A hard subject...

[whowhatwhen]

I'm in kind of a tough spot here.
I've decided that I would like to save up and just go for makeup lessons but there is one thing that scares the hell out of me.

That's right. The random boner.
Under normal circumstances it bothers me but getting one during a lesson, or even in the presence of a woman would be mortifying.

At the very least she'd be uncomfortable, or worse.
I would hate to give the wrong idea/impression especially because I've got no interest in women in that way.

Unfortunately hormones being what they are I have no control.
Still could be a few months until I get to see an endo to start HRT and even then who knows how long that will take to kick in.

Am I worrying too much?
Anything I can do? Aside from tucking since it's physically too painful?

I know it sounds really silly but for me it's a bit stressing.

[stellar]

try sitting with legs crossed, so if it does happen it may not be noticeable.

[AllieSF]

I think that you may be over thinking all this. Tuck well, put on another compression panty over that and wear a very full skirt and no one will ever know.

[Leona]

I think you're worrying too much. If the random boner happens and the girl looks to be uncomfortable, just say "I'm sorry I have a boner, like other people with penises, I have no control over it, that's why I want hormone replacement therapy". That's worth a giggle that'll break the ice.

Also, wear something that will direct the random boner to follow your body rather than stick out. Then it's probably hard to notice anyway (no pun intended!).

Seriously, this is a problem we face every day and we get by without getting caught having a boner (most of the time!). This is really you being nervous about it, while you have a lifetime of skills in dealing with it.

[Stacy L]

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That was a problem that I had in high school many years ago, wouldn’t even be thinking about sex and would realize that I had a boner.

Got embarrassed in Geometry class one day when our teacher put a problem on the blackboard and called my name to come up and solve it.

Went to get up and IT was already up so I picked up my book, which was open and held it in low in front of me as I walked to the board.
Can’t recall our teacher’s name at the moment but she said, Danny you don’t need your book.
The very attractive girl that sat in front of me started laughing and said. “Yes he does!” :brolleyes:

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[Wildaboutheels]

I don't do makeup... but I always thought makeup went on the face?

Why don't you just plan on "releasing the hounds" BEFORE you go for your session?

Nice to see at least one person here admit they have little or no control over "it".

[Leona]

Corinne, if this was facebook, I'd like your post and then unlike it just so I could like it again. :)

[Tracii G]

Releasing the hounds LOLOL thats a good one!!!

[Beverley Sims]

Just think Corrine one day it will all be in the past.
No good for now though. :)

[whowhatwhen]

I don't do makeup... but I always thought makeup went on the face?

Why don't you just plan on "releasing the hounds" BEFORE you go for your session?

Nice to see at least one person here admit they have little or no control over "it".

See... the thing is that "releasing the hounds" just makes me feel bad.
I literally feel pointless at best and awful at worst, it's a bit more complicated than that though.
Anhedonia plus a healthy male sex drive is an awful combination folks.

The thing is that I need to move forward and I feel that getting lessons kind of forces the issue.
Let's put ourselves in a GG's shoes for a sec, suppose you're working on (let's be honest - I look like a guy) a guy and he pops a boner, at the very least you're probably going to be uncomfortable.

Not only am I afraid of getting one in that scenario, I'm terrified of what would be thought of me.

[Persephone]

I can try compressing it more but I seem to get testicle pain when I do, that's why I can't tuck because they're so sensitive to movement which results in pain/discomfort.

Get used to it! A little pain/cramping in that area is perfectly normal for many women. You're expected to be your usual smiling happy self when it happens.

Hugs,
Persephone.

[whowhatwhen]

I dunno... Pain is a signal that says "HOLY F*** SOMETHING IS WRONG! FIX IT! FIX IT!" and nothing is gained by ignoring it.
For all I know the pain could be intermittent torsion, keeping that going may mean a dead teste which may sound appealing to some you still need to factor in the whole necrotic testicle factor which could put you at risk.

I like Barbara's suggestion though, while I'm a bit iffy about the idea of taking anything with AA properties until I'm monitored the drop in libido would definitely be welcome.
Is it an instant effect or does it require a buildup period?

E:
It's possible that my GP will start doing hormone level checks once he talks to the endo I chose.
Once I get the updated papers it would be checked with my other bloodwork every 2 weeks.

[Angela Campbell]

It happens pretty quick, within days

[Shelly Preston]

There are simpler ways to slove this problem. I assume you are going to sitting while you are having the lesson. Why not just sit your handbag in your lap that should hide the problem.

[Vickie_CDTV]

It is simple and an issue not unique to trans people; just do what nudists do, if it happens sit down (if you are not already sitting), and have something to put in your lap until it goes away. Easy.

The worst thing you can do is do something that is painful and risk injuring yourself, you feel pain for a reason.

[whowhatwhen]

Oh, it's definitely an option and something I do when random ones come about but it feels different in this sort of case.
I'm not comfortable with that reaction happening in that setting, but hiding it may just have to be a last resort.

