Something to think about

[Joanne_2003]

What would you do or say if your son or daughter said that they were a crossdresser, or that they wanted to get a sex change. Just a stupid thought I had while my daughter was joking (I think) with her friend about wanting to have sex with her.

[SandraInHose]

Interesting question, and one that's crossed my mind before. Mostly when my wife wonders if CDing is hereditary. As far as I know, it isn't. But since no one really knows what causes it, who knows?

Back on subject...My teenage son has been known to slip on my wife's shoes as a joke when she takes them off at the door after work, but I've reassured her that if he had those tendencies (CDing), he'd probably be more self-conscience and do something like that in private.

If he were to come to me and inform me of his CDing, I would certainly be understanding, and not get angry with him. I'd be disappointed only because I know firsthand what a burden this can be on a person's psyche. I would however try to explain to him all I know about the subject, but without letting him know why and how I know so much about it.

Same thing if either my son or daughter were to tell me they're gay: Although it goes against everything I've been taught all my life, if that is what makes my kids happy, then so be it. Be happy.

Sex change? That's when we call in the professionals! I wouldn't even know where to begin! :)

[FionaAlexis]

Hi Joanne,

Actually my daughter once came to me saying she was dressing up as a boy for a party....'but I'm not a tranny' she added very quickly. I could understand that quick defensive reaction given my situation.

If my daughter, who is 15, was F2M TS then I would be as supportive as I could be. I would certainly discuss it with her at length over a period of time. Find out what she wants to do. I think from my own experience I could judge whether she was confused or not but I would encourage her to seek counselling and advice from a specialist. If the changes at puberty were making her depressed and creating mental anxiety then I would have no strong objection to hormone intervention to block or reverse the impact. And if she wanted to live full time as a male then so long as she understood the difficulties then I'd be OK.

In fact I'm pretty much in favour of that type of medical intervention for young TSs but against surgical intervention until further down the track.

Fiona xx

[Ariana]

A thought that came to mind when I read this was.... It would depend on if the son/daughter knew of my own gender 'issues'. And if I wanted them to or not.

Good post... Something to think about

[GypsyKaren]

Hi Joanne

All I've ever wanted for my kids is for them to be happy and to be able to enjoy life. I don't care what it takes for that wish, as long as they get to be all that they can be.

GypsyKaren

[Jeri]

I guewss i wouldn't mind if any of them turned out to be Cds, and I wouldn't disown any ofthem if they came out as being gay. I would, however be dissapointed if my son wre gay, because as far as I can determine, he is the last of the male line on our branch of the family tree. Of course, he's 26 and still pretty much playing the field. He has a lot of girls chasing him, so if he dissagrees with one of them, there's another around the corner. So, the gay or not thing won't matter unless he decides to settle down.

[Raychel]

If they were a Cd Or Gay or whatever I would do my best to support them and be sure that they have a happy life not matter what path they choose to follow. I would try to make sure that had thought very carefully about the surgery thing though. Weighing all the odds and the possibility that it woudl not go well. I probably would try to steer them away from surgery. But just about anything else would be fair came as long as they were happy.

[kathy gg]

We want to raise our daughter with plenty of expsoure to all people of various sexual orientations and genders expressions. What ever she decides to be she has our full supoprt.

You see so many people trying so hard to conform to soceitys rules that they wind up married and unhappy with children and wishing they had experimented and done different things.

I want her to know that she is free to explore life and all its paths until she finds what she really wants for herself.

I enjoyed my time when single and that lack of inhibition led me to this community so now that I am married I have no regrets of wonders about the 'what if's of life'.

[Joanne_2003]

We want to raise our daughter with plenty of expsoure to all people of various sexual orientations and genders expressions. What ever she decides to be she has our full supoprt.

You see so many people trying so hard to conform to soceitys rules that they wind up married and unhappy with children and wishing they had experimented and done different things.

I want her to know that she is free to explore life and all its paths until she finds what she really wants for herself.

I enjoyed my time when single and that lack of inhibition led me to this community so now that I am married I have no regrets of wonders about the 'what if's of life'.

I totally agree with what you are saying, I keep telling my kids that life is too short and we must live each day to the fullest. Too many people die unhappy, the only thing we have to do is be considerate of others feelings as you can't truely be happy at the expense of another.

[Dixie Darling]

I've got a sort of a different slant on this thought. Of course if one of my kids came out as a crossdresser I would be supportive, that only makes sense and it would be hypocritical NOT to be supportive. But what I would be really curious about would be how his mother would take such news. She's totally intolerant of my own dressing, but I've got a strong feeling that she would respect whatever decisions one of her children made and would be more acepting of them than of me.

Dixie -- http://www.geocities.com/senorita_cd

[Jillian310]

This is not a hypothetical issue for me. My 14 year old grandson has come out to his friends and parents that he is gay. He has not drawn me into that circle yet, but I expect to be involved shortly. My CD is strictly in the closet with my daughter and her family. I have found the chat room where he discussed the issue with his schoolmates. I chat with him there every once in a while - but as a contemporary. Of course I am totally supportive of him whenever we chat. I did learn in the chat room that when he came out to his father, the father's response was, "Don't have sex.". He is disturbed at that reaction. I will visit him next week. The last time he visitied me he remarked that we both have long hair, and he commented on my diamond earrings. But in the context of a teenager ribbing his grandfather. We actually have the same length hair, but mine is kept neater! Lol.