Could you cut it?

[Kate Simmons]

Many of us have had the opportunity over the years to be en femme for an extended period of time, days, weeks, months, etc. How did it set with you if you have done it? Do you think you could do it all day, every day transitioning notwithstanding? The longest I have done it is about a month and it kept me busy just keeping appearance up. I'm very hairy by nature, so it was shave, shave, shave. Body shave every other day and shave my face twice a day. Not to mention playing the role that everyone you interact with expects of a woman. It gave me a lot of experience in any case and helped to put me in touch with my feelings.

So, after that would I still entertain the idea of being a woman full time? Possibly, as being in touch with my feelings gives me the ability to fulfill either the female or male role equally. At this point in time I choose to be male, however, and keep the female as a "nice to have". Even so, I feel I could fulfill the female role 24/7 if I chose to do so and would fulfill it fairly well. So how does everyone else feel about this? Could you fulfill the female role 24/7 if you chose to do so? :battingeyelashes::)

[linda allen]

I couldn't fulfill a female role 24/7 because when I take my clothes off to shower, I see definate male signs. And of course there's the shaving to deal with as well. I've tried sleeping in forms, wig, and padded panties but I can't sleep well in that getup. And of course, going to the bathroom reminds me that I'm a male, even if I sit.

There are things I need/want to do around the house that would get my girl things dirty or sweaty so even with the opportunity to stay female, I usually give it up at some point in the day and get to work.

If I could take a pill or have a spell cast over me and instantly have a female body, I could handle it. Otherwise, the answer to your question is "no".

[Crissy Kay]

That's a no for me too. I think the most time I have spent enfem has been about four hours, at any one time. After that, I tend to get twichy, and have to get all the stuff off, and go back to my male self.

[Talisker]

NO. Its fun for a few hours every now and then. Doing the makeup is fun but guess it would quickly become a chore everyday. I like being lazy at times. Like it just the way it is. Man 24/7 and woman when i feel like it.

[Beverley Sims]

Kate,
Not really,I have had a number of three week stints and two that have lasted more than a month.
Six weeks when I was twenty was very hard to switch back.
I in fact had a break for two days out of necessity and then another three weeks.
The longer I went then, I may have never come back.
The extended time is more of an opportunity thing for me.

[Kate Simmons]

It seems like many of us have the need to retreat back to the "safety" of manhood after awhile I guess. Nice thing to do but wouldn't want to "live it" it looks like. Curious but good insight into the "CD Mystique" the way I see it.Also food for thought for SO's:battingeyelashes::)

[suchacutie]

Kate, I'm not sure it's the "safety" so much for me as that part of my life is male, and I like it too. For me I don't think I could shut down any part of my life for more than about three days. I'm also not happy with Tina's appearance for just an hour or so, because it just doesn't seem to do her justice. So the minimum time for me is the better part of a day, with 3 days probably being the limit for Tina if we were swapping genders regularaly (i.e. 3 days in each gender).

[Princess Grandpa]

I've not had the opportunity to spend multiple days dressed as Rita. A more likely prospect if I were comfortable out in public. As it is I don't see it happening for me. Might be interesting to experience. A lot of work!

Hug
Rita

[Jennifer in CO]

For the first few weeks it was "fun". For the next few weeks it was a chore. For the next 4 years it was an adventure....

[Kate Simmons]

What Tina said is partly the key for some of us I think. We are built to regularly "swap" genders, so get to pretty much experience the best of both worlds. Seems to work for me anyway. :)

[Jodi]

A week is the longest for me. Tha6t was enough. Was glad to get back to guy mode.

Jodi

[Mandie79]

Would love to more but can't with the job and life I have and the people I know. Not quite a full day is the most time so far. But under my boy clothes now that is a different story.

[Lex321]

No for me too. The longest I have gone was 8 hours working from home for the day. I was ready to be done and go ride a quad and other guys things.

