Why do you cross-dress?

[CrossJess]

:o Hi peeps

Just a simple one really, I'm interest in what crossdressing does for you

I've seen a lot of everyone pictures here in the gallery section and I'm simply stunned at how good everyone looks, personally mine is a bit of an odd one but to start with i'm bisexual & light crossdresser but more so for a sexual purpose, I parading around the house in girly clothes and lol generally acting like a girl I hope what I'm writing here isn't against forum rules but I hope I'm not the only one:sad:, on the outside world I couldn't be more manly I like cars and all that etc, yet when I put on extremely girly clothes it's the complete opposite and it makes me feel like a girly girl it;s almost like you become a different person.....lol a girl! and the girl that makes me is one that likes to dominated and bossed about!, this is where my sexually comes in I think because it has to be a man doing that.

[NicoleScott]

Jess, many of us are like you, that is, we're manly at times and girly at times. I think that's what allows many wives & SO's to accept our CDing - we can have enjoyment (sexual or otherwise) by CDing but when it's time to be a man, husband, dad, handyman, sportsman, etc., we do that, too. For many of us, we are pretty normal guys the majority of the time, but like to dress up occasionally.
Sexual preferences and activities may or may not involve CDing and is between you and your partner(s), if any. haha
I don't know what it is or was that made me want to crossdress.

[Sarah Beth]

I have no idea why I want to crossdress, I just know that it gives me a certain comfortable feeling to allow that female in me to shine through. In male mode I would hate to be cleaning and doing other types of housework but when I'm dressed I don't mind it so much (but come on who really likes to dust and vacumn!). Plust I get into different moods when dressing. For example I hate doing the bookwork for my business, but somehow it makes it a lot more tolerable if I put on my fem business attire to do it.

Is there a sexual component to all of this. Not all the time for me, and I must admit, a lot less so thatn when I was younger.

[CrossJess]

I think mine all stems from growing up in the 80s and all the glamrock, I'm a great fan of David Bowie, I found him fascinating dressed womanly and bits of shinny stuff hanging off and all that jazz and all woman looked great in that era too, I think it plays a big part in the way I've turned out, when ever we go out to disco's 9 times out of 10 I'm dressed as Ziggy Stardust, it's the only time I will dress lady like on the out side world but get away with it:)

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Jess, It's just who I am and it's what I do.

[Tina B.]

I dress to keep my head on straight.

[Lynn Marie]

Why do I cross dress? I have a ton of silly glib answers to this really profound question, but no factual answers. It's just something inside me.

[ronda]

I dress because I have done it all of my life and I enjoy looking prettyand I love high heels Hugs Ronda

[Linda Leigh]

It is something I have done off and on for 50 years. I feel different when dressed :)

[MysticLady]

:thinking:Cause I feel like it:D

[Candice Mae]

It's just who I am, I get dressed and just go about my day as I normally would. Except for picture days which I spend most of the day changing and taking pictures, its the best way to evaluate my self. If there was a scale where 0 was fetish dressing and 10 was TS, I would be an eight. I've always felt that I was different then "normal" guys...

[CynthiaD]

I crossdress to feel normal.

[Zylia]

Well the clothes aren't going to wear themselves.

But to be honest, it's just the little pink voices in my head that tell me to do it. There have been a few interesting conversations in threads this week about where these voices may come from.

[Beverley Sims]

I dress,
Ars gratia Artis.

[cyndigurl45]

Warning S. A. A. :-) I quite cross dressing when I stopped being male ;-)

[Erica Marie]

Actually a twist here. When I am in male mode is when I am really crossdressing. Sure I was born with male parts but if it would be ok for me to wear girls cloths I would, so who honestly made up the rules on what we must wear? Maybe all men are really in the wrong cloths. Hmmmm, I never thought about it that way.

[Anita_2]

I don't know what it is that made me want to crossdress but I think it is sexual component to me (make me feel good and sexy) and I am straight so CD is not in connection with bisexual orientation why is so I don't know.

