Someone commented on my legs and not in a good way

[alwayshave]

So I am pretty much hairless, chest, arms, torso and legs. I went to the gym at an odd time for me today. I got out of the shower and was getting dressed when a guy behind me says in a louder than casual conversation voice, "are your legs shaved?"

I swim everyday, so its not like I don't have an excuse other than my little hobby, but I was taken off guard. I turned around and stated, "that's no one's business but, my own. What are you doing looking at men in the locker room? You should really find another place to try to pick up men." His jaw dropped, he stood there dumb founded for a second and then turned and walked away. The guy across from me just laughed and said good come back.

I hated accusing him of being gay, but I know guys like this and turning it back on them always messes with their head.

Anyways, I'm going back to my normal schedule to avoid any future issues.

[Dianne S]

My standard response to unwanted questions is: "Why do you ask?" Yours was pretty good, but possibly dangerous depending on the psyche of the guy who asked the question.

[Lorileah]

that's funny...bet he looks a the wall from now on

[Loveday]

I think you put him in his place quite well.

[DDee]

Great Response

[kimdl93]

I guess I would have said "Yup". And left it at that.

[Karren H]

I've never been asked that.... probably because a bunch of the guys on my hockey team shave various parts of their body.... and no one really cares as long as you can put the puck in the net....

[Wendy me]

good answer .... i would have gone a steep more but thats me .....

[robindee36]

Mine are shaved 24/7/365. They are not very hairy to start with though.

As a cyclist, its a very common practice. Everyone is accustomed to them, I love the smooth feeling and when I crash out, the cleanup is much easier.

To date, I have not received any comments while in drab and I wear short shorts all summer. However, I do received a lot of comments when dressed.

Go figure.

Hugs, Robin

[StephanieCD21]

Even before I came out to myself as a crossdresser, I shaved my body from the neck down. I have always just preferred the feeling. I have been paranoid about being asked about it at the gym or in the locker room with my hockey team since I started. It has been over 10 years now and it has yet to come up. My prepared excuses have changed over the years from "I'm a swimmer (or cyclist)" to "Why yes. Are you planning to ask me out?" and even "Why are you checking me out in the shower?" I have yet to have to use any of them. Good for you for turning it around and in such a witty fashion. These days I find the majority of women and men I have been with prefer partners who shave. Based on that, it seems odd anyone would question it. I guess not everyone can be as enlightened as us.

[Beverley Sims]

Your retort was spot on, I would continue as you are.
If someone offends me,I just try and offend them back.
As I said great come back. :)

[stephNE]

Excellent! I love it! Good for you girl.

[Harley_Quinn]

I was cutting my hedges about 2 weeks ago and someone said 'are you wearing womens knickers?' (my t-shirt must have lifted and my jeans lowered for them to see the top) but my answer was simply 'yep' lol. The world is a wonderful place with many different people trying many different things and any guy that says he has never worn something different than what is expected or done something in the bedroom that's unconventional is a bloody liar. His reply was simply 'ok' lol.
I have been asked if I shave my legs before though, I simply said yes, on occasion or when I have shaved my nether region because it looks stupid if I don't.

[Andi.Devine]

I love your response. I wouldn't have been able to come up with something that good on the spot. Way to go. I may have to use it if I am ever challenged on my shaving. I keep my body trimmed down to no hair all year long. I have very blonde hair so I don't actually shave, I use a beard trimmer with no gate to get the hair trimmed, works great for my light colored hair. I wear shorts year round and when swimming it is obvious that I have no hair on my chest and stomach. Never have I had anyone challenge me on it though.

[michelleddg]

Sorry, Sweetie, but I think you outed yourself with your response. Not sure somebody who shaves strictly for swimming/cycling would go on the attack like that. Hugs, Michelle

[Tracii G]

You put on the spot, good for you.

[Wildaboutheels]

Could it simply be that he was clueless, despite his "louder than casual conversation voice"? You did say it was an unusual time for you. [And likely have never seen him before]

If he IS a homophobe, isn't it possible if not likely that he just might take out his anger on the next "different person" he encounters?

I have never been asked in over 12 years in at least 8 different stores, although I have had numerous compliments.