[Kate Simmons]

Seems like "boys will be boys" even after they've been girls for awhile. :heehee: I guess some of you SO ladies have nothing to worry about with regard to losing your man. ;):)

[audreyinalbany]

Ii spent two days dressed a couple years ago and not only was I glad to get back in male mode, but it also seems to have kind of 'filled my tank' of cross dressing. I didn't really have the urge to dress again for about a month. Anybody else have a similar experience?

[Carmen]

Ii spent two days dressed a couple years ago and not only was I glad to get back in male mode, but it also seems to have kind of 'filled my tank' of cross dressing. I didn't really have the urge to dress again for about a month. Anybody else have a similar experience?

Yes Audrey I spent 4 days en femme. I was satisfied with the duration of mantaining my attire, makeup and daily routines.
All in all it was very fulfilling for me. But I had to return to my original life en drabbe.
However I am due for another stretch en femme.

[NicoleScott]

I had to click on your thread out of curiosity. I'm relieved that cutting "it" only referred to extended dressing. Whew!

[Karren H]

I've done 3 and 4 day stints enfemme and it was fine.... tiring as hell.... a lot of work every day to look good... being a woman is not for wusses! lol

[Roli F]

I find after 2 weeks in a totally male oriented work away from home the urge to dress was slightly increased from it's norm spent 3 part days dressed then seemed to settle down again cheers.
:D

[lori m crawford]

yes if a women dress as a man wood fell the as we do

[kimdl93]

Yeah, it's a definite, certain, positively ready, willing and able.

[Kate Simmons]

I had to click on your thread out of curiosity. I'm relieved that cutting "it" only referred to extended dressing. Whew!Don't worry Nicole. I wouldn't make THAT move without telling my friends first. Even if I did I would still be in touch with all of my friends here and would definitely not fade into the woodwork.;):)

[arbon]

I wish just having to worry about your appearance and deciding what to wear each day was all there was to it. Try going to work with your purse and telling all the guys you have worked with for 20 years that you are a woman now, adventure really begins!

[Cheryl T]

We did an all "girls" vacation for a week about 2 years ago and it was fabulous. The only thing that bothered me at all was the daily shaving of my face. It's difficult to do that daily without irritation and on the way home we discussed that. That's when she said, "well, maybe you should go for laser then".
I haven't done it yet...but I'm still considering.

[julia marie]

I couldn't do 24x7 at this point in life. If today's options (SRS etc.) were available before I was married and had kids, I would have explored a complete change. Too old now, given the time and expense a complete change would involve. As far as keeping the male parts and doing en femme, I can do a day or two at a time now, but I'm not ready to present to the neighbors, the clerks in the local market, etc., considering I'm in a pretty small town where you see the same faces all the time.

[Stevie]

If you put your mind to it you can do anything you want. As for cutting it I only was able to do it for a day. Yes it was a lot of work and there were lots of daily routines that I overlooked. The one thing I wished I did was go out that way.

[TxCassie]

I was having the very same thoughts Kate.

It was this past week, I had the strongest urge to dress "en femme" I ever had to date. I just had to don my new dress and do my make up. I plan to wear the outfit to our "Day of Remembrance" event. The feeling of satisfaction and complete relief of self assurance was the greatest. I stayed dressed about three hours and which time, I felt that I had to get on with things and slowly undressed. As I was putting the items away, into the hamper, etc, I had the strongest realization that wearing a dress is as part of my persona and life as wearing a jockstrap. It will be with me till the end and yes, may take an increasing place in my life in the future. Yet, in the same instance, I had my male persona clearing his throat telling me, "I'm here too " So, I think we need to address our needs, admit dressing as an influence on our lives, and try not to "control" it but safely incorporate it into our life. The more you restrict, the more you want to do it.

