Does complimenting other girls in the photo gallery make you gay?

[Marleena]

This is a spinoff on another thread. So we have a bunch of guys in the photo gallery trying to and looking attractive and sometimes sexy. Isn't the point to look attractive? Why else post pictures, right? I find many attractive and I'll tell them but I don't get an erection.:heehee:

Should we be worried if we are straight and find them attractive?

Are some confusing attraction with sexual attraction?

Just put me in the I don't care category. Much ado about nothing.lol.

[Dianne S]

No, it does not. What makes you gay is the desire to have sex with someone of the same sex. If you want sex with men and women, you're bisexual and if you want sex with someone of the opposite sex, you're heterosexual.

Commenting on how people look or are dressed has nothing to do with it.

[ReineD]

It's a spectrum, Marleena. Pure gay is strictly attracted to same sex. Pure hetero is strictly attracted to the opposite sex. Being attracted to CDs and if so, only occasionally or when the CD is young and attractive hence 'passes' particularly well (has plenty of feminine characteristics), is neither strictly gay nor strictly hetero ... not if there is knowledge that the person has a penis.

And then there are people who comment because they appreciate the artistry or the morphing talent, and not because they are sexually attracted.


... although, I can imagine a newbie GG SO getting all worried that her partner may be attracted to men if he compliments another CD. Sometimes it's hard to know the motive behind the comment.

[AllieSF]

I thought that your question was the topic of that other thread? Now to find it and re-read it.

Well, the point of dressing is to feel good, and to me and probably a lot of others, it is to look good, very good, hopefully attractive and maybe sexy. But, we all look in the mirror and see what we see, so that we actually do know the truth. However, fantasizing and dreaming are actually a lot of fun, so, yes, sometimes we see and enjoy something others do not.

I think that you already know the correct answer to this, but I will reply anyway. No, we should not be worried. One sees beauty, attractiveness and sexiness (is that a word?) and should enjoy it. Yes, it may be easy to confuse attraction with sexual attraction, but is it with the image or with the realization that "that beauty is male too"? I believe that there are many Bi-curious, Bi and even gay men out there who may not yet realize it. I think that most gays know it from a young age, But, as we all know, some of us are extremely slow learners.

Personally, I appreciate visual beauty however presented. That in and of itself does not make me gay. So, like you, I really don't give a damn.

[Beverley Sims]

Oh! definitely.
I am nearly happy complimenting girls here.
Sometimes I express gay tendencies by being as jealous as hell and almost over carcastic at some of the beauty portrayed here.
Whet is most depressing is when I see a drop dead gorgeous blonde here portraying the most glamourous chick imaginable and I can't look like her any more.
It is something to make you jump off a cliff or turn gay. :)
I could look like that once but now I have lost it...
I have lost my gaiety too but I have kudos for those young ones that can come up and pull it off.

Do expose yourself now, the window of opportunity is too small to wait till tomorrow.

[DonnaT]

Nothing can make you gay.
You're either born gay, or not.

[stephNE]

I'm not sure it even has anything to do with attraction, in my case. It is certainly not sexual.
When I tell another member here that I think they look pretty, I am commenting on their appearance, not my feelings. The same goes for GG's. I have friends and coworkers who I have told that I think they look pretty, but it doesn't mean I want to be in their pants (except for maybe in a very literal sense).

[Ericaxd]

Recall the Van Morrison line about all the girls dressed up for each other? Well, it's just like that I think. We dress to look attractive, and post photos here (well, I haven't yet) to see what others here think. We seek and grant approval of one another's appearance. Sex has nothing to do with it.

[GaleWarning]

There are, of course, people who simply look at the pictures with a view to deciding how "passable" the person is. It's a purely subjective exercise, devoid of "feelings".

[tiffanyjo89]

Thinking that a person is pretty or attractive doesn't immediately mean that you find them sexually attractive.

Even if you do find them sexually attractive, I feel like the pictures posted in this forum (at least in the M2F portions) are of people trying to present a feminine image. A person with a male body and heterosexual male mindset finding a display of feminine beauty (either a person with a female body, or a male bodied person displaying a feminine image) attractive is heterosexual, as they being attracted to the traits of the opposite sex, not their own. Now, psychologists might argue that everyone is at least a little bit bisexual, but most either act only on the urges toward the opposite sex or the same sex's traits.

[Jenniferathome]

Wouldn't that depend on the compliment? "I like your dress," seems innocuous whereas "I want to do you," would seem a clear call.

[Karren H]

I think it does make you gay.... but the next time you belch or scratch yourself in public you turn back straight.... there's just that window of vulnerability between the two you have to keep your panties on! lol

[Marleena]

Wouldn't that depend on the compliment? "I like your dress," seems innocuous whereas "I want to do you," would seem a clear call.

LMAO I don't recall any comments like "I want to do you" in the gallery.

