How has crossdressing made you a better person?

[Dana]

All other factors aside ~ how has crossdressing made you a better person ~ a better man ~ a better human being!

[Helen MC]

It has made me far more at ease with myself, has given me a better understanding of women and brought out the female aspects of my personality.

[Angela Burke]

I've no experience of not being a crossdresser so I can't make any comparison.
I suppose if I stopped for for a while I'd be able, or others would be able to tell if I'd changed.
But that's never going to happen.
I can't imagine a future without dresses, skirts, panties, etc.
And I am quite strong willed, I stopped smoking just over nine years ago after a lifetime of heavy smoking "cold turkey", and surprised myself into the bargain.
I just love wearing female clothing.

Love Angela XX

[HaleyPink2000]

I guess some of the same is true of me also. I have had this since I was 4 years old. I remember dressing in my mothers slip at the age of 4 and Her slapping me in the face for doing so. My Grandmother did schold Her for hitting me. Told Her, " He's just playing, He does not desirve being beaten".
My Mother was harsh as was my step father. I never did try to dress again till later in life. But always remember those moments. That feeling of being beaten for doing something that was not wrong.

I'm still being beaten as are many of my Sisters, by our culture. I feel that I am beaten even today by my Wife of 25 years. Take off that lipstick or you know I don't like you dressing as a woman. Hurtful comments. Things that are a beating to me, and not for something done wrong. But for just being Me.

Am I to keep taking the beatings from most everyone? Should I put up with it every day. Is it worth it dressing, or just to go back into my cage, and not dress. That would make them happy. But would make me a sad person even in death.

What has CDing done for me you ask?

Have I always been looking in the mirror, just to see a smile come back? No, many times it's been a woman in tears looking back at me, in my mirror, Haley.
I love being a CD but would never be come a TS. I'm very Hetro also.
Does anyone ever try to listen to me, when I have tears, while sitting there in my summer dress. No, it's just " Hey, take those off, you know I don't like you dressing like that". Or take off that lipstick. It's as I said. Why even try for Love. Why even try at all?

It's a terrible thing to be so inloved with a Woman that it hurts. Then Her say these things to you. It might seem little to them. But to me and others its like cutting us with a knife. Or slapping us in the face. Yes I'm male, but I'd like to let people know I do cry, blubber and sob. I hurt like you do!

So again you ask what has CDing done for me?

I have been Me since I was born. It's been no picinic being Me!

Well, what,s my future? Retirement, and hoping to last a few years beyond it. Used up and of no use again I guess, HUH? I mean, there is no Sex anymore, Nothing like when the world was younger for me. Can I still walk with the children in the fields? No! Much has changed since youth. Am I still 16 inside, and still wearing that summer dress inside my mind? Maybe trying on a nice black slip? Also not being beaten for it? Cause if CDing is to be a day dream, and a time in my slumber. Then I guess it will be I guess. If it takes that to save Love, my marriage.

But, I ask the Lord, please let me be Me. With love in my life. Ahmen!

Haley:)

[Lilith Moon]

Is it worth it dressing, or just to go back into my cage, and not dress. That would make them happy. But would make me a sad person even in death.

Haley, I feel for you because I'm in a bleak period of withdrawal from dressing. The community here is currently my lifeline.




Does anyone ever try to listen to me, when I have tears, while sitting there in my summer dress. No, it's just " Hey, take those off, you know I don't like you dressing like that". Or take off that lipstick. It's as I said. Why even try for Love. Why even try at all?

Haley, I am listening to you...and even shedding a tear or two for you.



It's a terrible thing to be so inloved with a Woman that it hurts. Then Her say these things to you. It might seem little to them. But to me and others its like cutting us with a knife. Or slapping us in the face. Yes I'm male, but I'd like to let people know I do cry, blubber and sob. I hurt like you do!


Yes, I know about the hurt that comes from careless loved ones. I know about emotional overload and collapsing into a blubbering heap for hours at a time....and some people dare to call this a "little hobby" or "selfish interest", as if it is a game of golf or some other trivial pastime that we have chosen.

