The worst thing about crossdressing is .......

[Mark/Rebecca]

I love love my clothes, but I have to jamb them into a small hiding place so thatmy non accepting better half isnt reminded of the better half of me.:sad::sad:

[NV Susan]

The worst thing about cross dressing is......

Not being able to dress 24/7...

[suchacutie]

There are a ton of little annoyances, but I've come to learn that the inability to pop back and forth between genders because of "life" can cause real emotional distress. When I was only a guy, there wasn't this problem. Now I'm "stuck" with knowing about both genders and if I'm cornered in one gender I am very much not happy :(

[ArleneRaquel]

In my lifestyle, 24/7, there is nothing ever wrong with crossdressing.

[julia marie]

The worst thing about crossdressing is not being able to blurt out incriminating little things like:
"I have that skirt"
"I'm sick of only getting one wear out of pantyhose too"
"No, thank you" (and realizing you're in boy voice)
"I never had cramps"
"Men are such..." (Never mind)

[kimdl93]

Without a doubt, the worst thing is not being able to accept yourself.

[Breanneb]

i understand the hose thing, nothing beats a great pair of legs and i hate seeing runs in a pair of hose Hate it!!!!

[CynthiaD]

Taking off my nail polish. I hate it so much that I routinely wear nail polish in male mode rather than take it off. The only exceptions are work and church. I've even considered leaving it on for church, but I'd have to spend too much time talking about it.

[Barbra P]

Not being able to dress when the need arises – being stuck in male-mode when your inner feminine voice is calling.

[Maria 60]

Not being able to dress when I want.

[Crissy Kay]

Not being able to dress when I want.

Yeah, thats mine too.

[Rachael Leigh]

Rebecca Im with you on that one, even though I have a seperate closet from my wife I still have to jam my clothes way in the back. Makeup hides easy and all that. Plus not being able to shop for clothes without feeling guilty I have hide I shopped and than hide the new clothes. Ugh

[Erica Marie]

The worst thing about crossdressing is the term "crossdresser".
Hey, why cant we look at a gg when she is wearing jeans and a flannel shirt and ask her if she is a crossdresser? Who came up with the idea of gender specific clothing anyway?

[mykell]

worst thing, not finding this forum sooner, and if your a non member reading this don't hesitate to join !!

[Seana Summer]

Worst thing is finding a dress or shoes that you absolutely love, only to find out that it comes in no where near your size!!!

[RADER]

The worst thing for me is undressing and having to go back to Male Mode.
Rader

[Linda E. Woodworth]

The worst thing for me is not being able to dress where or when I would like to.

[Steph_CD_62]

The looks I get....... when I am shopping by myself.

[MysticLady]

The worst thing about dressing is the time it takes too get my ugly ass pretty. It sucks.

[CarlaWestin]

Eye makeup. I wish I had a printer or somethig that I just picked the colors on a laptop, looked into eye goggles and hit a button and *BOOM* Done. And a toggle switch for removal.

[Karren H]

The worst thing about crossdressing.... is having to crossdress....

[Ressie]

Could it be the worse thing is that it isn't accepted by most people in general?

[KayleeTaylor]

The worst thing about crossdressing is the term "crossdresser".
Hey, why cant we look at a gg when she is wearing jeans and a flannel shirt and ask her if she is a crossdresser? Who came up with the idea of gender specific clothing anyway?

This!

Also, the looks I used to get before I started doing all my shopping online and the sorrow of knowing that sooo much effort is going to waste because nobody will see me anyway.

[Pinky188]

The worst thing about crossdressing is the term "crossdresser".
Hey, why cant we look at a gg when she is wearing jeans and a flannel shirt and ask her if she is a crossdresser? Who came up with the idea of gender specific clothing anyway?
Yeah! Right?!!!!

[AlexisWest]

The worst thing for me is undressing and having to go back to Male Mode.
Rader

I'd have to agree with that!

[JamieQ]

The worse thing to me is "coming back down to male mode"...it seems to be getting harder emotionally to do...BTW who did come up with the gender defined clothing? Was it around the time that horse riding became more in use like 100s or 1000s yr ago? Heard it was in Russia...

[Kate Simmons]

I'd have to say the price of everything. As girls always cost more than guys. But, hey, you don't "pay", you don't "play". ;):)

[MysticLady]

Kate, that's why goodwill and the salvation army are my buddies

[JamieQ]

Ok I looked it up. According to Wikapedia: "In order to modernize, Tsar Peter the Great issued a decree in 1701 commanding every Russian, other than clergy and peasant farmers, to wear trousers"

[Beverley Sims]

Having to revert back, especially after a long time out.

[natalie edwards]

Having to revert back, especially after a long time out.
X2 Always seems like it wasn't long enough...

[Dianne S]

Yes, the worst thing is going back.

But for me, the second-worst thing is eye makeup. I'm terrible at it. Plus I'm right handed and my right eye is very nearsighted, so trying to do eyeliner on my left eye is a giant pain.

