Quick quiz

[Lorileah]

Be honest with yourself, you don't have to post your answers here but just think about it.

If the question was asked

"Crossdressing is..." how would you answer off the top of your head?

Would it be (and these are only for illustration)
a) wrong
b) sinful
c) perverted.
d) Ok if kept quiet
e) Ok no matter what
f) strange
g) learned
h) inborn
i) a hobby
j) a lifestyle

Don't limit yourself to those answers. But do be honest with yourself. Don't choose the answer you THINK everyone wants to hear. But do think about what comes to your mind first. And please don't argue with anyone who posts, it is their opinion and they have the right to have that.

[cdmorganashley]

i would probably say that i have no problem with it and something like hey its not hurting anyone so why not... that being said i seriously doubt i would reveal that i am a crossdresser or that i really think its awesome =)

[Debra Russell]

....part of who I am........Debra

[Beverley Sims]

After consideration "I" is my answer.
Off the top of my head, it is a combination in this order.
"D","F","I",and "H".
a) wrong
b) sinful
c) perverted.
d) Ok if kept quiet
e) Ok no matter what
f) strange
g) learned
h) inborn
i) a hobby
j) a lifestyle

[samanthasolo]

It is a part of ME that came with birth and a part of ME I have finally learned how to nurture, accept, and embrace. It is no longer a curse to be hidden but a blessing in disguise

[RADER]

It is just what I like to do; No real reason, just me.
I wish I could dress more often and in public, but society is just not ready
for a large guy wearing a dress and a mustache.
Rader

[Carole]

h with a capital Huh

[moonedo]

e, h an i for me.

[Joanne f]

Wearing the clothes that you think I shouldn't.

[Kelly2u]

I would say for me crossdressing is a learned urge that grows like a hunger until it is fulfilled, then eases off for awhile. So, perhaps a strange hobby best kept quiet!

[Kate Simmons]

My answers would have to be that it's an artform and fun.:)

[Christina Kay]

H --- and coming to accept and enjoy my feminine undertones. :) hugs

[StephanieCD21]

Off the top of my head, my answer is:
Fun.

After careful consideration, my answer is:
Misunderstood.

[Jenniferathome]

Weird. Then, inborn (genetic).

[franlee]

It's hard to answer it any better or more accurately.
Off the top of my head, my answer is:
Fun.

After careful consideration, my answer is:
Misunderstood.

[ColleenCD]

Hi Lorileah,

k) Confusing - Because at times it's; a) through j), all of the above.

Great question though,

Colleen

[Karren H]

Overly complicating my life....

[Erica Marie]

Im going with answer

L) Crossdressing is normal and everyone else is wrong.

[Rachelakld]

I, a hobby that I've enjoyed since I can remember

[Michelle789]

Since this is an open-ended essay question, I will elaborate.
Cross-dressing is a part of who I am, and occurs because some part of me internally is female (be it 20%, 50%, or 100%), and I want to be able to express a vital part of who I am, even if it's done privately. For me CDing is 100% okay, my only concern is what others think, because others may think it's weird or not accept me CDing, which is why I've kept it secret. I think even so-called accepting people might not want to associate with a CD because of "guilt by association". But for me, it's an important part of who I am, it's a road to self-discovery and self-expression, and is lots of fun too. I dread shopping for male clothes, but shopping for women's clothes or wigs is a lot of fun. Shaving my beard is a chore, but doing makeup is fun.

If this was a multiple choice question, I would go with E, H, and J.

[Suzanne F]

I do not believe it is wrong or sinful or perverted. I believe I was born this way. I would be totally out if not for my wife's wishes. I am out to many friends and family members. It took 48 years to come to these conclusions. In my case it is not a hobby. It is who I am!
Suzanne

[Zylia]

Cross-dressing is fun, in moderation. I called it 'a hobby' before and it still is, for me at least. It may be a lifestyle if you do it a lot. For me, cross-dressing ends where a dysphoric level of a gender identity disorder begins.

According to my own moral code, it's inherently OK no matter what, but you do have to take other people's views and wishes into account.

[minalost]

I'm also going with: FUN!

[StaceyJane]

Crossdressing is great!

[Rachael Leigh]

I am in the catagory that it's strange and a little unusual. It is however as Mr Spock would say fascinating. I mean what is it that draws any of us into a world where we might be picked on seen as not normal. I do think there is most definitely choice involved here. We make so many choices thurout our lives that effect many things and people.

[Georgina]

Inevitable.

[vallerie lacy]

the reason why I have a dresser full of lingerie

[Brittany CD]

Definitely a hobby for me

[bobbimo]

Off the top of my head, the first things that complete the statement is wonderful, fun, amazing, glorious, and scary
Bobbi

[Lorileah]

According to my own moral code, it's inherently OK no matter what,

:yt: Perfect :) morals are personal

[Leeza]

It's Freedom. ;)

[Dani0948]

About as much fun as you can have with your clothes on.

[Aly Cat]

H is my first thought. Nothing prompted me to do it or got me into it. It started as early as 4-5 and was just something I felt but not in a specific way. Just like when you are a kid you dont really focus on I feel like a boy or girl. You just simply enjoy playing with boy toys or girl toys. Its not intentional for me. Its just a part of my many facets that make me who I am.

