Was it just the pink fog?

[sarahcsc]

When I first started dressing en femme, I was excited about every type of clothing and filled my closet with clothes of all kinds ie. casual, party, cocktail dresses etc. But I lost interest in them very quickly after wearing them once or twice in front of the mirror and soon found myself selling them off.

I later discovered my preferred taste of women clothes ie. denims and sleeved tops and started to shop more selectively. Now I have only a few sets of clothes which I feel confident wearing.

To make the long story short, my frantic buying days are over and I rarely shop for new clothes these days unless I find the inspiration to do it. I still dress up every night in my favourite lingerie but I haven't bought any new lingerie in such a long time. I also do all the girly things at night such as shaving/epilating and looking after my skin. But otherwise, I have not done anything adventurous for a while now.

Dressing up just feels normal to me and I hardly derive any sexual gratification from it anymore.

Is anybody feeling the same way?

[reb.femme]

Hi Sara,

Having seen your pics, maybe you've reached perfection. :straightface:

I understand the loss of interest, as dressing becomes the norm. I think we reach a dressing maturity insofar that the previous needs are no longer there and the satisfaction comes from being as we are.

My wife always says that when I dress I'm set to go out, not for a night in, so I need more casual kit. Hoodies and tracky bottoms here I come.......oh dear! :sad:

Rebecca

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Sarah, First I must say how young and beautiful you are .
I know the feeling frantic buying over the years I have three
closets full I have almost stopped buying new clothes.
I go through the closets and pick out things that I've
forgotten about it's just like new buying new without spending money.

[I Am Paula]

I think you're just experiencing a common, and logical progression. When I got my first apartment many years ago, I bought clothing for no reason other than to own them, and some experimentation with style. I'd sit by myself and watch T.V. in a cocktail dress. As I grew, I found my own style, which, coincidentally, is just what the women out on the street are wearing. I own more jeans than dresses, and heels are for parties, or theatre.
I still take a lot of pride in my style, and dress very well, but I'm way more girl next door than fashionista.
The sexual aspect of dressing faded, then disappeared very early on.

[kimdl93]

Very much so. I think there is an initial rush at just the notion of bing able to have a whole he, exciting array of choices. But as we get settled, we start to recognize our own style. Some of those pretty party dresses don't fit our sense of self and others, well, the expression all dressed up and no where to go comes to mind. I'm far more casual in my clothing selections than at first.

[Bree Wagner]

But as we get settled, we start to recognize our own style.

Absolutely! Sure doesn't mean I don't mind going shopping and continuing to experiment, but I find myself getting (and wearing) certain types of clothes far more often than others.

Sometimes it can be nice to feel normal, huh?

-Bree

[Erica Marie]

I know your feeling. I used to go shopping and head home with a few bags of new cloths. All different styles. After finally finding my size and style that suits me the excitement has also worn off, but for me it is because now that I found that style I have not been able to express myself. Living in a small town I wont go out because noone knows about my dressing and just to dress at home doesnt have the appeal it used to. For me to bring back the fog I must find a way to get out and see the world through my female eyes.

[MissTee]

Same here. I still love a good sale, but am far more selective. Also, since I am an innie rather than an outie, I now realize how strange it seems to dress up in heels and a cocktail dress just to throw a boxed meal into the microwave and dine with myself :brolleyes:

[MysticLady]

Dressing up just feels normal to me and I hardly derive any sexual gratification from it anymore.

Is anybody feeling the same way?

Oh Oh, someone will be getting the itch to be wanting to head out, into the big bad world :heehee:.

[Jenniferathome]

...Dressing up just feels normal to me....

Yes, exactly. Once the taboo nature of it is gone, normalcy prevails. Odd.

[Jaymees22]

Yes, I feel the same way. I feel I have enough clothes now and was thinking of losing the cocktail dresses, having only worn them a few times and not wearing them lately. I did pick up a couple of scarfs the other day and a girl's watch to accessorize what I have been wearing. Hugs Jaymee

[Beverley Sims]

Sarah,
You have come of age, progression is what it is.
Congratulations.