[Dani0948]

I cd to feel good. When i put on a dress i feel relaxed, happy, and girly. The more girly things i wear, the better it feels. I don't understand it, and i don't really care why, i just enjoy.

[Tracii G]

One its fun and two it lets me step out of my male side and into my female side.
Being able to cross genders is a gift not many people get.

[ellieg]

I don't know what drives me to crossdress, but I know it makes me feel good. I enjoy my male persona as well, but being able to experience and express my feminine side is a great joy in my life.

[Jenniferathome]

.... and the girl that makes me is one that likes to dominated and bossed about!, this is where my sexually comes in I think because it has to be a man doing that.

I think you have confused "girly" and "submissive." Girls and/or women are not simply "submissive."

[Gretchen_To_Be]

For me the primary driver is the visual stimulation of seeing my legs shaved, and in a pair of sheer hose, with beautiful heels on my feet. That is what I always found most attractive about women, and rather than just observe, I wanted to experience it. Seeing my legs look feminine is erotic and exciting. Even more fascinating is seeing my legs in the same hose and heels as my wife. I hope to improve my image over time above the waist. I think I will go to a transformation service eventually because the whole wig/makeup effort seems daunting right now.

[z.kasia]

+1 Agree, it is just who I am and I enjoy being me
I cd to feel good. When i put on a dress i feel relaxed, happy, and girly. The more girly things i wear, the better it feels. I don't understand it, and i don't really care why, i just enjoy.

[suchacutie]

The beginning was a series of accidental steps that allowed us to identify Tina. The rest has been an obsessive curiosity to know this part of me. How can one live normally while denying a major part of one's self? This eexploration has been a joint project between me and my wife. As has been mentioned, having part of my life remain as a "normal guy and husband has gone a long way to helping Tina to be more of a natural extension of our life together.

[Cheryl T]

Just a simple one??

OMG, I have thought about this one for almost 60 years and still don't have an answer. Were it only that simple.
I just know that I feel complete this way. It's not an escape, it's not to relax, it's just to be me. I suppose that on the Benjamin scale I'm probably a bit closer to TS than anything else, but not far enough that I have that driven need to transition.
But WHY? When I find the answer I'll let you all know.

[ninadiva]

I agree with Erica Marie. While I am sitting here in my office in male jeans, Tshirt and sweater, all drab colors, I am wearing the wrong clothes. Cannot wait for tomorrow when in girls pink ankle length sneakers instead of size 8 mens brown sneakers. Skinny stretch denim jeans, Favorite purple top and purple fleece. Same kinds of attire but completely the right trend for me. Pretty my face up, favorite wig and some blingy jewellery and Nina can relax and be content.

[Ressie]

Why was I so curious as an adolescent? I had an urge to try on my sister's dress, in fact I was compelled to do it. The sexual response was so intense that it's still a part of me after all these decades. I love women's clothes and I love women's bodies. Love their hairstyles, makeup, shoes - I have TS moments, but I'm really a fetish CD. Maybe it's a hyper-active imagination? It is an addiction that's for sure!

[Allison Quinn]

I identify as a female but for a few reasons I can not transition fully.
So doing this makes me feel a bit more correct :) and the anxiety goes away when I'm looked at and treated as a female.
I hate my body a little less when I do this much.

[Joanne.England]

I don't really know why! Other than it makes me feel good and relaxed. A little sexy as well. I started when I was young and stopped several times.

[MysticLady]

I think you have confused "girly" and "submissive." Girls and/or women are not simply "submissive."

Why do you cross-dress Jennifer? Honestly.

[Julie Denier]

I don't really know why! Other than it makes me feel good and relaxed. A little sexy as well.

That does it for me as well -- I'm absolutely happy being a guy otherwise ...

[Elle1946]

It relaxes me and lets me feel complete.

[Dianne S]

I find cross-dressing relaxing. I like the feel and look of women's clothes and jewelry and the feel and smell of makeup and perfume. I also like to feel pretty (which is odd, because as a guy I'm hardly concerned at all about my looks.)