[Zylia]

Think about bricks when it happens, or about filling out your tax form, or about anything else that 'eases' you :D

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Corinne, Carry a news paper with you and lay it in your lap.

[Amanda22]

Hi Stacy, that story really made me laugh!

[linda allen]

................... Why don't you just plan on "releasing the hounds" BEFORE you go for your session?

There you go. That should take care of it. ;)

Go ahead and tuck or wear heavy undergarmets just to be sure. A jock strap might help.

[MysticLady]

See... the thing is that "releasing the hounds" just makes me feel bad.


It's just a mental block, Corrine. Trust me, I have mine. Sometimes, difficult too overcome. Be Careful though, once done, you may find yourself really hungry for it:straightface:

[robindee36]

I'm with the tuck-it-away train of thought. Yes it can be uncomfortable at first, but you must be able to find a system that works without torturing yourself. It may not present a 'perfectly smooth' profile but can certainly limit the extent to which you tent.


I could suggest thinking about sports, cars or other nonesuch, but the other ideas might be a bit more effective. Never heard it referred to as 'releasing the hounds' but I find the moniker quite endearing.

Good luck. You will report back if any of the ideas work for you? Might add to the knowledge pool here and that is a good thing.

Oh yes, it would be nice to know how your make up lessons go. Wasn't that the objective in the first place?

Hugs, Robin

[MandyLee]

try a type of girdle just a form fitting type not the 40s type I use one that's also a butt enhancer

[VeronicaMoonlit]

Spanx. Or if your outfit is one that can be accessorized with hosiery, anything with a strong control top.

Veronica

[Barbra P]

I have watched a few women getting makeup help at the MAC counter in Macy's and the MA had placed a towel in their laps so makeup wouldn't get on their clothes. If the MA doesn't offer the towel, ask for one, explaining that you don't want powder and other makeup getting on your skirt, dress, pants, or what ever you are wearing.

[Lola Wants]

Corinne,

I don't know if you own any "cross-body" bags. But perhaps your purse in your lap would help obstruct the view of anything you don't want to be seen.

A cross-body bag will hang low enough that you can hold the strap on the front of the bag and let the bag hang in front of your lap. It could conceal your lap both standing and sitting.

Its worth a try.

Lola

[whowhatwhen]

It's just a mental block, Corrine. Trust me, I have mine. Sometimes, difficult too overcome. Be Careful though, once done, you may find yourself really hungry for it:straightface:

It's a deeper mental block, I've quite literally felt nothing in well over 5 years and it ain't getting resolved that easily.


There you go. That should take care of it. ;)


It's pointless though, it's akin to washing the dishes except nothing actually gets done.

I do like the purse idea though since that's how I normally wear mine.
:)

[reb.femme]

Less likely to happen I think if you are worried, but If she was pretty, I would worry if I didn't get one,........but that's me! If it happens, c'est la vie. :heehee:



That was a problem that I had in high school many years ago, wouldn’t even be thinking about sex and would realize that I had a boner. Got embarrassed in Geometry class one day when our teacher put a problem on the blackboard and called my name to come up and solve it.

Seeing as it was Geometry, maybe that just wanted a different angle on the problem? :devil:

Rebecca

[Vickie_CDTV]

The thing is that I need to move forward and I feel that getting lessons kind of forces the issue.
Let's put ourselves in a GG's shoes for a sec, suppose you're working on (let's be honest - I look like a guy) a guy and he pops a boner, at the very least you're probably going to be uncomfortable.
Not only am I afraid of getting one in that scenario, I'm terrified of what would be thought of me.

I am not a GG... obviously, however this happens all the time in my line of work, including to men having electrolysis treatments being performed by GGs (it is not uncommon for males being worked on to experience an erection during treatment, regardless of the area, for a number of reasons.) It also happens to massage therapists and others who have close clinical contact with their clients. How do they handle it? Very simply, if they are a professional they fully understand how biology works and the various reasons why a man can get an erection absent sexual stimulation... and unless the man is also acting inappropriately, they ignore it, act like a professional should and continue to do their job. If the person performing the service cannot handle such things like a professional, you need to find someone else who can. A makeup artist is a bit different, but still, if they can't handle such things in a mature fashion it does not reflect well on them.

[Rogina B]

Forget about your penis...you don't want it anyhow..This is how some of us cope with the same problem...But...You are much younger..lol

[whowhatwhen]

Is this how the stereotypical husband/wife couple thing works?
"Ugh. Not now penis. I've got a headache."

I'm sure the pros know all about it, and in fact that's exactly what my laser tech said but the problem is how it makes me feel.

[Stacy L]

Seeing as it was Geometry, maybe that just wanted a different angle on the problem? :devil:

Rebecca


Well, I was doing my best to get all of the angles covered before I got to the blackboard. :o





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