Have You Ever Been Flirted On While Crossdressed?

[KateSpade83]

I went to my Feb 2009 SSDI Pysch determination in downtown Chicago. To prove that my Paranoia was partly sourced from my crossdressing, I went in my best Pink skirt suit with makeup and lipstick on. And I sure attracted the men! Cross the street a man was purpose trying to walk into me but I looked and move away. After that in a building further down a man started flirting with me brushing up his hair, I passed him by walking behind him. I really tripped out the pysch with my crossdressing, I guess she found it as one of her most unusual interviews. Going home a woman said to me, " Do you need a paper, beauty?" Mom and I went to Ronnies steakhouse to eat and two men followed me. Then they got a laugh when I talked in my guy's voice to my mom.

Another time I went to a Gay Pride fest in my best Wolves Cheerleading outfit. A tranny admirer hit on me but I told him off saying I'm not into men or gay sex, but if I was he seemed to be a good looking enough lover. Then a bisexual woman with a hunk of a husband flirted with me by giving me "the gay hand."

Another time I was driving to church in Houston dressed up in my blue church skirt suit. A group of blacks on the other side of the road noticed how attractive I was and followed me into the church. The the guy interested in me, dressed in a suit, sat nearby as church went on. I never spoke a word but I guess God let out my speech and then this guy find out I'm a guy. So he changes pew and goes back to his family.

I was shopping in Galleria looking like a high class high maintenance chick in my St John white skirt suit. I passed by a group of hispanics and I just caught the heart of one guy... He turned around to look at me and I just turned to notice his reaction. He didn't make a move and I acted like "I'm too expensive for you to afford." Unfortunately when you shop in St John SA's think you have a ton of money to spend, and they will greet you extra nice. I brush them off saying I'm just browsing.

One time I was driving on my Honda Civic and I caught the attention of a pretty lesbian. She was attracted to me too so she opened her blouse up exposing more breast to me. I should have quickly stopped by the road and picked her up.

How about you - how have you been flirted on while crossdressed?

[Kate Simmons]

All the time Kate but it goes with the "turf" if you are going to go out en femme my friend.:battingeyelashes::)

[Jenniferathome]

Kate, have you ever thought that that those people "following" you were just going in the same direction? People adjust their clothing all the time without meaning anything. I think you are reading way too much into the behavior of people. No one "flirts" walking past someone. There is no time to flirt. Flirting takes interaction and time.

[Cynthia Anne]

I've had it to happen many a times! Some can be a little too persistent! Sometimes it feels kinda' good though!

[Lynn Marie]

LOL, It's usually me doing the flirting! If you don't like the attention simply say "I'm not that kind of girl". That should do the trick. Just about all the admirers that I've met over the years have been pretty harmless and conducted themselves as gentlemen. No need to be mean or rude to them. They're simply admiring you! How cool.

[Candice Mae]

Guys try to pick me up almost every time I go out, even while shopping for a sports bra.

[Beverley Sims]

Only at parties or private gatherings where others know what I am.
A couple of times when younger I was teamed up with guys that did not have a girlfriend and to look good we partnered each other.
I was hit on by a couple of these "dates" as they forgot what I was.
Yep, back in the olden days when I looked good. :)

[heatherdress]

I get firted on all the time when I wear my Piunk suit with makeup and lipstick.

I hate when those tranny admirers, bisexual women and pretty lesbians try to do bad things to me, like opening up their blouse and exposing more breast

I also don't stop on the road to pick them up..

[Audrey_FR]

I don't go out while en femme. But I often been flirted on... By my wife.

[michelle-]

I've never gone out en femme. However, last year for a costume party, I wore some ramdom clothes, including a white robe on top. It wasn't until I was at the party that I realized I kind of looked like a nurse. And since I am quite short and skinny, I must've looked like a girl to some drunk fellows. Three guys, as far as I remember, asked me to dance and then apologized when they noticed I was a guy. I wonder what I would do if that happened now.

I've never gone out en femme in public. But I wonder, if I did, and called some guys attention, would I play along? Would I let him kiss me? Would I like it? Would I be willing to have sex if suggested? I know I wouldn't look for that, but if IT found me?

[Vickie_CDTV]

The only guy who ever hits on me en femme... is me. Guess I am not most men's cup of tea anyway...thank goodness... it is not something I would not want to have to deal with.

I have had guys stare and come back to give me a second look... but they were just doing it to figure me out and have a chuckle.

[Carrie R]

I don't get out dressed up all that much, but on a chat site I've experienced a lot of flirting, and even a few marriage proposals. Was very shocking the first time it happened. I didn't do much except sit around on a webcam.

