pink fog

[Jessica1983]

hi im really strugleing to control my cding at the moment i thought i had it under raps i told my wife that was a bit akward but since then i cant think of any thing else if i see a woman with nice cloths or in a shop i have to look to the point i make a excuse like neeeding the toilet so i can sneek off i all ways look a a girls shoes first i only wear shoes and underwear im trying not to try any any dress or stuff cause i fear this will develop and i might not be able to stop my wife is very good but dosent like to c me dressed i have 2 young children to so im limited to when i can i think i might be in a big pink cloud but can see the way out im thinking of a shrink how would u go about seeing one thanks

[Rachael Leigh]

It can be difficult to control this but you need to find ways. If you have a hobby or other stuff you enjoy try that and it might help

[Jessica1983]

hi leer thank you i do have hobbys but its alway nagging at the back of my mind im hopeing it will pass

[Jackie7]

Most of us find it does not go away, but we can learn how to manage it and use it constructively in our lives, versus being destroyed by it. YMMV but generally the urge to cross-dress is not considered a mental disorder nor any kind of craziness, it's just a variation within the normal range of people in general, so it's not really the place for psychiatrists. A good psychologist or counsellor, on the other hand, can help you create coping strategies.

How I would go about seeing one? I'd ask friends and co-workers for recommendations, just say you're looking for a family counsellor, ask a doctor, ask a priest, make an appointment for an initial consultation. Having been down this path a few times over the years (I'm older my kids are grown but I wrestled with this my whole adult life, where you are at now seems like it is not far off where I was when the kids were little.) I don't think you necessarily need a gender specialist, unless of course actual gender transition is a consideration for you. I've found that a good place to start is with an experienced professional counsellor/family behavioral therapist. They have seen everything. Be up front about what you are looking for, no point in keeping secrets while the meter is running. These folks also can refer you onward if you need more specialized help.

[Jaylyn]

The pink fog is hard to control for me. When I see a beautiful girl on tv or see a makeup ad it can trigger it. I love the makeup as much as hose and heels and just seeing this on GG s I can get the fog. I try to do manly activities. Try to get out doors in nature. I work around the farm or do chores where no stimulation is there. I love the fog though as when I get to feeling I need to dress I can enjoy it just planning and get a anxious feeling inside that adds to the excitement of the act of dressing.

[Rachelakld]

Sorry Hooter, as we age, the girl side wants more time out.
I tend to need about 2 hours a week to shop and have brunch in girl mode, and maybe an evening or 2 at home with the family in leggings and daughters t-shirt top or cotton LBD (they often borrow my skirts and makeup, so I borrow their clothes).
This week, due to water pipe bursts, I've spent more time in guy mode removing carpet and walls, replacing pipes, re-building walls but plan to wear LBD tonight to watch X-factor with wife & kids.

Weekend, think I'll just go for regular coffee morning.
My CD GFs wife just had first baby, so it's lockdown mode for her outings for a few weeks, probably nearly insane by now :)

[mykell]

like anything moderation, shoes started this for me, unclear- you've told your wife, (my task still to concur) i have a 14 yr old but have time while he is in school, since joining the forum i have mellowed and try connecting more with him instead of being enforcer dad and take more time to be more supportive of the mrs. take some cleansing breaths, maybe alone time at motel would work, they dont see you there and it will probably be cheaper than the therapist, ive only been here less than a week but feel ive achieved so much, first forum, first post, first message, first photo ect... there are many threads with good info, try reading some of them !! it helped me.

[Jessica1983]

hi thank you all very helpful i dont want to stop just want to have better control it must be great to just dress when u want with wife and would love to go to shops with her but its her choice and i try and respect that after all she thougt she had married a mans man not a girl she is ok with it but dosent what to see me like it and wouldnt take any thing more so i need to stay at the level im at i probly should have told her from the start

[Beverley Sims]

I think with a little self discipline you could manage the pink fog yourself.

[Jessica1983]

thanks i will try little more often then hope fully it will keep the bigger waves at bay

[Jaylyn]

"there are many threads with good info, try reading some of them !! it helped me."
Mikell hit the nail on the head read the posts that is probably the best advice. I left that out but there is a lot of wisdom from a lot of different situations......

[MichelleinEugene]

I personally can go long stretches of time where i I can control my need to dress or when the pink fog has burned away for awhile, if you will. Right now I'm feeling a little manic myself with it. Hang in there, it'll most likely get better. Hugs!

[k lynn]

being a underdresser manging the pink fog isnt bad into I see a women on tv in a bra or a bra ad then the fog goes to work on me saying you need and want a new one I try saying no most of the time I win I have 4 bras and to many pairs of panties to count I dont need a bra or more panties If I win the battle I take the $40.00 I would have spent on a bra and put it in my savings so I can go on vacation to see my granddaughter

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Hooter, At such a young age the pink fog can take control of you if you let it but the family should come first.

[Lil Ashling]

The pink fog is so tough. Just seeing a pretty woman in heels and looking s fem can trigger it. Being in a shoe store...oh my!