Why do i always feel sexual when i crossdress ???

[nylon boy]

Crossdressing ignites an explosive sexual feeling in me that i cant control,i sometimes feel i only do it for this reason,is it this feeling that gives me the drive to push the boundarys i.e going out dressed (which i do and on my own as i dont have any like minded friends).

What im trying to say is i know i am not in to having sex man on man but when im en femme i fantasise about being a full time girl and being taken and treated like a women by a man im soo confused.... :confused2:

[nhlighthouse]

Ya that happens to me also and it is just a GREAT feeling inside.

[ArleneRaquel]

From my experiences after puberty the sexual urge begins, I started CD'ing well before that process began, it will last, but usually fades after a number of years. I still get an extra sexual urge when I'm enfemme, but to me it is less emcompassing than it was previously. I now do not date GG, and haven'y done so in years. best Wishes Darlin. You loo fantastic.

[nylon boy]

Hi Arlene and nhlighthouse,is it that as crossdressers or t.v's are we constantly chasing that deep strong feeling we first got when say trying on lingerie/pantyhose/stockings for the first time?sorry im just trying to get to the bottom of things in my head.. x

[MichelleinEugene]

I've always thought it was the "fires together, wires together" theory of our brains. I know I started young and it was very exciting. Once I reached an age where sexual desire and behavior entered into it, it became even more so. Excitement + sexual urges = strong reinforcement for you brain. Lots of chemical flowing around up there. It might fade it time, it might be a life long thing. How you're feeling is pretty normal I think. Give yourself some freedom, experiment if it feels right. Have fun and be safe.

[Kelly DeWinter]

For some , crossdressing is a fetish. Dressing is a sexual thrill. For me it's never been a sexual thrill of dressing, sure it's nice to look nice, but I find pantyhose to be a necessary evil LOL.

[wilt575]

Crossdressing ignites an explosive sexual feeling in me that i cant control,i sometimes feel i only do it for this reason,is it this feeling that gives me the drive to push the boundarys i.e going out dressed (which i do and on my own as i dont have any like minded friends).

What im trying to say is i know i am not in to having sex man on man but when im en femme i fantasise about being a full time girl and being taken and treated like a women by a man im soo confused.... :confused2: I know what you mean I'm not into man on man either. But when in fem I would not rule out a girl on girl. I feel if I attracted a girl or lesbian it reinforces the feeling that I pass as fem. I've had a couple bi-lesbians affairs that turned out good.

[Confucius]

Your brain is hard-wired (why, I don't know), to interpret cross-dressing as actual contact with a female. This means that when you cross-dress (or just anticipate cross-dressing), your brain will respond as if you were in contact with a real female. Your brain will release dopamine and other neurotransmitters which produce the sensations of well-being, pleasure, sexual gratification, and bonding. It will affect the reward centers of your brain, instant gratification, and thus it mimics the addiction response.

Your sensations are real. A similar response can be found in patients given dopamine for medication (as in Parkinson's).

[docrobbysherry]

That would explain my reactions to dressing at home in private, Confucious. It's a confused mess of female fantasies, (imagining I'm with them and that I am one), and the visual attraction of my image.

But, that doesn't explain why straight men would fantasize, consider, or actual have sex with a male.

[Beverley Sims]

It is a natural urge that has driven most of us in our earlier days.
Too much testosterone I think.

[Lucy_Bella]

I agree with Beverly..That it is natural .... But for the run of the mill cder ( non Trans ) we are men and men are sexually driven... I am attracted to the Feminine aspect of it ,I am and always have been attracted to very feminine women this is what still drives me...

[NicoleScott]

The whole CDing thing is a fantasy for many of us, and sexually exciting to boot. It's fun to fantasize, even for straight guys expanding the CDing by playing "what if" games in their mind. Doc, I think it does explain why straight men fantasize about having sex with a man - it validates a CDer's transformation that a man would find a CDer attractive. It's just a fantasy.

[TokyoLily]

I agree Lucy! I am attracted to females, and dressing makes me feel closer to them.

[Jenniferpl]

If I had the answer, I Would at the Mayo Clinic? Does this look like the Mayo Clinic?

After all it is just a fantasy. And sometimes a fantasy is better left a fantasy.

[Zylia]

Because (judging from your description here) you're a textbook case of a fetishistic cross-dresser (among other things I'm sure)? Don't overthink this, one of your motivations for cross-dressing seems to be autogynephilia (i.e. love for yourself as a woman) and from that it's not hard to imagine love for yourself as a woman in a sexual act as a fantasy. You don't have be sexually attracted to men to have those feelings, because the focus lies on yourself as a woman.

[Ginger Maxim]

I agree 100%. My sexual feelings also EXPLODE inside me. I have never acted upon my fantasies. I do not have the courage,

[Cheryl T]

For a long time when I was younger it was that way for me also.
Somewhere along the line it all changed. It was gradual, not a revelation, but it did change. Maybe I 'matured' or whatever you might call it, but it's no longer that huge turn-on, it's just me being me and loving it.

