Do I belong here?

[Steph_CD_62]

First of all I find this forum to be informative. All the members support each other and I have NEVER seen a negative comment.

I have been writing this in my head for over a week now, and I have rewrote several times. Matter of fact I am sure I will change it as I am writing it now.

I "lurked" this sight for over a year before joining. I would check it out several times a month, just reading some of the stories that I could access to. I thought this would be a great sight to join, then I would change my mind. Well I finally took the "plunge" and signed up. I have read a lot of great stories. Seen lots of helpful suggestions for those looking for help. I have seen a lot of great pictures with each one receiving dozens of compliments.

Now here is the reason for my wondering if I truly belong here.

I see everyone writing about their experiences of fully dressing as a woman. Some never leave the house, some will go out when it is dark out and for those bold ones they go out all the time and some even live as a woman full time.

Me personally don't want to dress fully as a woman. I am a lot happier when I just dress up in my lingerie. I wear panties 24/7, and wear a nightgown a couple times a week. On Sunday I enjoy wearing several items of lingerie. I enjoy wearing a bra with my breast forms or occasionally a corset, thigh high stockings, sometimes a waist cincher, a long nylon nightgown with a long red nylon robe.
I do own one pair of 3" high heels and I have one dress. Other than those two items all the women's clothing I own is some type of lingerie.

Am I more of a transvestic fetishist Under-dresser instead of a crossdresser.

I have searched the internet for a group I could connect with. So many sights are just a place for guys to "hook up". That is not what I am looking for. I am looking for a place where I can fit into, get some advice, read about others similar to me and to make a few friends along the way.

So my question to you all is........

Do I really belong here.

[Tamara Croft]

Plenty of people here do that, you just have to know who they are. And of course you belong here, we are a support forum :hugs:

[NathalieX66]

Welcome aboard!

There is no Golden Standard, or any standard, for that matter here.....as long as it fits within the guidelines of the forum.

[julia marie]

Welcome. Glad to have you with us. You're never alone here.

[Jaymees22]

Hi I think you belong here, you seem to fall in the huge spectrum somewhere, just like everyone else here. So join in and have some fun! Jaymee

[Karren H]

You belong here as much as anyone! Welcome!

[GenderCurious Andrea]

Welcome

Think you will find a happy medium hear there is no negative judgements and a lot of helpful advice. It has taken me a while to worm up to writing thoughtful threads to but I appreciate reading what the women have posted and have been very happy with the support. Kinda something for everyone hope you find what you are looking for.

[Marcelle]

Welcome! Of course you belong here as we are diverse group with many faces but we all share the same goal . . . acceptance for who we are regardless of how we choose to express ourselves. We are here to help one another.

Hugs

Isha

[Teri Ray]

You do belong here. Hope you enjoy the company. But then I haven't read the rule book for crossdressing yet so I could be mistaken. Welcome and enjoy the great folks here

[Bethany38]

Welcome and as already stated you found the right spot. We run the gamut here.:)

[Christina Kay]

Of course you belong here. You sound similiar to me . Luv under dressing , and lounge wear. I just came out to my wife about this. Will do a post this weekend, about this . We come in all levels of dressing. Hugs :)

[Abbygirl]

If you are a genetic male who likes to wear girl's clothing, you belong. This place covers a wide spectrum, we all do what we do.

[Julie Gaum]

Welcome home! Yep, there are probably more solely underdressers in this world of ours than those that have outer wardrobes. You may or may not be at a common
stage where fetish underdressing eventually evolves into venturing into skirts, dresses and so on. You may remain in the closet or not --- time and your developing inclinations will determine that as well as the influences of finances --- career --- family, girl or boy friends, schooling --- all influencing how and to what extent you will cross dress --- no right or wrong path. So ask questions and read --- then pick out what advice fits your current circumstances.
And you will be comfortable here as there are no hidden agendas to surprise you. Enjoy as that's what it's all about.
Julie

[Beverley Sims]

Yes you truly belong here, but don't think about it too much and enjoy who you are. :)

[Linda Leigh]

Yes you do ! We all started with some clothing. I started just like you for years and then my interest in women's clothing intensified and added more to my wardrobe:) I lurked here for over 2 years off and on before I joined. This site has given me more fortitude or made me know that I am not the only person in the world doing this! So yes you do :)

Linda

[Ressie]

There aren't many threads on fetish lingerie underdressing, but there are some here that fit into at least one of those three categories. I was satisfied just wearing a few articles of clothing for most of my life, and I also more of a fetishist. So thanks for admitting that about yourself too. Breast forms and corsets give me a clue that you've also advanced from just panties, pantyhose, slips etc. Anyway, to each their own, we're all a little different.

