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[JenniferR771]

Arragh! My wife had to use the computer and she clicked the tab of this site. It opened again to my personal page with its photo. Long curly blond hair. She also saw my avatar picture a couple of weeks ago--when she was trying to check her email. Usually she insists that I close this site when she is in the house.
Not really a big deal. She knows, but does not approve.
"Why do you plaster your picture all over the internet? You think you look so GOOD!" (In a high, whiny, sarcastic voice.)
"You didn't have to click on it. I look fairly good...from a distance."

I tried to explain the personal page, photo and friend requests. Tried to reassure her I was not chatting porn with someone online.

Not much anger this time. Not even any raised voice or profanity. Maybe that is slight progress--or wishful thinking. I am trying to be nice to her.

[kimdl93]

I don't get the impression that this is progress. At the same time I am not sure how you might begin to improve on the situation. The on line presence is one issue. Obviously there are others. Would it be a good idea to slowly and thoughtfully begin to communicate in a meaningful and, on both parts, nonjudgmental way about your CDing?

[Shelly Preston]

Anything that improves your situation however small is progress.

[Beverley Sims]

Jennifer,
Hopefully she is realising the situation.

[Kate Simmons]

Many women are naturally curious but don't like the can of worms that they open. Oh well, can't please everyone, ya know?:)

[Cheryl123]

Wouldn't know how to give advice, but you do look GOOD Jennifer.

[linda allen]

Kim is correct, you two need to communicate about your crossdressing.

As for the computer, you should be more careful about your traces and your links. You never know who will be using your computer even if you don't normally let others use it. A few years ago I was hospitalized and my grown daughter came to see me and stayed at my house with my wife. She asked my wife if she could use my computer and my wife said OK. This was before I was on this site, but I believe my daughter saw some pictures of my wife that she shouldn't have seen because she mentioned it to me later.

I use the "In Private Browsing" feature of IE and don't have any links saved under favorites. Whatever browser you use, there are ways to keep your browsing private. I suggest you look into it.

Also, you lose control of anything you post on the Internet including photos. If you are recognizable in your photos, that could be a serious problem for you or your wife depending on your situation. Think seriously about it.

[Veronica497]

Well for Starters you don't look good you look GREAT! Which could be making her feel ways she isn't familure with and making her uncomfortable perhaps even confused. For me it was strange that in the beginning I felt jealousy, towards what, I wasn't sure of exactly, I just knew that I was. I had a hard time being certain that he still viewed me as a lover and a wife and wanted me the way a man wants a woman. I felt angry sometimes that he liked dressing as a woman like it somehow meant he was violating my rights to be a woman and my womanhood. It was all very complicated, I loved him and desperately wanted to be accepting but I had to sort out my feelings about it all and the only way I was able to do that was to know I could talk openly with him about it no matter how wrong my feelings may have been or how off the mark I was. I agree with the others though, not sure if it's progress you are seeing here or just a lack of concern to care anymore. Either way it's time to try to talk openly about it with each other and in a nice manner without sarcasim and with complete honesty.