comfort bra with no hooks and when you go to take it off and think to yourself "how in the hell is this coming off without grabbing the scissors ?" :doh: lol


trying to paint finger nails on both hands at the same time and making a huge mess everywhere

that first amazing wonderful erotic smell of nail polish that seems to stain the air for hours in the room you were in and when you leave the room and walk back in it makes your head spin and go "whoa! :eek:" lol

first time you remove nail polish and realize your nails are going to be stained bright green for a month ! hahaha


oh and the first time you put mascara on then take a shower and it runs everywhere , yet you dont notice. and somebody says "you have some black stuff under your eyes " :heehee:

first time you poke yourself in the eyeball with the mascara brush , OUCH !

then every dang clothing store you pass you ALWAYS stare and the beautiful dresses in the windows and imagine how you would look in them

[UNDERDRESSER]

I probably wouldn't have found out so much about myself.

[Robin777]

How much better women's jeans fit and feel. Also the feel of silky lingerie. Plus sleeping in silky nightgowns.

[Lorileah]

I have met so many wonderful people who I would have never met otherwise. I am losing my shyness (:shush: Bree, I am shy) and becoming very gregarious. I am becoming who I always was but didn't show. If I didn't dress and go out, I would be a couch potato

[Frédérique]

…what are things you would have never experienced if you were not a Crossdresser?

1. The wonderful feeling of wind blowing under my skirt… :daydreaming:
2. The sensual pleasures of lipstick… :battingeyelashes:
3. The “pleasure” of wig hairs sticking to the above-mentioned lipstick… :doh:
4. The constant, reassuring HUG I get from my female undergarments… :bighug:
5. The constant, revealing, counterproductive, and unnecessary backlash I get from OTHER types of MtF crossdressers… :sad:

[Bree Wagner]

I am losing my shyness (:shush: Bree, I am shy) and becoming very gregarious.

OK, suuuure. I believe you. ;)