Oh wait. Removing/hiding body and facial hair. That's the second-worst. Eye makeup is third-worst. :)

[tictac43]

Getting the boys to stay back hehe!! I don't like the tuck method, it's kind of uncomfortable for me. So I'm still getting used to getting them to stay put in my panties!

[MissTee]

Worst thing is "needing" to do it. Many times I've wished that it was only a "want" . . . . {sigh}

[JenniferYager]

Yes, the worst thing is going back.

But for me, the second-worst thing is eye makeup. I'm terrible at it. Plus I'm right handed and my right eye is very nearsighted, so trying to do eyeliner on my left eye is a giant pain.

Oh wait. Removing/hiding body and facial hair. That's the second-worst. Eye makeup is third-worst. :)

Concur on the shaving. I can't shave my legs unless I know I'll be away from the family for a while, so it limits what you can do.

[Madilyn A.]

when I'm not !

[5150 Girl]

The worst part is when I have to shift back to "ugly mode"

[mykell]

not being able to ask" where did you get that outfit"

[Jaylyn]

The worse thing about cross dressing is the end when I start taking every thing off. It was exciting picking out what to wear, doing nails and makeup getting my heels out and etc. the worse thing it seems is having to take every thing off. This includes makeup, nail polish and the least amount of time spent taking it off is the clothing. Seems from these emotions I go thru . A wanting to dress feeling. A needing and must dress feeling. An excited feeling. A super sexy prancing around the house looking the feminine part feeling, sometimes even a sexual arousal feeling, to a feeling of its a lots work and why do I ever do this feeling. Just a lot of feelings ranging from an hour to sometimes all day. Just depends on how long I have to dress. I find though I can't do without it. Like a drug has got my body and wants it to be feminine.

[Gillian Gigs]

The worst thing is not just being accepted for the way you are. As someone said, a girl who wears jeans and a flannel shirt is not crossdressing, but me in a skirt and hose would get rediculed. So who says that life is fair?

[cindybabe]

:heehee:Worst is not been able to dress when i want and worrying if i have took all the makeup off

[Cheryl T]

All that padding to simulate a natural figure...please just give me the figure so I can leave all the extras at home....or sell them here in the classifieds.

[simone1970]

Is that I have have now become "high maintenance" as my wife says.

[karenfry]

Having to go back to guy mode,especially makeup removal. Wish I could be a girl 24/7,it feels so normal for me

[Jaymees22]

The worst thing about crossdressing is explaining it !!

[robindee36]

In keeping with the spirit of this thread, I have to agree with so many others on the 'never enough opportunities' idea. However, Erica has a valid point, why does it need to be called 'cross-dressing' and those who do it 'cross-dressers'?

My feminine self is so much more than just the lingerie, clothing and makeup. Go figure.

Hugs, Robin

[S. Lisa Smith]

Having to maintain two wardrobes.

[kelly10]

Definitely having to get back into drab mode!

[NicoleScott]

I like planning and getting ready for a dressup session. I love putting makeup on, and I like getting completely en femme. I don't mind taking it all off when the session is over, but what I don't much like is putting everything away, so that everything is ready for the next session. Like peeling the nail tab adhesive from the fake nails, putting fake eyelashes away in good shape, and folding and packing everything up neatly in storage. But when the next time to dress comes around, I'm always glad I left things in good shape.

[michelle60]

I agree with kimdl93 very hard to accept I love to cross dress and not been able to do a little more

[JennyLynn]

The absolutely worst thing for me is not being able to share my special part of me with anyone local. I live in such a strange place. I'm still not convinced that there isn't someone else close by to just play cards with, dress..share tips and stories over a glass of wine. But it is tough to feel so isolated sometimes. The other toughest part is to keep my darned hands off myself so I can just enjoy Jenny being Jenny without ending it too soon!!!!

[carhill2mn]

Like many others who have already I posted, the worst thing for me is having to go back to drab. I especially hate it when I have to remove my pretty nail polish for just a few hours of being drab!

[ChristineReid]

The worst thing about crossdressing is not being able to blurt out incriminating little things like:
"No, thank you" (and realizing you're in boy voice)


Classic - I love it - definite LOL!

I once walked into a restaurant (on my own) all ready with the female voice and coughed a very manly cough to clear my throat! Immediate warning to everyone present...

[julia marie]

JennyLynn. You're not alone. I'm in a fairly small town with really rural communities all around. So, getting to CD accepting places means at least 90 minutes of driving each way. That does put some nasty limits on when I can go out in public as julia.

[felix.samora]

The worst thing about crossdressing is having to pad your hips. Wish I had natural girly hips.

[KatieV]

It's a dilemna - it releases stress and creates stress. It's so good and it's so disruptive. For me these differences seem impossible to reconcile.

[StephanieH]

Not being able to when you want to - heavy sigh...

[steeve]

The worst thing is not being accepted for the way you are.

[moniquej]

The worst thing about crossdressing is most people's ignorance about it.

[jennloves55]

The worst thing about crossdressing is having to revert back to drab mode. I wish I could always be dressed.

