Jill Devine
10-03-2013, 09:30 AM
I hope that my post will help those of you who are in a relationship with a lukewarm semi-accepting wife.
I've been with my wife for close to 20 yrs now. I came out to her a few months into the relationship. We had lots of fun with it early on but she gradually cooled off over the years as the novelty was replaced by reality.
Never got to a full DADT but she wasn't thrilled by it either.
Well the good news is that time is an amazing healer. Because of time and a lot of open and honest communication things gradually improved again. I guess it helped that I was patient and didn't push too hard.
Slowly but surely the communication over time helped. My love and respect for her helped. Staying best friends helped. Me being mindful of keeping balance helped. Revisiting discussion points over and over and over helped.
Time and patience = success
Today she is very accepting of me. And I remind her daily that I value her in the highest regard. She happens to be a very attractive woman who turns heads wherever she goes. I let her know that she remains the best in the world in my eyes both physically and inside.
The lesson is to never stop communicating. Work hard to become and then remain best friends. Respect her and love her. Often you reap what you sow - it will come back to you.
I've been with my wife for close to 20 yrs now. I came out to her a few months into the relationship. We had lots of fun with it early on but she gradually cooled off over the years as the novelty was replaced by reality.
Never got to a full DADT but she wasn't thrilled by it either.
Well the good news is that time is an amazing healer. Because of time and a lot of open and honest communication things gradually improved again. I guess it helped that I was patient and didn't push too hard.
Slowly but surely the communication over time helped. My love and respect for her helped. Staying best friends helped. Me being mindful of keeping balance helped. Revisiting discussion points over and over and over helped.
Time and patience = success
Today she is very accepting of me. And I remind her daily that I value her in the highest regard. She happens to be a very attractive woman who turns heads wherever she goes. I let her know that she remains the best in the world in my eyes both physically and inside.
The lesson is to never stop communicating. Work hard to become and then remain best friends. Respect her and love her. Often you reap what you sow - it will come back to you.