[Lorileah]

I think you have to sex male on male 7 times to be gay. Any less than that you are just experimenting. And if you swear off gay sex for 1 year you have to re-audition and get three letters of recommendation from other gay people except in June which is National Gay and Lesbian month where all applicants can be accepted if they march in a parade. Other criteria are Screaming in a high pitch "Oh My Gawd Girl!" and saying "Oh no you diint go there", putting your forefinger to your chin and softly saying "Um hmmm" when a construction guy walks by, clapping really fast with your hands in a praying position, knowing ALL the jumps in Olympic skating (and saying Oh gawd I wish he would lift ME with his hand there, he wouldn't need to hold very tight", watching "What Not To Wear" and agreeing with the hosts, ordering any drink with an umbrella and attending and actually staying awake through Evita (extra points for thinking Madonna was the ULTIMATE!).

How to tell if you are gay? You want sex with another man and you enjoy it.

[AllieSF]

Not necessarily, Jennifer. I have posted similar comments, but not with the true intention or desire to do them. It was in jest and a way of complimenting the person in the pic that they really did a good job and look really good. Again, to me, it is the image presented, not the gender of the person in the image. So, when someone posts "I want to do you", it is not such a clear call to me that they really want to "do" them, but rather just a different way of making a compliment, and I would guess to a lot of others here may think the same way. I would need to read a lot of posts from the same person before I would even hazard a guess as to their gender orientation. I don't judge based on a simple comment like that. That is the beauty and the bane of the English language. It can be quite explicit and sometimes not, being easy to misinterpret or misread what was really intended.

PS: From Lorileah, which says it all, "How to tell if you are gay? You want sex with another man and you enjoy it. ".

[robindee36]

Since when does the admiration of beauty (or sexiness) dictate one's orientation. If a Tgirl looks pretty, what is the problem with saying so. If it was a GG, the compliments would be equally non-orientation specific.

I have no, read it NO desire to engage in intimacy with a man, whether en-femme or drab. However, I will always be quick to offer a compliment to a nice looking CD. I enjoy being in their company and they in mine. What does that make me??? HAPPY ;)

Or am I missing something here???

Hugs all you pretty CD's. Robin

[Linda Leigh]

LMAO @ Lorileah

[Darcy]

You are the best. Cant think of anyone I would want to meet in person but you .Love your commments your attidude and your freedom to be you. Love ya girl. Pittsburgh girl looking for truth. I think I found it lol

[Megan70]

I like complimenting other CD's ( not 'girls' I have problems with that phoney euphemism), as I like to be complimented myself by them. you, here, and GG's I run into in stores who I tell. Feeds the ego and tells you you're doing something right with makeup, wigs, clothing and deportment. My :2c: guys( generic- androgenic)

[Marleena]

Not necessarily, Jennifer. I have posted similar comments, but not with the true intention or desire to do them.
PS: From Lorileah, which says it all, "How to tell if you are gay? You want sex with another man and you enjoy it. ".


Lol.. Allie if you said you wanted to do me I'd take it as a compliment and not homophobic like either but I am TS.:) It's kinda like "wow you are sexy" or "you're hot".

I think some of us get way too uptight here and that was the point of this thread.

[candydawn75]

I think it does make you gay.... but the next time you belch or scratch yourself in public you turn back straight.... there's just that window of vulnerability between the two you have to keep your panties on! lol

Now that is CLASSIC!!

[Kate Simmons]

Nope. When someone looks nice I will tell them plain and simple. That includes both guys and girls dressed as women. I would probably be lying if I said I didn't fantasize about some of the gorgeous guys here but isn't that part of the point in wanting to look nice?:)

[Lori B]

heck,,,,,,I'd do me,,,,oh wait,,,theres that black hole-conundrum thing again :doh::heehee: . Anywho,when flipping thru the forum and I see someone pretty,,,I compliment,,,,,sometimes I get a warm,fuzzy feeling :o

[Erica Marie]

If you are in man mode and you tell you buddy that pitched a perfect game that he looked great on the mound. It doesnt make you gay. You mearly complimented him. Same here, if somone looks attractive and you want to give them a compliment then that is what you are doing. On the other hand if you see a cd and say " omg you are sexy and I know you are a man, I wanna jump your bones" well then you might want to reconsider your sexuality. I am bi sexual, I think. Not towards regular men but other tgs and cds. Looking at their pictures did not make me that way. I was pretty much born this way. Not a decision I made. Trust me going through life pure hetero would be alot easier.

[Barbara Dugan]

Interesting, I am gay and that is the reason I rarely compliment on picture gallery area, I really don't want to give a wrong signal because the Straight and non straight CD may think I am attracted to them and I am not really attracted to either one

[Deedee Skyblue]

LMAO I don't recall any comments like "I want to do you" in the gallery.