[Donna St. Marten]

The worst thing about crossdressing is body hair management.

[aly01]

I agree having to put in hiding and not being able to dress 24/7.

[Karen kc]

being dressed and relaxing then having to run to bedrooom when grandkids knock on the door!

[Maryesther M.]

Having to hide everything away from the wife & all the family, who are not 'on board' at all. This confines my CD-ing to special days when no-one is around and the 'worst thing' is having to ensure that no trace of my activity has been left lying around as 'evidence' that I'm still 'at it'.

M.

[adrienner99]

Hiding it.

[May(be)]

The worst thing is when friends say horrible things about a public figure's gender variance, and not being able to tell them they just insulted me to my face. I don't let it slide ever, but in their minds it's just another social justice issue that I'm going on about again. Very few of them know that it's more than that to me.

[NathalieX66]

JennyLynn, if your're from upstate New York, you will do fine in Woodstock and Poughkeepsie.

[ellieparsons]

Purging, i've lost alot of great heels & outfits that way.

[sweetshauna]

It being an opportunistic activity for me.
.

[Donna June]

Having to stop even just for a few days

[Georgina]

The cost in financial terms. No matter how many nice clothes I have, I always want more.

[MichelleinEugene]

The worst thing about cross dressing is......

Not being able to dress 24/7...

This....what she said!

[heellover]

In my lifestyle, 24/7, there is nothing ever wrong with crossdressing.

Well Arlene in my humble opinion,if your 24/7...your not crossdressing,your living as a woman!

The worst thing about crossdressing is having to go back into drab mode!

[Ceri Anne]

Exactly what Susan said: The worst part about crossdressing is not being able to do it all the time. Well that and the cost of getting laser, breasts, and those sorts of things

[Cindia]

let's see, shaving, I'm terrible at eye make up, the cutest shoes never seem to come in my size, my wife doesn't love it and want to help me, I have to hide my clothes, ....
I could deal with all of that better (especially the make up) if I could just do it more often and when ever I wanted.

[Michelle V]

Seeing what an ugly dude lives underneath Michelle

[giuseppina]

Could it be the worse thing is that it isn't accepted by most people in general?

I'll go a little further: Those individuals who do harm to LGBT individuals just because they are LGBT and out.

[Carlene]

The worst part of crossdressing, for me, is to be in the closet (more or less alone) and not being not being able to find the door out.

[serena33]

Lol...I have to laugh cuz ur all right. Its the totality of it all that makes it brutal. Cant wear shorts cuz u shaved ur legs. Cant shave/wax ur arms. Gotta take the nail polish off ur toes. Cant get a mani pedi like girls can without brutal looks. Can barely shop for girly clothes without bein looked at as a pervert. Cant get a makeover to know what is the best look for u. And one of the worst things....buying all this stuff to bring home only to find out its not the right skin tone, not the right size etc because u cant try it out/on in the store. Oh and wondering if u go out if ur gonna be made and hence ridiculed or beaten. Which brings me to the next one...just not having the skin or curves women have...I truly understand the rigors women go thru to be pretty. But its almost twice as hard being a guy and trying to look feminine whilst still being able to maintain ur masculine credibility. But....I love it nonetheless. ..lol

[IwishIwasTracy]

Is being built like an offensive lineman. Finding anything that looks good on me is tough.


tracy

[Janice An]

Not being able to pass and go out dressed always !!!

[chrissy111]

For me the worst thing is going back to drab clothes

[jennylogan]

Waiting for the day when I can go full time. Retirement from the work force can't some soon enough.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Rebecca, The worst thing about it is UN-CROSSDRESSING afterwards

[Ellie Bunter]

The secrecy

[Michelle V]

The secrecy

That is a very good one, tack on "lack of acceptance from society"

[FrillyShelly]

I love love my clothes, but I have to jamb them into a small hiding place so thatmy non accepting better half isnt reminded of the better half of me.:sad::sad:

Not having enough time for it !!!

[Sonya]

the amount of effort it takes to look presentable and not being satisfied by the result at the end.

P.S. We must be all nuts LOL, there are so many worst things about cross dressing but we still can not give it up....

[serena33]

the amount of effort it takes to look presentable and not being satisfied by the result at the end.

P.S. We must be all nuts LOL, there are so many worst things about cross dressing but we still can not give it up....

Yeah.. lol. But then again...girls are never satisfied with how they look. However it does seem like it takes way more time for us

[Beverley Sims]

Deciding what to wear.
When I change back. :)

[HelenR2]

Having large oddly shaped feet in different sizes that don't comfortably fit into womens' shoes. Two hours in high heels and I am ready to scream and I cannot wear any heels more than two and a half inches high.

[Tina B.]

The worst part is needing to do it, I wish it was just a want, then it could be ignored when it's inconvenient, but instead it's a need that will not leave a body alone until it is satisfied.

[~Joanne~]

The worst thing about crossdressing is the term "crossdresser".
Hey, why cant we look at a gg when she is wearing jeans and a flannel shirt and ask her if she is a crossdresser? Who came up with the idea of gender specific clothing anyway?

