Anne2345
11-08-2013, 10:30 AM
I have previously written about my one brother-in-law J. He is a good guy, he has a lot of admirable qualities, and he loves his family very much. But, that being said, J (who does not know about me yet) has also proclaimed that "trannies are an abomination of God."
My other brother-in-law C is also a good guy. C has many, many admirable qualities, and like J, he also loves his family very much. Unlike J, however, C (who does know about me) has a completely different mindset regarding folk that are "different."
C is a laid back, accepting dude that believes in live and let live, and wishes all well without reservation. Last night, for example, C playfully "hit" on me as the real person I am during a conversation my sister and I were having. Both my sister and I thought it was hilarious, which it was (C has a fantastic sense of humor, btw).
Sure, it was only a small thing, and just a good-natured, funny joke made in the moment that really didn't mean anything. But that joke, no matter how small and insignificant it was in the grand scheme of things, spoke volumes to me about our relationship, and the type of person C is.
In short, that C feels comfortable enough with me to make such a joke, that he is cool enough to actually do so, and that he knows such things will be received in the manner in which they are intended - it means A LOT to me.
Because at the end of the day, I am not an abomination of God, and I resent being preached to that folk like me are. Instead, I am just another person. No more, no less. In this regard, I too am capable of experiencing the full gamut and range of emotions and feelings the same as any other given, random cisgender human being. And just like any other person, I simply want to be accepted, appreciated, and loved for who I am.
C gets this very basic and necessary tenet of life, and he understands it. Although I have all of the respect in the world for how J fights for his family tooth and nail (especially for my sister), the bottom line is that C is a special guy, and I couldn't be more pleased or proud to have him as my brother-in-law . . . . :)
My other brother-in-law C is also a good guy. C has many, many admirable qualities, and like J, he also loves his family very much. Unlike J, however, C (who does know about me) has a completely different mindset regarding folk that are "different."
C is a laid back, accepting dude that believes in live and let live, and wishes all well without reservation. Last night, for example, C playfully "hit" on me as the real person I am during a conversation my sister and I were having. Both my sister and I thought it was hilarious, which it was (C has a fantastic sense of humor, btw).
Sure, it was only a small thing, and just a good-natured, funny joke made in the moment that really didn't mean anything. But that joke, no matter how small and insignificant it was in the grand scheme of things, spoke volumes to me about our relationship, and the type of person C is.
In short, that C feels comfortable enough with me to make such a joke, that he is cool enough to actually do so, and that he knows such things will be received in the manner in which they are intended - it means A LOT to me.
Because at the end of the day, I am not an abomination of God, and I resent being preached to that folk like me are. Instead, I am just another person. No more, no less. In this regard, I too am capable of experiencing the full gamut and range of emotions and feelings the same as any other given, random cisgender human being. And just like any other person, I simply want to be accepted, appreciated, and loved for who I am.
C gets this very basic and necessary tenet of life, and he understands it. Although I have all of the respect in the world for how J fights for his family tooth and nail (especially for my sister), the bottom line is that C is a special guy, and I couldn't be more pleased or proud to have him as my brother-in-law . . . . :)