Barbara Ella
10-16-2013, 11:33 PM
I may have mentioned that I started with a local TG support group. Wonderful group. But that's another story.
Six weeks ago, first meeting, i went in drab as I did not know the group or the accommodations. After the meeting, i told the wife i was going dressed to the next meeting.
Two weeks ago, I went to the meeting dressed. Wife working late at daughter's office, so i dressed, went to the meeting, and returned and changed back before she got home.
As we talked about the meeting, the fact that I went dressed took her aback. She claimed I did not tell her I was doing that. I reminded her,but her mindset was that I had not told that day that I was going dressed. She had an emotional meltdown. Middle of the night,she comes in from the other bedroom, crying, and tells me to leave the bed and sleep in the other room, never kiss her, touch her, hug her, or love her. I comply. Not a good night. Next morning she apologizes and says she realizes this was not proper, and things were good, if somewhat tenuous.
This morning, I told her I would go dressed to the meeting, and would dress at home and leave the garage in the dark so no one would see me. She thanked me,and went to work at daughter's.
At 5 pm, just out of the shower,she calls and says she is getting dinner and coming home early,but I am not to change my appearance from wherever it is...Just out of shower so I told her I would at least put on a robe...She thanked me for that...lol
We ate dinner, I went downstairs to change and dress. When completed, i warned her I was coming up and she could not look, and i would leave peacefully. She said no, and wanted me to come and sit with her and talk. I was shocked in the most wonderful way. First time in over 18 months she has wanted to be with me while fully dressed.
We talked for 20 minutes before I left. We talked for 30 minutes after coming home. She also decided she would go with me to Chicago on Nov. 8 when i go up to see a sister from here who is undergoing FFS the next day. I wanted to be with her and her wife before, during and right after surgery just in case they needed anything. Wife agreed to come up to lend her support for the couple. I am so happy this evening.
A wonderful evening for me. Thanks for reading.
Barbara
Six weeks ago, first meeting, i went in drab as I did not know the group or the accommodations. After the meeting, i told the wife i was going dressed to the next meeting.
Two weeks ago, I went to the meeting dressed. Wife working late at daughter's office, so i dressed, went to the meeting, and returned and changed back before she got home.
As we talked about the meeting, the fact that I went dressed took her aback. She claimed I did not tell her I was doing that. I reminded her,but her mindset was that I had not told that day that I was going dressed. She had an emotional meltdown. Middle of the night,she comes in from the other bedroom, crying, and tells me to leave the bed and sleep in the other room, never kiss her, touch her, hug her, or love her. I comply. Not a good night. Next morning she apologizes and says she realizes this was not proper, and things were good, if somewhat tenuous.
This morning, I told her I would go dressed to the meeting, and would dress at home and leave the garage in the dark so no one would see me. She thanked me,and went to work at daughter's.
At 5 pm, just out of the shower,she calls and says she is getting dinner and coming home early,but I am not to change my appearance from wherever it is...Just out of shower so I told her I would at least put on a robe...She thanked me for that...lol
We ate dinner, I went downstairs to change and dress. When completed, i warned her I was coming up and she could not look, and i would leave peacefully. She said no, and wanted me to come and sit with her and talk. I was shocked in the most wonderful way. First time in over 18 months she has wanted to be with me while fully dressed.
We talked for 20 minutes before I left. We talked for 30 minutes after coming home. She also decided she would go with me to Chicago on Nov. 8 when i go up to see a sister from here who is undergoing FFS the next day. I wanted to be with her and her wife before, during and right after surgery just in case they needed anything. Wife agreed to come up to lend her support for the couple. I am so happy this evening.
A wonderful evening for me. Thanks for reading.
Barbara