I agree with this one 110%. I don't know how many times i have seen women in men's clothing and this thought runs through my head. I do, however, love to tease the SO when she does it lol

[anonymousinmaryland]

. . . getting undressed.

[christym]

Roger that!
Rock on, sister!

[sarahspinkdress]

Hours and hours to get truly ready (it takes me forever to shave, I suck at it)
Look pretty for MAYBE two hours
Hour to get un-pretty and go to work/bed.

Lotta work for that little window.

[Rhonda Darling]

Not being able (or not ready?) to tell everyone I know and be accepted for who I am and what I am/do. If I could do that most of the other problems we've listed here would recede to the background. I could dress whenever I wanted and stay as long as I wished. I could shop and travel and interact with anyone and everyone without fear. I could express my feelings, comment on things, interact with others, and do it all from my femme perspective. I could be free of the burden of keeping a secret that defines my soul. Sigh.

Great thread ladies. Destined to be a classic.
Rhonda

[daviolin]

The biggest thing I hate about crossdressing, is I wish I would of come out many years ago, when I was young. Daviolin

[LPark]

Is being built like an offensive lineman. Finding anything that looks good on me is tough.


tracy

I'll second that. I need an industrial shop vact to suction out my excess fat.

[Lee Andrews]

Worst part for me is not being able to just go out with skirt, heels and hose. The rest of me in male mode. Second thing would not being able to just hang around my house with toes painted or wearing a pair of nylons and not worrying whether the doorbell will ring and how I'm going to hide it.
After thinking for a minute, I think the worst thing is having to hide it because of the way people close to you might or might not react. This is me and I wish I could be me in front of those I love without judgment but the world doesn't work that way.

[tylia]

I couldn't have said it better Lee......Sometimes i just feel like coming out and having it over with.

[Sarah Beth]

The abo****e worst thing for me is the fear of being caught and having it spread all over town.

[Glenda58]

The worst thing for is when I see my daughter-in-law she the same size as me and she is always dress perfectly in heels and dresses and I can ask to try her stuff on.

[Ginger Maxim]

Not having REAL large firm breasts....

[Melissa in SE Tn]

When dressed in lingerie, I hate getting undressed.

[Majella St Gerard]

I love the shoes but they do tend to hurt after awhile.:sad:

[Monica2013]

Thanks so much Rhonda! I am just starting after years of denial. You so expressed what I am feeling now. As you said, I want to dress the way that is truly right for me and stay as long as I want. Thanks again,
Monica

[JennyLynn]

Time, time, time. And being in the closet and no place to go. And yes, I have a suitcase which is locked with all my pretty clothes and wigs getting wrinkled all the time. Thank God for fluff dry! I do have to say that the worst thing is not sharing my femme side in person with anybody, but I've come to terms with that. I now have my friends here and that partially fulfills my need to connect. We give what we can give, and accept what we are offered. Thanksgiving for that!

Happy Turkey Day!

Jenny

[Fortuneta]

As sooooo many have said...getting undressed.

[Wildaboutheels]

Can't think of a worst thing but...

I do find great Irony though that at a site titled CrossDressers.com some Forum participants insist that there is a right way and a wrong way to do "it". [BAD advice for any newbie IMO] Which implies that they they believe that ALL CDers are created equal and have the same goals, aspirations, problems, etc.

One of the Forum Dinos here once declared not that long ago that there are only 2 kinds of CDers. The ones that have left their closets and the ones that want to. Oh REALLY? It's easily confirmed that probably less than 1% ever leave their house dressed or have any desire to share their "dressing" with others.

Regardless of the WHY or extent of one's dressing, it IS one's choice and it's not against the law especially in one's own home.

[Adriana Moretti]

hmmm...having to shave ?? that always annoys me. The added expense of 2 seperate wardrobes? Not being able to eat pizza, fatty meats ,cheeze and other of my Italian favories as much as I like.

[JennyLynn]

Sarah,
You nailed it. Sometimes, it seems it's not even worth it. All the work and stuck in the house with nobody to appreciate how nice I look, except myself! Sometimes, I just put on a bra, forms, top and hair and go with the man jeans. No makeup, just feeling feminine. Time is so short and when there's nowhere to go, it seems silly sometimes.

[steph9]

I agree with many of the other posters... the time it takes to get dressed, and actually look good, then the fact that I'm still very private about all of this, it's hard to do all of that work just for myself... but I still do it!

[sweetgal]

I hate that we are in a world where stupid cultural norms dictate dress to the degree it does.

[Amanda M]

The worst thing? Finding out that your SO has stolen your foundation.......again! And if that's all I have to complain about, am I not lucky.

[jamielksit]

the worst thing about crossdressing is the loneliness

[Taylor Ray]

is the fact that everyone else in the world seems to think that I have two sets of clothes...when, from my point of view, I just have "my clothes"...some of which I purchased in the male section; and others, which I purchased in the female section

[Denise Johnson]

I agree the undressing and not being able to accepted outside the house. Sometimes I wish I could just go out!!!!