[Guy19]

I would say, because its your fetish

[Krististeph]

In my humble opinion- the fact that the overwhelming majority of CDs are heterosexual, underscores the reason many of us get a sexual thrill from dressing: We simply Love the way women look! They are wonderful! Beautiful convex curves smoothly transitioning in concave surfaces here and there, softer and more decorated, often unaware (or are they?) of the effect of their looks- in some ways you might even consider crossdressing to be the ultimate tribute to the beauty of the female body.

The female body has connotations of sexuality- breasts (for feeding babies as the result of sex), hips to better carry and deliver a baby, subcutaneous fat smoothing out the skin provides a reserve of energy to help the mother stay healthy while pregnant and feeding newborns.

Many (both natural and learned) 'female' mannerisms are related to this as well, including flirting and such, designed to attract mates for sex, and to keep them around to help raise and protect the family.

Shaving your legs and wearing stockings mimic or accentuate the smooth skin of females, most female clothing has some distinguishing aspects that draw our attention to what we consider 'female' differences to males, and a significant proportion of the clothing is designed to accentuate and draw attention to the same.

Remember that sex is in the brain- and everything else is just sensory nerve endings, so a lot of it has to do with what you perceive and cogitate. I'd be surprised if someone did not have sexual feelings about the crossdressing and the feminine actions & demeanor, but at the same time it is realized that sexuality has different meanings and connotations for different people.

[CONSUELO]

Nylon Boy, you are not alone. As a child my sexual exploration was via cross dressing in lingerie and because of that my cross dressing has a very large fetishistic element to it. I find that I am aroused by the look and feel of certain fabrics. Soft nylon or shiny satin are a strong trigger. I have one partial memory as a child sitting in a friends garage next to a bag of clothes and on top was a shiny satin blouse. The urge to feel that fabric was overwhelming and associated with a strong sexual arousal.

Don't be confused or upset by this feeling. It is shared by many others.

[Lynn Marie]

In my dressing, I'm emulating my dream girl. She's a turn on, that's why she's my "dream girl". She wears stockings, garters, and heels. That really gets my attention.

Okay, so it's not as sexual as it was a few years ago, but it's still quite erotic!

[Madilyn A.]

I have to agree with so many of the previous responses. Lynn Marie's response nailed it for me. I also try to emulate my dream girl image. Also, my dressing began well before puberty and the feelings I got then were from the fabrics, and the image of being a female. Then, of course the erotic sensations began with the onset of puberty and have subsided to a great degree over the decades. I still get a sexual rise when dressing, but much less so then in my youth.

[ArleneRaquel]

Darlin,
I had my first same gender experience at around the age of 56, this come after nearly 50 years of CD'ing. Being I had dreamed. one hundred or more time since that age of having a man adore me and want me to be his wife. What it all means I don't have the foggiest, but I love the way I live and wouldn't give it up for the world.

[Lucy_Bella]

I have also read that in time sexual arousal can last for many hours as we age and for those of us who may have sexual fetishism's this can result to many hours of being dressed ..Although it may start out as a passing fad of wearing the clothing for a few short minutes then getting the arousal over with .. It can and does grow in time you may also find new ways to add to the arousal to your sexual fetishism by emulating the desired object more..

Erotic stimuli may originate from a source unrelated to the object of subsequent sexual interest. For example, many people may find nudity, erotica or pornography sexually arousing,[3] which may generate a general sexual interest which is satisfied with sexual activity. When sexual arousal is achieved by or dependent on the use of objects, it is referred to as sexual fetishism, or in some instances a paraphilia.

[Desirae]

Since the onset of puberty for me, my dressing has always had the sexual arousal component to it. That's not to say that I have never just dressed to dress and feel comfortable or that dressing doesn't provide me with something more than just sexual gratification. While perusing dozens of older postings on this site, I have read many times about how, eventually, the arousal diminishes as we age. I haven't noticed that at all. I'm 48 now (36 years of sexual arousal from CDing) and it is still as it was way back then. I wonder if it will ever diminish. Not that I'm actually hoping it does. It's still a pretty much every day thing for me.

Also, like Madilyn, if I am near certain fabrics, or even just any type of female clothing, especially in department stores, I feel the arousal instantly. Same thing goes for seeing an attractive woman on TV in a dress or lingerie or whatever. Those beauty pageants are killer for me with the long, glamorous gowns. Over the years it seems that it has taken less and less for me to get worked up.

[Laura Collette]

Cross dressing has always felt sexy to me. I only dress in private at home and when I have the time I love to just spend time as my female self. I get distracted and forget that I'm wearing makeup, then I feel my earrings swinging and my hair (wig) brushing my neck and just feel like an attractive woman, sort of a delicious surprise. My fantasies have been about having sex with a woman as a woman. More recently I imagine being a GG and having sex with a man. I love imagining the submissive posture and the opening I imagine a GG feels. I am heterosexual and married and have no sexual interest in men except when I'm Laura and then it's only a fantasy. When I imagine being attractive to men I'm telling myself that Laura is attractive and desirable, which makes me feel good about myself.
One significant fact is that my marriage is a celibate one for reasons of my wife's unrelated to my cross dressing, but I have sexual urges and have found that this is a good way to direct them while remaining faithful. I love my wife more than anything.
I think that men in our society are so strongly socialized not to be attractive or attracted to men that many of us "straights" have to get out of our male personae in fantasy in order to free up those feelings. I could go on and on but the short answer is yes, sexual feelings sure are part of the CD experience for me.