I remember several replies along those lines. Probably couldn't find them again easily, but it has happened occasionally.

Deedee

[Lainie]

Complimenting people never ever makes you gay--it just shows you are considerate!

Wanting to have sex with people of the same gender makes you gay.

[Jenny CD]

What's wrong with complimenting someone on their looks, make-up, abilities, athletic attributes, shoes, dress, skirts and tops or musical talents... etc? Shouldn't even be an issue...

[stacycoral]

Wow, many comments here, wow I think personally that if a girl here looks great dress, and you can tell that they really tried to look as a woman at the best they can, I will tell them, yes several girls here if you did not know see the picture here you would never have know that they were not a GG, but never dream of them or think about sex with them, just great they show the rest of us girls how great they feel about how they looks as a woman, hug Marleena,

[Tracii G]

Nope not in my opinion.

[heatherdress]

I think complimenting someone for pitching a perfect game and looking good on the mound does make you gay. Responses to posted pictures on this site does not. But if you compliment a CDer's picture on this site who also pitched a perfect game - that leaves me confused.

[whowhatwhen]

How to tell if you are gay? You want sex with another man and you enjoy it.

I'd say if other dudes give you a boner, but then again these both go hand in hand.
Except that you don't need to have sex for your orientation to be defined.

Interestingly I've read a bunch of comments in the past where guys would say that a girl isn't really bi unless she has actual sex with another woman.
Of course bi guys are gay no matter what and 99% of gay girls are doing it for attention or "daddy issues".

Even funnier is that even some in the gay community can believe that line of thinking.

On topic:
I just don't look at women that way so I'm not sure I'm affected.
...Unless she was a bit aggressive and a to- nevermind...
ahem.

[Rogina B]

Interesting, I am gay and that is the reason I rarely compliment on picture gallery area, I really don't want to give a wrong signal because the Straight and non straight CD may think I am attracted to them and I am not really attracted to either one
And you know that I have told you countless times that I would do you..but you continue to want a manly man...lol

[RenneB]

Great comments and the only thing that I can offer is that when I post now a days, I post to give other girls the confidence to get out and about. I may have begun looking for compliments, but now it's just to show others what it's like to be dressed in the world and to come out and join the other 'daywalkers' among us.......

Renne.....

[DameErrant]

I often find myself attracted to the girls in the pictures, but I realize that it's the illusion of femininity that I am attracted to, not what's underneath. That's why it does not make me gay, because it is the feminine to which I am attracted. So I can compliment or appreciate the ladies whose pictures I see on this forum with no insecurity, (or insincerity,) at all.

[Amy R Lynn]

I look at other women (CD's and GG's alike) and have given many compliments. I don't think telling someone that you like how they look or something that they are wearing would mean you are gay. If you are a man, and you like looking at other men and become aroused, then that would probably mean you could be a bit gay. I don't think admiring anyone means anything other than you have a sense of fashion!

[ReineD]

I think some of us get way too uptight here and that was the point of this thread.

Duh. And here I was, not having seen the other thread, thinking that you were asking a genuine question. :facepalm:

[ME2.0]

I look at sexuality as standing on a football field. Gay is in one end zone. Straight is in the other. Bi is somewhere near the 50 yard line. Very few people are absolutley in the straight end zone, as there is always some notice of who in a room is handsome and who is not, but not very many are completely in the Gay end zone either as a lot of people who claim to be gay find female performers as sexy. Everyone stands somewhere on the field. I'm closer to the straight side, but not in the end zone either.

Just my opinions,

Hugs,
Staci

[Marleena]

Duh. And here I was, not having seen the other thread, thinking that you were asking a genuine question. :facepalm:

LMAO...it's okay Reine I liked your answer anyways.. It might be genuine to some people that are wondering what's going on with them. You know the question or comments we hear about TG girls being attractive. It worries some members because we have some real pretty "girls" here that can make a straight guy even question his sexuality. We need to remember most guys are very visual oriented.

Moral of the story we need to lighten up and not worry so much.:)

[Juliea661]

Hi Marleena, great question. Me? Gosh, if a person here is presenting as an attractive female, I complement and admire her as an attractive female, just as I would an attractive GG. So gay? Nope.
So I suppose, like everything in life, what you see depends on the lens you are looking through.
Hugs Jules

[renee elizabeth]

I believe the only thing that truly makes a person gay is if they desire to have intimate relations with another member of thier gender. Thats never been me. There is nothing wrong with complementing someones pictures. :)

[Ellie52]

We compliment each other because we are a community, a family. I comment on what my wife is wearing and Ill tell her she looks nice. I respect other members the same, and I hope other members treat me the same. Its not gay its polite. A huge difference......Ellie

[Taylor Ray]

Yes. Whenever you click on an image or link with your mouse, a neurological pattern of gayness transubstantiates into your neo-cortex.
HELLO! SUPER GAY!