[pantynhoseman]

The worst thing is not being passable to go out in public }:

[Alice Torn]

The inner conflict, the being considerd a loser man, not fit for marriage, a deviant, by most all the people i know. I wish i did not have the desire anymore.

[Samantha_Smile]

The hiding.

[Kristy 56]

As others have said, being all dressed up with no place to go.

[Vanessa5]

The hiding and keeping track of an ever expanding wardrobe. I have a spot under the stairs where most is kept but it just wants out!!

[grace7777]

The worst thing is not being able to be in girl mode full time.

[curvyFiona]

not being sure if you are passable or not. That can be a problem.

[bomba]

the way its made my wife fel about me

[Adriana Moretti]

having to undress at the end of the day??????

[JennyLynn]

Keeping my hands off of myself!!!! :)

[SatinSarah]

Not being able to dress when the urge takes and not being able to say to other girls - I have those shoes/boots/ skirt dress etc whenever I want!

[sheilagirl]

Having to don Men's pants and shirts after experiencing the wonderful feel of a soft, chiffon blouse and pleated skirt.

[MissJoanne]

The worst thing about crossdressing is having to go back into drab mode!
Seconded.

[mmandy31]

the worst thing about cross dressing is trying to find clothes that fit you
when you see something you like and you can't find in your size

[ColetteB]

Knowing that I can walk in heels better than some of my female friends, and having to keep quiet about it.

Plus one of my wife's friends has threatened to "doll me up in drag" on occasion. I don't think she has any idea just how much I'd enjoy it!

[Heather Phillips]

I do all of my shopping online, so it's challenging to find appropriate sizes and styles that fit my body and personality.

[Sarah Marie]

Not being able to afford Christian Louboutin stilettos

[jackielynn]

The worst thing about crossdressing for me is walking by the women's clothing isle in stores. It really gets my heart racing but I have to act like I'm bored and uninterested. I imagine it's like whenever a vegetarian smells bacon.

[VeroS]

For me it's all the cost, pain and time of getting rid of body hair. I've just spent over an hour slapping hair remover over most of my body to get ready for a day out.

[Ilsa]

For me it is eventually having to take the clothes, makeup, jewelry, shoes, under garment and wig(s) off for the day. I just wish I could stay en femme forever. But alas circumstances don't allow me to do so at this time.

Ilsa

[Steph70]

My boss is a real tom-boy(she is very cute and around my size). She wears jeans and t-shirt most of the time. When she has to dress up for a meeting or event, she comes in and I just want to say to her..."Seriously, come over to my house and we'll get you something to wear." So, not being able to say that to her. She has this skirt she wears...it looks like a gray sleeping bag. It makes me want to cry.
Oh, and not being able to say "That outfit is cute! Where did you get it?"
Or the "I have that skirt too"

And of course not being able to dress when I want. I'd even be happy with just my over the knee 5" heel boots. I'd probably get a few funny looks lol.

[Monet's dream]

The worst thing is not being able to wear lovely, feminine clothing when I want to, or as often as I want to.

[Janine cd]

Rebecca, I'm in the same situation. I've hidden all of my femme things in a separate closet, but I'm running out of space and fear that my unaccepting wife will find my stash.

[Ally 2112]

All the purging i have done over the years thiking it was going to stop .Well as most of you Know it does not stop be the anti purger put your stuff away
and the urge comes back you got what ya need.Also being single :)

[heatherdress]

The worst thing about crossdressing for me is that I enjoy dressing as a woman so much, and get so much pleasure and enjoyment when I am dressed - that I just can't think of any "worst thing".

[Debby1194]

Hiding everything from a non-supportive SO

[Caden Lane]

Not being able to wear what I want when I want.

[Joanne108]

Undressing and keeping it secret!

[beatrixmarie]

For me there are two: Going back.

The other one is shopping with my wife and kids. Wife knows but doesn't like it, so I'm not really able to look really at the things I might want, even as a window dressing exercise.

[Nikki Rich]

Having to keep it a secret, not feeling free to be who you really are. Society as a whole is not ready. My wife and a few friends know and that helps.

[michellekhoo]

The expense. For me there is a never ending list of things that i need to buy. I simply cannot resist buying new shoes .

[Danielle_cder]

how much it has cost me in terms of $$$$

[Maryesther M.]

I'm with Debby on this...Everything has to be hidden from my unsupporting spouse, so the 'clean-up' after each session has to be very thorough. It has also adversely affected how she feels about me, alas.

M.

[NatalieMN]

When dressed in lingerie, I hate getting undressed.

This :) I also "hate" spending money on new clothes. I think of all the clothing purchases I have made in the last year, 95% of them were for women's clothing.

I also agree with others who say that having to hide this side of ourselves, or not having anyone to share it with, is frustrating

[franlee]

Having to stop before I'm ready to. Although I can CD almost anytime I want to there is always the end of the euphoria and sometimes even the surprise need to change back in a hurry.