[GroovyChristy]

I like women's clothing because it reflects my personality. I'm not stereotypically "manly" in any sense. I never cared for sports or being tough and macho. For the most part I have to do with guy clothes though, especially outerwear because I'm tall. I don't know where the tall GGs shop, but I would like to know.

[Sharon B.]

Like most on here it helps me relax and not to be stress out all of the time. Plus I like the feeling of wearing women's under-garments, dresses, skirts and tops, high heels, makeup and women's jewelry.

[robindee36]

I like the way I look; like the way I feel. Dressing is all good with me.

Hugs, Robin

[ArleneRaquel]

I adore being a femmefatale. I just love everything female I guess.

[Sister Rachel]

I just enjoy frills, lacy trim, the feel of little straps on my shoulders, the sensuous qualities of nylons worn under a nice skirt, all the usual stuff.... makes me feel more relaxed and true to myself .. when I'm in that mood .. :daydreaming: ..

[FeliciaCDSNJ]

For me it just feels right, plus I get to wear some really pretty clothes. Aldo I love to wear skirts, just so much more comfy!

[kimdl93]

I think Cheryl summed it up pretty well for me. I may not be the typical CD, whatever that is. Certainly, I dress to be true to the person I am inside, which certainly puts me more towards the TS side of the TG spectrum. I'm not driven to transition, but in all honesty I prefer and strive towards living outwardly as a woman.

[Jenniferathome]

Why do you cross-dress Jennifer? Honestly.

Because I am born to it. Honestly.

Submissiveness, the point of my earlier post, has NOTHING to do with it.

[fun4metoo2004]

For me? It is primarily the thrill of it and effects on my libido.

Too tall, too fat, too scared to do much more.

Maybe a trip to Vegas for a photo shoot someday.

[Aneline]

I like the way women's clothing feels on my body. I like the way I look when I dress up. It is sexually stimulating and sort of a stress relief.

[Juliea661]

Hi Jess, first let me say that after years of struggle with acceptance, I now strongly believe it is a gift to be transgender and experience both sexes, which I enjoy.
But why? First it was the thrill of doing something that was "out of bounds". Then it was sexual excitement. Then it was the mystery and magic of trying to emulate something that I admire: beautiful and sensuous women. And then it was just plain calming and FUN. And now? Now it is to express a part of me that seems so real and vital to who I am. And along with the last, and from a spiritual view, it is possibly to express my twin souls who reside in this old body for this life...
Hugs, Jules

[franlee]

I could go on and on adding up the effects and feelings but they are not the reason they are the bonuses, The reason is so simple it escapes me sometime, I want to! That simple, I don't have to and I don't lose myself if I don't, but I do enjoy it an "Chose To."

[NathalieX66]

I don't cross dress. Life to me is genderless. I express myself as I am. ........What you see is what you get.

[Julie1123]

Thank you for this thread.

[Emmalee]

Because It feels good and I like it. Instead of being neurotic and stressed out all the time, i'll dress up and just be fabulous.

[CrossJess]

I don't cross dress. Life to me is genderless. I express myself as I am. ........What you see is what you get.

That is a lovely way to look at it :)

[CrossJess]

I think you have confused "girly" and "submissive." Girls and/or women are not simply "submissive."

Jen, I think you might of misunderstood my thinking there, what I wrote was how it makes "me" feel inside when I dress like a woman, I like to be bossed about in the bed room by a man, I didnt say woman are submissive, but there are some woman and even men who like that and I feel like that too, I just like to play the role of the woman dominated by a sexy guy lol as I enjoy it, makes me feel special lol its hard to explain it but I hope you get what I mean.

[Cindia]

As near as I can tell, a part of me thinks I'm a teenage girl and and every now and then she takes over and makes me dress the part. The rest of me would let her take over more often if she could

[CrossJess]

As near as I can tell, a part of me thinks I'm a teenage girl and and every now and then she takes over and makes me dress the part. The rest of me would let her take over more often if she could


This is exactly how I feel, couldn't of said it better my self

[Raychel]

That is the true question, Why???

