I also went to my therapy appointment dressed

[Sometimes Steffi]

We're doing couple's counciling, and sometimes my wife and I go together, and sometimes I go alone.

Last time we went together, and my wife told the therapist (a GG) how much she liked her knee-high boots. My wife is unaware of the extent of my wardrobe, but even still, I almost yelled out, "I have boots like that." But, I didn't.

So, last week I went alone. I changed in the bathroom of the therapists office. I wore a really pretty red dress, and my black knee-high boots, plus some jewelry. At the end of the session, I asked the therapist what she thought of my outfit. She said, "Very nice. I think I should get a dress to go with my boots." She also wanted to know if my earrings were pierced. I told her that they were clip on.

[Rachael Leigh]

While Ive never been to my past sessions enfem I thought about doing it several times, but than again my sessions were not really about my crossdressing but related to it in my marriage issues. Now I did wear diapers to sessions as part of my problems were regression and wanting to act like a baby I know strange but it was a big part of me for a time but was related to my past.

[Beverley Sims]

When going dressed un announced it does change your therapists view on how to advise you.

[CarlaWestin]

We're doing couple's counciling, and sometimes my wife and I go together, and sometimes I go alone.

My wife's therapist is also a gender specialist and regularly has clients that arrived dressed. They are treated with utmost dignity. We occasionally have couples sessions and I've sort of been waiting to be asked to attend fully dressed. Although we are DADT, I see this as an oppurtunity for my wife to actually help me look the best that I can. Oh well, it's probably just a fantasy that will never happen.

[mikiSJ]

I have taken to assuming that Miki is talking with my therapist, and not Michael. I have only gone dressed to three meetings, but it so much more "fun" and rewarding to talk girl to girl with her when I am dressed. Much more relaxing - and productive.

[vallerie lacy]

I'll bet it's a whole different ball game going to your therapist dressed. Must feel so relaxing once the butterflies fly away.

[sandra-leigh]

If I recall correctly, I went obviously dressed to my gender therapist on my first sessions. Some of my sessions I was in my work clothes, so more stealth (e.g., female jeans, a top that guys would not recognize as being women's). Some days I just didn't feel like getting done up nicer, some days I was in a hurry, some days I didn't want the hassle of finding somewhere close to work to change back to plainer clothes.

It never seemed to me to be "a whole different ball game" to be obviously dressed. But as the times I did not feel like getting more dressed often corresponded to me being more "down", I did tend to be less positive in those sessions, and more likely to be dealing with stresses on me than on gender topics directly; conversely it tended to be my more positive days that I dressed more obviously, and those in turn tended to be days my gender issues were more directly addressed.

But to be clear, I went through fair stretches where I did not address gender feelings and goals much. A year or so ago I was thinking about stopping or slowing down a lot because I didn't feel like I was going anywhere with gender issues and was using the therapy much more for stress / relationship issues. That time passed, especially with the death of my wife's mother (who was living with us.)

If there are key impediments between where you are and where you would somewhat prefer to be, then expect to talk about the impediments -- many times. For example if you are having problems getting along with your boss at work, then you might feel that you just can't come out at work because doing so would be used against you: in such a case you might end up talking about how your boss is treating you. Getting your ducks in a row, getting you to the space where you can move on your gender, can be crucial -- and you won't necessarily feel pretty while you slog through those obstacles.

[Mollyanne]

When I was seeing my therapist (a woman) for issues not related to crossdressing directly, I wanted to tell her about my inner issues. I held off for a time and then I just decided to tell her. When I did "let my inner self" come out she didn't bat an eyelash but I knew that she was unnerved for the moment. She then asked me personal questions as to why I do what I do, how I feel when I am partially or totally dressed and if I wanted to be a girl (which I always did). I wanted to come to my sessions either partially dressed or fully dressed but didn't have the chance. I kinda' understand what you are thinking and feeling.

Molly