[Adriana Moretti]

not having enough privacy ??? thats my new gripe.... I need to get my own place again....

[beez1717]

For me it might be the fact that I'm 24 and I'm a larger guy in the shoulders so it is super hard to find clothes that look my age and still fit. Darn it! I want to have a cute v neck cap sleeve t shirt that is feminine and fits...

[K8astrophe]

For me, it was all the unflattering photos... So many happy nights of positive self-image, ruined by the harsh (sometimes distorted) truth of the camera lens. I'm starting to realize what some old tribes really meant by the camera stealing your soul. Mirrors I like though. ;)

[SamaraBanshee]

How long it takes to get ready!!!!!!!!!
Although that is all part of the fun, right? :)

[Christina Kay]

Having to stop dressing and dress drab for the work world ;( Hugs:battingeyelashes:

[Christen]

Poking yourself in the eye with a mascara wand. Ouch!

[Taylor Ray]

My coworkers sometimes tease me about being "gay", or being into "weird stuff".

Is there a cross dress vibe we unknowingly give off?

And why do other people care so much anyway?

[mandysmiles]

The worst for me is waiting for everyone to fall asleep so I can play.

[ChristinaK]

Just too big and manly for the clothes I would like to wear. 2x, 1x, 3x? The big clothes are typically not as cute. Then, a 1x works for one top, but a 3x works for another.

[Vanessa Rose]

The worst thing about crossdressing is possibly the "lack of confidence" so many appear to have. About people staring at you, comments about you, me and all is based on the lack of self-esteem.../ lack of confidence

yes this is not always true and there are other factors that co-exist
yes there are people that are mean
and yes I am sorry it happened to you, however,

From what I get out of all these millions of posts on this website and all that has ever been written ever...

It comes down to "confidence" / "lack of confidence". some have it, some have earned it, many of us are making small steps to get it, and some just can't on their own.

Sad, as adults, as many of us are, it shows what a farce all that we pretend to be and do is. We can be fabulous parents, role models and impact society greatly. Even, and pathetically so in my own case, when we don't have the confidence to do what our hearts, deep inside, tell us to do the most...

And we act like we are all that..

Vanny

[Kit]

Probably lack of acceptance, perceived or actually. I'd love to be able to dress up in any situation and not be worried about others' opinions.

[Beverley Sims]

One of the big hassles for me is having to go drab again.
Especially if I smell like the roses of Picardy, and the won't go away. :)

[Acastina]

Eye makeup. I wish I had a printer or somethig that I just picked the colors on a laptop, looked into eye goggles and hit a button and *BOOM* Done. And a toggle switch for removal.
Homer Simpson invented a makeup gun that shot a hooker-look onto your face in a flash (literally). Marge survived but was not happy...

[kendra_gurl]

The worst thing about crossdressing.... is having to crossdress....

I've been reading this thread from last to first and Karren's quote seems to cover it all. None of the problems we describe as the worst thing about crossdressing would be an issue if it were not for our lack of the choice of "having to crossdress"

[dana digs sweaters]

The regrowth of facial hair after achieving a surgically close shave :angry:

[Glenda58]

The worst thing for me is I'm getting older and can't wear the short skirts any more and I love them.

[ossian]

Oh why oh why did it have to happen to me!

[NathalieX66]

Hair.

Too much body hair.

And for some of you......too little hair on the ol' noggin.

[Milou]

The guilt and shame, which resulted in low self-esteem and self-hate. Also the anxiety whether crossdressing means more than a fetish and if my girlfriend will accept my crossdressing. I'm pretty much still in the closet and haven't crossdressed for more than 7 years.

I still don't accept myself.

[ttacitus]

The worst is having to worry about people coming to the house unexpectedly. Also, not being able to buy all the wonderful things I want!

[AKADonna]

For me, the wore thing is having the non-supportive spouse. All other problems would seem to go away if only I had acceptance from the one I love so much!

[Jordan]

Is that there is never enough time to be Jordan I hate my male mode

[lisagurl]

i cant be a real woman

[lisagurl]

yes i to run into the same thing grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

[suspender]

Apart from occasionally having my stuff (mainly makeup and some clothing) used and abused by the SO and other GGs in the dwelling, knowing you will not complain too loudly, it would have to be the isolation associated with being a crossdresser.

[TessInJxn]

Hair removal!

I can say that as a person who is out to my wife and is beyond having to hide everything and sneak around. Before that, other than hair removal, I totally understand the hiding, the almost getting caught, the sneaking around, the time it takes to go back and forth.

But now, it is DEFINITELY hair removal!

[meganmartin]

For me it would be having unlimited $$$ to buy all the fun things to wear.

[AltairaMorbius]

How I look in panties.

[Vanessa Rose]

not crossdressing..!


*%(^$_@!


Vanny

[katssun]

The cost of having to have two wardrobes, when women's clothing is more expensive than the men's side no matter how hard you search for good deals!

That...and wigs in the summer.