[Stephanie47]

When a forum member does an exceptional job of making himself look like a woman, I feel a compliment should be offered. There have been a wide range of presentations on this site. Some are drop dead gorgeous creatures. Some look like attractive woman a person would encounter in everyday life. Basically, their presentations run the spectrum of society. Making an observation does not make me a gay man.

Does complimenting a male friend or acquaintance on his appearance (physique, attire, etc) make me gay?

[Laurie A]

Marleena: "Just put me in the I don't care category. Much ado about nothing.lol."


Nothing can make you gay.
You're either born gay, or not.


That reminds me of an old saying.

"Some were born gay, some achieve gayness and some have gayness thrust upon them."

(errr apologies to Shakespeare, Twelfth Night not Much Ado About Nothing)

[NicoleScott]

It must be a guy thing, thinking that complimenting a guy (even one beautifully transformed) makes you gay. We almost never hear a guy say "he's really handsome" about another guy, but women do it all the time about other women and aren't accused of being lesbian. I hear my wife saying other women are pretty, and she says that about CDers, too. After almost 20 years of marriage, it seems that her identity and sexual preference are pretty normal.

[oliviall]

How about how you react to a complement? If you feel warm and fuzzy inside when you receive a complement from (insert whatever description here), does that mean you are gay?

Obviously no, but I've come across some for whom it seems to feel threatening. Yes, I am answering my own question :)

[Marleena]

Good reply Olivia, I mean what girl doesn't like compliments?:)

Like I said earlier sometimes we worry too much...

[Marleena]

The homophobic/straight-married-dad mentality around here is getting really tiresome.

BINGO that was what prompted this thread!!

[Eryn]

Well, there is of course the Straight-married-dad-phobic mentality as well.

Folks, why do some of us have to be divisive? I can be a straight married dad (which I am) and state it without being "homophobic." It is indeed possible to support the entire GLBT spectrum without being gay and it is tiresome to see people in various parts of the spectrum accusing people in other parts of the spectrum of intolerance. We have plenty of enemies out there and we don't need to waste energy nit-picking each other!

[Tamara Croft]

The homophobic/straight-married-dad mentality around here is getting really tiresome.Damn right, the holier than thou attitudes on this forum make me so mad sometimes. I just don't understand it, we're supposed to be a support forum to support everyone here, but some people just think they are right and that's it... they aren't right... :rolleyes:

[FeliciaCDSNJ]

A compliment is a compliment, does not matter whether it's from a guy or girl, don't have to take it any other way.

[Kelly Smith]

I post pics in which I try to look like a GG. As long as it is honest, I appreciate both positive and negative feedback. Compliments are great but they tell me nothing about the commenter's social proclivities. We are playing at pretending we are women. A sincere compliment says only that we more or less succeeded.

[Druscilla Supernovae]

Of course not. I compliment others all the time and I know for sure I'm not gay. I've just given up on women.

[Lola Wants]

Hi Marleena,

I agree with ReineD, and add "from a New GG SO" perspective, I have no problem with my SO commenting on any ones level of attractiveness (whether that attractive person in question is MTF CD, TS, GG, GM, anyone, etc.)

I have been known to comment (frequently) about people I think are attractive that my SO and I see out and about (the grocery store, walking by, in a restaurant, anywhere) ...but it does not mean that I am attracted to them in a sexual manner. To me it's just an acknowledgement of something you like i.e. a persons outfit, their hair, even something I myself might want to emulate in the future. Quite frankly I enjoy hearing what my SO finds attractive on other women and other CDs,,, it make it easier for me to shop for him :) because I then know what he likes, hehe.

[Marleena]

Thanks for that Lola. Nice to hear another GG's view.:)

[Jocelyn Quivers]

I'll compare admiring and responding to pictures in the gallery to a typical college sports team weight room or locker room in which I spent lots of time during my college days. I'll also try and answer this without sounding too gay or anything, because my heterosexual membership could possibly be revoked. When in male mode during my heavy lifting days not only I but several other guys would often compliment how we looked body wise.

By complimenting someone on their pecs, biceps, triceps, abs, calves, thighs, overall physique and strength. Now in giving the compliments and in receiving there was no sexual attraction involved. The compliments were based out of a true respect and admiration to the persons dedication to muscle development.

At no point was I fantasizing about taking long hot showers with my lifting partners while giving them congrats. I will just assume they had the same thoughts when giving me compliments, although they might have really been attracted to me which I would not have had no issues or problems with because I did not have any attraction towards guys. Now putting this into the gallery comments sections, it's basically the same thing, when I give compliments it is again towards respecting the effort, dedication, and hard work that the member has put into their presentation.

Obviously my terminology will be more subdued with a lot less testosterone and at least will be attempting to replicate a more feminized praise. For example the weight room compliment. "Yo dog, flex again, man you are Diesel Bro!! Man yo, you got a 6 pack going on there, flex again!! Come to think that actually sounded very gay,:eek: oh well exclusive heterosexual club membership.

