Any Crossdressing Bullies Here?

[Lynn Marie]

In school, I was an occasional victim of bullies, but because I was tall I was usually left alone. At one school I went to I was even part of the gang of semi-tough kids. Had everybody fooled! Just wondering if any of those over-sized, over-compensators, got over themselves and ended up here with us semi-ordinary folks.

[Christie Camelle]

No bullies here. Now gimme your lunch money!!! LOL!

[Erica Marie]

No bully here. I was always the smaller, quiet shy kid. Usually the one getting picked on. Oh well Im better looking than most of their wives now. So who is the winner :)

[Christie Camelle]

Oh well Im better looking than most of their wives now. So who is the winner :)

Love it!!! :)

[Beverley Sims]

And so the world turns.
What would some of your friends say now?

[Kate Simmons]

No bullies per se Hon but on here they would be called "The Heathers", but I digress.......:heehee::)

[mona lisa]

No bullies here...just laying on the bed in red lingerie and black stockings reading the forum threads :)

[Michelle55]

Never anything like a bully. I was bullied a lot in grade school, then some less in high school. After taking a personal defense class while in college I had no more problems.

I think it has to do with knowing you know how to defend yourself lets you walk and act a little different. You no longer had that slight fear and make yourself a target.

I've never started a fight or bullied anyone and hope to keep it that way.

[Cynthia Anne]

Interesting! Was I a bully! Some kids thought so! However, I never ''picked'' on anyone smaller then me! However, I did ''pick'' on those who were bullies! I was pretty much a loner who was not afraid to bleed!

[I Am Paula]

I was in the best rock band in school, and had a motorcycle. I was nearly a god. The bullying started when I joined the work force.

[Tracii G]

Never liked bullies and had to take a few down in high school, usually made sure there was a big crowd around to see it.

[Vanessa5]

Got bullied way more than I can remember all through Jr and Sr high. Wasn't until I figured out how to defend myself that the tables turned. I have never taken the first swing, always the last and made it count.

[MysticLady]

Off Course there is but, just like school, you need to get in their face and let them know that you have a stump, readily avaliable:heehee:

[kimdl93]

Grew up in a small town, had a bunch of older brothers and I was a pretty big kid for my age. Plus I was fairly stubborn and didn't accept crap from the few bullies I encountered. If I couldn't beat them, they knew my older brothers would.

[lisalove]

It seemed every school I went to and every grade i was in, somene always tried to bully me. Somwone always got their butt kicked or their head bashed in, and I'll give ya a hint, it wasn't me that got it.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Lynn' I was bullied being over weight with boy boobs the six years in Jr. & Sr. High School was the worst six years of my life.

[Lynn Marie]

Lots of interesting answers. No real bullies so far. Are we all just oversensitive nerds?

[Frédérique]

Any Crossdressing Bullies Here?

You know, Lynn, I do believe you’ve crafted the ultimate TROLLING post! Crossdressing bullies on this site? In this section? Oh, perish the thought…:doh:

I know you didn’t mean it that way, but…er…I can’t say more than I already have! I'm sure bullies don't think of themselves as bullies, n'est ce pas?

[joank]

No bully but football player, hot rod car club (jacket and all), rodeo rider and wrestler. How's that?

[robindee36]

Not me Lynn. I was on the receiving end of most of the bullying.

Hugs, Robin

[Asche]

Fortunately, it's hard to do full-blown bullying on a site like this, if you make sure to keep any personal details or contact info private, but I've certainly had people using bullying tactics in threads I've participated in.

There are people here at CD.com (like elsewhere) who think that someone not being the way they like or the way they think people ought to be is reason relieves them of any obligation to treat that someone like a human being -- that it even obligates them to "straighten him out." I'm sure the Mods here could tell some stories....

It's one reason I would be very, very wary of meeting anybody from CD.com in Real Life.


I'm sure bullies don't think of themselves as bullies

Yes, quite the opposite. They generally believe that their victims are picking on them.

[donnalee]

Yes, quite the opposite. They generally believe that their victims are picking on them.No, they say that when someone catches them! The other one is "Give me my money!" when stealing someone else's.

[Asche]

No, they say that when someone catches them!
No, they actually believe that their victims are at fault.

Most (but not all) bullies have been bullied themselves, typically by parents or siblings, though the outside world might not always recognize it as bullying.

These bullies typically feel threatened by their victims' weakness, or differentness, or whatever (because they fear being weak, different, etc., themselves), and project that feeling on their victims. They then rationalize that the victim somehow did something which "forced" them to attack the victim.

There are also bullies who are simply members of a dominant group who have discovered they can do mean things to members of a non-dominant group and not suffer any consequences -- and that they like doing it. A lot of racists, misogynists, homophobes, etc., are like that.


The other one is "Give me my money!" when stealing someone else's.
I've never experienced "give me ... money" bullying, and I don't know anyone who has. Not to say it doesn't exist, though, but it doesn't seem to be the norm.

[donnalee]

No, they actually believe that their victims are at fault.

Most (but not all) bullies have been bullied themselves, typically by parents or siblings, though the outside world might not always recognize it as bullying.

These bullies typically feel threatened by their victims' weakness, or differentness, or whatever (because they fear being weak, different, etc., themselves), and project that feeling on their victims. They then rationalize that the victim somehow did something which "forced" them to attack the victim.

There are also bullies who are simply members of a dominant group who have discovered they can do mean things to members of a non-dominant group and not suffer any consequences -- and that they like doing it. A lot of racists, misogynists, homophobes, etc., are like that.But no one could make a statement like that (although they could, I suppose, have dredged it up from some bodily orifice) unless the bully had been caught. Now that I think about it, I tend toward the orifice theory.



I've never experienced "give me ... money" bullying, and I don't know anyone who has. Not to say it doesn't exist, though, but it doesn't seem to be the norm.
I've personally witnessed this; unfortunately, it slowed me down enough to let them escape. When I mentioned this to an employee, he told me the same thing had happened when HE got mugged.

[Tina B.]

Bully's, I knew them well when I was in school, my family moved a lot and I was always the new kid in school, but unfortunately for the bully, I was taught you never back down, win or lose, they will know they where in a good one and would have there own bruises to nurse. no crying, and no running away. I got left alone after the first contact with the school bully, often became good friends. At least enough, we usually only tangled once.

[Stephanie47]

When I was in elementary school I was bullied on occasion for the clothes my mother picked out for me. All I wanted to wear was dungarees like the other boys. There was no chance to rebel at that age. As I got older I started to rebel or act out. I was also bullied because I was smarter than the bullies. It wasn't until junior high that the bullying stop because the classes were segregated by ability. The bullies ended up in their own classes, while the nerds ended up all together. I never knew nerds to bully each other.

[Asche]

But no one could make a statement like that (although they could, I suppose, have dredged it up from some bodily orifice) unless the bully had been caught.
"Caught"?

In almost all cases, everybody (including people in authority) knows who the bully is and what they are doing, nor do bullies go to much trouble to deny what they're doing. So it's not hard to get them to talk about what they're doing and why.

Nobody bothers to stop them because it's too much trouble and they always pick on people that nobody likes all that much anyway (or at least nobody who is in a position to do anything about it -- e.g., authorities, peers, etc.) And bullies always know exactly what they can get away with and what they can't.

[Sarah Beth]

I was bullied a lot when I was younger, I wasn't ever supposed to fight back. When I was junior in high shcool I suddenly had had enough and started fighting back. Turned pretty wild at that point and got into a lot of fights but I never bullied anyone, never cared for or respected anyone who would bully another.