[VAWyman]

Not finding dresses that "fit" they way I think they should. I'm a size 10-12 skirt/pant, but a size 14-16 blouse. Separates are fine, but I would love to have a formal or LBD that fits right.

[Christen]

Worst thing .. definitely the secrecy, having to hide everything, not being able to talk about it (this place is a great relief in that respect), guilt and fear.

[bomba]

karen you hit the nail on the head as usual,so simple but so true

[suzy]

The inability to dress when the feminine urges hit, which is happening more and more frequently of late!

[Devi is here]

I am so grateful th my SO loves it and wants me to dress up.

[Rosie87]

Taking off my makeup :( And of course making sure there's no traces left!

[scarletcd]

I love love my clothes, but I have to jamb them into a small hiding place so thatmy non accepting better half isnt reminded of the better half of me.:sad::sad:


I hear you there ! I've had to start being creative with where I hide things. Me and my fiancee are living apart right now because of work and I'm back home with my family. I couldn't just leave my stuff and had to bring things with me but in the last 6 months I've started to accumulate far too much :P

[anaissa]

the worst thing about crossdressing is having to deal with all of the presumptions that non-CDs have about us. And some we might even have about each other. That's what I love about this site--so much acceptance and freedom to be real, 3-D people.

[sonialexis]

The fear of getting caught is pretty lousy.

[Anna H]

Removing carefully done nail polish is one major thing. And
having to undo everything -just to run out for a few minutes.

[MsPriscilla]

Not being able to wear heels regularly so I could become totally comfortable in them, and not being able to wear makeup whenever and wherever I want to so I can get better at it

[Raychel]

Definitley the worst thing about it for me is the lack of closet space
All my work uniform end up piled on a file cabinet in my office, Raychel's clothes has taken over the closet. :heehee:

[pattyjones954]

yes I agree people coming to the house unexpectedly

[Sharon B.]

I agree with pattyjones954; People coming by unexpectedly, right now my makeup is spread all over the counter in the bathroom and in a spare room the dresser draws all open exposing my lingerie and dresses.

[Angie G]

When some one is at our place other then my wife and I can't dress.:hugs:
Angie

[Barbie Anne]

Agree with Angie and also the extrapolation, when I see something I like on a gg other than my wife I can't ask her where she bought it when I'm en-drab.

[rah]

Worst thing about crossdressing is u can become addicted to it and can ruin your life.

[KimCal]

The wig simply being uncomfortable and hot. And that's with ones that actually fit. I can handle the make-up and the shaving, but that darn wig is no fun. And yet, it's the one thing that puts me into the somewhat passable category. Gotta love irony.

[Jenny Elwood]

Trying to quit.

[luvbridget]

I very rarely have a chance to get fully en femme. I have 2 wigs, 7 pairs of heels, lots of wonderful makeup, lingerie and dresses. And I never have time when I'm by myself to put it all on. So I get frustrated and buy more things that I'll never have time to put on..

[mechamoose]

Oh yes.. sizes. They aren't the same from brand to brand, and while I'm in 1x bottoms, I need 2x to 3x tops because of my barrel of a chest. Don't get me started on hosiery.

And like I said in another thread, finding pretty shoes in a 13w is hard.

[Wildruler]

The worse part for me is having to hide who you are. The career path I have chosen isn't very accepting of crossdressers. Kentucky in general isn't accepting.

[Elle1946]

The worst thing about crossdressing is .......NOT BEING UNDERSTOOD!!

[Joanncdnj]

For me the worst part is trading in my heels for work boots till the next time.......

[TomboyBecca]

The worst thing about crossdressing is...being afraid to buy that cute skirt at the store because I'm worried what people will think.

[bridget01]

Not having enough time and the opportunity to enjoy the experience of getting fully dressed up with makeup and wig and then going out shopping for more femme clothes and lingerie

[KC Samanatha]

Without a doubt, the worst thing is not being able to accept yourself.

I look in the mirror and see the woman I like, and knowing she is trapped in a "male" form.
I love taking pis of myself in skirts and dresses, but not many in polo shirt and slacks.
Feeling embarrassed to show myself to my wife who knows.

[Kellie79]

Having to wear men's clothes after spending some time in women's clothes!

[Shellycd12]

I know how you feel.

Hugs, Shelly

[bridget01]

Deciding on which outfit and lingerie to wear, going to all the effort of dressing up nicely but then having to pack it all away again, finding your favorite stockings have a ladder in them, being on edge that someone will come home unexpectedly when you are dressed and made up fully, forgetting to pack away an item of clothing or heels and them being found later by SO - these are a few of my not favorite things!

[Julia Red]

As others said, it's the hiding that kills me. I wish I could talk openly about it to anyone, or get out of the house without consequences.

[CindyT]

Me Too!!!!!

[NewAmanda]

I feel the same way as you Julia!

I couldn't agree more. Seems anyone not into it is to closed minded

[Alice-n-wonderland]

The worst part about this is that its like living out of a suitcase. The other thing is being able to make friends that are real friends and are close if you find someone.

