Stephanie Kay
01-01-2006, 01:08 PM
Anyone here use this term? I think it's pretty accurate. Here's an example of the public being T*oblivious.
A couple of springs ago I was driving up the Mississippi River valley on the Wisconsin side going to dinner with some T*girlfriends in Bay City and loving every minute of it. The trees were just beginning to leaf out and the spring smells added to the romance that Stephanie was having with the world in that moment.
I pulled up in front of the restaurant about five minutes early and noticed that my friends had not yet arrived or had already gone in. I checked my make-up and hair one last time in the rearview mirror and appreciated both my inner and outer beauty. I stepped from my van and straightened my skirt and as I turned to walk to the entrance of the restaurant, the door swung open and out burst six teenage couples, giggling, vibrant, and very well-dressed in tuxedoes and evening gowns. Ah, yes, 'twas spring and prom time in the midwest!! As I walked past the group, we exchanged glances, smiles and hello's. I wondered what they were thinking. No one did a double take or made any comment as they piled into their cars.
I know I was thinking about my proms 35 years ago in Chicago, still envious of the beautiful prom dresses and soft creamy skin and elaborate hairdos. The young girls all looked so lovely, then AND now. I even wondered if any of the guys in their sharp but drab black and white formal wear were having fantasies about exchanging clothes with their pretty dates. Hey, that was the case for at least one rather ordinary looking guy in Chicago in 1965 and it could certainly be the case here in western Wisconsin today! At least I wore a "bleeding madras" tux (Oh, God, remember those? At least my date thought I looked cool!). These were surprisingly pleasant memories for me and I silently wished them all a delicious prom experience as I entered the restaurant. Maybe my presence added one more interesting story to their memorable night of fun. I hope so.
But as I was sitting at the table sipping a glass of white zin waiting for my friends to arrive (they were "fashionably" late) I started to think about if I had been noticed at all. Maybe I'm not such a "big deal?" Recently some of my transgendered friends started using the term "T*oblivious" when they are out and about. This term refers to the fact that the world is getting used to rubbing elbows with us. Either they don't notice us or it's not a big deal or even any kind of deal at all! That's been my experience over the past several years as Stephanie and I love it. Leave me alone and let me enjoy my femininity, thank you. Thank you for being T*oblivious.
You experienced crossdressers know what I mean? Listen up you newbies! No need to be too nervous when dressed up out in public! Most of the public is T*oblivious! Really! :)
A couple of springs ago I was driving up the Mississippi River valley on the Wisconsin side going to dinner with some T*girlfriends in Bay City and loving every minute of it. The trees were just beginning to leaf out and the spring smells added to the romance that Stephanie was having with the world in that moment.
I pulled up in front of the restaurant about five minutes early and noticed that my friends had not yet arrived or had already gone in. I checked my make-up and hair one last time in the rearview mirror and appreciated both my inner and outer beauty. I stepped from my van and straightened my skirt and as I turned to walk to the entrance of the restaurant, the door swung open and out burst six teenage couples, giggling, vibrant, and very well-dressed in tuxedoes and evening gowns. Ah, yes, 'twas spring and prom time in the midwest!! As I walked past the group, we exchanged glances, smiles and hello's. I wondered what they were thinking. No one did a double take or made any comment as they piled into their cars.
I know I was thinking about my proms 35 years ago in Chicago, still envious of the beautiful prom dresses and soft creamy skin and elaborate hairdos. The young girls all looked so lovely, then AND now. I even wondered if any of the guys in their sharp but drab black and white formal wear were having fantasies about exchanging clothes with their pretty dates. Hey, that was the case for at least one rather ordinary looking guy in Chicago in 1965 and it could certainly be the case here in western Wisconsin today! At least I wore a "bleeding madras" tux (Oh, God, remember those? At least my date thought I looked cool!). These were surprisingly pleasant memories for me and I silently wished them all a delicious prom experience as I entered the restaurant. Maybe my presence added one more interesting story to their memorable night of fun. I hope so.
But as I was sitting at the table sipping a glass of white zin waiting for my friends to arrive (they were "fashionably" late) I started to think about if I had been noticed at all. Maybe I'm not such a "big deal?" Recently some of my transgendered friends started using the term "T*oblivious" when they are out and about. This term refers to the fact that the world is getting used to rubbing elbows with us. Either they don't notice us or it's not a big deal or even any kind of deal at all! That's been my experience over the past several years as Stephanie and I love it. Leave me alone and let me enjoy my femininity, thank you. Thank you for being T*oblivious.
You experienced crossdressers know what I mean? Listen up you newbies! No need to be too nervous when dressed up out in public! Most of the public is T*oblivious! Really! :)