The longest I've gone as Cassie is four hours at home. In public, at my Transgender Support group, three hours every first and third Thursdays of the month (October is too long! :sad:) I am pretty sure the maintenance of dressing would, i.e. the shaving, the makeup, the forms, the wig, for any longer or increased frequency amount of time would take the joy away for the sheer necessity of it would turn the mechanics of becoming Cassie a chore.

Everyone is different. I would imagine for those of us who don't mind being "en femme" 24/7 have a stronger feminine self-identity and work being such. I still, have a strong masculine self-identity. Being "en femme" 24/7 would not be who I am today just being "en drab" is not totally who I am either. While I know I may not be the traditional masculine man, I know I have masculine qualities in me and I like them and have no desire to ignore or rid of them. Yet, I love my feminine qualities. I love having my skirts, blouses, learning makeup techniques. The fact I have a make-up bag where I keep my mascara as well as a toiletry bag that hold my shaving cream is just fine with me and really don't see the big deal. Yeah, right :heehee:.

Now, I have found that I will at times, particularly on weekends, may wear a skirt and a tee-shirt (male), or in winter wear my leggings, and a male shirt, or shorts but will wear my flats.

So, be comfortable dear, only you know what that will be but always remember,if you identify as a crossdresser and gender identify as male, your male side needs nurturing as much as your feminine side does.

Cassie :love:

[~Joanne~]

The longest I have ever gone femme is about 8 hours last halloween. It wasn't on halloween but a couple of days before hand to have a security blanket to fall back on if I needed to. I didn't venture much but I was out beyond the walls so it was a great day but at the end of the day I couldn't wait to take it all off. so my answer is no too. If I were passable enough as some girls here are, I would like to try a longer period but that isn't happening.

[Helen_Highwater]

This for me is a timely thread as I'm just off for a weeks holiday and plan to spend at least 2 full days enfem as well as most evenings. I would like the opportunity to go fully dressed for a longer period just to experience the downs as well as the ups. My problem would be I'd starve as I'm not confident enough to push a trolly around the isles dressed or eat out.

[jessiejess112]

If money and time weren't an issue, I would probably try to live as a female in a different town than my own. Just to see how long I could do it, and to see if my feeling are permanent this time. But I wouldn't do any permanent change, because I know I'd probably change my mind in the future, it's happened before.

[Zylia]

I guess I can't because I don't want to. I probably could if I had to, but why should I? I like being a guy, I like being lazy, I like only having to spend a few minutes on my appearance if all I have to do is visiting the grocery store. Keeping up a feminine appearance is high-maintenance, if I do it I try to do it right, not half-assed.

[thechic]

I wish just having to worry about your appearance and deciding what to wear each day was all there was to it. Try going to work with your purse and telling all the guys you have worked with for 20 years that you are a woman now, adventure really begins!

Id have to agree with Arbon , its not easy living life as a woman 24/7 when you were originally living as apart time girl.

[Bianca Star]

The longest I've spent en femme was 8 hours. It took me about an hour and a half to get ready but it was worth it. I booked a nice hotel room with a little semi private balcony and just relaxed but after that 8 hours I was ready get out of the skirt and heels and back into jeans and a t-shirt. I'm hoping to have another dress up vacation soon.

[alicia45]

I did it for a week last year. Aside from the padding, what I found most troublesome was my facial hair. I'm not quite ready to give it up to removal, so the twice-a-day shave (and probably needed more) routine put a damper on the continuity. I like both of my genders a great deal, so I could conceivably deal with en-femme in week-long spurts. However, as trivial as it may seem, the facial shaving gets in the way for now.

[Raychel]

I doubt that I could cut it,,,,,,
It is fun to dress up, But for full time, It is unlikely that I could do it
I have way to many guy chores that get in the way.