[ngzero]

It is hiding in the closet

[Fortuneta]

I cannot think of anything...the worst time I had was great!!!!!
Fortuneta

[sanderlay]

The worst thing is not just being accepted for the way you are. As someone said, a girl who wears jeans and a flannel shirt is not crossdressing, but me in a skirt and hose would get rediculed. So who says that life is fair?

Yes... Not being accepted for who you are, your true self, without ridicule by some in society is the worst part. Thankfully... I see this attitude changing for the better over time.

And to flip the coin... and be more up beat...

The best part of cross-dressing is...

... feeling true to myself.

Clothing is not just to keep me warm and protect my modesty. It can reflect and feel like an aligning of my own mental self image, who I feel I am inside, my gender, symbolically on my physical body.

[Talisker]

Worrying that they will sell out of those large lingerie sizes in the sale.

[KayleeAnn]

For me, having to change every time I go out of the house, and another thing, for me at least, ties into that is that I don't have any cute bikinis or anything like that... I don't want to get one if i'm not going out to a beach or a pool dressed and i'm not ready for that yet.

[Rachel292]

As others said, it's the hiding that kills me. I wish I could talk openly about it to anyone, or get out of the house without consequences.

I agree.

[Chardonnay Merlot]

Not enough gal pals who live near me

[Deanna11]

Not having enough time to do it and undressing back in to those drab men's clothes. Oops! I guess that's 2 things! The good things far outweigh the bad!

[PegyL]

You are not alone, after fifty years I still have to hide my stach.

I love thigh highs, but I run them every week, and panty hose I find I cut the stalking part off to make it easer to get into.

I wear my pantys all the time and a shamise instead of a T-shirt and tuck it into my pamtys. PegyL

Girls can wear any thing and nobody says a thing. I remember when you were cought in a dress or pantys you ended in jail.

PegyL

[ophelia]

Maybe not the worst, but as society gradually embraces crossdressers more and more part of the thrill, that "against the grain" danger is dissipating.

[noeleena]

Hi,

Wow, Some 232 posts,

A bit different here. okay dressing though not quite in your terms .

When i go to our week long Renaissance camp with around 250 people all dressed in garb,

i go there dressed and home meeting some of our family as well. and when i get home unload all my gear and change back into normal womens wear, now that i dont like, though i do go over seas dressed in my garb and yes , i sure get looked at, and thats okay.

so a bit different yet if you can see it from my point of view youll understand me a bit better, some clothes are a bit more special in this case they are,

...noeleena...

[Launa]

Worst thing for me is spending money on things you think are great at the time but don't work out at all after you buy them. I've wasted too much $ over the years on crrrrrrrrap!

[Athena_]

The worst thing is the body hair, yuck. I can't imagine why GG have any interest in GM's.

[JazT95]

Removing eye make-up. Hate it.

[JennyLynn]

Not having a friend to share the passion with. (Okay, ended in a preposition...excuuuuuuse me!).

[natcrys]

If I don't count being partially in the closet.. it has to be the shaving! I actually like my subtle ring beard.. but I hate shaving!

Fortunately, that's getting fixed with IPL! :)

[Amanda Briegh]

Not being able to stay all dressed up, and being accepted for who you are.

[michelle az]

i agree amanda,my wife has gay sister yet not ok for me

[geek]

Doing it off and on for 15 years and STILL never of been able to even try doing makeup, not even once.

[AKADonna]

By far, the worst part for me is the attitudes of people concerning crossdressers! Come on, people! Who really cares what clothing I decide to wear?

[StacyLynn]

The fact that I have to shave to do so. I like how I look with facial hair, but obviously can't have it when I dress :P

[sexycindy]

Having to shave, having to wear wigs (they itch) and having to wear make up (too much effort)

[rian]

Not to show what we dress and what type of beauty make up we put and most of all not to be able to Cross-dress 24 /7...and also to be forced to undress most of the time ...

[Genifer Teal]

Pretending to be a woman.

[ophelia]

The worst thing about crossdressing is the cost of doing it well. Two wardrobes...But that "worst" thing is like getting home and finding out you bought vanilla ice cream by accident instead of Rocky Road. NBD!

[Crissy Kay]

I guess for me it would be not being able to cd any time I want to, and as long as I want to as well.

[DaniCD1986]

Being in the shadows for so long (years).

[imnskirts]

Not being able to express my self anywhere without judgement

[LillyAntayra]

Shaving and getting ingrown hairs! Having a somewhat thick beard I do way to much damage to my face trying to get that ultra-close shave.

I can't shave two days in a row either unless I want to end up all cut, and I don't really like how I look en-femme with stubble.

[joleentgif]

shaving and removing makeup! also random visitors showing up can be frustrating

[Abbygirl]

For me, the worst part is feeling like I have to hide the Abby side of me. I let as much of her show as I dare, but I am still in hiding.

[Ressie]

One of the worst things about crossdressing is when the CD thinks "she" is passable, but clearly isn't. There are too many male features that stick out unknowingly. Did I say stick out? lol

[Kelley]

Trying to decide what to wear

Kelley