[Melissa73]

i have to say it's inborn! a few yrs ago, i would have said weird, and ok to be kept quiet! but since ive come out, i have to just say this is me! i was born this was.... and its ok!!!

[Bree Wagner]

Fantastic! (With a smile)

[Allesandra Rhodes]

Count me with those who said "Fun", well that's the first thing that naturally came to mind.

[iGenny]

f) Strange. Honestly.

[kimdl93]

not the first thing that crossed my mind.

[marciaanne]

Hobby for me. Less than my other hobbies but something I enjoy when I dress up.

[giuseppina]

I pick e) OK no matter what, h) inborn, and g) learned in that order.

I'm inclined to think e) is obvious, h) is supported by science at least to some degree, and g) because the person inclined to crossdress may learn of the benefits and pitfalls of partaking, usually early in life, especially the pitfalls.

I have deliberately not read any responses before posting this.

[Kiwi Primrose]

In my case it is who I am and it began 70 years ago when I refused to wear boys underwear.
So it must be inborn but to me it is also a way of life. I can not see me changing now.

[Teddie]

An inborn, strange, but wonderful part of life. That I'm glad is part of me.

[Laura28]

strange and then inborn, it is however who i am.

[Kate's at home]

Now, with years of experience and acceptance, it's D (for me, no way I could pass...tho I wish I could), H (very helpful to know, even if at theory stages now), and J (enriching). When I was much younger, understood nothing about and felt very much alone in, definitely A and (very) F.

Knowledge and acceptance is power...

Kate

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Lorileah, If I have to explain it to you then you probably wouldn't understand it anyway.

[Wendy me]

crossdressing is something i do in drab.... i am Wendy and thats who i am... clouthing is a cover not who i am.....don't get me wrong being dressed femail is more the outside matching the inside ....

[Connie D50]

A must for me :-)

[brassieres]

Can anyone honestly answer the first 3 without incriminating themselves? :o

[QUOTE=Lorileah;3316944]Be honest with yourself, you don't have to post your answers here but just think about it.

If the question was asked

"Crossdressing is..." how would you answer off the top of your head?

Would it be (and these are only for illustration)
a) wrong
b) sinful
c) perverted.

[Marcelle]

Before I accepted who I am . . . Wrong, strange, perverted, sick . . . think a knife wielding Anthony Perkins in Psycho mentally disturbed.

Now that I am beginning to understand and accept . . . part of me, who I am, scary (this is a very scary thing to accept still).

Hugs

Isha

[Sandra Dee]

E, H and I for me.

[Lorileah]

Can anyone honestly answer the first 3 without incriminating themselves? :o


sure, many people probably believe that they are all or any of those. It is why when we discuss things here we get so many different answers. We each come from a different perspective. Some think it is wrong, some think it is not.

And if those who don't want to "incriminate themselves" don't want to post, that is alright. I started this so that we can all think about how we feel about it.

[Allison Quinn]

E and H
We aren't hurting anybody, so I see nothing wrong. If anything we are hurting ourselves trying to repress feelings.
and H I think it's inborn. At least for me it was unless it could somehow have been learned from growing up with literally all girls? I'm still on the fence about that o3o I wonder how much of my gender identity was learned and inborn still.

[HCarla]

Crossdressing...Hot, Sexy, is a way to express yourself.

[Cheryl T]

Answer... "Crossdressing is" in my Genes, and not those by Levi Strauss.

[Robin777]

the reason why I have a dresser full of lingerie
And closets full of women's clothes. It is a thing I have to do to keep myself sane.

[NathalieX66]

k) Me.

Don't know why, don't care.

[Maryesther M.]

I'd say it was perfectly OK, provided no-one's sensibilities were hurt. I'd also add that it is ......Fun!

M.

[julia marie]

Can I do "I-plus"? Something between hobby and lifestyle? I guess hobby would be something just for fun; lifestyle would be something that falls more on the "need to do" side of the spectrum.

[FoxxxyBri]

I put "a hobby" for all the top of my head...

But OK NO MATTER WHAT is also how I feel about it.

So both my OK No Matter what Hobby lol

[Helen_Highwater]

Crossdressing is part of what I am. It's not a perversion, it's just a variation on a theme.Something I do but can't really explain.

[Dianne S]

I would answer: "something I really enjoy doing."

I obviously don't think it's wrong, sinful or perverted. I think it's Ok if kept quiet. It may *not* be "Ok no matter what" depending on one's situation.

It's definitely strange :) I don't think it's learned; I think it's inborn. It's more than just a hobby for me, but less than a lifestyle. (May be a lifestyle for others, though.)

[melissalynn]

It's really what you want to make of it; a way to express a state of mind.

[MatildaJ.]

It is however as Mr Spock would say fascinating.

Agreed! Also -- okay if it's your thing.

[Farrah]

Complicated. So many mixed emotions, for me at least.

[Tanya J]

A way to feel better about myself as a person. A way to express something i feel a need for on the inside. A way to try to replicate something so pretty that i will never understand why all humans wouldn't want to make themselves look as much like a female as they could.

[Brooklyn]

It's magical, delightful, funny, sometimes soothing, sometimes kinky, always part of me... and I'm OK with that!