First time out

[Traci-nc]

So my wife and I made it out last night. As usual she did my hair and makeup and made sure my looks were just right. She decided that we should go to one of the adult theaters in Raleigh. I asked her a few times if she was sure. She said yes, turns out it was not what she thought it was. But anyway I am getting off track. So hear I am dressed up ready to head out in public for the first time and I was eager to go but also very nervous as well. I asked her to unlock the car from the house so I can make a dash to the car before someone sees me. Its 9 already and Its dark and foggy. She says come on no one can see you. So we get in the car and head off. Driving in heels was fun, I am so glad this car is an automatic :) First stop light and a car pulls up and I inch up so they cant see me. She starts laughing asking what's wrong, don't you want them to see how good you look. A few more lights I did the same thing. Now we are here and the parking lot is full. I take a few moments to settle down and work my self up to getting out. Standing by the car some one exits and of course they have to be the person in the car next to us. Already to walk in now and off we go. We get in and pay the door fee. I could not look directly at the person giving change to pay to get in, but from what I did see he did not care that I was dressed as a women. From what I had hear about his place that its primarily a hangout for gay guys and a few couples. Never being to a place like this before we walk around taking it all in. I could feel like every eye in the place was locked right on me. And a few other customers follow us around like lost puppy's. But I walked around like I belonged and held her hand as we settled in. So now its time to leave and we are thirsty, plus I had a craving for a chocolate shake. Off to McDonalds. I was driving as I normally do and there was no way I was going to order looking the way I did with the voice I have. I had to call the order out. They are out of ice cream so I settle on a coke. Now I am the driver so I have to pay. I had the first guy the money looking away from the guy and he drops the change. But I don't think he cared about what he had seen. Second windows and this guy hands us our drinks. I kind of looked at them this time, and the person looked a bit confused as to what was going on. We pull away and she starts laughing again, see that was not so bad. But that poor guy had a funny look on his face. We head on home and talk about my dressing and just some other random other topics. I thanked he so much for the night out. She said the only way someone would know I was not a woman was if they looked at me more than a few times and that most people don't care.

Wow that's a long winded post. But I will continue to work on my looks and voice so maybe we can try a more social environment next time.

[cdinmd206]

Glad your first time out was a good one. I remember mine. I was a nervous as a nun in a house of ill repute.

[Rhonda Darling]

First time is the hardest. It's easier every time after that. Welcome to the sorority of CD/TG/TS women who have found it within themselves to cross the threshold and greet the world.

All the best,
Rhonda

[Melissa in SE Tn]

You have a great wife.. treasure her. It looks like you had a great evening out even though you were as nervous as a ***** in church. Thanks for letting us know how it went. Post us on more outtings.

[Connie.Marie]

Congratulations Traci,
Quite a rush, wasn't it! The adrenaline was pumping,very nervous & excited.
Your story tells of you going in & then coming right back out. What happened while you were there? How long did you stay?
From your profile pic, I'd say your wife is right, NO ONE would question you unless they looked real hard..
So as long as she is OK with it & takes you out more, calm down, relax, enjoy living in that moment.

And I've go to "second" what Melissa said, treasure your wife! Most of us would give a lot for what you have. Take this at her pace.
Don't let the pink fog take over..

Congrats again, have fun & stay safe.

Hugs, Connie Marie

[Traci-nc]

Was trying to keep it pg. But we stayed about an hour in one of the private rooms. The guys following us around kind of made her uneasy. And the first room we went into had a hole in the wall. (You know what) so we quickly left that one. And of course they were right behind us. We did see one male female couple ahead of us when we walked in, but we did not want to chase them down the way we felt like we had been. We are not into sharing but it might have kept our followers at distance. When we left there were two couples on a couch watching the news. She wants to find a lounge type place to go next time.

[kimdl93]

I am glad that the two of you made it out, and hope you try a nicer place next time. I'm sure there are some TG friendly bars in Raliegh.

[Nikki A.]

Glad you made it. As for me I prefer going to mainstream locations rather than "adult" places, the people are sometimes a bit creepy. Restaurants seem to be pretty easy, everyone is interested in their food and companions and no one seems to play that much attention to others as long as you're not over the top and stand out.

[linda allen]

It's great you got out and your wife was willing to go with you. I'm hoping that eventually my wife will go out with me.

I suggest letting her drive. If two women are out together, one has to drive right? If it's her and there's an accident or the police stop you, she matches her ID and her voice matches her look. Also, since she normally goes out as a female, she won't be thinking about that, she can think about her driving.

[Julie Denier]

Good for you, hon! So great you have your wife's support and encouragement ;)

[Traci-nc]

Good point, we did joke about getting stopped and a dui checkpoint. I do have the worst of luck with things like that.

[Persephone]

Congratulations Traci!

Please give your wife extra hugs and kisses! The spouses who understand and support us are the best in the world.

I agree with Nikki. If you don't usually go to "adult" type places or gay bars or whatever, then you and your spouse will be uncomfortable and will also look more out of place.

Go places you would both enjoy - restaurant, museum, shopping mall, movie or live theater, etc. and you'll both be much more comfortable.

Welcome to the "out and about" club!

Hugs,
Persephone.

[Kim_Bitzflick]

Traci,

Thanks for sharing. I think you look great in your avatar. I doubt anyone would have suspected you were anything other than what you appeared to be.

[Andrea Renea]

Great job Traci. Super wife too!

I remember my first interaction at a drive-thru.

My wife and I were on a anniversary trip to a casino in Biloxi. It was a Wendy's drive thru in Gulfport MS. The girl working the window looked confused that the voice ordering didn't match the female at the window. No one was laughing or staring. Well my wife was laughing at me because she had dared me but didn't think I would do it.

[michelle2020cd]

Gald you had fun, our group , Carolina meeting place a yahoo group is having a Halloween party in Raleigh in Oct, join our group and you and your wife come on out, lots of great girls and also couples

[Traci-nc]

Gald you had fun, our group , Carolina meeting place a yahoo group is having a Halloween party in Raleigh in Oct, join our group and you and your wife come on out, lots of great girls and also couples

Wow that does sound like fun. I will have to check out the group. Thank you

[carhill2mn]

The first time out in public is always exciting and often a little scary. How fortunate you are to have a wife who will do your makeup and go with you. This makes it much more likely to be a good experience. Your wife sounds like a very special person!

I, too, used to be careful of how I pulled up next to another car. It takes a while to realize that very few people will even
glance at you unless you do something to attract their attention. Unless you look really weird, there is no reason for them to pay any special attention to you. It is not a good idea to make eye contact with young "bucks', however!

Enjoy your times out. They are special.

[Beverley Sims]

Traci,
That is great support from your wife.
The next outing will be much easier and after that it is just like riding a bike, just get on and pedal.