I wish I knew for sure, but that answer I do not have, But I do
know that I like the way the clothes feel and the way it make me feel good
when I get my time. So if you like it and it makes you feel good, then why not???

[Tawne]

To learn, feel, experience the other half I can never be.

[donnalee]

"I dress, therefore I am." (or is that putting Descarte before des horse?)

[sometimes_miss]

For me, crossdressing and wanting to be female is a knee jerk reaction to being lonely. LIke pavlov's dogs who salivate at the sound of a dinner bell even when no food comes, I dressed up in anticipation of physical contact even when none was coming. As a kid, the only physical contact with any one that wasn't beating me was with a child abuser. The amount of physical contact that you could even remotely call affection was limited, but that's all there was, as my parents and family was physically ice cold and remote, and used physical punishment rather than any positive things to get the kids to do what they wanted us to. So, I was conditioned throughout my childhood to connect affection with being dressed, and behaving, as a girl. Apparently when that happens during that stage of psychological development, it sort of becomes a permanent part of personality. So, I'm stuck with it. I have found that when in a stable relationship, or if I have any regular source of physical affection (not sex) the desire to crossdress is rare or non existent. Experimenting with this is becoming expensive, but I haven't dressed now for three months, with no ill effects other than my bank account (snuggling up to lap dancers is expensive). Up until being abused, I was pretty much a 'normal' boy.

[KarinaRae]

I found that I started playing with stockings when I was very young, around 8/9 years old. Ever since then the fetish for stockings has grown and I've loved nothing more than wearing them. This then expanded into high heels and then into cross-dressing.

I only dress up at home when I am alone, and have never gone out dressed. It's something that I do for myself - and hence I am yet to shave/wax the manlier parts of my body.

I am very closeted on this, and I would love nothing more than to burst out confident about my bi-sexuality and love of dressing up, but alas I don't think I will.

Oh, and seeing as I find it hard to get a girl, I find being the girl I want is more easier.

This is my first post, but I hope to post more, and maybe get the courage to post some photos soon too :)

[Samantha_Smile]

:o Hi peeps

Just a simple one really, I'm interest in what crossdressing does for you

I've seen a lot of everyone pictures here in the gallery section and I'm simply stunned at how good everyone looks, personally mine is a bit of an odd one but to start with i'm bisexual & light crossdresser but more so for a sexual purpose, I parading around the house in girly clothes and lol generally acting like a girl I hope what I'm writing here isn't against forum rules but I hope I'm not the only one:sad:, on the outside world I couldn't be more manly I like cars and all that etc, yet when I put on extremely girly clothes it's the complete opposite and it makes me feel like a girly girl it;s almost like you become a different person.....lol a girl! and the girl that makes me is one that likes to dominated and bossed about!, this is where my sexually comes in I think because it has to be a man doing that.


What dressing does for me?
MASSIVE chillout.
De stresses, calms, softens, eases my temper, feels bloody great!

[Amanda63]

It is sooo nice to drop the manly side and embrace the love of being Femme. The different textures of clothes, under garments, fragrances. Its like being a child all over again and having a do over... Feminizism Rocks

[MissJoanne]

What dressing does for me?
MASSIVE chillout.
De stresses, calms, softens, eases my temper, feels bloody great!

Samantha, it's interesting that you say that. Three months ago, I visited a therapist of my acquaintance as Joanne. Previously, she knew nothing of this. At the end of our session she told me two things:

1) When she realised who it was sitting in the waiting room, I was a hairsbreadth away from having to pick her up off the floor!

2) That session was the calmest she had ever seen me.

When I transform, I become a different person. The door closes on the 'drab' me. For that time, he doesn't exist, but Joanne does. Sounds like it's the same for you.

[KansasCityCD]

I'm new to this forum and I have to say that this is one of the questions I kind of want to figure out. I like reading your replies and I guess feeling a little less like I'm alone in this. I have to say that when I do it I just feel good. I love the feeling of the clothes, how I look, and most importantly, feeling happy. :).

[edith]

It's a compulsion. I just ... have to do it sometimes and if I don't I get irritable and depressed. It acts as a stress release mechanism. There was a sexual component to it during my teenage years, but that's mostly gone now.