[Marcelle]

Flirt . . . with me. Not likely unless they are legally blind or it is really dark out. :eek:

However I do flirt with myself all the time as I happen to think I am quite fetching in a dress :)

Hugs

Isha

[Bridgetlagurl]

My wife and I went out to a club in Victoria for my first outing in public. I have to tell you my wife is a stunner. She looks like a young version of Ann Margret. I know men always say that there wives are really hot ( and that is good ) but sometimes that is out of love and maybe not really the reality of what they look like. My wife is a yoga nut with a great figure firm D tattas and red thick hair. Men hit on her all the time. I digress.
We went to the club, she was more nervous than me. A couple who knew about my dressing had agreed to come out with us. We arrived at the club and they had not arrived yet. We ordered drinks and she seem to settle down and start to enjoy the outing as much as I was. Our friends showed up about a hour later. They had also brought along another one of our friends who had no idea about my CDing. They sat down and we all said hi. I seen him look at me a couple of times and then the lights came on! He called me by my male name, which was quickly corrected by everyone at the table before I could say a word. "her name is Bridget". He then said Bridget, you look beautiful. There was no bad vibe at all, just a few comments about I would have never seen this and then my wife our female friend and I talked about clothes for a few minutes. I went out side the club to have a smoke and the friend that just found out came out with me. While we were standing have our smoke he said "just have to tell you, you look so hot" he said it in different forms a few time while we had our cigarette. The picture attached is from the my first night out just before we went to the club. Sorry I blacked out the eyes, was still a little nervous about this a year ago. Long winded answer. lol

[Ressie]

I don't think Kate is imagining this at all. Maybe flirt isn't always the right word, but men will at least take notice. Some are downright thinking of having sex right now!

[Erica Marie]

Sometimes you gotta read into but DONT over read. The first time I went out it was to a club. It was all gay, lesbian and trans people. I had a nice, pretty but kinda tipsy girl ask me to the dance floor. She may have been interested, maybe she was curious about me or it may have been the drinks. It was nice that she acknowledged me and was very friendly but I didnt know her true motive so I didnt take it all to heart.

[StaceyJane]

One time I was at a TRE station in Fort Worth when one of the transit cops started talking to me. Soon I realized he was flirting. I found it be a bit annoying and I wished he would just leave me alone. Guess it was a good lesson.
The strangest thought though was even though I'm not into guys I did kind of wish he wasn't so ugly. Maybe having a cute guy flirt with me would have been more fun.

[lauren_m]

I always thought that my girl side was more likely to attract flirting/interest than my guy side -- and that may well be the case, but double of nothing is still zero :)

[ReineD]

I'm being the proverbial fly on the wall as I read this thread and it amazes me how men think. Truly amazing. :p

For what it's worth, I run into men (and women) all the time too :), and I certainly don't sense that they're trying to pick me up. If men are men and they think of sex when they see me, then they must think it about every woman or person they also see, although I seriously doubt it especially if they're not young bucks anymore. lol

You know what they say ... we do tend to see in others, the motives that we experience ourselves. The people who do believe they know what others are thinking should be aware that it is all in their imaginations.

[Alice B]

Several times and always a compliment, even if he is drunk.

[Kandy Barr]

Goes along with the territory girl, take it as a compliment........it's up to you how far you want it to go.

[Kate T]

Nope.

Then again I could just be plain ugly :p

[Kim_Bitzflick]

I was hit on once by a guy in a movie theater. After the movie, he asked me where a Walmart was. After I told him, he asked me out for coffee. I politely said no. Then he asked if I would take his phone number. I said no, I'm married (which I am). All this while his 6 year old daughter was there. This being my first time experiencing this, I was rather nervous. Later I told my wife & she just laughed.


Guys try to pick me up almost every time I go out, even while shopping for a sports bra.

I believe that.

[michelleddg]

I'm being the proverbial fly on the wall as I read this thread and it amazes me how men think. Truly amazing. :p

For what it's worth, I run into men (and women) all the time too :), and I certainly don't sense that they're trying to pick me up. If men are men and they think of sex when they see me, then they must think it about every woman or person they also see, although I seriously doubt it especially if they're not young bucks anymore. lol

You know what they say ... we do tend to see in others, the motives that we experience ourselves. The people who do believe they know what others are thinking should be aware that it is all in their imaginations.

Reine, thanks so much for keeping it real. I'm sure you'll agree, however, that not all men think this way. Some men, many man, perhaps even most men.

I'm out and about, and enjoy dressing nicely. Given that, I essentially never get the sense that I'm turning heads, I have absolutely never been hit on and have no idea what I'd do if the situation arose (other than be mortified). The MAC artistes, who know I'm way married and way straight, have asked more than once what I do when I get hit on. It's so sweet of them to ask, but I'm taken aback when they do. I don't know, maybe I'm sending out anti-flirty vibes :-O Hugs, Michelle

[ReineD]

Thanks Michelle.