None of us have chosen this.





I have been Me since I was born. It's been no picinic being Me!

Well, what,s my future? Retirement, and hoping to last a few years beyond it. Used up and of no use again I guess, HUH? I mean, there is no Sex anymore, Nothing like when the world was younger for me. Can I still walk with the children in the fields? No! Much has changed since youth. Am I still 16 inside, and still wearing that summer dress inside my mind? Maybe trying on a nice black slip? Also not being beaten for it? Cause if CDing is to be a day dream, and a time in my slumber. Then I guess it will be I guess. If it takes that to save Love, my marriage.

But, I ask the Lord, please let me be Me. With love in my life. Ahmen!

Haley:)

Well, they can't take cherished memories away from us and they can't take away our dreams.

[Kimberly]

It has let me see discrimination as something that shouldn't happen - being a possible victim, so I try my utmost not to prejudge... That doesn't mean I'm perfect however. ;)

But yes, it has. I peronally feel, that being this way has given me an ability to see the world in a certain questioning way - ("why?" often being the topic of my threads in this forum,) and so theatrically, and directorialy, I can use that to help acting/actors to see exactly how someone behaves. Both sexes. :)

Okay... drivalling. xx

[TGMarla]

Whereas my experiences do not compare to Haley's in their pain, I have experience a lot of pain because of CDing, too. I think many of us have. I was never beaten for it, but she is right in saying that society beats us every day, as it does to all non-conformists.

I have had the woman in the mirror cry to me, too. She isn't a complicated woman. She wants only what most all women want, love and acceptance. And a new dress now and then. She complains here and there about never going anywhere, but seems to be content with my company. At least it is the company of someone who loves her very much.

Crossdressing for me has at times in my life paralyzed me, keeping me from pursuing what I know would be best for me. It has caused me shame and misery when I should not be ashamed or unhappy, caused me to hide when I should not be hiding. It has been the monkey on my back. It is my heroin, my alcohol, my crack. My monkey.

But it has been a huge source of introspection, of beauty, of soul-expansion. It has opened my eyes to another half of existence that may well have gone unnoticed in my life. It has brought me in touch with the delicate, sensual, beautiful, and feminine side of the world. It has allowed me to taste, to feel, and almost to live what the other side, the feminine side of existence is.

Now, place these all on their respective sides of the grand balance of life, and I'm not sure which carries more weight. But it's close. It's close. On the one hand, I wish that I had been able to live without the weight of the monkey. On the other hand, had I done so, I'd have never seen Xanadu.

"For he on honeydew hath fed and drunk the milk of paradise."
Samuel Taylor Coleridge

[joni-alice]

Haley, I am with you. Similar thoughts, perhaps due to the holiday flood of emotions and the toll that advancing years take. We both know, though, that things pass... that we live in the delicate balance that Marla talks about... and that there is nothing wrong with that we do. I guess that knowledge is something that CD, as well as other things, has helped to bring out.
As for whether CD has made me a better person, isn't that question slightly loaded.
hugs to all,
j-a :cool:

[Jodi]

I have become a better person since full acceptance occurred. As Marla said, it is a monkey on our backs, and it was one for me for a lifetime. Since I went thru my divorce 6 years ago, I have discovered self acceptance. My life is more calm. I must also say that retirement has done a lot to settle me down. I am no longer battling the monkey on my back and no longer battling the everyday stressors that go with work.

As others have said, cd'ing has also given me a much deeper insight into women, and how they think. Of course, none of us will ever truly figure out how a woman thinks. Just when we think we have, PMS sets in and everything is null and void.

Jodi

[Rikki Elisabeth]

It has made me far more at ease with myself, has given me a better understanding of women and brought out the female aspects of my personality.

Nothing more I could add other than it seems to have made be more calm.

[gender_blender]

It has forced me to be more accepting of others.
It has also allowed me to think outside common stereotypes to which I would otherwise be dependent upon for interpersonal relations. It has forced me to think for myself and question the authority of our society in everyday life.