[Violet-13]

Of course you belong here

[Allesandra Rhodes]

Wait up a minute. You're all crossdressers???? Signed on the wrong bloody site again.. Dammit! :tongueout

[Steph_CD_62]

Thanks for all the comments.
I feel a lot better about joining this site.

I guess right now I am just a little down, and haven't dressed in anything but panties for a week now.

So much going through my mind at the moment.

My wife has known since the very beginning of what I enjoy.

It was just this past week I asked her about wearing "neutral gender" female pants and shirts. She has no problem with it and says we will go shopping soon for some. I want to make sure she is okay with any clothing that I probably will wear out in public.

Again thanks for everyone's comments. I plan on staying!

[Violet-13]

:hugs: YAY!!!!

[Gretchen_To_Be]

Hey Married Guy. I can relate. I'll never go out, at least no time soon. I get plenty of members urging me to show the upper half of my body, while my fetish is really about legs, heels and hose. Yeah, maybe one day, but only when I'm comfortable and don't feel ridiculous.

The only undergarments I really enjoy are pantyhose and thigh highs...yet I see members gushing about bras & panties, breast forms, you name it, and yet those items do nothing for me. To each his or her own, I suppose.

Those who do dress fully and go out tend to dismiss CDs like us as wannabes, or at least that's my impression of many. And those that are on the road to transition, well...that's a whole different plane. I also wonder sometimes if I belong here.

At the end of the day, it's your hobby/fetish/obsession/pastime, so do what you like. This is the place where the whole spectrum can share and communicate. You can talk to me if you want.

Regards

Shibumi

[Veronica Lodge]

I wear panties 24/7

Do I really belong here.

Definitely

[nvlady]

You must be my twin.
I think we both belong here.

[Princess Grandpa]

If there is anything I have learned from my short time here is that there is no right or wrong way. We all do what we want/need to do in our own way. Be comfortable with who you are! I can think of nothing more important.

Hug
Rita

[AmyGaleRT]

HMG, I used to be just like you, pretty much, so I say you belong here! (And I still love wearing nightgowns on occasion, too! :) )

Don't worry about how you dress or whether you want to go out. There are approximately as many ways to crossdress as there are crossdressers.

Of course, don't be surprised if being around on this forum improves your confidence over time! :)

- Amy

[Nicole Erin]

That is the nice thing about the CD-oriented sub-forum. They tend to readily accept each other whether it is a full time crossdresser or someone who merely has a fetish for a certain article of women's clothing.

Not until one decides to hang out mostly in the TS sections do they see people really trying to tear each other down.

[MissTee]

Welcome. Lot's of room at for you here and I'm certain you'll find others with similar levels of dressing desire.

[Shannon Summer]

Sometimes a pair of trouser socks is enough to make me feel "better",.........

Sometimes it's more,........

[reb.femme]

Hi HMG,

I was originally a fetish dresser but it came to be that I just felt comfortable in lingerie and especially nighties and gowns. Love soft flowing materials against my skin. Then I got busted by my wife one day and it was shortly after that, that I confessed all. I was then able to explore dressing fully, wigs, forms, dresses, skirts etc., and I go out occasionally and love my femme side.

Yes, you belong as much as the next guy/girl, however you to wish to present yourself in fact. There are guys that dress in no particular style (androgynous) to full blown presentation. You like me my friend are somewhere in between, but I wouldn't wonder about the why, just enjoy the experience that not many get to enjoy.....or so most men say. :devil:

Rebecca

[Seana Summer]

Those who do dress fully and go out tend to dismiss CDs like us as wannabes, or at least that's my impression of many. And those that are on the road to transition, well...that's a whole different plane. I also wonder sometimes if I belong here.

At the end of the day, it's your hobby/fetish/obsession/pastime, so do what you like.

Every once in a while I have run into this also. I think many of use who are part time are just less vocal than those who are dealing with all the issues of being full time. Myself, I don't really want to become a women, at least not full time.... but I love the cloths! So please feel welcome here and don't let anyone discourage you.

At the end of the day we all need each other.......whether we like it (or each other) or not

Seana

[AmyGaleRT]

Every once in a while I have run into this also. I think many of use who are part time are just less vocal than those who are dealing with all the issues of being full time. Myself, I don't really want to become a women, at least not full time.... but I love the cloths! So please feel welcome here and don't let anyone discourage you.

