Marie-Elise
09-06-2013, 09:59 AM
So, yesterday, my wife and I are discussing a book she is reading and she asks me what I am reading these days. I had just finshed "My Husband Betty" the day before so I told her that. We discussed it for about 15 minutes with her asking questions and me obviously excited about telling her more.
So, toward the end of the conversation, she says that if I want to come out we should discuss it.
That threw me for a loop. For the past three years since I came out to her, her attitude about my crossdressing has been that she has no time or patience to deal with it. She won't freak out about it but she doesn't want to have to worry about it or contribute to it. And don't even think about bringing it into the bedroom. If she wanted to sleep with a woman, she would not have facial hair.
After regaining my composure, I told her that she should read the book and that I don't really want to come out to our friends and family. I really don't because I don't think it will contribute anything to the relationships.
Anyway, fast forward later that night. I am trying to catch up on some episodes of one of my TV series and I hear her come down the stairs. I hear her say "Why don't you turn that off?"
I turn around to question this and see her standing there in a negligee. So, sexy times were had even though I had panties on. It did not phase her which, in the past, she had expressed displeasure.
All this is to say that I am surprised and happy at these developments. I think reading that book helped me to realize that my needs as a crossdresser are not perverted or weird; they are just needs.
I had been talking to her about our lackluster sex life and what I wanted sexually and emotionally since I started reading this book. I am thinking it helped me to accept myself and that, in turn, helped her to accept me.
I don't know but I love my wife.
So, toward the end of the conversation, she says that if I want to come out we should discuss it.
That threw me for a loop. For the past three years since I came out to her, her attitude about my crossdressing has been that she has no time or patience to deal with it. She won't freak out about it but she doesn't want to have to worry about it or contribute to it. And don't even think about bringing it into the bedroom. If she wanted to sleep with a woman, she would not have facial hair.
After regaining my composure, I told her that she should read the book and that I don't really want to come out to our friends and family. I really don't because I don't think it will contribute anything to the relationships.
Anyway, fast forward later that night. I am trying to catch up on some episodes of one of my TV series and I hear her come down the stairs. I hear her say "Why don't you turn that off?"
I turn around to question this and see her standing there in a negligee. So, sexy times were had even though I had panties on. It did not phase her which, in the past, she had expressed displeasure.
All this is to say that I am surprised and happy at these developments. I think reading that book helped me to realize that my needs as a crossdresser are not perverted or weird; they are just needs.
I had been talking to her about our lackluster sex life and what I wanted sexually and emotionally since I started reading this book. I am thinking it helped me to accept myself and that, in turn, helped her to accept me.
I don't know but I love my wife.