Versus the Gallery compliment, "I really love your dress in that picture, you also have a gorgeous smile. You have legs to die for and I love your shoes I am so jealous!!

[Lynn Marie]

Funny thing is that I see my CD girlfriends as girls. Of course I know the truth, I just don't acknowledge it when we're all out dressed. None of us really wants to see the others in drab. It's a well done illusion and we all like it that way!

[AmyGaleRT]

I compliment ladies on their pictures in the pictures forum all the time. I also love getting compliments when I post pictures there.

I don't see it as "gay." I'm in my "Amy" mindset when making my comments, so I see it as just one lady complimenting another, nothing sexual intended. I do try to focus on specific elements, such as the style of a lady's outfit, or the way her dress flatters her figure, or her shoes, or her jewelry, or makeup, or hair, or the way she's posed. That's especially true if I can relate it to my own experience in some way, such as "I would totally wear that dress!" or "I have a pair of shoes a lot like that!" or "I like the big, dangly earrings, too!" or "I wish I could get my eyeliner to look like that!"

It's the same sort of phenomenon as I encounter when I go to my monthly meetups: I don't see myself or anyone in the pictures as "men," I see us all as women.

- Amy

[Jillian Faith]

No, it does not. What makes you gay is the desire to have sex with someone of the same sex. If you want sex with men and women, you're bisexual and if you want sex with someone of the opposite sex, you're heterosexual.

Commenting on how people look or are dressed has nothing to do with it.

Exactly


I think it does make you gay.... but the next time you belch or scratch yourself in public you turn back straight.... there's just that window of vulnerability between the two you have to keep your panties on! lol

Now that's funny


I think you have to sex male on male 7 times to be gay. Any less than that you are just experimenting. And if you swear off gay sex for 1 year you have to re-audition and get three letters of recommendation from other gay people except in June which is National Gay and Lesbian month where all applicants can be accepted if they march in a parade. Other criteria are Screaming in a high pitch "Oh My Gawd Girl!" and saying "Oh no you diint go there", putting your forefinger to your chin and softly saying "Um hmmm" when a construction guy walks by, clapping really fast with your hands in a praying position, knowing ALL the jumps in Olympic skating (and saying Oh gawd I wish he would lift ME with his hand there, he wouldn't need to hold very tight", watching "What Not To Wear" and agreeing with the hosts, ordering any drink with an umbrella and attending and actually staying awake through Evita (extra points for thinking Madonna was the ULTIMATE!).

How to tell if you are gay? You want sex with another man and you enjoy it.

OMG I think I just peed my panties

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Marleena, When I compliment someone on this forum I see them as a lady not a guy in a dress.

[Princess Chantal]

Hi Marleena, When I compliment someone on this forum I see them as a lady not a guy in a dress.

I don't really know why but it brings a special joy to me when people compliment me without acknowledging me as a lady, woman or a female. Not to mention that I feel more comfortable in responding to the compliment. The best compliment ever made to me was by a straight male friend in the local kink/bdsm community - "When you are dressed as PC, you make one sexy guy with hot legs" (PC is abreviation nickname given by that community)

[Laurie A]

Damn right, the holier than thou attitudes on this forum make me so mad sometimes. I just don't understand it, we're supposed to be a support forum to support everyone here, but some people just think they are right and that's it... they aren't right... :rolleyes:

I'm glad to see a few others agree. I posted a reply earlier to this thread trying to make light of it, but I find it hard to imagine myself, a genetic male, sitting at my pc wearing a dress, and worrying if a compliment I wrote on this board will be perceived as "gay"....

[CrossJess]

Commenting on how people look or are dressed has nothing to do with it.

Very true, If man can pass complements on another man but is not gay then I see it as he's very comfortable with his sexuality and only decent quality men are like that...sadly they are very few and far between as most are narrow minded when it comes to compliments & sexuality, I'm bisexual so lol obviously it doesn't affect me if I think a man's attractive I will say it to his face.

[Amanda M]

Complimenting someone on their appearance has nothing to do with being straight, gay, bisexual or trisexual. As a male, I am perfectly capable of noticing how another male could look good and be attractive to women. Problem for me was that when I was in the dating market, there were too damned many of them around!

So lets drop the guilt and appreciate!

[~Joanne~]

Recall the Van Morrison line about all the girls dressed up for each other? Well, it's just like that I think. We dress to look attractive, and post photos here (well, I haven't yet) to see what others here think. We seek and grant approval of one another's appearance. Sex has nothing to do with it.

I agree with this 100%. I appreciate the time that it took for a sister to get fully done up and take a few pictures to share. If the outfits or appearance is good I take the time to tell them that they look good but there is no sexual attraction there. Getting jealous that a girl has a pair of heels I would like to have or has better legs than I do also warrants a response but that isn't sexual either in my book. Women compliment other women all the time, why shouldn't we?