[Annaliese2010]

No there's nothing wrong with that IMO. I feel the same sexual explosiveness (who doesn't?) but I never fantasize about men, just other M2F transgendered girls and..well GG's as well. I'm a lesbian I guess huh? Anyways don't be confused, just do it. BE who you are. It's ok. Celebrate yourself (but be safe). :battingeyelashes:

[kellibra]

krististeph... beautifully said. so true :)

[Barbara Dugan]

I love the sexual side of crossdresing..I have trouble believing that for some crossdresing is not sexual at all, perhaps not all the time but I bet on occasions you can't help it

[KaceyR]

Heavy analysis ahead...

My side is kind of half and half... started with a fetish attraction to lingerie and nylons/pantyhose.
But he other half is the adoration of girls' feminine side and their 'power' of expression altogether.
The sheer fact that they can dress up in so many styles and be free to be so expressive
(generally and emotionally) is what has got me into working to full CDing mode rather
than just underdressing.

While I've had my own stronger emotional/empathic side, it's not what I ever really "expressed" outwardly.
And in my life I guess I've been too "quiet" in social outings or too much "to myself" at times.
(probably why I've stayed single all my life).
I feel I can express that side more by being Kacey and CDing is allowing a good outlet for this.

But that fetish side's still there.. every time I put on the pantyhose or nylons.. gotta spend a few
seconds just running my hands on my legs for the thrill of the sensation.
(and then a bit of disappointment as I put my jeans on over them to head into work). Still feels good but..

Sometimes just feel so itchy to get out sometime and let my nylon'ed legs out for air! :)
But I'm too new yet at all this. Sometime tho.

As far as the full en femme fantasies.. I don't know. It's great to think of the the "attractiveness" you get
as a female. Half is the fact that you're what's attracting them, and the other half is the fact that you have
"the power" as a female.
I mean (and probably over analyzing again as I tend to do),
If I was an attractive GG out there, and getting hit on by guys (or gals), the few thoughts I can see in a dating situation is:
1: "I'm loving being able to attract the interest of people " (being wanted or being the attraction)
2: "I'm loving the power and control here...They are having to get _my_ OK for them to be with/near me". (in general, not even fully getting "into bed with").
3: "maybe this person can provide care/nurturing for me"
As a guy, I don't think these sides are thought of as much. But it's an emotional need.
Women by nature, are freer to act on these needs.
In general, guys operate in a more straightforward, logical way. We have the same needs technically, but repress them or hide a lot of them (or hide the public display at least).
But if they get more in tune emotionally then these things also can be recognized.. but without methods or natural ways to express them.

So this pushes into the fantasy side more. .
CDing does this, the feeling of attractiveness, of the power or control, and in the end the pleasure and nurturing that was gained as a result from "being a woman".

Myself, I can say I've had some similar fantasies. It's not all the time..but it's there.
My other thought on this literal sexual side gets me thinking of the fact that if one were to compare the "sensations" felt during sexual acts by a GG compared to a guy, they've got us beat. Potential sensitivity, length of reactions, sensations, all wrapped into and tied into their emotional being frankly kind of makes me jealous. It's a side we'll never experience ourselves. So that side of longing also fuels my own occasional fantasies. Possibly some of that is involved in your situation too.

Granted..I've also probably aligned more with being somewhat Bi as opposed to straight hetero (even before CDing recently). But it's a rough definition at best for me when I don't act anywhere but my fantasies. Overall, it's been the emotional linking that has the biggest impact for me for my fantasies..not the physical plumbing aspect.

Cripes..I type a lot. Sorry... Now on to chapter 2.... just kidding :)

[boone]

I do feel same too. But I'm trying keep it secret for now.

[susiecd13]

I agree with that also. I don't get the chance to dress often but when I do I fantasize about being a woman and being treated like one.

Susie

[jennloves55]

That feeling seems to grow more and more as I get older. I have found that in the past few years I dream of having a sexual relationship while dressed. For me it would be with another CD or even two. Just the thought of our stocking covered legs rubbing together get me so aroused. I have yet to act on these fantasies but maybe someday...

[Emma500]

When dressed enfemme, I definitely start to fantasise about being a woman. From there it moves on quite quickly to start imagining that I'm with a guy, with me as the woman.

[nylon boy]

The first experience i can remember is when i was really young say 4 years old,running my toy car around the floor until it stopped at my ma's friends legs i dunno why but i ran the car up her legs of course innocently ! (needless to say she was wearing nylon tights/pantyhose) and a pink silk slip ill never forget the way it felt..!