[Jeri Ann]

I have had many opportunities over the years to spend 7 days at a time in female mode. Every single time when the window of opportunity was closing it was with extreme regret and remorse that I returned to my male life. Dressing is very easy for me because; I keep what little hair wants to grow on my legs epilated, my brows are thinned and arched, ears are pierced, because of electrolysis many years ago I haven't shaved in thirty years. Because of so much practice and the naturalness of it, I can dress to the nines (makeup, clothes, wig, jewelry, etc.) in about 35 minutes (if I have decided what to wear and don't change my mind). All these changes occurred gradually over many years. I am sure the have been noticed but never mentioned. I am eagerly anticipating the next opportunity.

Jeri

[stephNE]

Up to a day or so, sure, but more than that is difficult for me. But soon, one of the things I want to do is take a trip for 4-5 days and try to do the whole time en femme. I think about the girls that are transitioning. In addition to all the physical things you mentioned, the mental stress would make life very difficult. All T-girls have my admiration. Being a woman is no easy task.

[Princess Chantal]

3 days for me, as it was for the Edmonton Illusions Winterfest Conference. Eventhough the weekend was a hoot, I haven't had the passion or drive to do multiple days since (5 years and counting). I can't even recall the last time I did a full 24 hours. Most of my crossdressing involves socializing away from home and once I get back home the boobies and the wig are off virtually before the door is even closed behind me. The pantyhose and heels may last a couple hours longer though (combined with some of the guy stuff I may have slipped into). So most of my crossdressing sessions may last less than 10 hours.
So nope, I can't cut it. My passion for being in girl mode vanishes once the fun has been had.

[Alexis.j]

I would like to try it for a few weeks or so, but currently its a tad difficult for me.
My goal would eventually be to go full time though...
Being a woman does not mean you have to dress up in heels and full makeup 24hous a day, how many gg's do that? But I suppose that all depends on WHY you dress in the first place, right?
For me I just want to live my life according to how I feel inside, and thats female. I would also like to be accepted for what I am. ( realisticly very difficult, but thats just me)

[Launa]

I spent 3 full days last summer at a ISCWR event in Edmonton. When it was over the dress did not want to come off.

[Dena]

There was a full moon on the night I was born, and I've got the hair on my back to prove it! My body hair has put a serious damper on my dressing, I have worse 5 o'clock shadow on my chest than my face.

[Lynn Marie]

For the last two years I've attended "Esprit" in Port Angeles Washington. I go for the week. I can see why so many women just wear flats and comfortable clothing. It's a lot of work, and heels can be murder after a week or so! I love being a classy old broad, but not a "comfortable old broad"!

[Sarah Beth]

I was en femme for three days once, it was wonderful. When I knew I had to change back I didn't really want to, I wanted to keep the clothes on but then later when I got back to "civilization" and had guy things that had to be done I was ok with it. I don't know that I could keep up for a long period of time because I can't, don't go out dressed so at some point I would have to change.

[Beverley Sims]

I am surprised at the amount of girls that can't cut it.
I should say, "don't wish to cut it."
It is good to see that CD'ing is a recreational past time and most enjoy it to the fullest for short periods.
For those of us who go longer I think that short time girls derive as much if not even more enjoyment from their activities than we do.
A very interesting thread all round.

[Princess Chantal]

For the last two years I've attended "Esprit" in Port Angeles Washington. I go for the week.

My friend Rhaina has been nudging me to go to Esprit every spring for the past decade, however I could see myself not wanting to dress up for the whole week of activities

[Aly Cat]

I have not had the opportunity to spend days but I get excited by the thought of living full time as a woman. When thinking about it, something inside me feels peace and this quiet joy warms me up. I have found that when I do spend all day as a woman, it takes everything in me to take it all off and go back to boy mode. I don't like boy mode all that much. The only joy I get from it is untucking. After hours of being tucked, the relief off being no longer bound is about the only thing I like.

[Nikki A.]

I would like to try, but I don't think I would be able to do it. With full electrolosis and some FFS maybe I could. But even then I'm not sure it would be what I want. I'd be happy to flow from one gender to the other than have to be either.

