In need of some advice

[Cheyenne Skye]

Now that my divorce is done, I've tallied up my debts and I'm screwed. There is no way my current income is going to be enough to even make payments to all those I now owe. So I'm contemplating getting a second job to supplement my income. I currently work in food service. I've been cooking for 25 years now. It would be very easy to walk into another restaurant and get a part time job as a cook. But it would have to be as "him". I'm not fully out at work yet. I would like to consider a part time job in retail at the mall across the street from my current job. And it would be nice if I could do so as "her". There is a particular store I'm interested in and I looked up their anti discrimination policy online and it even includes "gender identity and expression". Which would be great except that their website also didn't list any openings at this location or any of the others within 15 miles. So seeing as how I'm not yet full time or have my name legally changed, any suggestions on how I can get a part time job as "her"?

[kimdl93]

I've never tried to apply as a woman so I can't offer advice from experience. But I agree with the merit of getting a second job...put that ahead of getting a job where you can work as 'her' and if the job pays well enough and the management and policies seem reasonable, then consider coming out at your second job. If it works it will be a good trial run for coming out at your primary job.

[Ann Louise]

Maybe find a trans-friendly roommate, too. Better yet, another transwoman like us. You'd gain support financially and emotionally, no?

[kimberly ann487]

This is an excellent thread, I think a whole section could be dedicated to employment or self employment opportunities and ideas.

[arbon]

All you can do is try, there's nothing to lose is there? It's not going to be easy though.

[vikki2020]

You wouldn't have to actually change your name, if you are ok with that. You could always apply, and explain the situation if you get an interview. All's they can do is say no----or yes.