Are you happy?

[Kate Simmons]

We know that many here, including myself, have SO's who are accepting of their CDing in various degrees. I'm wondering, though, how many appreciate the fact that their SO really adores them in guy mode and when they act like a man? It seems to me many underestimate that fact which is what most likely attracted the SO to them to begin with. I noticed also that many downplay the masculine role in favor of wanting to act feminine when they spend time doing their own thing which sometimes causes a lot of sigh heaving with the SO and you know even if they don't vocalize it they are saying: "Again?" It's no wonder that many SO's will think "What's wrong with me that he has to do that?"

So, my question is are you happy being a man or do you feel something is missing in your life? Is CDing escapism for you as it were from the pressures and responsibilities of life as a man and do you feel you would want to become a woman given the chance? That in itself is an illusion and really being a woman is no picnic either, which in reality includes caring for a family, caring for a home and being possibly a bread winner as well. Most women seem to take that in stride and are multi taskers out on necessity but still find happiness in all of that.

I've come to the point in my own life where I'm happy being a man and enjoying it and the love of my woman. She loves dancing with me, watching me dance and perform en femme but knows when all is said and done she has her man to relate to. So my last question would be for those with accepting SO's: "Are you happy being her man and being just a part time girl or would you like more?" :)

[Rachael Leigh]

I discovered about a year or so ago that I must figure out what of this would make me happy, my CDing that is. My wife who knows but is mostly DADT and thru a lot of praying and soul searching that I understand I am a man and that's who my wife married. Yes she did know about my dressing when we got married but she married me for me. I went to far with my dressing and so we drifted but now we are much happier even though shes aware of me still dressing. I also knew that trying to look like a women was just not me since Im not a women. and why should I try and deceive people into thinking otherwise. Now the way I do certain things some might think Im gay but Im not that either Im a man made in Gods image so therefore that is how I am. I like certain types of clothes and while society may say well that's girly well so be it but this is me a guy with a taste in so called womens styles .

[Beverley Sims]

I get to be a part time woman enough to make us both happy.
The part man time certainly makes my wife happy.
We seem to have struck a reasonable balance.

[Veronica27]

I am very happy being a man; always have been and at age 74 probably always will be. Crossdressing for me is a kind of escapism, mixed with a lot of adventure, risk taking and sensuous pleasure. I am not escaping from being a man, but simply from some of the demands that society's image of masculinity places upon us, such as some of the things that guys like to talk about when they are in a group. I don't always find the jokes funny, or their discussions to be the most stimulating conversation, but you are expected to go along with it all or risk being dismissed as something other than the man you know you really are. Rather than creating an unpleasant scene by saying anything, I try to avoid such situations whenever possible, and at times I allow myself to escape from such a masculine world by putting on women's clothing and allowing my male mind to enjoy some feminine sensations for a while.

Veronica

[Jaylyn]

I love being who I am. I am foremost a manly man that loves to do the hunting, fishing, working out and keeping the ranch in order. I have though enjoyed getting in touch with my feminine side. At present my wife has helped me so much to buy the clothes I like and help with my makeup and has been supportive 100%. We have even played like lesbian lovers before but still I don't push it it any farther. I know she loves me for who I represented when we married and that was a muscular man that that loves her and wants to spend all the rest of our lives together. Maybe if I were not married I might be dressed more even to the point of pursuing many other options in the field of CD ing. Am I happy? You betcha....I am in love at the age of 64 and want to grow old with my wife. In our relationship we have always just thought of every thing we have tried as "We" not me or her. Believe me we have tried lots of crazy things but it's always been us together. As we say " It's you and me babe against the world" I guess we are very similar to Kate.

[Suzanne F]

I am happy being with my wife. If I could choose I would be a woman but that would mean losing her. I don't want that! I am happy with my life and friends. I love my friends and 12 step support group. I love my children!!!! I would keep everyone else the same but just change my gender if I could. That is not possible at this time and I accept that. So yes I am happy with my life and family. I have the most wonderful wife who supports me and has been with me every step of my bizarre journey through long term sobriety and the revelation of my gender issue. I am grateful for that! I want to be my authentic self and I am sure that includes loving and supporting my wife. We are trying to find the balance that will make that possible!
Suzanne

[robindee36]

I am Happy, Happy, Happy as a matter of course. Happy as a man, Happy as a girl. Just enjoying life, which is too short to go through in misery.

Hugs all you Happy friends. Robin

[deebra]

I would like to be a well built, atractive woman for a year and then decide. I'm happy now as a male and cd but would being a woman make me happier, I don't know, it just might.

[Lynn Marie]

"Are you happy being her man and being just a part time girl or would you like more?" :)

I've got a new girlfriend and I want more. Like, is "washing machine sex" real? Okay, who gets tied up this evening? Dang, she's got way more heels than I do! I think she's just using me for sex.

[kimdl93]

I don't view this as an either or situation for myself. I'm obligated, that's the word I prefer, to present as male under some circumstances and choose to do so occasionally just out of consideration for my wife. But I strongly prefer the time I spend en femme. I'm happy either way.

[Vanessa5]

I enjoy my forays into the enfemme and sometimes wish I could be female but only for a short time. I do like my manhood.

[~Joanne~]

Are you happy being her man and being just a part time girl or would you like more?

I am completely happy being My SO's man and girlfriend when she needs one ;) I do not have any desires to take any of this past CDing.