[Rachel Morley]

2 weekends and a week, so the longest time I've spent en femme 24/7 was 9 days straight. I loved it but it did present a few challenges of having to push my envelope by having to go places and so things in mainstream public when dressed. Would I do it again? Yes :)

[daviolin]

If it were just for the clothes, yes I could go 24/7. The make up and appearance would drag me down. I guess I'm what you would consider a lazy crossdresser. Daviolin

[Lexi Moralas]

The longest I've spent was a whole day. I would love the opportunity to go a weekend or a whole week. But I think any more than that would be to much. For me cding is like a vacation no matter how much fun it is, how much you looked forward to it or how fondly you will look back on it. Eventually you just want to go home and get back to your regular life.
Lexi is an amazing place to visit! But I don't think I could live there

[Ressie]

8 hours has been the longest for me. Dressing for an entire weekend would be the first step in the direction of dressing 24/7. Too bad there are responsibilities that would prevent dressing full time. Now if someone would pay me a comfortable wage to dress full time I'd be willing to give it a try!

[Kate Simmons]

If I ever did decide to dress full time, I definitely wouldn't be a "June Cleaver" and would be dressing for comfort and style and practicality the way most gals do and save my "nice" stuff for special occasions. Although being a woman is a very special thing and is about caring, sharing and family matters more than it is about clothes.Being empathic and showing compassion to others is way up there on my list of being a woman, choice of clothing notwithstanding. That is the real test in my opinion. :battingeyelashes::)

[Sue Too]

OH YES IN AN INSTANT!!

I am single, retired and live alone. I love the independence this gives me in my gender expression. At present I am en femme about 20/7 on the average. I love being en femme. It just feels right. My only reason for reverting to male mode is there are a couple of hobbies that seem to work better if i am en drab. That being said, I am finding that going drab is getting to be more of a chore with each passing day. If I had to predict the future, I see me involved in a RLT within six months.

Yes I'm sure I could cut it.

Susan in Phoenix

[DAVIDA]

Hi Kate!:)
The longest I have stayed dressed was back in 2007 at SCC. It was for four days. It was an experience that I wouldn't trade for the world. :thumbsup:
It was also the toughest thing that I think I have ever attempted.:heehee:
Jean had a good time just watching me doing the stuff that goes along with staying "enfem".
I probably wouldn't have done it if she wasn't with me.
I went to Savannah a couple of years ago to meet another member of this forum for lunch. That is the last time I have been out anywhere dressed.
I am retired so I usually have a dress or skirt and top on with shoes to match.:D
But I don't do make-up or the wig anymore.
So, to answer your question, (did you actually ask one?) I could do it, but I wouldn't look very good.:doh:

[Kate Simmons]

I would use just "toned down" makeup for every day Davida. I need the wigs cause I'm bald but that gives me a lot of different looks. I suppose if I really applied myself, I could figure out how to grow my hair back. I'd love to style my own hair. :)

[DAVIDA]

Make-up isn't that hard. It usually takes me about fifteen minutes. It has just been a while.
I do put the wig on sometimes, but not often. I can grow hair everywhere but on top of my head.:brolleyes:
Anyone that comes over sees me in just the clothes.:)
That is what my neighbors see too.:thumbsup:
If I don't have something on when Jean gets home, she will ask me if I am feeling OK.:heehee:
I still get plenty of male time.:thumbsup:

[Mark/Rebecca]

Good thread. I had noticed during the rare times in my life that I crossdressed frequently that when I didnt feel like it and forced myself to dress, It was oddly very rewarding.

[dawnmarrie1961]

I'm probably not the best person to answer you question. Since I'm 24/7 and 365 (Not my weight.) Weird that I've found over the many years that the clothes don't make the person. It's what's in your head. Hopefully we've all got ours screwed on tight!

[Violet-13]

No, no way in hell I could

[mexdresser]

Dressing for a few hours is perfect, anything longer becomes uncomfortable IMO.