At the end of the day we all need each other.......whether we like it (or each other) or not

This is so true, Seana! However you identify and whether you go out or not, you are my sister. So is HappilyMarriedGuy, whether he identifies himself as a "sister" or not. So is Anne, who doesn't post here much anymore these days (but I still hear from via Fb) because she's gone full-time and is busy learning her way as a woman in the world. We really shouldn't be breaking our sisters down, no matter where each of us are in our journey!

HUGS :hugs: for my sisters :)

- Amy

[melanie206]

You belong here. However, if you have yet to put on a wig you might find it to be the exquisite, trans formative experience that I'm sure many of us had at some point.

[Steph_CD_62]

Thanks to all of you wonderful people.
I truly know I belong here.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi HMG, Welcome to our forum, When you are here you are home.
I too lurked here for over a year before signing up you will not find a better
forum then this one it will be every thing that you are looking for.

Don't forget to scroll all the way down the form to see what here to offer.

[jentou]

i ditto welcome aboard as we all are different in some way from each other
We do share with many common interests which leads us to be here

[MisterEgurl]

Don't worry, OP, crossdressers run the gambit of experience, preferences and behaviors. It is a huge "grey area" (pink area?) as opposed to a strict definition. I too am more of an underdresser who only occasionally delves into full-on femming out. I've got a closet and dresser full of lingerie and only a few dresses, skirts, or blouses. For me, pretty underthings are enough to keep me happy.

[mykell]

i would say your home now , get comfortable !

[Meg East]

Hi,
I found this site, lurked for awhile, and then joined. I'm not certain there is a stereotypical cross dresser. We are all unique individuals. Welcome aboard!

[Lucy_Bella]

Happily ,
I feel the same way ...Yes you do belong here but not for the same reasons as everyone else..We all have different reasons as to why we feel the need to dress ,I don't make this a daily site because my dressing is more of a fetish ,I can careless about dressing up and going out to see if I pass or if I get caught..I'm strictly a closet CDer and proud to be.. Welcome to the forum btw ..

[wanabe-Leona]

They were my thoughts but have not found any other sites that as open and supportive as this one. I think I'm starting to feel at home with all of YOU already so lets kick back and enjoy the ride:heehee:. Maybe go out and buy something new? ( shopping trip YA! )
Leona
ENJOY THE SHE IN YOU!

[Nadine Spirit]

Hi HMG-

I just joined and actually never lurked, so I am not 100% sure what the past posts have consisted of but as far as cross dressing... you fit right in. There are all sorts of various iterations of what cross dressing is, it is very difficult to categorize us all well. Many of the folks I have encountered, online that is, really dislike any sort of label, because the one that society gives them does not seem to fit very well with what they see themselves as doing.

For many years I was just like you. But one thing led to another and well here I am today, happier than ever with who I am.

Best of luck to you!

[MssHyde]

you don't belong here (your first negative comment):battingeyelashes:

now thats out of the way, you won't be bruised down the road.

welcome aboard!! you will fit in.

[Michelle V]

First of all welcome to the forum, I know that if you are looking for a place to belong you have arrived, stop looking. I can also tell you that this forum will help you understand who you are a little better. You will find that you are not the only male feeling that way. I have grown a lot by talking to others like me and reding about their experiences, trials and obstacles in being who they are. The most important aspect that has benefited me is the support I get from a lot of the members here. I know I may never get to meet them face to face but knowing I am not the only one with feelings yearning to be more feminine is great therapy.

My wife knows about Michelle, she accepts and helps me appear and feel more comfortable with myself, she is my biggest supporter and my rock, I could not fully accept myself before she helped me accept myself. They say behind every great man there is a great woman, well it kind of applies in my case as well.

[linda allen]

You don't have to label yourself and if you enjoy reading or posting here and can learn from it, you belong here. It's your choice.

[Steph_CD_62]

I really appreciate everyone's support by letting me know that I do belong here.

[kimberlybates]

We all belong someplace and for now this is a place to belong. Welcome!!

[Katiexo]

I'm in exactly the same situation as you, I love wearing lingerie but not too bothered about wearing womens clothing. I think womens lingerie is so sexy and makes me feel sexy and ahhh I love it!

[Cynthia99]

Yes, of course you belong! There are many lovely people on here - some of whom are truly a joy. Since you apparently sort of felt apart from this group please remember that - if you see someone who needs someone to talk to - because they don't feel they 'fit' - maybe you could convince them otherwise!

[Wendy me]

do you belong? dose anyone belong????? hell if they will have me then you belong for sure............


huge Wendy hugs to you............