[Evana]

I started to crossdress when I 10 or 11. I would wear my mom's clothes and try on her lipstick. It just felt...right. I did it then and I do it now because it feels right in every way.

[josrphine]

Hi All, First my parents dress me as a girl from birth to school age. Durning WW2 if there were no male children left in the family the ones that were married and did not have a male son were given a deferment. So after the war I was then shown as a male. The damage so to speak was down. I love being a women now as I have pretty much come out fully. My GG loves me more as a women but want me to keep big guy. Talking to Les, they use dildo so my GG has the best of both worlds. I am Bi an find men that like me very pleased with how i perform. JO

[sarah-cd]

For me, I think it's many things but the bottom line is that I feel far more relaxed wearing women's lingerie and clothing. Like many of you I often wonder when/if it will be as normal for a man to wear a dress as it is for a woman to wear jeans.

[GeorgeA]

Your experience is rather similar to mine. When I was very young it fascinated me the way women dressed. It was the nylons, garter belts and slips that fascinated me. I tried to put them on whenever I could. I don't like pantyhose and if women wore them when I was young I would probably never become a crossdresser. And now, in my old age I feel most comfortable in a skirt, slip, panties and nylons. Our culture requires men to wear trousers when in public and of course I do. But as soon as I get home I ditch them and put on the items I like. It is so nice to feel my skirt rubbing against my nyloned legs.
Just to put the record straight, I never wanted to be a girl, never wanted to look like one, I don't wear jewellery, make-up, bras or women's shoes.
I am simply a man in a skirt.

[stellar]

For me its just something i have to do. I tried and tried not to.
I am 34 and went to such extremes to not dress that for 13 years i had a beard not your standard type but think more along the lines of zz top.
Then one day i took some scissors a head shaver, and a normal razor and chopped it all off. the beard was stopping me but now its gone nothing is.
One advantage from having a big beard from a early age is when i shaved it off my face and neck skin is really soft as i haven't abused it with a razor all those years.

[Ellie52]

It's a compulsion. I just ... have to do it sometimes and if I don't I get irritable and depressed. It acts as a stress release mechanism. There was a sexual component to it during my teenage years, but that's mostly gone now.
Edith
I totally agree 100%. My SO now sees the signs and knows Ellie needs to come to dinner......CD'ers seem to have a monthly cycle too...Ellie

[Rachel Morley]

Why do I cross dress? A fairly complex answer would be that my gender (the sex of my brain) is more aligned with what is considered typically female. When presenting as a woman my most over-riding emotion is happiness. I also feel somehow liberated, more attractive, I think I look younger, I'm less stressed, and I somehow feel "softer inside".

I also happen to believe that many of my best qualities reside with my feminine side—qualities such as sensitivity, tenderness, empathy, helpfulness, and patience. Expressing my femininity makes me feel relaxed, happy and fulfilled, while suppressing it causes me stress, anxiety, and irritability. ... and although this is how I see myself and my CDing now, it wasn't always this way. My first time wearing girls' clothes was when I was 6 years old. Something happened back then and pretty much after that incident I always wanted to do it. Only in my late 20s and early 30s when I was trying to reject everything about it and I did have problems (emotional problems) with accepting it. However, my most happiest times and how I describe myself today have happened since I embraced CDing fully, and without any shadow of a doubt, my real true happiness has come because of my wife (we met on a CDing forum) ... she has supported and encouraged me over the last 10 years and she regularly participates too, as we often go out together as "two girls". Why do I crossdress? because (nowadays) it's a cornerstone of my life :)

[NathalieX66]

Answer: because I was always jealous of the things girls/women do, and then way they express themselves. I want some too!

[Tara D. Rose]

Why do I do this?


I have had a lifetime to try to figure it out. And to this day, I still don't know why I do this. I just have to, and that is all. I need to, and I must do this, it isn't a habit or a hobby. It's what I need to do, and I still do not understand it and I know that I never will. But GG's understand and know why, even when we do not understand or know why.
Peace