Arghhhhh

[SophieKitty]

I'm sooooooo desperate to come out publicly. I've got some big balls (ironic pun intended) and I'm not scared. Only thing stopping me is I want to do it as Sophie. Currently I've only been a bit of Sophie as far as clothes. I took the step of shaving everything, and even learned how to tuck by a very informative yet graphic video (i don't care though), I've even worn a bit of lippy. However on Wednesday my sister who is a model and womenswear designer/maker is going to do me a complete makeover on Wednesday evening. This will be my opportunity to find Sophie's look completely and utterly imo.

Once i have pics I'll be able to show me to others, and as the days near to Wednesday i just want to shout out to the world "Hi everyone, I'm bi-gendered and sometimes you may want to call me Sophie and I'm proud of it" but I can't, and it's frustrating. I don't think telling others will work nearly as well without an image of Sophie, or at least beta stage Sophie. I'm currently at my mothers house so desperately wanting to walk down the stairs in full on Sophie mode and tell her, I'm no longer afraid at all. But i can't until i feel Sophie is fully formed. I can't wait to show you girls me too. It's burning me up inside. Which is why i need to write this thread.

PS PM me if you like because I'm always up for chatting and making new friends. Especially with no outlet yet in the closet apart from an older sister and a best friend. :(

[linda allen]

Just like a GG, Sophie will never be "fully formed". As you move along, you will get better at makeup, selecting and wearing clothes, and your presentation. Rome wasn't built in a day and neither will Sophie be.

[SophieKitty]

Still it'll be nice to become Sophie v2 :)

[ReineD]

You might want to try going out to the next town over first, among people that you do not know? This will give you good practice.

[SophieKitty]

You might want to try going out to the next town over first, among people that you do not know?

That would be the sensible thing wouldn't it? But i have quite a feisty pink-rock (see what i did there?) attitude that sometimes I dive into situations before asking the sensible questions... I'm moving back to a reasonably cosmo area. Although some of it can be a bit backwater. I'm used to London - the capital city of acceptance and tolerance. So maybe i should judge the cultural temperature first.

Still i have a burning passion for openly being myself. So it's hard to fight that fire in my belly!

[Eryn]

It's fine to dive into the dangerous pool if that is what you wish. However, diving into safer pools a few times first will help make your debut in the dangerous one more successful.

[Chari]

Please plan your outing according to the time, place, event, and attire that will be comfortable for you - to let Sophie grow naturally! Keep us informed (hopefully with pictures) as to your progress.

[Sarah Beth]

Good luck with everything I bet you turn out beautiful

[Rachelakld]

While I've no objections to shocking people, i tended to break it to my loved ones a bit slower to give them time to come to terms with my dressing

[Leah Lynn]

Dive from the low board at the pool before going cliff diving! Whatever you decide to do, have fun but be safe. Not everyone out there is friendly or accepting.

Hugs,
Leah

[Kathinja Galaxy]

When I couldn't hold myself indoors anymore, I waited until a much needed move to occur and busted EVERYTHING out in Eugene. I would say I dressed equally as much as I went out in normal clothes, to the point that when I was boyed up people still remembered me. It was invigorating to try it for a year in a town I never grew up in, and after I came back, my confidence was so peaked that I flat out told my mom and every other relative in my home town (save for the grandparents who's heart can't take the shock :P). Even if its in a different side of town, its always been more comforting to know the majority of folks I see on my walk I'll never have to involve myself with again unless I want too.

Phew! Well.. Just my experience, I'm sure you'll find your own way in your own time (soon it sounds, hehe) and I wish you the best of luck ;D!

[Beverley Sims]

Sophie,
Resist the temptation to come out until you have it all right in your mind.
There is plenty of time yet.

[SophieKitty]

I've come out to a small thimble full of people, and all have been accepting and have embraced both Sophie and I. As Sophie grows so will the number of people I come out to. I know it's a big thing for a lot of people but I honestly don't care how many friends disown or accept me, it's just mathematics. The only people i care about as far as coming out is my family.

I've found the less bothered and less sensitive i seem to the subject the more my friends seem to accept me for who I am :) but yeah i heed your advice 100% and tred carefully and allow Sophie to evolve :)

[Karren H]

Resistance is futile...... but you need to think this whole process through including the various possible outcomes.... and be prepared to deal with each one.... I always love a good plan!

[SophieKitty]

I'm preparing for worst case scenario for every person i tell. That way if it goes well -bonus :D