Lady Catherine
09-19-2013, 01:54 PM
Well, it's been about a year since I came out to my Fiancee. (Now my wife.) She was more accepting at the time then I thought she would be, much to my relief. We have been shopping together and she has surprised me with things. It has been a good year. I have since come out to two of my three kids (The third only because I have not seen him in person, not for lack of trust) and their spouses, and two of my step-kids. All have been very supportive.
No one around me has made a deal over my changes in appearance. Both ears pierced now three holes each. (I want four) I have shaved off my beard and keep my legs shaved all the time. I keep my nails longer (except when they break from work) and my toenails are almost always purple. I've also started shaping my eyebrows. They are light and I really don't think it's noticeable.
I have developed the feeling that I really don't care who finds out. I feel like it would be better if the whole world knew. However, my wife is not comfortable telling people. She says she doesn't want to have to defend me if some one said something bad about me and she is afraid she would make a scene if it came up. I respect her wishes, but I really don't care if I out myself and find myself leaving the house with mascara on or nail polish and such.
As I reflect back on my life, (I recently suffered a minor stroke) I find that I do not regret any of the things I have DONE, only things I have left UNDONE. Now I consider myself bi-gender. I am equally happy however I am presenting, but find myself unhappy that I can't present as a woman as much as I would like to. I feel it is time for another long talk with my wife to try and figure things out. I hope she continues to understand and can support my need to get out in the world more often.
I would like to thank all of you here on this forum. I don't always post a reply, but I read a lot of the posts and replies here and they have helped me through some issues and foggy feelings.
Thanks for listening. Peace.
No one around me has made a deal over my changes in appearance. Both ears pierced now three holes each. (I want four) I have shaved off my beard and keep my legs shaved all the time. I keep my nails longer (except when they break from work) and my toenails are almost always purple. I've also started shaping my eyebrows. They are light and I really don't think it's noticeable.
I have developed the feeling that I really don't care who finds out. I feel like it would be better if the whole world knew. However, my wife is not comfortable telling people. She says she doesn't want to have to defend me if some one said something bad about me and she is afraid she would make a scene if it came up. I respect her wishes, but I really don't care if I out myself and find myself leaving the house with mascara on or nail polish and such.
As I reflect back on my life, (I recently suffered a minor stroke) I find that I do not regret any of the things I have DONE, only things I have left UNDONE. Now I consider myself bi-gender. I am equally happy however I am presenting, but find myself unhappy that I can't present as a woman as much as I would like to. I feel it is time for another long talk with my wife to try and figure things out. I hope she continues to understand and can support my need to get out in the world more often.
I would like to thank all of you here on this forum. I don't always post a reply, but I read a lot of the posts and replies here and they have helped me through some issues and foggy feelings.
Thanks for listening. Peace.