I'm reading my earlier post and I didn't want to give the wrong impression. Of course people get hit on once in a while. But I'd say that on a regular day when going to the post-office, out for lunch, the grocery store, the bank, etc ... of all the passers-by, SAs, restaurant staff, etc that an average person might run into, there might be one out of 200 people who will hit on someone? I mean, surely not everyone who glances at someone or even smiles is hitting on someone else? lol

My prior post was an attempt at keeping things in perspective. :)

I'd further say that people have a higher chance of getting hit on if they hang out in bars or nightclubs and such. But that's to be expected, this is where a lot of people go to either hit on or get hit on. :D

[lauren_m]

I don't know, maybe I'm sending out anti-flirty vibes :-O Hugs, Michelle

Could be -- of the you're-too-far-out-of-their-league variety!

[AmyGaleRT]

Hmm, I've never felt like I've been hit on. I've been hugged by strange men at PrideFest, but that's different. And Michael (one of the singers at the Black Crown's cabaret events) always hugs me every time he sees me, but he's just a big ol' teddy bear. :D

Anyway, if any man tried to hit on me while my fiancee was anywhere in earshot...the beatdown that would ensue would be of epic proportions...

- Amy

[PretzelGirl]

I'd further say that people have a higher chance of getting hit on if they hang out in bars or nightclubs and such. But that's to be expected, this is where a lot of people go to either hit on or get hit on. :D

In all my times going out, there hasn't been anything more than having the door held. I do think you hit a good point. Age, location, and other factors can affect whether someone has this happen. It is extremely rare if I go to a bar or club. I certainly am not young or hot. Sooner or later, a near sighted gentlemen may approach me in the dark. Then I can tell him I am married. :D

[Rogina B]

My prior post was an attempt at keeping things in perspective. :)

I'd further say that people have a higher chance of getting hit on if they hang out in bars or nightclubs and such. But that's to be expected, this is where a lot of people go to either hit on or get hit on. :D
Darkness is our friend! LOL Seriously,I am out everyday and not everyone that smiles,talks and is nice to you is "flirting". In the mainstream world,TG's are an oddity,and their admirers even more so! lol

[Candice Mae]

True Reine,

But if you catch a guy checking you out, he smiles walks over and asks you if you are looking for a work out partner while staring at your chest (I was shopping for a new sports bra). He's hitting on you, I said no and walked away. I've also had some creep ask me if he could get some sugar and slide his hand down my back while getting coffee at 7-11. I just ran away as fast as I could that time, as it was really scary and uncomfortable. In the summer I'll usually sit out on my balcony to BBQ or have a drink. A guy riding a bike whistled at me I looked over, to see who whistle to see him looking back at me. He stopped riding his bike and started to walk towards my balcony, which caused me to go back inside and hide. I also go for walks around sunset in the summer, a guy walking towards me said hey beautiful. I looked at him and just kept walking, hearing him call me a b*&%# under his breath was priceless.

I don't count being checked out or smiled at as being hit on, once they start making advances is where I draw the line. Being heterosexual makes things even more uncomfortable, to the point that I wonder why I go out. Also being a 144 pounds I have to becareful where and when I go places, not that I constantly fear being attacked. Just Its scary walking alone in the dark looking like I do.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bd5C4_2C988

[ReineD]

Candice, like I said, there will be guys who will try their chance. But of the four instances of getting hit on that you mentioned (since last summer?), how many people have you passed by, run into, or seen (if you count everyone that passed you by in several months time) did NOT proposition you? :D

I'm in my 50s now and men my age aren't quite as bold as they used to be when I was younger. Still, I had guys flirt with me, or whistle, or say something to me in my youth too, but as stated earlier maybe it was one in 200? And even then, half those guys I'm sure didn't expect any response from me. They were just being young guys who do what young guys do. lol

I even hit on one or two guys in my day, but it was more for fun than anything else.

[Candice Mae]

I've probably passed over 1000 people, so that would mean .004% at the most. Those Are the four obvious ones, I've had guys try to small talk me. But I don't count that, until he goes out of his way to compliment me. Since I don't carry on conversations with random guys, they usually don't get the chance. There's the #'s if your looking for statistics Reine :lol:

[ReineD]

Candice, I was saying two things, that some people do come on to others, but not every one that we run into. It was my impression that people on page one believed that women get hit on all the time.

I wasn't really looking for stats. :p

[Lorileah]

Earlier this year...several times. Now not so much, I have a reputation as an Ice Queen. I'll go out with them, I will have drinks with them, I may even make out a bit, but they go home alone

[Tracii G]

A few times but they weren't cute enough for me to let them go further.