Because I am not a mind reader, IF I am ever uncertain of one's intentions, I think "Thank You for noticing" is a fairly innocuous answer. Then, it's in THEIR court if they wish to escalate.

[Stevie]

That was a good come back.

[Ina Girdle]

Good for you. Great comeback!!

Ina

[Sarah Beth]

It doesn't really matter what his motivation for the comment was, it was still rude. A lot of people don't seem to have manners anymore, and are not teaching their children manners either. To me there is not excuse for rude behaior. So you did the right thing and put him in his place.

[Jenni Yumiko]

Agreed with a lot of replies to OP, I do find it odd though that he would ask that at a gym, ESP since at least two or three of the guys at my gym at any given time are shaved for sports reasons.

[Alice Torn]

Good witty response. I wonder what i might answer . Maybe no answer? Or, "Are you the hair police?"

[linda allen]

My standard response to unwanted questions is: "Why do you ask?" Yours was pretty good, but possibly dangerous depending on the psyche of the guy who asked the question.
Yes, that could be a concern. Some men cannot stand to be embarassed in front of other people. This might have escallated into a fight.

[Stacy M.]

A look of shock, followed by "Aren't yours?" might have been a good response.

[DonnaWanna]

I shave my legs, body, pubes and underarms,,, as far as i am concerned it is no ones business but mine,,

[Alexis.j]

I shave whole body except eyebrows, have never received a negative comment yet. Maybe the occasional I see you shave your legs, or why do you save you legs. Mind you, I don't even get many negative comments on my tattoos, that are in very girly locations...

[Debi]

Great comeback - It never ceases to amaze me how someone can be so rude and verbalise something that flashes into their head.

[sophi3]

There are sportsmans who shave. These people should STFU and mind their own business instead of being so gossipy/outspoken.



It doesn't really matter what his motivation for the comment was, it was still rude. A lot of people don't seem to have manners anymore, and are not teaching their children manners either. To me there is not excuse for rude behaior. So you did the right thing and put him in his place.

The rude homophobes here take pics.


Agreed with a lot of replies to OP, I do find it odd though that he would ask that at a gym, ESP since at least two or three of the guys at my gym at any given time are shaved for sports reasons.

The intention to shame is clear.

[Kalista Jameson]

There are worse things than getting into a fight, so I thought the instant comeback was spot on. Besides, if some guy attacks a naked dude in a locker room, he'd have his own set of troubles and questions to be answered. =)

I most likely would have answered the same way without even thinking about it.

Cheers,

Kalista

[noeleena]

Hi,

Well Well , that was pretty good,

...noeleena...

[boots]

That was a cute comeback.I hope he was embarrased

[Leah Lynn]

I had a stress test yesterday, and the GG tech that was hooking me up looked, but didn't say anything. So, I said that last year, I told the tech that it hurt pulling all those contacts off, so I was going to shave my chest next time. This tech burst out laughing. It was good.

Still, love your comeback.

Leah

[Lynn Marie]

Sorry, Sweetie, but I think you outed yourself with your response. Not sure somebody who shaves strictly for swimming/cycling would go on the attack like that. Hugs, Michelle

I like Michelle's comment. I prefer a more gentle response to awkward questions. Then again I'm not always prepared for a witty and gracious response either.

[BridalBoy]

I tell people that satin panties feel better on shaved skin. That gets good responces! And I actually do ride a bike.

[Rileyaz]

My legs are always shaved. I had one comment from a friend of mine when we were on vacation with our wives. He asked if I shaved my legs. I looked at him and just said yes. End of conversation.
Two weeks later, I noticed his were shaved as well. Nothing said.

[alwayshave]

My standard response to unwanted questions is: "Why do you ask?" Yours was pretty good, but possibly dangerous depending on the psyche of the guy who asked the question.

I realize that it was dangerous, but given his tone or decibel level, I realized being meek was only going to encourage him further. I decided to fight fire with fire.

[alwayshave]

I like Michelle's comment. I prefer a more gentle response to awkward questions. Then again I'm not always prepared for a witty and gracious response either.

While I am normally afflicted with L'esprit de l'escalier, I just had the words at that moment.