It wasnt until i was 13 years old that for some reason or another while in the house on my own one evening i tried on a pair of nylons and thats when my addiction started....never not once since then have i been able to resist temptation to crossdress...99% of the past comments on this thread make so much sense to my situation....i think my adoration for the female form drives my need for my female alter ego and as long as i live i will enjoy Lexie as much as i can and i advise like minded people to do the same as its just who we are...dont surpress your feelings as it leads to sadness and frustration xxx xxx

[Wezzcott]

I used to dress just for the sexual thrill when I was younger. However now, yes it does still turn me on, but after I have been turned off.., I still love being dressed. So I think now, I just love dressing whether there is a sexual urge or not.

[Gillian Gigs]

Why do I always feel sexual when I crossdress??? Mainly, because for you it is a sexual thing. Pavlov rang the bell, fed the dog, the dog salivated, eventually the dog would salivate when the bell was rung, it's called conditioned responce. Not meaning to be crude but, get dressed, play with self, get the climax, and have the endorphins flood your body giving you a peaceful feeling. This gets ingrained within you until, now when you get dressed everything wants to progress to the point of having an endorphin release and we all know what has to take place to get it!

This is strictly my opinion, based on my experiences. If there is any conciliation for you in this, it is that as you get older the "foreplay" can stretch out at first into hours, then into days. I would liken it to instead of getting one big endorphin flood at climax, the endorphins drip into your system slowly over a long period bringing peaceful, relaxed, calmness. It really is the clothes that is doing it, because they are so closely related to the whole experience. You then reach a point after who knows how long where that slow drip is not enough, and you fall back on the old habits to get that flood!

Whether you call it endorphins, or dopamine, it is a naturally occuring drug produced by our bodies. Runners run until it kicks into their system. Thrill seekers get it from doing what they do, as in sky diving, bungy jumping, etc. It is also produced during sex. Aside; what would it be like having sex, while skydiving, what a rush!!! If you looked at it from the prospective that you were a junky, you would quickly figure out what was needed to get your fix. So why is CDing sexual for you, because you made it that way through your repeated behavior!

PS: don't beat up on yourself over it, as you have read, so have many others followed the same path also...me too.

[Blake Lively]

I normally don't dress a whole lot. But when I put on some thigh high stockings and my pair of high heels a switch just turns inside me. I feel so sexy. And the heels gotta be tall though. The ones I have are 6 inches tall. Anything less and the "switch" doesn't get turned. Love the feeling of the stockings on my legs as well. Can't describe it, just feels soothing to me.

Blake

[Confucius]

It is a neurological response. Simply put your brain is hardwired to interpret cross-dressing as actual contact with a female.

This is not just role playing. It is not in your imagination. It is a true biological response. Your neural synapses are connected in such a way that your brain releases dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin and other neurotransmitters which produces sensations of well-being, pleasure, sexual gratification and bonding. It affects the reward centers of your brain, instant gratification, and thus it mimics the addiction response.

It has nothing to do with psychology. In fact, I'd say that psychologists have tried to classify cross-dressing as some sort of psychological abnormality and have got nowhere with it. They have tried to use psychotherapy to "cure" cross-dressers and got nowhere. That's because it has it biological origin.

The neurotransmitters your brain release are real, and quantifiable. People who do not experience the same sensations think that cross-dressers are all suffering from some sort of fetish where we use our imagination to construct a sexual substitute. That is so wrong!

I believe it is actual a form of synestesia in which one sensory pathway leads to automatic, involuntary experiences in a second sensory pathway. About 95% of male population can put on women's clothing and feel nothing but silly embarrassment, however about 5% of the population experiences something amazing. Their neurons and synapses are connected in such a way to generate an entirely different automatic, involuntary sensory experience. Most likely this neurological pathway was developed during synaptogenesis of critical periods in infancy and/or adolescence. More research is needed, but it is real, and it is a neurological (not psychological) response.

[karens70]

It is always a sexual response for me. what I find is that the way I like to dress up myself (dress, skirt, heels...), is the same way that turns me on when I see a woman wearing the same sort of clothing. so there has to be a link there!

[Wildaboutheels]

Evolution 101, plain and simple. Like ALL creatures, we are only on the planet for one reason - to try to carry on our own DNA. [MOST] men's most basic programming is to impregnate as many females as possible which provides the best chance to carry on his own DNA. A MAN's VISION is what has evolved over tens of thousands of years which ALLOWS him to "get ready" with nothing more than glimpses of body parts. A man MUST "get ready" if he is going to impregnate a female. Female brains DO NOT WORK THIS WAY for their own protection which is why there are so few FtM crossdressers. Wearing/donning Male clothing articles does not "excite" them [the vast majority of them I am "guessing"] and does not allow them just one of many "easy avenues" to an O that almost all men have.

Very few here will deny/have denied [in numerous threads] having an O or 2 or 2 hundred or 2 thousand while wearing female clothing articles. Many here feel/felt guilty about it. Many here have more or less moved on from "it" and seem to be "relieved or happy" about it. WHEN someone started dressing is meaningless. Almost ALL here share the O/vision part of the equation and at least went through a phase of it.

Read enough threads, read enough responses, pay attention to the topics and look at what kinds of pics are popular [and get the most hits] and it's simply impossible to ignore the correlation of clothes/CDer and Pavlov with his whistle and his dogs.