[Kate Simmons]

For many of us it becomes less about the clothes and more about who we are inside as a person and expressing that over time. I think when we reach the point where it's no big deal, we are pretty much there. :)

[Cheryl Ann Owens]

That confirms for me that I'm part of this "club." Today I wear women's jeans and sneakers, and a nice feminine top. I also sleep in women's PJ's and nightgowns. It's also about comfort as it is for everyday women. There are times I will put on a dress and dress the "bank teller" role while on the computer. My ears are pierced so I will wear earrings. But not every day. I went through times of dressing elegantly and stare in a full length mirror which affirmed my inner fellings. But I too was all dressed up with nowhere to go. I hardly do any makeup. How many typical women spend the time? I just feel I'm mainstream typical of women. I'm content!

Cheryl

[Frédérique]

Was it just the pink fog? Dressing up just feels normal to me and I hardly derive any sexual gratification from it anymore. Is anybody feeling the same way?

I never derived any sexual gratification from my crossdressing, but I’m a bit unique in that regard. You see, I suffer from another kind of fog, more blue than pink, whereby sexual urges push the “girl” away completely. SHE has to be resolute, as well as patient, and wait her turn until the “boys” are through controlling my mind. I was in such a fog yesterday, and I did ZERO crossdressing and ZERO writing. I’m OK now. Of course, I’m OK when I’m in the fog, too, all “suffering” being relative...
:idontknow:

[Nikki A.]

Since I help my friend out at her second hand store, she always tells me that if I like something, take it. However unless it fits and it looks good on me and I really like it, I rarely take her up on it. Matter of fact I've probably brought her back as much this summer as I've taken, but what I've take I now do wear.

[Dalva]

This is a good topic, Sarah. I was thinking about this very same thing today and also, was discussing this briefly while Yahooing with another member last night.

I've been dressing a long time and have yet to become complacent about it. (if I can use that term). Sure, I may not be driven to constantly shop as much, but I still do often, albeit selectively. I still love to dress in anything my mood dictates, regardless of the fact I'm just doing it home alone. So, that could be in a cocktail dress or it may be in leggings and a simple top.

However, I don't rush to my closet at every opportunity like I used to. I have to admit there are times when I can't be bothered if I have the opportunity to do so.

As far as sexual gratification goes, well, I don't necessarily "gratify" myself but I still experience a heightened degree of sensual feelings. To this day, there is still a bit of a rush from opening a new pair of pantyhose and sliding them on, even though I've been doing so for maybe 40 years.

That's not to say that I need to masturbate or anything. In fact I remain ...um...flaccid more often then not but psychologically, I'm still aroused to a degree.

And to be honest, I don't want that to go away. I haven't had the nerve yet to go out dressed, but I'm moving to that stage more and more. When it does happen, I'm sure I'll be opening up a whole new can of excitement (ok, maybe not sexual) which will remain fresh and new for some time.

[erickka]

I used to be that way myself...buying all sorts of different clothes and shoes, just so I could have them. I too have more or less settled into the category of "dressy casual" for my style. I am MUCH more disciplined and selective on my purchases and buy only when I need something. I also feel as though my dressing has morphed well into a normal thing.

[sarahcsc]

Ahh... that is great. It is good to know that I'm not alone!

I've also been less motivated to take pictures these days (unless inspired) which is a shame really. I really enjoyed posing in front of a camera but it takes up an entire day to produce good shots! >_<

I don't know how this crossdressing thing will play out, but I seem happy with who I am at the moment. I'm the man behind the helm in the day, but at night I'm girly as ever. Lol. I like it that way. The chinese call it the Yin (feminine) and the Yang (masculine).

[samanthasolo]

If I am just dressing at home there is always some sexual aspect to my dressing. The arousal factor is always something which is the catalyst for me just as it was many years ago when I first started dressing. Now if I am going the whole 9 with my dressing wether to get out in public or just to take some nice pictures. That is when the whole sexual and arousal factor takes a back seat. For some reason at that point there is a real natural comfort level that takes over and I seem to just want to savor being the girl and just enjoy the sensual and feminine side that takes over me.

[deebra]

I know you've heard this from GG's, when they get down and depressed going shopping, finding something new that makes them look good is emotionally uplifting. Just walking past all the new styles and colors of panties in a store gets my motor reved up. Yes I have found the style I like but trying on something new, colorful and feminine brings excitement and with your looks you've got a lot to work with.