[FeliciaCDSNJ]

That is a nice comeback though :D

[katia]

Great comeback
I shave when i know no one is going to notice,i love the feeling of shaved legs and chest but as none knows about my dressing have to do it when i know shorts are a no no.
My wife did once comment on my legs and as i am quite a hairy person i told her i hadn't shaved them just gave them a number 1 :)
I have seen plenty of men with shaved legs and just admire quietly .

[alwayshave]

Sorry, Sweetie, but I think you outed yourself with your response. Not sure somebody who shaves strictly for swimming/cycling would go on the attack like that. Hugs, Michelle

I may have outed myself, but I don't really care. I was more upset that someone was purposely trying to embarrass me and just fought back.

[Ruby John]

You could reply....Makes my legs look better with heels! Or Why the interest in my legs? That will stop them. Ruby

[BLUE ORCHID]

I's like I've said before, "Never let someone else take control" Always keep the upper hand as you did this time.

[Druscilla Supernovae]

I would have said "No they are not shaved but they are strong enough to kick your ***".

[BridalBoy]

Nothing like being with your woman in bed. Both with buttery smooth legs!

[Rachel Morley]

My standard response to unwanted questions is: "Why do you ask?"
I like the OP's response but I usually go with a similar one to the I quoted above. I have only had to use it once in 15 years.

[Ms. Laura]

Nice response! You didn't out yourself, that's not even in most people's consciousness. En femme yes, play it cool. You were in full guy mode and being a wise ass was called for!

[Nataliebabe]

So I am pretty much hairless, chest, arms, torso and legs. I went to the gym at an odd time for me today. I got out of the shower and was getting dressed when a guy behind me says in a louder than casual conversation voice, "are your legs shaved?"

I swim everyday, so its not like I don't have an excuse other than my little hobby, but I was taken off guard. I turned around and stated, "that's no one's business but, my own. What are you doing looking at men in the locker room? You should really find another place to try to pick up men." His jaw dropped, he stood there dumb founded for a second and then turned and walked away. The guy across from me just laughed and said good come back.

I hated accusing him of being gay, but I know guys like this and turning it back on them always messes with their head.

Anyways, I'm going back to my normal schedule to avoid any future issues.



that`s fricken awesome! great comeback!

[marny]

Been shaving arms.legs everything but my head for more than ten years plus Two reasons. Don't want that much hair and the body hair is all white. My head is still brown. Go figure!

[TxCassie]

I would have said a version of what you said. "That's my business buddy, but if you must know, my gf/wifes likes me shaved" So, before you start gawking men in the lockerroom, try to remember lockerroom are for changing clothes and showering. If you want a date, be a man and approach me like someone worth dating."

[natalialimapoa]

"You should really find another place to try to pick up men."

nice reframe of the situation.

[DarciB]

That can happen, sorry about that, I had a similar experience. I was at a gas station and although I was dressed in drab men type shorts, the woman gassing next to me noticed my smooth shaven legs and painted toe nails and asked me what the f**k I was trying to do. I told her the truth..........be the woman that I am. There are always creeps and cowards out there that will make unwanted comments.

[sophi3]

My legs are always shaved. I had one comment from a friend of mine when we were on vacation with our wives. He asked if I shaved my legs. I looked at him and just said yes. End of conversation.
Two weeks later, I noticed his were shaved as well. Nothing said.
Maybe that friend dresses too? :D

[Marcelle]

Nice come back.

Working in a very Alpha male environment (lots of gym rats), I find some guys do not know how to operate with a social filter. They see something that challenges their view of masculinity and feel obliged to point it out for the rest of the world. I think he may have been hoping to embarrass you and garner some "jock towel snapping support" from the other guys in the locker room. Obviously did not work for him . . . well done girl.

I only recently started waxing my body again but had done it in the past as I was an avid UFC fighter (removing your body hair gave less of a grip factor). So I have my comeback ready just in case "Actually, I am a UFC fighter care for a demonstration." :heehee:

I know girls, might invoke an altercation but then again I am/was a UFC fighter and seriously doubt the guy would take me up on my offer. :battingeyelashes:

Hugs

Isha

[alice clair]

good response. I have been shaving my whole body for years and one day a few years ago my wife and i were leaving the tanning bed and a very pretty lady stops us and says to me , it is such a shame that you have such pretty legs and you are a man I wised mine looked that good. I thanked her and it felt so good for her to say that. I was wearing some very short shorts in white and some sandals, my legs were very brown and I guess sexy. Thank you.