HOW/WHY can folks wonder why CDing becomes addictive? Unless they are simply not paying attention.

A much simpler answer is that we CANNOT control our equipment and/or what "turns us on". Mother Nature simply won't allow it.

[laciewhite]

In my dressing, I'm emulating my dream girl. She's a turn on, that's why she's my "dream girl". She wears stockings, garters, and heels. That really gets my attention.



totally agree with this. when i CD i am trying to achieve that impossible dream girl image, which for me is a particular look associated with glamorous blonde porn models from about 20 years ago.

an image just got stuck in my head and, barring a few minor variations, i always dress in the same way.

and its a total sex/fetish thing for me. no apologies or excuses.

as soon as i've had my 'happy ending' i just wanna get back to being a fella again.

[skirtsuit]

Fortunately, there is much, much more to all of us than neurotransmitters and 'hard wiring'. My brain, if that is really were my mind comes from, is not 'hard wired' at all - and it is all mine!
Thank the stars that the allure of hosiery and other fem things is still with me and as strong as it ever was. If it wasn't sexual, I don't think I'd do it.

One of the things I find fascinating about about going out dressed as a fetish CD is that the public becomes part of the fantasy/fetish.
Best,S

[reb.femme]

I agree with Beverly..That it is natural .... But for the run of the mill cder ( non Trans ) we are men and men are sexually driven... I am attracted to the Feminine aspect of it ,I am and always have been attracted to very feminine women this is what still drives me...

Ditto to what the lady said. I love feminine women......it's always been this way for me. No sexual interest in men but whatever floats your boat is all that matters.

I'm still baffled by aspects of my life but I've given up trying to reason why, as my brain begins to hurt after a while. :heehee:

Rebecca

[Lacyfem]

I was aroused the first time I put on my first pair of panties at 10. It's no different today when I can dress I definitely feel sexual which I think is natural. Lots of gurls have explained this quite well here so no need to repeat it. It feels good to feel fem and to act out sexually in my opinion. If it's not, then I'm a bad gurl. Thank goodness!

[JennyLynn]

You are so totally normal. Don't sweat it. It's not everybodys thing, but I get it and embrace it. Don't get too hung up on your sexuality. It's okay to want to be loved like a woman. Wish the same here! :)

[Karren H]

You could probably train yourself to not do that...... get a big hammer and every time you dress and..... whack! Help you develop a trained response to external stimuli..... probably be a lot easier to tuck too! lol

[lisagurl]

for me its very sexual also :)

[Melissa in SE Tn]

A most normal cd reaction. Enjoy your femininity. Karren , you continue to make me laugh. Peace, melissa

[Bree24]

I also get that wonderful feeling feeling when en femme. Try and embrace it and let yourself feel sexy and excited. I think it would be wonderful to have a man find me attractive and want me when I'm dressed. I don't want to be with a man, but have not been in that situation. Never say never, have fun and enjoy yourself for who you are

[Jaylyn]

Nylon I have felt that way also. I have fantasies when dressed sometimes that I would never want any one but me to keep in my mind. I love the feeling I get when dressed. Now here is where I differ just a little. If I stay dressed for a long period of time, such as all day the feeling is not as strong sexually as it starts to wear down I guess. I told my wife once that as hot as I get when dressed up she should be hot all the time. She told me that she never thought of dressing as getting a sexual high because she grew up with it. I really think if the thrill ever leaves me from dressing I will probably stop.

[PaulaQ]

@Nylon

The reason it feels erotic is that being able to express a part of yourself that you normally suppress is a huge rush of euphoric happiness - happiness that has transformed into a kind of mania, because it's been held down so long. The release of good feelings that happens gives rise to the "pink fog", and to powerful erotic feelings because it is such a big damned relief.

When you bottle up one set of feelings - you mostly bottle 'em all up. So when you finally pull the cork and dress - LOTS of stuff happens at the same time.

I hope that makes sense.

edit: one more side note - having sexual feelings when you dress, or cross dressing at all, does NOT make you not transsexual. Quite a few of us go through a phase like that.

[Katey888]

About 95% of male population can put on women's clothing and feel nothing but silly embarrassment, however about 5% of the population experiences something amazing. Their neurons and synapses are connected in such a way to generate an entirely different automatic, involuntary sensory experience. Most likely this neurological pathway was developed during synaptogenesis of critical periods in infancy and/or adolescence. More research is needed, but it is real, and it is a neurological (not psychological) response.