[Frédérique]

Does complimenting other girls in the photo gallery make you gay? Just put me in the I don't care category.

It’s complicated. If a male is attracted to a male dressed as a woman, I don’t think you can see that as a GAY attraction, especially if the MtF crossdresser is putting himself (herself) forward AS a woman. There’s a lot of discussion on this site about actually becoming a woman, or feeling like one, or some variation thereof, when you dress, so it follows that you have theoretically and temporarily left your birth gender behind. If a heterosexual male sees an image of a female, no matter what the actual gender of that person might be, he is “acting” as a heterosexual…

However, what if a crossdressed male compliments another MtF crossdresser, based on her pictures? It may be just a compliment, knowing full well how difficult it is to achieve such a transformation, or the person may simply sympathize with the other crossdresser and tell her what she longs to hear. On the other hand, if a non-crossdressed male compliments another non-crossdressed male, even though one or both may be crossdressers in their alternate world, I think it’s safe to say that that qualifies as a compliment with homosexual overtones…

Personally, I don’t look at the picture gallery, probably because I DO care. I don’t have any pictures there, even though I could. I’ve received many compliments that I would say were “gay” in nature, but I welcomed them. Imagination is a wonderful thing, you know…
:battingeyelashes:

[AllieSF]

Sorry Freddy, I totally disagree with "On the other hand, if a non-crossdressed male compliments another non-crossdressed male, even though one or both may be crossdressers in their alternate world, I think it’s safe to say that that qualifies as a compliment with homosexual overtones…" I am straight, not that there is anything wrong with that, and have complimented other men on their looks, physiques, hair styles and clothing selections. So, now you are telling me that those compliments qualifies me to be considered as gay? Or, explain what you mean by "gay overtones". Please clarify.

[5150 Girl]

You're only gay if when you "look under the hood" you hope to find a stick shift... ;)

[Marleena]

Thanks for the great replies girls, you never disappoint.:) Most of you caught on to the light hearted nature of this thread.

You see the majority of us do not care if you're gay, Bi, lez, straight or whatever. Being MTF/FTM is the final frontier in gender issues and the least understood anyways. Also remember you just don't suddenly turn gay although you may find you're bi when dressed and feeling like a lady.:)

So if I ever post pictures again in the photo gallery you better compliment them! Hell you can even hit on me if you want but don't overdo it.:) Oh and if get get excited seeing a picture of you as a girl I won't worry because I'm secure in my own sexuality and I'm not a creeper.lol. It just means you're convincing. Let's just have fun!

[linda allen]

When I come here, I am mentally a female, and usually dressed as such. So If I see a photo and find that person attractive, it's not in a sexual way.

Does that make sense? :idontknow:

Mostly, it's how you look as a female. How well you appear to "pass".

[Marleena]

Of course it does Linda.. I think some here just get too uptight. Some of the younger girls may just be discovering and exploring their sexuality. Most of us older chicks have found our place. Besides a fantasy is just a fantasy.

[Angie G]

I think it would depend on how you find them attractive.If you like what you see and just say that look very nice your straight. if you look and say I'd like to have that you may be gay hun.:hugs:
Angie

[Marleena]

Ah but Angie I'm TS so if I get turned it makes me straight. I'm lesbian so it does get confusing sometimes.:)

[ME2.0]

Considering that we're men wearing high-heels, skirts, makeup and bras, are we really going to put down people who live other alternative lifestyles? Are we really in a position to bash gays and worry that we may be one?

If crossdressing has taught me anything, it's that we should all be a little more tollerant.

Hugs,
Staci

[MysticLady]

If crossdressing has taught me anything, it's that we should all be a little more tollerant.

Hugs,
Staci

It has and it continues to teach me. That's why I love it. I'm learning about myself now. Regarding Homosexuality, it runs in our blood. Some stronger than others. I believe it is a part of all of humanity. It's like anything else. I can yell out that I can't stand infidelity in others but, in my mind, I'm in a harem of women and /or men. What's the difference what sex you end up with? It's just a preference, that's all.

[Deedee Skyblue]

When I go to a wedding and all my male friends are dressed in suits and have made an extra effort to look good (or their SOs made sure they looked good) and I say, 'Hey, Benny, you look great today!' am I gay?

Deedee

[ME2.0]

On the other hand, the idea of a guy looking at my picture and becoming gay because of it, is kind of a power trip, so ummm, yeah, if you look at my pic and think your gay, you definately are. My work here is done...LOL

Hugs,
Staci

[AllieSF]

When I go to a wedding and all my male friends are dressed in suits and have made an extra effort to look good (or their SOs made sure they looked good) and I say, 'Hey, Benny, you look great today!' am I gay?