[LasVegasXD]

I've never had bad comments on my legs per se. I've had men give me the ole once over. It is comedic gold when they get to my face (which usually is not at all passable.) Some though see me for me and still like it! I'll take the complement that I look good in shorts and sandals I guess. I just always have a good laugh when straight guys get all flabbergasted when they realized they've been eye humping a man's legs.

And Isha I love you all the more for the UFC thing. Love UFC.

[jeanine38]

Mine are shaved 24/7/365. They are not very hairy to start with though.

As a cyclist, its a very common practice. Everyone is accustomed to them, I love the smooth feeling and when I crash out, the cleanup is much easier.

To date, I have not received any comments while in drab and I wear short shorts all summer. However, I do received a lot of comments when dressed.

Go figure.

Hugs, Robin

I bike and shave. It seems I only get comments from cyclists (all positive). No one else has ever said a word

[livefree83]

Good comeback. I agree that it is important to take control of the situation when someone tries to embarrass you. Nice going on turning the whole interaction around and making him feel embarrassed. Some people just don't know when to mind their own business. Don't let this interaction discourage you from shaving. I've been shaving my legs, feet, upper arms, and a few other places every other day since April. I absolutely love the look and feel.

[sometimes_miss]

My response was, "Yeah, I like to pretend I'm an olympic swimmer", and I just walked away. Didn't hear any more from the guy.

[Stephanie47]

I haven't read all the responses, but, I think your answer was great. It was obvious the guy was trying to attract unwanted and unflattering attention toward you. You turned the comment back on him. Several months ago I was watching a local news program that does a question every night with poll results. Apparently the majority of women prefer their men with no body hair these days.

[Requal Jo]

He will certainly think twice before asking that question again. Great reply.

[robindee36]

I bike and shave. It seems I only get comments from cyclists (all positive). No one else has ever said a word

Isn't great we can do this freely where so many of the other girls have limitations. I just can't imagine fuzzy legs. Don't you love how nice our legs look in nylons and a mini skirt ;)

Hugs, Robin

[Jessica giovanna]

As a triathlete, I have been shaving my whole body for quite awhile and have heard it all....it keeps me from having to peel hair out of wounds when I eat the concrete....fun.....besides..if you hang with cyclist...we all shave,lol...oh and wear cute Lycra outfits...yum!

[Cami.Aeris]

Great response! I hope you do go at the same time in the future. You were in the right after all! :)

[roy m]

generally, the second word of my response would be -off! But I like the Jewish response- If asked a question, turn it around , ask him a question so his amswer will stick his question straight up his touckas!

[Pandys]

Nice response. As an older CD I shave all but my arms, I just never wear shorts. I am not very athletic and would love to have a valid excuse for shaving my arms. I realize I should be less concerned about what people think, but I can't help it. I have even stopped shaving completely because I have a physical next month.

[chrissy111]

Classic, great comeback.

[Jamie001]

Nice response. As an older CD I shave all but my arms, I just never wear shorts. I am not very athletic and would love to have a valid excuse for shaving my arms. I realize I should be less concerned about what people think, but I can't help it. I have even stopped shaving completely because I have a physical next month.

A valid excuse is simply to say "I like having my arms shaved".

[Veronica497]

BRAVO!!!!!!!!!!!!! I absolutely loved your response to that !!!!!!! My husband too use to swim when he was in highschool I reminded him of this when he first wanted to shave his legs but was afraid to do so for fear of someone commenting, I told him to just tell them he started swimming again, but I like yours ever so much better!!! I had a wonderful giggle fit visualizing the moment you snapped back with this brilliant comment and picturing the look on his face!! xoxo Very much enjoyed this thanks for sharing.

[alwayshave]

Thanks for all the positive comments. At this point, almost two months later, I had almost forgotten about the incident until the thread popped back up.

[Maria 60]

I guess I don't have to worry about that guy making comments in the gym.

[~Joanne~]

I have only had a couple of co workers notice that I shave my arms, they asked and I just said, don't be jealous, you can shave yours too. lol no one has mentioned my legs ever. when they do i pretty sure I just won't care as everyone knows I hate hair. other than my wig ;)