Confucius, you are coming up with some really deep and interesting things - questions I have asked myself for years... First of all: yes, for me there has always been a sexual element - I suppose as a teenager this was an 'easy' and very powerful way of fulfilling a sexual need. Nylons particularly have been a part of that fetish, and I have always had strong fantasies about representing the females I am attracted to (confident, even dominant women) when I CD. I want to feel attractive; I imagine myself as provocative, alluring - yes, sexy! I absolutely do not have any desire to fulfil these fantasies with a man (but respect those who have that desire). As I have grown older the extent of my CDing has grown: early experiences involved a carefully adjusted full-length mirror to cut me off at the neck; got fed up with catching inadvertent glimpses of my own male head so moved on to wigs, and more recently also didn't like just seeing me in a wig so have finally moved on to makeup as well. Each of these steps has rekindled that original excitement but like drugs, each successive high requires something more daring and risky. I want to go out CD - but I won't until I know I don't look like an ageing drag queen - maybe it's too late already :heehee: but I still might try.
If I can get the right nylons (must be sheer, right colour), the right lingerie, dress, hair, and overall look to emulate a woman that would appear overpoweringly attractive to me, that would be my ultimate goal, I think - but I can't explain why, other than this autogy-thingy. It all sounds so selfish, but I'm obviously not alone in these specific feelings. As time has gone by, there are now times when CDing just brings relaxation and comfort without any sexual fulfilment (although there will always be some arousal) - can't explain that either.
Like you, I look forward to someone doing some serious research on this, but whoever would fund it?
I don't think anyone need worry too much - we all seem in good company... :)

[Tracii G]

Y'all think way too much about all this stuff.The whys and hows and the what does it all mean self analysis.
For some its sexual I'm sure, for some it was never sexual.It is what it is just go with the flow and enjoy it however it makes you feel

[Alice Torn]

Katey888, You said it for me! I like to dress as the tall, leggy, powerful, confidant, almost domineering business women i see in town sometimes. But,a wise old man i hear on latenight radio, sometimes, Roy Masters, says, "Every high is a new low." Which means we keep daring, pushing the envelope. Often leads to getting caught, which often we subconsciously want.

[Majella St Gerard]

Dressing makes me feel sexy so I guess it is a turn on but I don't go walking around physically aroused. It was more sexual in the past then it is now, but then I was only underdressing and dressing for sex,. Now I dress all the time, I'd say about 80%, so it's more natural now and less of a novelty, but I can turn it on with out much effort, ya know what I mean?

[Julie Gaum]

Particularly directed to Lucy and Desirae but applies to the majority of dressers. Fact is that testosterone, though varying when and how much, will eventually diminish to almost zero. Which is reason that it appears that we can take longer to reach arousal --- and finally not at all. Yep it sucks, but will enjoy trying to emulate a particular woman or, more generally, any feminine looking gal to the very end of life. Sorry if I have to laugh at Desirae's statement that he hasn't noticed any diminishing and, by golly, "I've been doing it for 38 years". How about adding another 40 years to that activity and see where you are? Very much dimished is where you will be. The Bible recounts begetting in the 90s and up but as sung in Porgy and Bess: "It aint necessarily so". While the fetish bit lasts a life-time for some, for most it becomes a lesser motivation. Why? While the biological factor is one answer there seems to be many other desires, urges and attractions out there to be considered --- far more than there is room to post here. Might add that there is a correlation between the INCREASED use of porn and similar stimuli as testosterone begins to wane.
Julie

[mary something]

Your brain is hard-wired (why, I don't know), to interpret cross-dressing as actual contact with a female. This means that when you cross-dress (or just anticipate cross-dressing), your brain will respond as if you were in contact with a real female.

that is interesting Confucius, so does that mean that crossdressers are girls in denial? Or by corollary do TS women never need a date on Saturday night? Maybe it's just because guys are horny a lot?

[Angie G]

I must say I have had thoughts of being with a man. But it's just a fantasy and will never happen.:hugs:
Angie

[Adriana Moretti]

I think these feelings are completely normal...whats stopping you if you are single from further exploring these feelings? Maybe you are bi ? Nothing wrong with that...I am bi...maybe you are not...but you will figure it out....my first bi experience I LOVED...now its just normal..to me anyway. Everyone is different.

[cdintraining25]

For me there is a sexual aspect to it but I think it runs deeper than that, it's a sort of satisfying rush to be seen dressed in a different way but at the same time I'm not really looking for attention or acceptance. That rush doesn't stick around the whole time and I get to eventually just lounge around at home in a pretty dress so I think it's more than that to me.

[Lisa.Stevenson]

I feel the same way in many respects, Lexie. I do identify myself as bisexual, but I definitely feel more of an attraction to women. Crossdressing often has me fantasizing more about taking a far more submissive role with a man. I consider the act of crossdressing to be a very intimate experience in general that has a tendency to make my imagination run wild. it's our choice whether we act on these fantasies i suppose. I know what you mean though it can be pretty confusing at times

[silkysheer]

Being dressed makes me feel empowered and that alone is sexy. My urges and needs are a reflection of that fire that is ignited inside when I dress. Since I am alone in my adventure and only dress when I am alone my fantasies run wild from man on man to man on a CD(man) to being a lesbian.

[SilkeeLegs]

One of my friends that knows, and approves of my crossdressing asked me why I crossdress and what kind of pleasure I get from it. The only thing I came up with was this..........I asked her this question: Do you know how you feel just before you reach orgasm?. She said yes. I replied, thats how I feel the entire time I am dressed. That may be a little bit of a stretch but I bet most of you CDs would agree with me!

[katssun]

Since I started at puberty, it used to be a very sexual thing. Every. Single. Time.