Deedee

Yes, Deedee, you definitely are. Just be careful it is very contagious.

[whowhatwhen]

I caught it from a filthy airport bathroom. Be safe.

[Marleena]

Success......

[SophieKitty]

I don't think that having sexual feelings for a transexual or a CD makes you gay. Being of the same gender makes you gay. The women here if they identify as women, and look female, and if they feel female are female IMO. I look at some of the transformations here and without naming names I'm very attracted to *looks down at floor and blushes* I could quite easily be happy to be in a healthy sexual relationship with them and depending if I was Sophie or not, I'd either be a gay female or a straight male having a relationship with a very attractive female, even if they have male genitalia, to me genitalia doesn't makith the woman, even if traditionally it does. Of course if they wanted to still identify as a man, then I guess I'd be bi-sexual - and that's fine too :) Anyway I may be talking crazy, who knows.

And TBH there's nothing wrong with being gay.

[whowhatwhen]

Success......

I dunno... He doesn't look very gay to me.
No gay man would be caught dead in a wifebeater.

[Marleena]

The message is...

[Nicole Erin]

Considering that we're men wearing high-heels, skirts, makeup and bras, are we really going to put down people who live other alternative lifestyles? Are we really in a position to bash gays and worry that we may be one?

If crossdressing has taught me anything, it's that we should all be a little more tollerant.

Hugs,
Staci

If I were allowed to say freely how hot Staci's legs look in the avatar, I would be considered a perv. I mean they are like a mile long and black nylon. Can you imagine if... oh nevermind, I am starting to sound gay.

[AllieSF]

Nicole, welcome to our world. Gay is gay and fun too!

[giuseppina]

Answering the original question: I don`t know why it would.

[ME2.0]

I'm straight, but I find crossdressers sexy, so go figure. I hate labels... And by the way Nicole--thanks, you made my night. Hard not to go to bed with a smile tonight.

Thanks, and hugs,
Staci

[nikkid]

It doesn't really matter what label you put on it....but it is completely natural for a heterosexual guy to be attracted to what he perceives to be female visual stimuli. When I'm admiring some of the beautiful women here I am seeing a woman, NOT a man.

[Trishpdxcd2]

Call it what you want but I am very attracted to the girls here.

[Lacy PJs]

I think the key is in one's understanding of the word "attraction." You can be attracted to something or someone for a variety of reasons. I might be attracted to a car because of the advanced engineering built in to it. You might be attracted because of the unusual color and yet someone else might be attracted by the luxuries built into it. Yet, none of us may actually want to drive it because it has a stick shift! So it's not the attraction but the reason for the attraction.

Maybe instead of attraction, appreciation is a better term. I appreciate the efforts of many who post in the photos section because they have achieved a level of appearance that many of us will never get close to. But, no, I'm not "attracted" to that person because I know what is behind that image... and, at least from a physical standpoint, I'm not interested at all.

Lacy PJs

[Jaymees22]

Hi, I feel like I'm complimenting another woman and there is nothing sexual about it. I also like to get compliments, who doesn't? Jaymee

[jenni_xx]

In regards to the OP's question - YES, it makes you completely gay. Just as it makes every single women who complements a female gay. "sarcasm alert".

Ok, in all seriousness, and excusing my previous sentence, which was deliberately provocative, but said tongue-in-cheek, the very first reply you received in this thread answered your question succinctly. Dawn03 (the first person to reply) hit the nail firmly on the head. Commenting on another person, be it positively or negatively, does not make a person gay, straight, whatever.

All it does say is an ability for an individual to recognise positive things in another person. No more no less. A compliment need not ever come from a sexual perspective. A cigar is just a cigar. If a person looks good, then they look good. Doesn't mean that you want to go to bed with them.

Personally, I applaud those who are able to say outloud - "that person looks good".

[sometimes_miss]

I don't think so; it's pretty much just nice to know that there are other people out there who know what we're going through. Although, when we look like linebackers in a dress, it's pretty much obvious that people are just telling us kind lies.

[ME2.0]

Call it what you want but I am very attracted to the girls here.

Trishwanabcd: With legs like those, you're admired by the girls here!

[whowhatwhen]

We're all gay down here.

[ME2.0]

What if you turn the arguement on it's head. If you view yourself as a woman when you're dressed, and you compliment other girls in the photo gallery, does that make you lesbian?

Food for thought

Staci

[DanielleT]

Not at all,

At the gym I work out at, there are lots of full body shaves, lots of shaved legs. I might the only on there, but I wear nail polish on my toes and panties to boot. No one has ever complained.

[Alice Torn]

Marleena, I must say, that you look fabulous in your avatar! Love the combo, and hair, and great legs. You did a great job of portraying a lady!

[whowhatwhen]

All jokes aside there is a quick gay test you can do at home!

