Julie8181
11-20-2013, 02:48 AM
Here's a potentially interesting coming out story...
So... I've been thinking about how to come out to my immediate family and close friends as transsexual pretty much every day for the last year, but hadn't summoned the courage yet (for reasons I may get into in another post). I'm a daily Facebook user, and when I got home from work tonight I saw a post from my ten year old niece announcing that she was going to start wearing girls clothes and that everyone could call her by a girl's name, and that anyone that didn't like it could "deal with it!" I was blown away. Not by the fact that my niece is transsexual, but that she came out at that age in a public space such as Facebook. Don't get me wrong - I'm not so much worried about her, since she has very supportive friends and family members, but rather I am impressed by someone so young being so brave!
I texted my brother about it and said "Did your child just come out as transgender on Facebook?" His reply was that she was just doing it to get attention. My reply was "Are you sure?" while I'm thinking there's no way someone would come out in a public place like that unless they meant it. Even though she is young, I think she knew what she was doing and that it was a catharsis for her.
Anyway, I got into a text conversation with my sister-in-law, and I let her know that I supported my niece. She said that she did as well. I told her that I thought it was great that she had the courage to come out at her age. I'm not sure what prompted my sister in law to ask this, but she said "Are you gay or transgender and don't have the courage to come out?" I danced around the question for a while, but eventually I pretty much told her everything - from my gender identity and sexual orientation, the name I'm thinking about using, my plans for transition, all of it.
She asked alot of questions, and at one point asked when I was going to say that I was kidding, but overall she handled it quite well and was very supportive.
So... I did not wake up today with specific plans to come out for the first time to anyone (that is not on a forum), but there it is, it happened. I am a bit worried about my niece, but at the same time I'm jealous she is starting her journey so much earlier.
So... I've been thinking about how to come out to my immediate family and close friends as transsexual pretty much every day for the last year, but hadn't summoned the courage yet (for reasons I may get into in another post). I'm a daily Facebook user, and when I got home from work tonight I saw a post from my ten year old niece announcing that she was going to start wearing girls clothes and that everyone could call her by a girl's name, and that anyone that didn't like it could "deal with it!" I was blown away. Not by the fact that my niece is transsexual, but that she came out at that age in a public space such as Facebook. Don't get me wrong - I'm not so much worried about her, since she has very supportive friends and family members, but rather I am impressed by someone so young being so brave!
I texted my brother about it and said "Did your child just come out as transgender on Facebook?" His reply was that she was just doing it to get attention. My reply was "Are you sure?" while I'm thinking there's no way someone would come out in a public place like that unless they meant it. Even though she is young, I think she knew what she was doing and that it was a catharsis for her.
Anyway, I got into a text conversation with my sister-in-law, and I let her know that I supported my niece. She said that she did as well. I told her that I thought it was great that she had the courage to come out at her age. I'm not sure what prompted my sister in law to ask this, but she said "Are you gay or transgender and don't have the courage to come out?" I danced around the question for a while, but eventually I pretty much told her everything - from my gender identity and sexual orientation, the name I'm thinking about using, my plans for transition, all of it.
She asked alot of questions, and at one point asked when I was going to say that I was kidding, but overall she handled it quite well and was very supportive.
So... I did not wake up today with specific plans to come out for the first time to anyone (that is not on a forum), but there it is, it happened. I am a bit worried about my niece, but at the same time I'm jealous she is starting her journey so much earlier.