Now that I actually do it more often, it isn't as much. It's simply how I relax, the way I feel truly comfortable.

[Heather-Barbie]

For me, frequently I like to dress a bit ****ty/naughty. Women's clothes can be so fun to make you feel sexy. I don't get that feeling dressed as a guy. I'm very heterosexual, so I fantasize being a lesbian. I guess I'm kind of like Eddie Izzard and his comment about being a male lesbian :-)

[Flirty_Fantasies]

One of my friends that knows, and approves of my crossdressing asked me why I crossdress and what kind of pleasure I get from it. The only thing I came up with was this..........I asked her this question: Do you know how you feel just before you reach orgasm?. She said yes. I replied, thats how I feel the entire time I am dressed. That may be a little bit of a stretch but I bet most of you CDs would agree with me!

Wow!, do I EVER agree with you about this. It, for me, is the PERFECT explanation and description of my feelings. Thank you so much for this perspective, Ms. S--MUAH!

Hugz,

Janelle (formerly from Chicago)

[Taylor Ray]

In my experience, safely exploring fantasies is the quickest way to becoming un-confused.
It is similar to exploring different types of food and cuisine. You never know, you might really like it! Or not.

Could you imagine a forum such as this one where everyone constantly argued about which type of cuisine was best? We could all over-think everything and analyze everything just like we do here, but the absurdity would be more obvious:

"Well, the fact that you love Mandarin flavors indicates an early synaptic imprinting associated with certain brain frequencies."

Ah, yes.

[STACY B]

Because your 30 !! ,lol,,,

[dominique]

Wow, what a subject. For me it started off purely sexual the silky feeling of a pair of tights being slipped on. As I got older it still played a part in my dressing. Now it now longer plays a part in my dressing it must be the familiarity of the clothes and my experiences and my mind set when I put them on. I morph from a man to a sensual woman and that gives me my satisfaction if you know what I mean.

[Karren J]

I get that felling from lingerie but when I'm fully dressed then it just feels right not sexual

[Wildaboutheels]

What does a man with a whistle and a bunch of dogs have to do with a CDer and [almost always a male] their clothes?

E V E R Y T H I N G.

Pavlov and his dogs is the reason WHY.

This very Forum provides irrefutable evidence everywhere for anyone who will take the time to READ responses and pay attention to the #s plastered all over this site.

[tara_tease]

In my dressing, I'm emulating my dream girl. She's a turn on, that's why she's my "dream girl". She wears stockings, garters, and heels. That really gets my attention.


That's it exactly! Each time I dress I seem to go a bit further, take a bit longer, and the excitement builds higher all the way and higher than the previous time. It's a very interesting twist too to go out instead of spend the night in- the excitement is sustained til I get home again It's a shame that undoing the process is such a downer, but i suppose there's no thrills without spills

[MascStilettoBoy]

As a gay man I'm very sexually turned on by taking the submissive role. I think of very feminine clothes as traditionally potent signaling of passivity and the wearer's desire to attract a domineering man. By wearing woman's clothes I feel desirable in the eyes of the kind of man that I'd like to submit to. So, yes--it's very sexual.

[karenroberts]

For me, crossdressing is always a sexual experience in thought if not in action.

[steeve]

For me The sexual experience went many many years ago ,age 9 if memory serves,now its me and myself.

[MzVanessa]

In my dressing, I'm emulating my dream girl. She's a turn on, that's why she's my "dream girl". She wears stockings, garters, and heels. That really gets my attention.

Okay, so it's not as sexual as it was a few years ago, but it's still quite erotic!

This is exactly how I feel. I dress to become the girl of my dreams... My fantasy. There have been numerous times where I've been at mall and I will see a girl who I would die to look like... And I will immediately buy the exact outfit she's wearing and run home and do my best to transform into her.

[Katie_Did GG]

Could it be conditioning? Think Pavlov's dog. Even if your first experience with CD is as a very young child you can still experience pleasure even if a child's mind does not understand the pleasure to be sexual in nature. Anyone who has changed a baby boy's diaper knows even babies with no concept of sex do get erections. Pleasure can be very addictive and a strong motivation. I won't get into how hormones and puberty add in you're all big girls and understand the tie in. ;) Dressing is a guaranteed shot of pleasure if you are in control of not only yourself but the woman within sooooo you know it will [or can it's all up to you] end with a very happy ending or you can chose to prolong the fore-play so to say by not and saving it for next time.

Sex is something we some times see as the ultimate form of validation. So if you are straight and finding your inner girl wanting that validation I think that could be seen as normal enough. If you are dressed and feeling beautiful, mysterious, very tempting and a whole lot of other things what better form of validation than what society has taught us to be validated? Look at parents telling kids sex is for married people who love each other. They show love by the sex act. Now the flip side is bad boys and girls go around having sex without love or marriage. It's enough to drive us all a little nuts sometimes.

That said hell no, I don't think all CD is fetish. Not even most. I think the sexual component is just one of many needs being filled by CD. I would think even someone like a previous poster who shall remain unnamed would be open minded enough to see that much if I can. Things are almost never how they seem.