Ask yourself honestly and truthfully if you attracted to men in their manly form.
If yes, congrats! You're either gay or bisexual! If not then you're not going to last long in gayland due to the whole "not finding your partner attractive" thing.

You can argue till the cows come home about being attracted to transpeople and or what they're packing but in the end if you're not attracted to the same sex then you won't have a fun time identifying as gay.
I'd say that wanting some CD dong may not make you gay, but it doesn't make you 100% "straight" either.

To make a more graphic point because lol:
A guy could have his wife's arm in his small intestine every Friday night yet still be more straight than anyone making arbitrary rules of gayness on the internet.
Let's all just hump and be humped by who we like and leave it at that. :)

[Princess Grandpa]

This thread cracks me up! Sitting here in our dresses, panties, and bras, wearing wigs and breast forms, wondering if complimenting another CD makes us gay?

Hug
Rita

[joanna4]

It does not. I do it from time to time and I'm not gay. I'm not saying being a gay is a negative thing, if I was gay I would be ok with it. Similar to me being a crossdresser.

[Marleena]

Marleena, I must say, that you look fabulous in your avatar! Love the combo, and hair, and great legs. You did a great job of portraying a lady!

Thanks so much Alice! You are seeing the real me there.:)

[Amanda63]

When I first started dressing I assumed in the back of my mind that I must be either Gay or Bi by definetion that I wanted to atract the attention of men by looking like a girl and through out the years as I felt more feminine I assumed this as the truth, but as time passed and I struggled with this so called truth I would binge and purge my need to feel feminine. Now I understand that this need is really just for me and not a sexual outlet at all which has been a great relief. I just want to feel feminine for me and no one else...

[CassandraSmith]

Nope, it doesn't make you gay. To me, it's really weird because I really am definitely intriqued with some of the girls here because their presentation is just amazing and I tend to gush. It's the same with certain guitar players for me, I can easily become a fanboy and have no cool if I'm not careful. I don't want sex with them though, unless they're female and hot that is!

[GeorgeA]

No, it does not. What makes you gay is the desire to have sex with someone of the same sex. If you want sex with men and women, you're bisexual and if you want sex with someone of the opposite sex, you're heterosexual.

Commenting on how people look or are dressed has nothing to do with it.

Ditto. Well said.

[Leona]

I think what makes you gay is the desire to fall in love, have sex, and marry someone of the same sex, and it completely excludes the possibility of doing so with the opposite sex. Likewise, being straight means you want to fall in love, have sex, and marry someone of the opposite sex.

Whether you want to get married or not is irrelevant, it's about who you want to spend the rest of your life with.

For me, that's a woman. GG or "woman with a past", that much is all the same to me (So yes, I'd marry a TS who's transitioned with surgery and everything, provided we wanted to be together forever and ever). I couldn't marry a TF, because the guy mode whenever we're no in the bedroom would drive me crazy, but I could totally sleep with a TF. Lots of things I could do with guys, too. But I never want to spend the rest of my life with a guy....

I'd classify being bisexual (smack in the middle of the spectrum) as someone who would like to fall in love, have sex, and marry someone of any sex and/or gender. My definition of "bisexual" probably better fits "pansexual", but I think the terminology is really watered down.

I prefer someone (such as my wife) to say "I'm a bit bi, but prefer to be with men" rather than to tell me they're completely bi but have no interest in marrying a woman.

Too often we get too hung up on who we want to have sex with that we forget the larger part of the question, you know, the part that involves romance, buying a house together, etc.

Now, does it make you gay to compliment a man presenting female? No. It doesn't make you bi in any way either. If you look at the picture and see yourself on a date with that person, knowing they have a penis, then you're probably shifted a bit off the "completely hetero" post.

Likewise, it doesn't mean you want to cheat on your wife if you tell another woman she looks attractive in her dress, or tank top, or whatever. There's nothing wrong with tastefully complimenting someone on their appearance. It also doesn't make you gay if you compliment a man on what he's wearing and how he looks.

On a certain level, we all have an idea what we think looks good. If you're dressing in drab, but dressing up for the occasion (wearing a tux for a wedding, for example), you'll look in the mirror, comb your hair, etc, and do everything you can to look as good as you can. You can't do THAT without having some idea what you think is attractive for a man in drab. Applying those same standards to deliver a compliment to another man doesn't make you gay, it makes you someone who likes to compliment people when they look good. :)

[ArleneRaquel]

No, you are just complimenting well attired & groomed lovely young ladies. If they are really males so what ?

[Marleena]

No, you are just complimenting well attired & groomed lovely young ladies. If they are really males so what ?


Exactly my thoughts Arlene. :)

[Karen kc]

No, it dosnt make anyone gay. Just a comment hopefully in good taste.

[NicoleScott]

Most people say "no", and that's good. Otherwise, dictionaries would have to add "and complimenting other crossdressers" to the definition of gay/homosexual.