It has been my duty to illustrate these concepts to those around me, by being a moral and hard-working attractive femininely dressed individual who blends the genders, further destroying those stereotypes.

Charlie

[Raychel]

I don't know if it has made me a better person or not. But it is who I am. It has made the communication more open with my wife lately, That is definitely a good thing. And I am not prejudice of gays or any other life style variances. I am overall a pretty easy going guy. Some people may say that I am wierd or strange. But I say "Whatever" that is who I am, My family likes me and my wife and kids think that I am the greatest. That is who I am and crossdressing is part of me. For better or worse, that's that

[laurajeantv]

Hi Everyone!

I have a different story than many of the other replies to this post.

In my law practice, I focus on disability law and find that many of my clients are female and have recently suffered the breakup of a relationship or marriage due to the fact that the other person was unable to cope with the burden of their injuries.

I find that, by exploring my feminine side privately through crossdressing, my nurturing instincts come to the forefront and I have won many cases where the issue was truly in doubt.

Of course, crossdressing has also taught me much about what women go through when shopping, applying makeup, and all of those other tings that go along with being a woman that helps me to draw out my clients' testimony in court proceedings in a very persuasive way.

Along the way, a bond is formed between us that is clear to see. As a result, I have often been invited to weddings, birthday parties, etc. It is fun in a way to help someone back to their feet and assist them in their journey to find happiness in life.

On a more personal level, I find that my crossdressing has let me connect on a deeper emotional level with women. I have not found an accepting GG yet, but knowing how to touch my feminine side has made me a better lover, friend and companion.

Hugs,

Laura Jean

[jennifer easton]

CDing has for me, finly paid off, all the years of hiding, beeing ashamed, feeling the guilt has come full circle! by that I mean,through some miricle of chance or be it devine power, I've found my soule mate and throug her she has help me not to judge but to see the good in all of us,her actceptance of me, and her little saying (we are what we are)has given me a brighter out look on life, so with the love of my GF Kathie and finding my female self they together have put a calmness in my life where chaos was.
xoxoxJennifer

[ChristineRenee]

Mostly that I am far more understanding of others and less judgmental I think because of it. I don't think that we as CD's/TG's/TS's are more special or gifted than others necessarily...but perhaps maybe a little more insightful and enlightened. I think that being this way maybe is conducive to a lot more introspection of your true self...at least that has been my experience in my life. Has it made me a better person overall...well I sure hope so anyway!:)

[JennyCD]

Well, as it's a part of who I am, I don't really think it's made me any better, or worse, a person since it's just me.

[Dana]

For me its widen my eyes! Opened my perspective! Changed my attitude ~ given me an little in-sight into the world of women. Understand women? I doubt that I truly posses that capacity! As a GG friend of mine said, "Hell! I don't understand women! And, I am one! I don't understand myself from one day to the next!"

Its opened a floodgate of emotions, and experieces that I would not have otherwise experienced had it not been for crossdressing~! Its been a journey of self discovery! On a level which I could have and would have never experienced as just a man ~ in male mode ~ in maculine mode!

[Wendy me]

i would say a human being i not realy too fond of my "him" sinde but letting out my fem side and letting more of wendy out has most deffenly made me a better human being! now in eather mode drab or fem more of wendy is out and thats just a real good thingy....

[Lawren]

For me it is quite simple. CDing has made me much more understanding and tolerating about GGs and their habits. I know now, by experience, why it takes a GG so long to get dressed to go out and why they take so much time in "the powder room". It all takes so much longer that a guy throwing on jeans and a shirt!!!! I also understand why GGs are often complaining about how uncmfy shoes and hose et. can be after wearing them for several hours. Also, with so many outfits and variations available, it is understandable why GGs have so much trouble deciding what to wear. With variety comes indescision. I think I'm a better person because I have seen amd experienced "her side of the issue" and that gives me the ability to adjust my attitude accordingly.

P. S. I can also relate to a GG's fascination with clothes shopping. I can spend hours in search of the right outfit and accesories. LOL