Take my words with a grain of salt since I am on the outside looking in. I'm not a CD but I play one in my mind on occasion. :lol:

happy dressing y'all

Katie

[MarciManseau]

Well said, Katie :) Maybe it's because we love how we look as a pretty woman, and as with most males, the sight of an attractive woman turns us on a lot. That, and the clothes are much more fun to wear - so many wonderful fabrics, colors and styles. I will never understand how men are content with the limited things they have to wear.

Unlike many of you here, I always knew I was meant to be a girl, even when I was very young. My first sexual experience with a boy was when I was 15, and I was always dressed up when we were together. But even before then, when I'd put on some of my sister's amazing clothes, I'd feel very excited. That's still true today, to a lesser extent thankfully as I've been full time for over 9 years. I know if I spend a lot of time on my outfit and makeup, men find me very attractive, and that also turns me on. What a sweet life :)

[Gigi9]

@SilkeeLegs I wish I had other friends that approved of my crossdressing but while dressed Ravel's Bolero plays in my head til the finale. Could be a short time or days if I underdress! Always fun/sexual for me short or long term.
Gigi

[gina bennett]

Hi, for me too it was always a sexual thing, I think it's more of a how I'd like my ladies to dress ie. stockings, high heels, silky undies they all feel nice and sexualize the female form.
I used to think of myself as straight but when I'm dressed I get the feeling I want to be penetrated, as of yet I've not done anything about it but may invest a toy at some point.

[susan jackson]

Maybe this is the difference between a crossdresser/transvestite and someone who identifies as being trans-sexual

I have NEVER had any sexual gratification when I dress as a woman, because it felt so natural to me

It's like a (real) man being turned on when he wears blue jeans and a t-shirt!

[AngB]

Being a GG SO of a newly revealed CD, I am so glad to know that his sexual fantasies / desires involving his CDing are not uncommon...and neither are mine. I won't go into any details, but things have definitely heated up in the bedroom. :o

[cdjess]

You say it like it's a bad thing :P

[Bonnie Chan]

When I was a child, I watched a cartoon that has a magic to slowly transform man into woman. That made me feel turned on so much, and it's still true now. Maybe that was like a sparkling that ignited my brain chemistry to like CDing since then. The feeling of slowly transform myself into a woman just feels so... sexually excited.

[Kristy 56]

For me it's the excitement of picking out an outfit,make up etc and looking and feeling sexy. A GG once told me that just getting dressed up and looking nice made her feel very sexual too.

[Jordan]

I think that is a mutual feeling among most of us girls as the silk feels so good on or next to our skin

[MsJoann]

When I first started dressing, early 20's, my greatest sexual rush was sneaking away with my little bag of lingerie and having fun alone, the thought of thinking that no one else does this turned me on. Another rush (not sexual) was going into public stores to buy ladies clothing. I would always end up with a flush face and sweat! My big regret was always about how to pick out clothes that match and look good. Especially when I'm in a mad rush to get into the store and get out quickly in fear of being recognized. After these years, I still enjoy that rush, but I take my time and save my sexual feelings to when I'm alone.
I thing that most of us would love to have an understanding gg to guide us along.....then its time for sex!

[Monica cd]

everything is sex

[bethcgy]

It used to be the case for me, but these days the libido is not the same. But I am STILL dressing :)

[franlee]

The fact that you are feeling contentment and happy calls for the most satisfaction you can possibly experience and in human nature that would be sexual. I guess there are exceptions to all rules but sexual sensations are probably one of the most intense and basic of all signaling fufillment in life.

[mysticalkatie2014]

A toy is a must but im so lucky my g/f loves fingering me xx

[Jennifer Devine]

Whenever I dressed up as Jennifer, I always felt so incredibly sexy and aroused!
Nothing better than being fully made up as a woman and the silky feeling of a pencil skirt against your smooth legs!
Only thing that was missing was a hunky man to be in the arms of ;-)

[Sarah Marie]

I understand completely. As DRAB, I am wallpaper. When Sarah emerged and went out, she felt like a model or a star! When I was going out, people of both sexes would flirt with me. Made me feel incredibly sexual... and I caught a glimpse of how easy it is to make men slobber!!! LOL! Ah, glory days.....

[Helen Grandeis]

I am immediately immersed in a feeling of well being and euphoria. It always has a sexual undercurrent that is much more powerful than Viagra if I tap into it and let it carry me again and again to its happy conclusion.

[erindemia]

Wow!! I remember feeling that way reading 'ozma of oz'

[Rebekka]

I get so aroused by the intensity of my feminine feelings. I adore not only the silk next my skin but the nylons I wear, the tightness of my bra , the garter belt and the power of high heels. The makeup and the way it feels is so intense. These things trigger such intense feelings that stir such white hot feminine feelings.

[Ginger Jameson]

I don't always dress because I want to feel sexual, but I almost always end up feeling that way. Being soft and vulnerable plus looking down to see perfect breasts and long legs poking out of a skirt. Call me narcissistic, but how could I not feel sexual? Of course, being groped by my horn ball wife helps a lot. :)